One fresh thought/new idea can change your life from pain and suffering/success/peace of mind.








YOUR HEAD IS LIKE A TOOLBOX: Everyday you make a thousand choices. You choose what to wear, where to go, who to meet, what to eat and what to do. MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL, YOU decide WHAT TO THINK. One thing is sure and that is that your day will not be better than you thoughts.

Just close your eyes for a moment and see if you can visualise this open toolbox and if you can see the hundreds of tools that are neatly placed in this toolbox. Now look if you can see the maker’s name on these tools. The creator of these tools (thoughts and perceptions) is you. You created thousands of thoughts and perceptions (tools) about everything since your childhood.

When confronted with any situation or problem you reach into this toolbox and take out what you think the most appropriate tool and attempt to fix the problem. It is estimated that your mind thinks at least 2,500 thoughts an hour. Every thought that you think is a tool (perception) that you have that you imagine would work best under specific circumstances. This thought process continue day and night and will do so for the rest of your life.

I am convinced that we think ourselves to a standstill. We never stop playing with these tools in our toolbox and can hardly ever really relax for a while. If we are not faced with a problem or task that needs completion we still continue to take out these tools and mentally rehears and contemplate how we will use them should something that we fear become a reality.

We are forever thinking and scheming and never become still and tranquil inside. Our bodies might seem relaxed, but deep inside our heads this thought process continues churning around. What I am most worried about is that most of the tools that you have in our toolboxes is very old and outdated.

Many of the modern problems that you face cannot be repaired using these tools. If you take a modern mechanic’s toolbox and you place the toolbox of a mechanic of fifty years ago next to it you will find that there are major discrepancies. When you are confronted with something that needs repair and you do not have the right tool for the task at hand it can be very frustrating. We usually improvise and try using some other tool and hope that it will also get the job done.


When you are faced with a problem you need to select the right tool for the task at hand. If you do not have the tool in your toolbox it can complicate your life. What most people seem to ignore is that it is sometimes better not to reach for your toolbox when faced with a problem. Sometimes you need time to pass or need to leave the problem with its rightful owner. How well you use your tools is usually reflected in the world you see around you. What would you do if you were faced with any or all of the following?


You get a flat tire on your way to an important customer or meeting. You can fall apart, develop a migraine and think that life is against you or you can take out the right tools (patience and reality) and take care of the problem in a relaxed manner.


You have been working on the computer for hours and suddenly lose all your work. You can drop dead with a heart attack, think that God hates you or you can take out the right tool (sanity and reality) and begin over again and remember this time to make a backup your work.


A lover or wife possibly cheated on you. You can go crazy and get an assassin to take her potential lover out, think that you are a failure or you can take out the right tool (no fear of loss) and get on with your life.


When you have the right tools in your toolbox it makes life a lot easier. The choices we make are vital in our lives. The more quality choices we make during any given day the higher the probability of success and peace of mind.

I suggest that you equip your toolbox with the best tools you can lay your hands on. If you discover that one of your tools are outdated or that a more modern version is available. How would you react if your TV packed up and a technician that obviously knows very little about electronics arrived at your house with only a sledgehammer and a few other primitive tools in his toolbox? I am sure that you will send him away and find someone better qualified and equipped for the task.

You might sometimes be like this incompetent and poorly equipped technician indicated above if you do not often update your tools (thoughts) in your toolbox. You can also have all the right tools in your toolbox and never use them because you are afraid that you might make a mistake.

You must remember that happiness and success is always just one thought (tool) away. You should remember when you find it difficult to cope with something that one new tool (thought) could change your life. One fresh thought and one new idea can change your life from pain and suffering to success and peace of mind.

You are what you think. Your choices that you make on a moment-to-moment basis decide your fate and future. You are really what you think. You can never feel or perform better than the ongoing thoughts that you allow to occupy your mind!







