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“101 Relationship Myths”…….. Enjoy!

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Here’s an excerpt from “101 Relationship Myths” about sexual attraction”. Enjoy!

“One of the relationship myths that has caused me the most pain during the course of my “relationship career” is the idea that strong sexual attraction and falling in love means you’re compatible and a good match. So a couple of years ago I decided to take a closer look at this idea and find out if it’s really true that when you’re on cloud nine and feel strong sexual attraction to someone, it means you’re going to be a good match as a couple.

It didn’t take me long to find the answer. When I looked back at some of my previous relationships, I could see that even though we were really attracted to each other, the reality was that we were not that good a match. Yes we might have felt blissful or even in love in the beginning, but when it came to relationships, lifestyle and interests, we often had very different views, preferences and values.

This realization was a revelation to me. Up until then, I’d been basing my choice of partner on whether or not there was a strong sexual attraction between us and not on whether or not we were a good match. And suddenly I could see the painful consequences of this misunderstanding – for me and my partners.

One of the consequences of believing that strong sexual attraction means you’re a good match was that in the beginning of a new relationship, I often found myself exaggerating or only focusing on the woman’s “positive” sides (oh she’s so beautiful, so spiritual, and so forth) while downplaying or even ignoring her more “negative” sides. For example, I would overlook the sudden unkind remark that made me feel uncomfortable and instead sweep it under the carpet because I was so much in love. Or I’d accept an action or actions on her part that I’d never accept in anyone else. But in her case, because the attraction was so strong, I’d let it slide. And I have to admit that if I had been totally honest with myself, the truth was I already knew on the very first date, in the very first five minutes or so of our conversation, why the relationship would sooner or later become unworkable. Yes it’s true, I actually knew from the very beginning the reasons why we would not be a good match…

But because I was so infatuated and innocently believed that strong sexual attraction means you’re a good match, I ignored reality. And the result was almost always the same. As soon as the intoxication of falling in love began to wear off and the reality began to set in, it would become more and more painful for me to stay in the relationship. And then, the long, difficult battle to extricate myself would begin.

Find your core values

So if strong sexual attraction and falling in love don’t necessarily mean you’re a good match – what does? What makes two people a good match?

One of the things that make two people a good match is that they have the same “core” values. By having the same core values, I don’t mean being the same personality type or having the same education or working in the same field. I mean you have the same basic attitudes when it comes to what’s important in life, not least what’s important when it comes to relationships.

One of the reasons why many relationships get into serious trouble is that the man and the woman don’t have the same core values. A “mismatch” like this usually spells trouble because most people live according to their core values – and usually unconsciously expect their partners to do so too. This can be problematic when these core values don’t match. Let’s take an example. Let’s say one of your core values is “freedom” while your partner’s core values are “security and feeling safe”. Obviously this can make your relationship problematic because you will both unconsciously be expecting the other to behave in a manner that is in conflict with his or her core value or values. So when you are faithful to your core value and give yourself and your partner lots of “freedom”, your partner may get upset and feel insecure because his/her core values of “security and feeling safe” are not being met or are threatened. The opposite is true too. When your partner tries to live in harmony with his/her core value and strives for “security” for example, by wanting clear agreements on how you do things, the “freedom-loving” partner feels stifled and inhibited. You feel your core value of “freedom” is being threatened. So this is why it is so important to be more aware of what you and your partner’s (or a potential partner’s) core values are.

My former girlfriend, sexologist and couples therapist Joan Ørting has developed a good exercise to help us become more aware of our core values when it comes to relationships. I suggest you give this exercise a try – it can be really interesting. Ask yourself the following questions and answer as honestly as you can.

Question: What is most important for you in a relationship?

Answer: That my partner accepts me and loves me unconditionally.

Question: How does it make you feel when your partner accepts you and loves you unconditionally?

Answer: It makes me feel SAFE.

Conclusion: So feeling SAFE is one of your core values.

Repeat the questions until you identify 3-5 of your main core values. Once you’ve done this, prioritize the values so that you end up with a list that looks like this:

My core values when it comes to relationships:
1) FEELING SAFE
2) BEING TOGETHER
3) JOY

Or perhaps you’ll come up with a list of core values that looks like this:

1) FREEDOM
2) ADVENTURE
3) BEING TOGETHER

Becoming aware of your core values can be a really big help when it comes to determining if you and a potential partner are a good match. And if you’re already in a relationship and are having problems, it may be because your core values do not match. So it can also be helpful to do this exercise with your partner and then talk about what your respective core values are. Understanding how your core values differ can make it easier to communicate with each other in the future.”

