98 YOUR PORTABLE WISDOM GUIDE – Become outcome focused.



98. Become outcome focused. Make sure that you know what outcome you desire and then actively pursue this desired outcome. You cannot focus on your fears and expect to achieve your desired outcomes. Do you want to own the magic key to success and problem solving? I am sure you do. The magic key that makes all your dreams a reality is decision making. Only when you decide to take, your first bold steps toward your desired outcome will your life start moving forward again.


This series will be continued tomorrow

Leave a comment

Posted by on September 28, 2016 in WISDOM



Will This Hypnotize You?



Leave a comment

Posted by on September 28, 2016 in WISDOM



Book Review – Are you Trapped In An Endless Groundhog Day?



What if I told you that YOU are reliving the same day over and over again and you are not even aware of it?

A couple of days ago I watched the classic Groundhog Day with Bill Murray. I have watched this movie before, maybe 10 years ago, but now I understood it a little better.

Despite the great old school comedy, the entertaining story and the amazing presence of Bill, I saw something else. I realized something and I was astonished.

Did you know that we are ALL reliving the same day over and over and over again and we are not even aware of it?!

I realized that the movie is not a fantasy at all. It is a great, powerful analogy of life, time and growth. It precisely explains how time works and how we work through time. It precisely explains how we grow and how energy flows.

But I’ll take it easy, dear readers, and explain everything. Let’s dive in!

In the beginning, we get stuck!

For those who haven’t watched the movie, a person named Phil who is a weather caster gets stuck in a small town because of a blizzard. However, he soon realizes that he is not just stuck in the small town but, for some reason, he is also stuck in time, reliving the same day over and over and over again.

No matter what he does, where he sleeps, or even if he doesn’t sleep at all at 6AM he is transported into the bed of his motel room with the same day starting again. Everything is reset, except his consciousness. Nobody else remembers “his” previous day, just like it never happened.

That’s probably the shortest description of the movie. But it is enough to continue with our little chat. Now bear with me.

What if you were immortal? What would you do if you could live forever?

What if I tell you that you are, and you are actually stuck, reliving the same day over and over and over again?

You would probably consider me crazy or, at least, a little coo coo.

I mean you remember yesterday, everybody around you remembers yesterday and their version is, of course, the same as your version.

But let’s pretend for the sake of getting a clearer picture, that everyone else’s version of “yesyerday” is different from yours.

What would you do in such a scenario?

First, most of us would probably do the same thing: activate the PARTY mode and try to satisfy as many desires as we possibly can!

Just like in the movie, we take advantage of our “superpower” and use it to do what we please, to get what we want.

We are focused on going all out and experiencing, using, abusing, manipulating all that we want to. Why? Because the next day everything is reset, so what’s the big deal, right?

We can eat as much as we want and whatever we want, we can learn things about others so that the “next” day we can use them to make new friends or sex companions or, simply, manipulate things into our own advantage.

We can rob banks and make money simply by finding gaps in the timing.

We can convince people we are godly figures and get away with anything. We can have so much fun with our newly discovered “superpower” without any consequences whatsoever.

We can literally do whatever we want, so why not taking advantage, right? But then, things start to get pointless.

Once we realize the shallowness of acquiring physical or material desires, once we sense that there must be something more than just doing what we want, we would probably change our focus.

Second, we realize what we truly love!

Being immortal and all, there comes a time when you realize that there is something you always wanted, something beyond everything else.

This “thing” is now the only thing that matters in eternity. So what do we do?

We do what we learned to do best. We try to use our “superpower” to get what we truly love.

But, somehow, nothing we do with our “superpower” seems to work. No matter how much things we learn to manipulate, there seems to be no way of getting what we truly love.


We continuously ask this question, why can’t we get this thing but we can get everything else?

However, the worst thing is to actually get what we think we truly love and realize that something is still missing.

So what do we do? We do not want to live anymore. We may even try to kill ourselves, but hey, we are immortal aren’t we?

After eons pass and we accept that we cannot use our “superpower” to get what we truly love, we start to help people.

We look for people in need of help, we study their problems and we fix whatever they need fixing.