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Word for the Day – Socialism



Socialism is a social and economic system characterised by social ownership of the means of production and co-operative management of the economy,[1][2] as well as a political theory and movement that aims at the establishment of such a system.[3][4] “Social ownership” may refer to cooperative enterprises, common ownership, state ownership, citizen ownership of equity, or any combination of these.[5] There are many varieties of socialism and there is no single definition encapsulating all of them.[6] They differ in the type of social ownership they advocate, the degree to which they rely on markets or planning, how management is to be organised within productive institutions, and the role of the state in constructing socialism.[7]

A socialist economy is based on the principle of production for use, to directly satisfy economic demand and human needs, and objects are valued by their use-value, as opposed to the principle of production for profit and accumulation of capital.[8] In the traditional conception of a socialist economy, coordination, accounting and valuation are performed in kind(using physical quantities), by a common physical magnitude, or by a direct measure of labour-time in place of financial calculation.[9][10] For distributing output, two alternative principles have been proposed: to each according to his contribution and from each according to his ability, to each according to his need. The advisability, feasibility and exact way of allocating and valuing resources are the subjects of the socialist calculation debate.

The socialist political movement includes a diverse array of political philosophies. Core dichotomies include reformism versus revolutionary socialism, and state socialism versuslibertarian socialism. State socialism calls for the nationalisation of the means of production as a strategy for implementing socialism, while libertarian socialism calls for decentralizedmeans of direct democracy such as libertarian municipalism, citizens’ assemblies, trade unions, and workers’ councils[11] coming from a general anti-authoritarianstance.[12][13][14][15][16][17][18] Democratic socialism highlights the central role of democratic processes and political systems and is usually contrasted with non-democratic political movements that advocate socialism.[19] Some socialists have adopted the causes of other social movements, such as environmentalism, feminism and liberalism.[20]

Modern socialism originated from an 18th-century intellectual and working-class political movement that criticised the effects of industrialisation and private property on society. The revival of republicanism in the American Revolution of 1776 and the egalitarian values introduced by the French Revolution of 1789 gave rise to socialism as a distinct political movement. In the early 19th century, “socialism” referred to any concern for the social problems of capitalism regardless of the solutions to those problems. However, by the late 19th century, “socialism” had come to signify opposition to capitalism and advocacy for an alternative post-capitalist system based on some form of social ownership.[21] During this time,German philosopher Karl Marx and his collaborator Friedrich Engels published works criticizing the utopian aspects of contemporary socialist trends, and applied a materialistunderstanding of socialism as a phase of development which will come about through social revolution instigated by escalating and conflicting class relationships within capitalism.[22] Alongside this appeared other tendencies such as anarchism, revolutionary syndicalism, social-democracy, Marxism–Leninism and democratic socialism as well as the confluence of socialism with anti-imperialist and anti-racist struggles around the world. Socialism became the most influential worldwide movement and political-economic world view of the 20th century.[23] Today, socialist parties and ideas remain a political force with varying degrees of power and influence in all continents, leading national governments in many countries.



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Top 20 Self Help Books of All Time.


After more than a decade as a public speaker, I’ve been asked hundreds of times for the best self help books that have made the biggest impact in my life.

After having read hundreds of books in my 18 years as an entrepreneur, I have to admit, it was tough narrowing the list of the best self help books of all time down to only 20. I feel self help encompasses spirituality, financial, physical, relationships and many, many more areas of our lives. Needless to say, this best self help books list is by no means the end all, be all. There are no-doubt many others that will add tremendous value to your life.

For each of the best self help books on this list, I give my highest recommendation. With the new year upon us, I encourage you to jump out of your comfort zone and pick several of these to add to your library and read this year.

So here goes…. (drum roll, please)

Top 20 Best Self Help Books of All Time

1. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

The Alchemist is the magical story of Santiago, an Andalusian shepherd boy who wants to travel in search of an extravagant treasure. From his home in Spain he journeys to the markets of Tangiers and across the Egyptian desert to a fateful encounter with the alchemist. The story of the treasures he finds on his journey teaches us about the essential wisdom of listening to our hearts, learning to read the signs along life’s path, and, above all, following our dreams.


2. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey

Covey presents a holistic, integrated, principle-centered approach for solving personal and professional problems. With powerful insights and spot on anecdotes, Covey reveals a pathway for living with fairness, integrity, service, and human dignity–principles that give us the security to adapt to change and the wisdom and power to take advantage of the opportunities that change creates.


3. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

Tolle takes readers on an inspiring spiritual journey to find their true and deepest self and reach the ultimate in personal growth and spirituality: the discovery of truth and light. In writing about enlightenment, he introduces you to it’s natural enemy, your mind. He goes further by showing readers how to live in the present moment.


4. Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki

Kiyosaki tackles the “financial literacy” that’s never addressed in schools. He had two father figures growing up. One who struggled paycheck to paycheck for a lifetime whom he called “poor dad” and the other who was a multimillionaire eighth grade dropout he lovingly calls “rich dad”. The concept behind the book is that rich people have money work for them while the poor work for money. This is a must read to change anyone’s negative belief system on money or to further your understanding on how money can work for you.


5. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

This is one of the most timeless self help books ever written. Carnegie believed that most successes come from an ability to communicate effectively versus brilliant insights. This book teaches these skills by showing you how to value people and help them feel appreciated rather than manipulated.


6. The Road Less Traveled by M Scott Peck

When a book opens with “Life is difficult”, you know it’s going to wake you up and provide you with some candid lessons. His timeless voice in The Road Less Traveled continues to help us explore the nature of loving relationships and leads us toward a new peace and fulfillment. You will learn how to distinguish dependency from love; how to become a more sensitive parent; and ultimately how to become one’s own true self.


7. Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

Hill was one of the first ever self help authors, and his books are incredibly relevant today. Think and Grow Rich condenses his laws of success and provides you with 13 principles of personal achievement. It is noted that an individual with desire, faith, and persistence can reach great success by eliminating all negative energy and thoughts and focusing at the greater goals in hand.


8. The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz

This self help book is rooted in traditional Toltec wisdom, four agreements in life are essential steps on the path to personal freedom. As beliefs are transformed through keeping these agreements, shamanic teacher don Miguel Ruiz asserts lives will “become filled with grace, peace, and unconditional love.”


9. As a Man Thinketh by James Allen

This is considered a classic self-help book that inspired future books on the law of attraction. Its underlying premise is that noble thoughts make a noble person, while lowly thoughts make a miserable person. James Allen reveals how our thoughts determine reality. He shows you how you can master your thoughts to create the life you want instead of simply drifting through life unaware of the inner forces that keep us held in failure and frustration.


10. Man’s Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl

This self help book has riveted generations of readers with its descriptions of life in Nazi death camps and its lessons for spiritual survival. Frankl argues that we cannot avoid suffering but we can choose how to cope with it, find meaning in it, and move forward with renewed purpose. He holds that our primary drive in life is not pleasure but the discovery and pursuit of what we find meaningful.


11. See You at the Top by Zig Ziglar

As one of America’s most gifted speakers/authors in motivation, the late Zig Ziglar shares the secrets of climbing the stairway to personal success. He presents a proven program of self-development based upon the foundation of a winning self-image.


12. The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield

In the rain forests of Peru, an ancient manuscript was discovered. It includes 9 key insights on life. Drawing on ancient wisdom, it shows you how to make connections among the current events in your life and let’s you see what is going to happen to you in the future. This book can help you understand why you are where you are in life and align you with a new optimism for your future.


13. The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale

Dr. Peale shows you 10 simple rules to obtain confidence, 3 proven secrets for vigor, 5 techniques to overcome defeat and much, much more. This book proves that an attitude can change lives, win success in all things, and overcome obstacles.