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Posted by on May 3, 2016 in WISDOM

 

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If this isn’t insanity, what is?

 

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The number 2 cause of suffering and unhappiness is wanting what you don’t have. A few words of wisdom from Barbara Berger’s new book – ARE YOU HAPPY NOW?

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 Are you suffering from what I call the ‘never good enough’ syndrome? Are you always wanting more than what is? And are you beating yourself up because you don’t have it? Are you convinced that what you had before was better than what you have now? And that what you have now is not as good as what your neighbours have or what your best friend has. Are you also quite sure that your health isn’t as good as it used to be and that the weather isn’t either. Do you have a sneaking suspicion that the weather was better in the good old days? And that the state of the economy was too? Or at least the state of your economy was? And when it comes to your clothes, do you feel that they’re not as good as your friends’ clothes nor is your sofa come to think of it. Not to mention your TV which isn’t the latest model with the latest hi-tech finesses either. Also do you feel that it’s unfair that your rent is higher than it used to be and that the cost of living just keeps going up just like the prices in the supermarket?

   Or maybe you feel that life was more exciting when you were younger or that life will be more exciting when you get older? Or that life will be more satisfying when you graduate from university and get a good job or when you get married and have a family. Or maybe you’re convinced that if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend you could count on everything would be so much better and you’d finally be safe. Does any of this sound like you? If it does, then you’re suffering from what I call the ‘never good enough’ syndrome!

   No wonder you’re not happy!

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   Think about what’s going on in your mind! It’s a war zone! It’s a constant battle with reality. No wonder you feel stressed and unhappy.

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   If this is anything like you, maybe it’s time you ask yourself what good all these constant comparisons are doing you? How do they and your stories and expectations improve the quality of your life here and now? The reality is your rent and the cost of living are going up. The reality is your health isn’t as good as it used to be and your TV isn’t the latest model and your sofa is worn out. The reality is you don’t have a wife and kids and the perfect family. So let’s face it, according to the stories you’re telling yourself, you’re never going to be OK or happy. And it’s all because of the stories you’re telling yourself about how your life should be, when the reality is your life isn’t like that.

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If this isn’t insanity, what is? – Read More!

Barbara Berger

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Posted by on May 3, 2016 in WISDOM

 

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No problem/dispute has ever been solved amicably while in “crazy” mode.

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Mutual respect developed in relationships ensures sustainability and good quality choices. The key is to create a platform where parties can talk openly, without fear about observations, experiences and feelings. I sometimes find it almost humorous to hear from friends how their partner went crazy, hyperventilated and pulled out clumps of hair from his or her scalp after they share some bad news with him or her. A few dramatic performances by your partner after you share less acceptable news with him or her usually convince you that this open and honest thing should be avoided at all cost. That is one of the main reasons why partners begin to hide stuff from each other. It might be a good idea to set down a few ground rules about this open and honest mode of operation before you agree to take it on board. You must build in an escape clause if your partner begins to show symptoms of a heart attack or start looking for a sharp knife in the kitchen. I am exaggerating, but hope that you will accept that some ground rules must be put in place if one or both of the partners feel that honesty is the best policy. The best rule is to agree that you will bring in a “time out” period when any of the partners move away from a rational and objective communication style. You may find that one partner insist while he or she is foaming at the mouth that you conclude whatever you are busy talking about. My friend, take time out, even if you must dodge a few “flying saucers” on your way to your workshop. No problem, relationship or dispute has ever been solved amicably while one or both of the parties work in “crazy” mode. Showing respect and compassion is impossible while you jump up and down like a clown or make noises like a wounded buffalo. I thus suggest that you set some “playing” rules in this regard and avoid any engagement while upset or angry. Remember the “time out” rule if you want to master the art of dispute management.

 Rene

 

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Posted by on May 2, 2016 in WISDOM

 

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Powerful road map for those that are looking for wisdom/insight.