If we see a kid falling from a tree, the “next” day we will make sure to be there and catch him.

If we see a homeless person, we will try to feed him/her.

If we see an old lady having a flat tire, the next day we will make sure to be there with a spare tire, even before the other one gets flat.

We would do as much good as we can, because deep inside humans are good and deep inside we want to make the world a better place.

But then we understand that cannot be in more than one place at the same time, so while we would help the old lady changing her tire, we would not be there to catch the kid falling from the tree.

So we realize that nothing we do truly matters. The next day everything is reset anyway. And, if we keep on helping other people, there will always be people who we cannot help.

In fact, there is no one we actually help, because the “next” day it is all the same.
We can literally help no one with our “superpower” but ourselves, so that’s what we do.

In the end we give up and start doing what we really want to do to grow as a person because it is our consciousness which remembers the days.

If we feel like learning to playing the piano, that’s what we do. We start learning piano, regardless of the costs and, eventually, we master this art.

Next, we may want to learn ice sculpting, so that’s exactly what we do. We learn the skill and we master it.

The same goes for other arts, like dancing, singing, painting or writing. We go ahead and master all of those skills.

Simply put, we grow by learning new things and we keep on growing. We learn poetry, we read books and we delve into different wisdom, philosophies and arts.

Then we start creating using the skills we have mastered, even though we know that the next day everything is reset.

Why? Because it is the process of creating that we truly enjoy and it matters more than the end product.

Now we let who we really are shine through!

We make the life of other people better by simply being in their presence. We know so many skills and techniques. We are the voice and face of the party.

Our calmness, confidence and self control give security, peace and freedom to anyone around us.

We are literally becoming stars and others are orbiting around us, being inspired and replenished with energy simply by being in our presence.

Soon, we will not be needing our “superpower” to get what we want, because we’ve become good at everything.

And here lies the greatest secret, my dear readers. Here lies the key to answering the question of why we couldn’t get what we truly loved.

It was never the desires that we wanted, but for us to be able to fulfill them. That’s why we so desperately wanted to satisfy them before everything else.

It was like a fix. A fix that was telling us “oh yeah, you are enough!” But we really weren’t, weren’t we?

That’s why we couldn’t get what we truly loved, because we thought we needed something external, or a “superpower” to grow and acquire it.

Once we focused on ourselves and our personal growth, once we realized that we were always enough to grow exactly as we wanted to grow, once we realized we do not need anything outside of us to be a better person, that’s when everything changes.

That’s when we became who we truly are. That’s when we became enough.

The sense of being enough as yourself, will release you from any burden, like: getting more, doing more, helping more, saving the world, or getting what you truly love.

The realization that you are enough, set you free and allowed you to be yourself and, by simply minding your own business, you accomplished more than struggling.

You’ve gained, you’ve done and you helped more, you saved the world in your own way through your own creations and with your simple presence you are making the lives of other people better.

Somehow, the “thing” you always wanted found you.

Like it was able to see that now you are legit, it made itself available to you. You acquired it and now it wasn’t missing anything.

And, somehow, the next day at 6AM things didn’t reset anymore. Life kept going with you having what you’ve always loved. You actually started living for the first time.

You probably wonder why you got unstuck.

Because you never were stuck in the first place, buddy. It was always your perception spinning you in circles to show you that you need to start living.

The past and the future, time as we know it, does not exist. They are only concepts of our minds.

Time doesn’t truly exist, does it?

Literally, the only thing that exists is the present moment, the NOW. Think about it.

So, next time you’ll feel stuck, reliving the same “day,” please know that it is your perception that is stuck, searching for something meaningful.

But instead of allowing others to tell you what is meaningful to you, why don’t you think about what makes you itch, and start doing it?

Once you balance yourself, the circling stops. For you, time will become straight again.
Instead of looking at eternity from the inside, you rose above and saw eternity in the depth of every moment.

You glimpsed into the infinity through the possibilities of your choices and you understood the power of creativity to open this window even more.

Once you’ve started building upon something that is meaningful to you, by being your true self, you pressed the play button and your perception shifted.

Now everything is possible and everything might happen. The only control you have and ever had is the one of choosing how you happen, where and through what to grow.