14. The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace D. Wattles

Originally published in 1910, this book takes the mystery out of wealth accumulation and breaks it down into a scientific formula. The text is divided into 17 quick, no nonsense chapters that show you how to oconquer mental barriers, and how creation, not competition, is the true key to attracting wealth.


15. The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra

Chopra’s teachings are summed up in 7 simple principles which can be applied to all areas of your personal life to create success. Chopra’s basic premise is that personal understanding and harmony promote fulfilling relationships and material abundance without extra effort. Each of the chapters provide specifics on how to achieve it.


16. The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz

Millions of people all over the world have improved their lives using this book. Schwartz will help you sell better, lead more effectively, earn more money, and (this is a big one) find more happiness and peace of mind.He proves that you don’t need innate talent to achieve massive success but you do need to understand the habit of thinking and behaving in ways that get you there.


17. Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers

We’ve all got fears which is why I love this book! Whatever your fear, here is your chance to push through it once and for all. You’ll discover how to move from victim to creator, the 10-step process to turn off the negative talk in your head and how to create more meaning in your life by overcoming those fears.


18. Awaken the Giant Within by Anthony Robbins

Tony Robbins is famous for his motivational speaking but this is, by far, one of the best self help books of all time. Robbins shows you his most effective strategies and techniques for mastering your emotions, your body, your relationships, your finances, and your life through a step-by-step program teaching self-mastery that enables you to discover your true purpose, take control of your life and harness the forces that shape your destiny.


19. The Power of Intention by Wayne W. Dyer

This isn’t your typical book on intention. Dyer has researched intention as a force in the universe that allows the act of creation to take place. This book explores intention—not as something you do—but as an energy you’re a part of. We’re all intended here through the invisible power of intention. He’s the first in our industry to look at intention as a field of energy that you can access to begin co-creating your life with the power of intention.


20. What to Say When You Talk to Your Self by Dr. Shad Helmstetter

Don’t overlook this book because it’s #20 on my Top 20 Best Self Help Books of all time list. I’ve recommended this book to many friends and family members who’s lives have been changed dramatically as a result of reading this book. Self doubt? Read this book. In secure about anything? Read this book. I’m sure you get the idea.


By Matt Morris / The Unemployed Millionaire


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Only when you stop seeing yourself as a victim will you start to see yourself as a fully competent and potent force in your relationship.


Personal Relationship Values


In relationships, just as in every other aspect of life, the spirit and attitude with which you do things is at least as important as your actual actions. Embrace and incorporate these powerful values, and you will start living with more integrity, honesty, compassion and enthusiasm. This, in turn, will breathe new life into your relationship.

Own your own relationship.
You are fully accountable for your relationship. You can never again believe you’re a martyr suffering in your relationship because of an unworthy partner. Only when you stop seeing yourself as a victim will you start to see yourself as a fully competent and potent force in your relationship.

Accept the risk of vulnerability.
Do not let fear paralyze your life. Wanting, reaching out and letting yourself hope makes you vulnerable. At least by putting yourself on the line, you have the chance of getting what you want, as opposed to hurting with no chance of getting what you want. Not to venture is to lose yourself.

Accept your partner.
If your partner experiences in you the spirit of acceptance, then it is most likely that he/she will find you approachable. Two partners who are moving toward each other, rather than both trying to seek safety from pain, have a dramatically improved chance of reconciliation.

Focus on friendship.
You have to take a step back from the problems and pain of your intimate interactions, and focus on your partner’s positive qualities. Turn back the clock and recall what it was that started the friendship that matured into an intimate relationship.

Promote your partner’s self-esteem.
You must bring the spirit of acceptance into affirmative, interactive action. Find the courage and creativity to promote and protect your partner’s self-esteem, even when you feel compelled to be critical. By using the value of self-esteem, you provide a much more nurturing atmosphere, one your partner will not want to abandon.

Aim your frustrations in the right direction.
Work at sorting out the causes of your frustration, and resist the impulsive temptation to pick at your partner. Once you start seeing that the negative things you perceive in your partner are often things you see in yourself, you will literally alter the nature of your interactions with your partner.

Be up front and forthright.
Nothing can be more frustrating than what is referred to as an incongruent communication, where an individual says one thing yet indicates something dramatically different with his or her nonverbal conduct. Strive to express your feelings in a mature and responsible way. By being honest about your emotions, you base your relationship upon integrity rather than lies and deception.

Make yourself happy instead of right.
Start evaluating the things you do in your relationship based on whether those thoughts, feelings and actions are working. For example, you don’t have to prove over and over that you know what you’re talking about more than your partner. Instead, choose a different emotion such as tolerance, understanding or compassion that does not escalate hostility in your relationship. By deciding to be happy rather than right, you will be receptive to your partner’s attempts to de-escalate hostility and return to civil interactions.

Allow your relationship to transcend turmoil.

Rough times and arguments happen, and one way or another, they are going to impact the relationship. You must vow to no longer use threats as a lever to manipulate and control your partner. By doing so, you are setting a clear limit on the places a spirited discussion with your partner will not go.

Put motion into your emotion.
You must turn the concept of love into a proactive behavior. Don’t be so consumed with negative messages that your expectations are low. You must require yourself and your relationship to truly be better.


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The quality of your life is decided by the quality of the choices that you make.





What would you do if I could provide you with the opportunity to travel back in time and re-take a very poor choice that you made somewhere in your past? Would you grasp such opportunity with both hands? Would you still accept my offer if I added that you will be allowed to make a different choice, but then you lose everything that happened to you since that fateful day.

You will lose all the money you earned, the friends you made and all the other things that you participated in since that fateful day. Do you feel convinced that your life would have turned out so much better if you decided differently on that fateful day? Can you with a high degree of certainty say that your life would have been much better than it turned out for you up to now?

Most people hesitate when I ask them this question because they do not want to take the risk of the alternative choice and the unknown that they will be force to travel in. What people often forget is that they start each day with the unknown staring them in the face. The day becomes what they make of it. The quality of your life is decided by the quality of the choices that you make.

We sometimes make wise choices and our boat of life travels on calm waters for a while, but sometimes we make poor decisions and end up getting beaten to a pulp by the force of the waves of life. The real key to life is to accept that you will never be able to make wise choices all the time. You will remain an apprentice human until the day you die. You can read all the books you can lay your hands on and will still be face with the unpredictable.

The only sure thing in life is that you will never reach a permanent safe harbor. You will never be fully out of danger and could fall prey to an endless number of things every second that you are alive. There will be very little benefit in going back to retake your perceived poor decision. Soon after you made the perceived “right” choice your life will begin to gravitate in the same direction you find yourself in today. 

You might as well accept that life is not fair and that the only way to live is to give each moment the best you have. You are making up your life story as you go along. You must begin to believe in yourself and know that you will be able to take care of whatever you are confronted with.




It is easy to look back on your life and to search for excuses for your bad lucks and touch breaks. You can sit and feel sorry for yourself all you like. Nothing will get better or change if you do not accept the fact that “shit happens” all the time and that it is part of being alive. You will never reach a stage where you will be able to feel really secure and tranquil. You will be faced with changes and problems until the final day you spend on this troubled plane.

Most people that “role play” that they love and respect you are doing it for the benefit that they have of being associated with you. You are fooling yourself if you think that most people that are currently playing in your game of life really care about your feelings, emotions and dreams. They might not even know it themselves, but they are connected to you because there is some kind of benefit for them in the deal.


Wake up and smell the coffee my friend. You are the only person that can do something about your fate. You can engineer your life into a ditch or a million dollar home. You are in for a nasty surprise if you continue to wait for others to make life happen for you, You will one day find out that a large number of the people that attended your parties and drank your wine are nothing more than human parasites. They feed off your energy, money, insecurity or some other benefit that their association with you brings them. You will one day discover how most of these rats jump ship when your boat of life begins to take in too much water.