The Top 20 Best Self Help Books of All Time

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1. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

The Alchemist is the magical story of Santiago, an Andalusian shepherd boy who wants to travel in search of an extravagant treasure. From his home in Spain he journeys to the markets of Tangiers and across the Egyptian desert to a fateful encounter with the alchemist. The story of the treasures he finds on his journey teaches us about the essential wisdom of listening to our hearts, learning to read the signs along life’s path, and, above all, following our dreams.

2. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey

Covey presents a holistic, integrated, principle-centered approach for solving personal and professional problems. With powerful insights and spot on anecdotes, Covey reveals a pathway for living with fairness, integrity, service, and human dignity–principles that give us the security to adapt to change and the wisdom and power to take advantage of the opportunities that change creates.

 

3. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

Tolle takes readers on an inspiring spiritual journey to find their true and deepest self and reach the ultimate in personal growth and spirituality: the discovery of truth and light. In writing about enlightenment, he introduces you to it’s natural enemy, your mind. He goes further by showing readers how to live in the present moment.

 

4. Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki

Kiyosaki tackles the “financial literacy” that’s never addressed in schools. He had two father figures growing up. One who struggled paycheck to paycheck for a lifetime whom he called “poor dad” and the other who was a multimillionaire eighth grade dropout he lovingly calls “rich dad”. The concept behind the book is that rich people have money work for them while the poor work for money. This is a must read to change anyone’s negative belief system on money or to further your understanding on how money can work for you.

 

5. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

This is one of the most timeless self help books ever written. Carnegie believed that most successes come from an ability to communicate effectively versus brilliant insights. This book teaches these skills by showing you how to value people and help them feel appreciated rather than manipulated.

 

6. The Road Less Traveled by M Scott Peck

When a book opens with “Life is difficult”, you know it’s going to wake you up and provide you with some candid lessons. His timeless voice in The Road Less Traveled continues to help us explore the nature of loving relationships and leads us toward a new peace and fulfillment. You will learn how to distinguish dependency from love; how to become a more sensitive parent; and ultimately how to become one’s own true self.

 

7. Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

Hill was one of the first ever self help authors, and his books are incredibly relevant today. Think and Grow Rich condenses his laws of success and provides you with 13 principles of personal achievement. It is noted that an individual with desire, faith, and persistence can reach great success by eliminating all negative energy and thoughts and focusing at the greater goals in hand.

 

8. The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz

This self help book is rooted in traditional Toltec wisdom, four agreements in life are essential steps on the path to personal freedom. As beliefs are transformed through keeping these agreements, shamanic teacher don Miguel Ruiz asserts lives will “become filled with grace, peace, and unconditional love.”

 

9. As a Man Thinketh by James Allen

This is considered a classic self-help book that inspired future books on the law of attraction. Its underlying premise is that noble thoughts make a noble person, while lowly thoughts make a miserable person. James Allen reveals how our thoughts determine reality. He shows you how you can master your thoughts to create the life you want instead of simply drifting through life unaware of the inner forces that keep us held in failure and frustration.

 

10. Man’s Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl

This self help book has riveted generations of readers with its descriptions of life in Nazi death camps and its lessons for spiritual survival. Frankl argues that we cannot avoid suffering but we can choose how to cope with it, find meaning in it, and move forward with renewed purpose. He holds that our primary drive in life is not pleasure but the discovery and pursuit of what we find meaningful.

 

11. See You at the Top by Zig Ziglar

As one of America’s most gifted speakers/authors in motivation, the late Zig Ziglar shares the secrets of climbing the stairway to personal success. He presents a proven program of self-development based upon the foundation of a winning self-image.

 

12. The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield

In the rain forests of Peru, an ancient manuscript was discovered. It includes 9 key insights on life. Drawing on ancient wisdom, it shows you how to make connections among the current events in your life and let’s you see what is going to happen to you in the future. This book can help you understand why you are where you are in life and align you with a new optimism for your future.

 

13. The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale

Dr. Peale shows you 10 simple rules to obtain confidence, 3 proven secrets for vigor, 5 techniques to overcome defeat and much, much more. This book proves that an attitude can change lives, win success in all things, and overcome obstacles.

 

 14. The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace D. Wattles

Originally published in 1910, this book takes the mystery out of wealth accumulation and breaks it down into a scientific formula. The text is divided into 17 quick, no nonsense chapters that show you how to oconquer mental barriers, and how creation, not competition, is the true key to attracting wealth.

 

15. The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra

Chopra’s teachings are summed up in 7 simple principles which can be applied to all areas of your personal life to create success. Chopra’s basic premise is that personal understanding and harmony promote fulfilling relationships and material abundance without extra effort. Each of the chapters provide specifics on how to achieve it.

 

16. The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz

Millions of people all over the world have improved their lives using this book. Schwartz will help you sell better, lead more effectively, earn more money, and (this is a big one) find more happiness and peace of mind.He proves that you don’t need innate talent to achieve massive success but you do need to understand the habit of thinking and behaving in ways that get you there.

 

17. Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers

We’ve all got fears which is why I love this book! Whatever your fear, here is your chance to push through it once and for all. You’ll discover how to move from victim to creator, the 10-step process to turn off the negative talk in your head and how to create more meaning in your life by overcoming those fears.

 

18. Awaken the Giant Within by Anthony Robbins

Tony Robbins is famous for his motivational speaking but this is, by far, one of the best self help books of all time. Robbins shows you his most effective strategies and techniques for mastering your emotions, your body, your relationships, your finances, and your life through a step-by-step program teaching self-mastery that enables you to discover your true purpose, take control of your life and harness the forces that shape your destiny.

 

19. The Power of Intention by Wayne W. Dyer

This isn’t your typical book on intention. Dyer has researched intention as a force in the universe that allows the act of creation to take place. This book explores intention—not as something you do—but as an energy you’re a part of. We’re all intended here through the invisible power of intention. He’s the first in our industry to look at intention as a field of energy that you can access to begin co-creating your life with the power of intention.

 

20. What to Say When You Talk to Your Self by Dr. Shad Helmstetter

Don’t overlook this book because it’s #20 on my Top 20 Best Self Help Books of all time list. I’ve recommended this book to many friends and family members who’s lives have been changed dramatically as a result of reading this book. Self doubt? Read this book. In secure about anything? Read this book. I’m sure you get the idea.

 

Matt Morris is an eight-time bestselling author, including his #1 bestseller, The Unemployed Millionaire: Escape the Rat Race, Fire Your Boss and Live Life on YOUR Terms!

 
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Posted by on May 2, 2016 in WISDOM

 

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Mindfulness refashioned into a safety valve, as a way to let off steam.

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I was into meditation before it was cool.

Actually, I was into it long after it was cool. I was born in the early 80s, and in my late teens I came across the scattered and dishevelled remnants of the meditation boom of the 60s and 70s.

In my university library I read dusty tomes of esoteric religious mysticism supplemented with time-capsule bits and pieces like Jack Kerouac’s crazy adventures, breathless enthusiasm over the scientific power of Transcendental Meditation, and erstwhile attempts to find a bridge between religions East and West through shared practice of the kinds of methods once ridiculed in Medieval Eastern Europe as “Omphaloskepsis”, the original “navel gazing”.

Meditation is cool again. Not The Beatles hanging out in India with the Maharishi in ’68 kind of cool, but the Paleo diet, Bikram yoga, gluten-free, activewear, corporate sociopath kind of cool. 

Meditation, with all its real and alleged benefits, has been building into a new mass-market panacea, sold to stress-conscious consumers and compliance-conscious corporations alike as the lowest common denominator of psychosomatic self-improvement. But the rise of meditation is not without its critics, and a recent New York Times opinion piece begging meditation evangelists to “end the madness” is just one instance of the push-back against mindfulness and meditation generally.

To tell the truth I was never “into” meditation in the literal sense. Various popular methods proved as tedious, tiring, and demoralising as they were openly admitted to be.  That’s something apparently overlooked in the high tide of the “McMindfulness” fad: all forms of meditation, whether they focus on counting breaths, being mindful of one’s mental states, cultivating a sense of loving kindness, or discursively analysing metaphysical connundra, are known in their full religious contexts to be gruelling disciplines when undertaken in the proper spirit.