To Conclude

We are born and life seems to move forward when we are kids. We learn, we discover, we grow.

However, once we get to a certain age life seems to slow down and we usually get stuck reliving the same “day” over and over again. Until we get very old and realize how fast life went by.

We focus on getting more money so we can have more “mana” for our “superpower” and fulfill our desires.

We try to manipulate things into getting what we always truly wanted, not even being aware of our need to grow. But we learn this is a fool’s errand.

We may even desperately try to help as many people as we can because, for some reason, we feel guilty. Or we may even believe that we need to save the world.

But the world does not need saving. It’s not your responsibility to save the world. You cannot even help others if they do not want to help themselves.

You feel guilty because you are in the eyes of the one who is always watching you, the one who you always degrade and neglect yourself.

And you will instantly forgive yourself when you become honest and admit to yourself what you really need to focus on and do, no matter how selfish that may sound at first.

You will forgive yourself the moment you accept yourself to be enough.

The moment you accept yourself and start growing through your truth, the moment you start learning, discover and grow again is the moment you get unstuck.

No matter if we get everything and if we save everyone, the whole world and The Universe, we will never be enough until we see what we always were.

I know you realize now how you are basically reliving the same “day” over and over again. I am too, buddy, and I am trying to be a little more unstuck every day.

This is not a movie and it takes time to grow, but the moment you will start minding your own business, you will not feel stuck anymore.

Take it easy, one step at a time.

Even starting to learn one thing you always wanted to learn is a great change towards the right direction.

Do something you always wanted to do. Learn something you always wanted to learn. Create something you always wanted to create. Tell someone something you always wanted to tell. Go somewhere you always wanted to go.

That’s when you truly start living.


By Dejan Davchevski

Leave a comment

Posted by on September 28, 2016 in WISDOM


97 YOUR PORTABLE WISDOM GUIDE – A wise person believes in live and let live.



97. Become a mature person that calmly does what needs to be done. The fool tend to frantically rush around in an attempt to be everything for everybody. The wise person believes in live and let live. He does not make an issue out of everything.


This series will be continued tomorrow

Leave a comment

Posted by on September 27, 2016 in WISDOM



Only fools start acting out the first routine that comes to mind.


Give yourself time to scan all incoming data. You can cause yourself and partner serious discomfort if you for example have a hair-trigger on jealousy. You can destroy a wonderful relationship if you have a hair-trigger on your impatience. You can flush your career down the toilet if you have a hair-trigger on your anger or jump to conclusions. Stop automatic reactions when triggered if you want to change your life. Learn to buy time and to delay your decisions until you have gathered enough data to make an informed decision. The next time you fly off the handle remember that only fools start acting out the first routine that comes to mind.





Leave a comment

Posted by on September 27, 2016 in WISDOM



You must build in an escape clause.



Mutual respect developed in relationships ensures sustainability and good quality choices. The key is to create a platform where parties can talk openly, without fear about observations, experiences and feelings. I sometimes find it almost humorous to hear from friends how their partner went crazy, hyperventilated and pulled out clumps of hair from his or her scalp after they share some bad news with him or her. A few dramatic performances by your partner after you share less acceptable news with him or her usually convince you that this open and honest thing should be avoided at all cost. That is one of the main reasons why partners begin to hide stuff from each other. It might be a good idea to set down a few ground rules about this open and honest mode of operation before you agree to take it on board. You must build in an escape clause if your partner begins to show symptoms of a heart attack or start looking for a sharp knife in the kitchen. I am exaggerating, but hope that you will accept that some ground rules must be put in place if one or both of the partners feel that honesty is the best policy. The best rule is to agree that you will bring in a “time out” period when any of the partners move away from a rational and objective communication style. You may find that one partner insist while he or she is foaming at the mouth that you conclude whatever you are busy talking about. My friend, take time out, even if you must dodge a few “flying saucers” on your way to your workshop. No problem, relationship or dispute has ever been solved amicably while one or both of the parties work in “crazy” mode. Showing respect and compassion is impossible while you jump up and down like a clown or make noises like a wounded buffalo. I thus suggest that you set some “playing” rules in this regard and avoid any engagement while upset or angry. Remember the “time out” rule if you want to master the art of dispute management.