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Do you know what real men actually want in a lover?


Being older and more mature does not remove your beauty and ability to experience the joy of sensuality. Age can be your mental jail or paradise.  Why not decide TODAY, right NOW that you will LIVE until you DIE?


You might think you are sexy down to a science. But do you know what real men actually want in a lover? Read on to find out.

When it comes to sex, you can get an ‘A’ for effort. Guys want to be with someone who’s actually into sex and not doing it as a favor or just going through the motions.

‘There is nothing more seductive than an enthusiastic lover,’ says Lou Paget, certified sex educator and author of The Big O: Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming.

‘That beats out the perfect body or the perfect face anytime. A man wants feedback that a woman is into doing things with him!’

New tricks
Men want a lover who is willing to try new things from time to time. That doesn’t mean you have to go all 50 Shades of Grey. Just be open to ideas.

‘Sexual desire is like an appetite,’ says Paget. ‘We all want to try different flavors — otherwise we’d get bored eating at the same place all the time. Men want someone who is willing to explore unique feelings and new sensations.’

Worried that whatever you do is suddenly going to become part of your nightly repertoire? Don’t think of it as a can of worms. Most likely the occasional change-up is all he needs.

We normally think of women as the ones who need reassurance about their appearance, but men get insecure, too. A lover who will find something to compliment and worship about her partner will never lack affection from him.

‘Every man wants to know they have that special something that turns a woman on,’ says Paget. ‘It could be something that turns her head or something like his intelligence or sense of humor that she finds incredibly sexy.’

It’s not a cliché, ladies. A man wants a woman who will tell him what to do — at least in the bedroom. Most guys will be thankful for a little instruction, especially if it means they’ll succeed at pleasuring you.

‘A woman who can guide you with sounds or one word responses is preferred as it takes away the guess work,’ says Paget. ‘Just remember to avoid acting like a sexual traffic cop!’

Men want someone who will leave the lights on and let him get a good look at her. Stop worrying about covering up any squishy parts.

‘Indirect lighting is Hollywood’s best friend and it can be yours as well,’ says Paget.

‘Need I repeat that men are visual creatures and they want to see their partner? It’s a big part of their turn-on factor.’

Sex on the brain
A woman who keeps sex in the forefront of her thoughts knows how to inject it into life outside the bedroom — and that’s sexy. Try sexting him or be extra naughty and playful in public.

‘Do it in a discreet way,’ say Paget. ‘Let your partner know that you’re thinking about sex throughout the day. Remember, your brain is your sexual power source.’

Flair for fantasy
A man craves someone who will listen to his fantasies — and tell him hers.

‘Many men are scared to share their fantasies as their partner may react by saying, ‘You have got to be kidding, that’s sick,” says Paget.

‘You don’t need to give him his exact fantasy but instead try negotiating how you’d both like to feel during the fantasy. Create your own scenario together.

Guys want someone who sometimes initiates sex but also lets him ‘be the man’.

‘It’s in a man’s DNA to be the caretaker, which also translates into the bedroom,’ says Dr. Sadie Allison, America’s Pleasure Coach and author of Ride ‘Em Cowgirl! Sex Position Secrets for Better Bucking,

‘So while most men love to be in charge, always being the initiator can get old. It’s hot when a woman takes control and shows him that she wants him.

“It’s actually every man’s fantasy to surrender for just a little while!’

Dirty talk
Men love hearing a play-by-play of what’s happening during sex — or what you want to happen next.

‘What men see, hear and feel are direct lines to the ‘other brain,” says Allison.

‘Dirty talk is just another fun way to arouse your man. It also turns them on psychologically because men are super attracted to women who are sexually uninhibited.’

Accepting all of him
Swallowing his love juice may seem gross to you but to a guy it means that you accept all of him — so do it!

‘Primordial programming says the come goes inside,’ says Allison. ‘Double his pleasure with the visual of oral sex and letting his man juices melt inside of you.’

A massage
What guy doesn’t want a woman who gives great massages? And not just the sexual sort, though they can be very erotic. Men want to feel good all over, just like you do.

‘Touch is a basic human desire,’ says Allison. ‘Sensual or not, it can be one of the greatest gifts a person can receive. Touching all over usually leads to something more fun anyway.’

Want him grateful and amazed?
‘A woman willing to touch and please herself in front of her man is confident in herself,’ says Allison. ‘If you feel like a sexy woman you’ll create a steamy display that any man would want to bask in.’

This is a huge turn-on for guys because it shows that you’re willing to share a very intimate act for his viewing pleasure.

You might think, why waste money on lingerie that’s just going to get crumpled up in a ball and tossed on the floor in two seconds? But men are visual and seeing the present they are about to unwrap is important to them!

‘A guy likes the ‘for his eyes only’ component of this, with the sneak peak of your body being a total turn-on,’ says Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., author of Sultry Sex Talk to Seduce Any Lover.

‘Unwrapping you also boosts his ego because he knows you are like a gift, and all his.’

Necessary roughness
Men don’t always want sex to be sweet, loving or romantic. Sometimes he wants it to be a little rough and dirty — it isn’t always about the emotional connectedness between you.

‘He loves feeling desired,’ says Fulbright. ‘He also loves that somebody is helping to fuel that dirty little mind of his!’

Are you the girl who needs everything to be ‘just right’ before you can do it? Or are you willing to pull over to a roadside motel and ‘just do it’?

‘The spontaneity fuels his libido given the sense of abandon,’ says Fulbright. ‘He also likes the unknown of what could happen, and the novelty factor drives up dopamine in his brain.’

Sex drive
No one is always in the mood, but the more effort you make, the more you’ll end up wanting it.

‘He’ll be endeared that you want to please him, as this will make him feel loved and important,’ says Fulbright. ‘He’ll also be impressed that you like to occasionally take one for the team and sometimes he’ll be the one to make it all about you.’

A guy with a strong libido wants a woman who can keep up!

A home-body
Instead of planning a trip out on the town, make your bedroom the destination for a weekend — we’re talking no breaks except to order takeout!

‘He’s going to like that he can just relax and not worry about coordinating anything or traveling,’ says Fulbright. ‘He’ll also appreciate the opportunity to see your bedroom in a whole new light.’

Moves like jagger
Whether it’s a certain position or a way that you finish him off, make up a signature move that’s all about him — even name it after him! He wants to feel like he’s the only guy in your world, and this is a great way to let him know that.

‘He likes the special treatment and that it’s your own special thing and not something that you’ve shared with someone else,’ says Fulbright.

Orgasmic potential
Don’t fake it — but if he makes you feel good do let him know, and do it expressively.

‘He likes that others can possibly overhear your pleasure, which reflects well on him,’ says Fulbright. ‘He also gets off on hearing that you’re getting off!’

Contrary to what you may think, a guy’s biggest pleasure is knowing that he pleased you.




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Posted by on February 26, 2015 in 21 AND OLDER, WISDOM



Friendships are often an empty and worthless network of people that parasite on each other.


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Very few people are prepared to pay the price in full for their hopes and dreams. They feel they achieved some kind of victory if they can get you to pay for their dreams and aspirations. Their friendships are often an empty and worthless network of people that parasite on each other. Their fake smiles and role played compassion is just as devoid of true feelings than the heart of a prostitute. Look around you and see if you can detect the good weather friends that sip your whisky and frequent your parties. We often join forces with others and hope that it will improve our situation. What we forget is that we frequently become more vulnerable because of the group dynamic. Your real test will one day come when you will discover who your real friends are. You will discover that most of your so-called dear friends will vanish like a fart in a thunderstorm when they discover that you can no longer be a donor that feed their emotional, financial or other needs.     



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