The proper spirit is precisely what has been lost amidst the growing popularity of meditation and mindfulness. Buddhists are increasingly critical of the “non-judgmental” stance injected into mindfulness programs by corporations keen to harness meditation’s cool self-improvement vibe without touching on any of the awkward ethical stuff that goes with it. At last year’s Wisdom 2.0 conference in San Francisco, Google representatives’ “3 Steps to Build Corporate Mindfulness the Google Way,” presentation was interrupted by a Buddhist protest:

The activists jumped onto the stage to chant, “Wisdom means stop displacement! Wisdom means stop surveillance!” They claimed that “Google should not be speaking as experts on mindfulness, when they’re playing a role in displacement, privatization of public assets, for-profit surveillance, profiling, policing, and targeting of activist communities.”

After the activists were removed from the stage, without acknowledging or refuting their allegations, the Google spokesperson directed the audience to “check in with your body” to “feel what it’s like to be in conflict with people with heartfelt ideas.”

These protesters were clearly yet to master the “non-judgmental” side of mindful awareness. But the truly exciting applications of mindfulness lie in its capacity to increase the productivity and compliance of corporate employees. The author of a study that proclaimed these exact benefits noted in 2012:

“I kept thinking, ‘This is crazy,’ ” he says.  “I do wonder why we make ourselves work this way. There’s no time to even think. We’ve gotten to a place where we’re just speeding up and we don’t do things well. We’ve got to slow down.”

While Levy says further study is needed to determine whether the meditation benefit can continue over the long term, in his own life he says meditation has helped calm his stress. He thinks it can be worth a try for workers who feel overwhelmed, distracted and stressed.

That’s the author of a study into the workplace benefits of meditation noting first that he found full time academic workloads to be “crazy”, and then concluding that meditation can aid with the symptoms of this craziness.  It’s meant to be read as an endorsement of mindfulness, but commentators are increasingly seeing the mindfulness fad in a much more cynical light – as an insidious attempt by employers to turn us into non-judgemental little worker-bees.

Imagine if corporations started offering their employees Xanax to help them deal with stress and be more focused on the job.  How are mindfulness programs substantively different? In 2013 Ron Purser, a Professor of management at San Francisco State University and Zen teacher David Loy wrote a sharp critique of the mindfulness movement as it infiltrates schools, corporations, prisons and government agencies:

“Up to now, the mindfulness movement has avoided any serious consideration of why stress is so pervasive in modern business institutions. Instead, corporations have jumped on the mindfulness bandwagon because it conveniently shifts the burden onto the individual employee: stress is framed as a personal problem, and mindfulness is offered as just the right medicine to help employees work more efficiently and calmly within toxic environments. Cloaked in an aura of care and humanity, mindfulness is refashioned into a safety valve, as a way to let off steam — a technique for coping with and adapting to the stresses and strains of corporate life.”

Let’s all check in with our bodies and feel what it’s like to realise that our corporate overlords will exploit even spiritual development for the sake of profit.  I’ve met and worked with people who are deeply into this kind of meditation and promote it at the middle-management level. The scary thing is that they aren’t even completely cynical; they genuinely believe in the near-magical benefits of meditation, and see no problem in advancing Google-inspired programs in their own corporate territory.  They see mindfulness and meditation in uncritically elevated terms, and are equally uncritical of the corporate structures of which they are a part. Meditation will save the world, but it turns out there’s nothing bad to save it from.

If you look carefully, you can find critiques of mindfulness practices themselves. Side effects? No one ever said anything about meditation side-effects.  Mindfulness is supposed to be a magical panacea, but you might want to take care if you suffer from PTSD, are prone to seizures, or have pre-existing foundational religious beliefs. Like Xanax, mindfulness and other forms of meditation are tools designed for specific purposes, but they should not be used or promoted indiscriminately.

Critics of the current meditation fad have pointed out that mindfulness can, paradoxically, amount to a form of dissociation.  The supposedly non-judgemental quality of mindfulness meditation is often packaged as a way of dealing with painful and difficult emotions, and can become a means of avoiding rather than processing uncomfortable feelings. As one critique noted:

“The idea that each of us is unique is a cornerstone of individual-based therapy. But with mindfulness-based approaches there is little space for one’s individuality, in part because it’s a group practice, but also because there has been no serious attempt to address how individuals react differently to this technique”

Then there are the genuine spiritual goals of meditation. While meditation is typically couched in the safe language of self-improvement and stress relief, there’s no denying that the end-goal of meditation in its original context is a radical departure from a conventional view of life and reality.

According to the Heart of the Perfection of Wisdom Sutra, the Bodhisattva Avalokiteshvara in deep meditation saw that the five aggregates of human experience are essentially empty, and so passed beyond all suffering. His productivity levels also dramatically increased, and HR had no further complaints from him.

Wisdom 2.0 may be all about well-being and workplace efficiency, but Wisdom 1.0 doesn’t sit well with these “accommodationist” concerns. From a Buddhist point of view, it is absurd to watch people espouse mindfulness while changing nothing in their deeper values or daily life.  It is as senseless and egoistic as practicing some kind of secular “prayer” for the sake of health and feel-good benefits.

In its proper context, mindfulness is supposed to be right mindfulness, and is but one of eight components of the Noble Eightfold Path.  It is supposed to be grounded, contained, and expressed through right view, right intention, right speech, right action, right livelihood, right effort, and right concentration.  To fixate on non-judgemental mindfulness alone is simply not right.

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Posted by on May 1, 2016 in WISDOM

 

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NOT HAPPY? The first thing that you need to do is to “accept what is”.

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I have been doing training and motivational consulting and lecturing for many years. I concluded a long time ago that there is one major flaw that is mostly responsible for the demise of relationships, businesses and even empires. This deadly virus that infests and kills initiative is non-action. Many of us tend to go into a paralysed non-action frame of mind when we are confronted with problems or projects that pose perceived insurmountable challenges. I grew up in nature and often watched how a frog or bird seems hypnotised when they come face to face with a snake. They often have ample time to evade becoming a meal, but just sit there. We often do the same when we are confronted with challenges. We also just sit there and hope that the problem or challenge will go away. Adopting an action orientated frame of mind is imperative in the game of life. Waiting, hoping and praying that things will get better is just not good enough. The solution to most problems is action. The moment you take deliberate action you create momentum. I am not promoting random, run around panic action, but simple deliberate “one step at a time” action. The first thing that you need to do is to “accept what is”. Many of us live in denial and don’t want to accept or admit that we are in deep shit. We cannot take decisive action if we deny that we have a huge hole in our boat that need urgent fixing. The fairies will not mystically come while you sleep and wait and fix the problem. I have seen many executives that seemingly have a magnetic backside that glue them to their chairs. Their factory is burning or the financial vultures are circling their business ready to attack and remove while they wait and hope that a miracle will rescue them. Things are never as hopeless as they seem. The biggest proportion of the challenges we face can be overcome and often even sidestepped if we take positive and decisive action. Logical action is only possible the moment we fully understand what we are faced. Most problems lose their potency when we expose them to scrutiny. The more quality information we have the easier it becomes to take decisive action.

 

Rene

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Posted by on April 30, 2016 in WISDOM

 

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Tom’s upcoming book, Primal Man Primal Woman.

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Tom’s upcoming book, Primal Man Primal Woman (sure to be a best seller) is the subject of this interview about men and women at their most fundamental core.

 

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Using his unique understanding and experience to see behind the curtain of cultural belief, Tom gets to the core (there’s that apple again) of how we interact with the opposite gender, and answers what steps can be taken for an optimal loving relationship that is in accordance with his theory.

Tom Campbell’s My Big TOE must by definition (a big theory of everything) have an answer for how relationships can work optimally by shifting from need-based to love-based.

Women generally like Tom’s advice for the men, but they will also have some serious growing to do as well.

Evita Ochel of Evolving Beings has said the concept Tom proposes is “revolutionary”.

It is, and yet it is simple. He has observed and researched and tested it out, and have others, and “it works”.

And since Tom always goes beyond this reality in his interviews, he answers questions about relationships in other realities and more.

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First glance: New book, Primal Man Primal Woman – My Big TOE

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Students often ask me how they will be able to identify if they are in a state of RESISTANCE. The answer is simple and it is easy to detect when you are busy sabotaging yourself. How we feel at any given moment is a solid indicator where we are emotionally at that given moment in time. A feeling of unhappiness, frustration, doubt, fear and anxiety is all symptoms that we are right in the middle of a RESISTANCE storm. A feeling of boredom or dissatisfaction is also a solid indicator that we are in a state of RESISTANCE. Some of us have a feeling of guilt, but find it difficult to figure out why we are feeling so shitty and guilty. A feeling that we would rather stay in bed might be an indication that you have some kind of bug, but usually comes from a source where you are RESISTING something or someone. We often have no idea why we feel the way we do, but still come up with very creative excuses or blame our partner, friends, God or someone at work. Some attempt to drink, party or fuck their way out of the maze of RESISTANCE. Many of our addictions and obsessions come from the state of RESISTANCE. The consulting rooms of doctors and psychologists are full of victims or RESISTANCE. RESISTANCE can make you physically or mentally sick. RESISTANCE often turn into insomnia or anxiety attacks. Another symptom of RESISTANCE is a craving to shop and buy things. We often buy things we don’t need in an attempt to stop the craving deep inside us that eat away on our hearts, soul, dignity and financial capabilities.

 

You will notice that the consumer culture use our feelings of unhappiness and our desire for instant gratification to raid our wallets and credit cards. Look around you today and see if you can identify the many ways that we are exploited by the commercial world with promises that they will make us feel happy, satisfied, healed, more acceptable, slimmer, stronger, sexier etc. You will discover that the biggest percentage of sellers parasite on our basic habit of RESISTING our current moment. I will continue with this series tomorrow.

 

Rene

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Transmedium | Meta-Graffiti Artist | Reality Hacker | Artisanal Legend Crafter | Feral Scholar | Collarless Dog | Slipstream Kayaker | Gamecaller |The Liminal Kid | Guerilla Ethnomethodologist | Mytho-Poetic Bricoleur | Labyrinthos Mythologicus Architect | Transgressive Storyteller

My Story of Organized Stalking, Corruption and Domestic Terrorism

Over a decade of gang stalking in colossal proportion.

dianetot's Blog

its all about life,love,passion,desires,truth

BEYOND

Parapsychology is what's beyond the humans and metaphysics is what's beyond nature, and both define the same thing... God.

Michelduchaine

Défenseur de la Terre/Defender of the Earth

Hathor Rabiah

A new name. A new city. A new life.

Opening Duirs

SOCIAL ENGINEERING AND PROGRAMMING

Cracked

The Chocolately, Nutty, Interior of my life and Psychology

Celestial Elf, a2ndLook~

Perceptions 0f Reflections ((a backup blog for http://celestialelfdanceoflife.blogspot.com/))...

Cindi Gale

To every thing there is a season ~

The Sting Of The Scorpion Blog (T.S.O.T.S.B.)

.......................Because Everything Else Just Bites!

Poetry Inspector

Favorites from around the Web

Los Sentidos De La Vida

Un Blog de Cine, Musica, Vinos... En 75 palabras aprox.

My Time is Now

Dancing With The Elderly- A Hollywood Actress's Day Job

let the free birds fly

surviving creating instigating

Qubethink

Permutate

AshiAkira's Blog

Just another WordPress.com site

Delilah

Yes I cut Samson's hair, he was an asshole.

diary of a single mom in the south

my life, my love, my story

My Hong Kong Husband

Third culture wife: Polish girl married to a Hongkonger, fresh off the airplane in Ireland. AMWF, lifestyle, culture, food, Asian fashion and a little bit of Cantonese

Loving Without Boundaries

A Modern Girl’s Life Practicing Polyamory / Ethical Non-monogamy

Gorgeous

Ramblings from a disturbed mind ©2013 Cho Wan Yau

Middle-Aged Martial Arts Mom

Loving a crippling compulsion....

lovinchelle

LIVING LIFE AND TAKING PICS ALONG THE WAY.

Just me being curious

A blog of questions and few answers.

I Dont Want To Talk About It

The Ultimate Paradox: Depression in Sobriety

Shepherd Mulwanda

ICT Research Training and Consultancy,Agriculture & the Youths

Don Charisma

because anything is possible with Charisma

White Shadows

Story of a white pearl that turned to ashes while waiting for a pheonix to be born inside her !

GIFT FROM THE HEART - Share and Care!

Appreciation, Respect and Gratitude towards all...... that there is!

dancingwithanother

Trying to make sense of turmoil

Dince's Chronicles

My Personal Blog

Awareness It Self

Quotes for spiritual enjoyment

dliwcanis

Esoterically Eccentric

Doug Does Life

A Creative Monkey On How To Find Your Path In Life.

Never Quite Broken

What you did not build up, you cannot tear down.

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