Leave a comment

Posted by on September 27, 2016 in WISDOM



96 YOUR PORTABLE WISDOM GUIDE – Gather enough courage/walk forward even when the future seems unclear to you.

No Pain No Gain!


96. Become a champion today. Walk forward even when you do not see a bridge in front of you. You may not have all the answers or do not even understand the questions, but must continue moving forward if you want to overcome and succeed. When faced with a problem, walk forward and trust that the solution or answers will be revealed to you. The most difficult part of your journey over the bridge of life is not the actual journey, but to gather enough courage to walk forward even when the future seems unclear to you.


This series will be continued tomorrow


Leave a comment

Posted by on September 26, 2016 in WISDOM



Mightyman Vukeya

DNS is in my DNA


Just another site

Chris Brake Show Podcast

LIVE! Every Wednesday @ 8pm Eastern / 7pm Central on

Digital Media

Join me here on my crazy techincal journey! Disasters will occur


Just another site

Lama Surya Das

Lama Surya Das, the most highly trained American lama in the Tibetan tradition.

My Life as an Artist (2)

Smile! You’re at the best site ever


A great site

Joseph Matheny : ars est celare artem

Reality Hacker | Artisanal Legend Crafter | Feral Scholar | Collarless Dog | Gamecaller | Mytho-Poetic Bricoleur | Labyrinthos Mythologicus Architect | Transgressive Storyteller | Caput Gerat Lupinum

My Story of Organized Crime, Organized Stalking, Public/Political Corruption and Domestic Terrorism

Over a decade of organized stalking, extortion, schemes to defraud, racketeering/murder in aid thereof, in colossal proportion.

dianetot's Blog

its all about life,love,passion,desires,truth


Parapsychology is what's beyond the humans and metaphysics is what's beyond nature, and both define the same thing... God.


Défenseur de la Terre/Defender of the Earth

Hathor Rabiah

A new name. A new city. A new life.

Opening Duirs



The Chocolately, Nutty, Interior of my life and Psychology

Celestial Elf, a2ndLook~

Perceptions 0f Reflections ((a backup blog for

Cindi Gale

To every thing there is a season ~

The Sting Of The Scorpion Blog (T.S.O.T.S.B.)

.......................Because Everything Else Just Bites!

Poetry Inspector

Favorites from around the Web

Los Sentidos De La Vida

Un Blog de Cine, Musica, Vinos... En 75 palabras aprox.

My Time is Now

Dancing With The Elderly- A Hollywood Actress's Day Job

let the free birds fly

surviving creating instigating



AshiAkira's Blog

Just another site


Yes I cut Samson's hair, he was an asshole.

diary of a single mom in the south

my life, my love, my story

My Hong Kong Husband

Third culture wife: Polish girl married to a Hongkonger, fresh off the airplane in Ireland. AMWF, lifestyle, culture, food, Asian fashion and a little bit of Cantonese

Dean J. Baker - Poetry, and prose poems

Buy one of my books, you cabbage

Loving Without Boundaries

A Modern Look At Practicing Polyamory / Ethical Non-monogamy


Ramblings from a disturbed mind ©2013 Cho Wan Yau

Middle-Aged Martial Arts Mom

Loving a crippling compulsion....



Just me being curious

A blog of questions and few answers.

I Dont Want To Talk About It

The Ultimate Paradox: Depression in Sobriety

Shepherd Mulwanda

ICT Research Training and Consultancy,Agriculture & the Youths

Don Charisma

because anything is possible with Charisma

White Shadows

Story of a white pearl that turned to ashes while waiting for a pheonix to be born inside her !

GIFT FROM THE HEART - Share and Care!

Appreciation, Respect and Gratitude towards all...... that there is!


Trying to make sense of turmoil

Dince's Chronicles

My Personal Blog

Awareness It Self

Quotes for spiritual enjoyment


Esoterically Eccentric

Doug Does Life

A Creative Monkey On How To Find Your Path In Life.

Never Quite Broken

What you did not build up, you cannot tear down.

%d bloggers like this: