Flirting is an important behavior that is both complex and fundamental. Everyone in the world, at some point in their lives will need to acquaint themselves with the art of flirtation if they want to experience the pleasures of the opposite sex. While there are mountains of advice to guide men on how to flirt effectively, that’s only half the story.
Men must also be able to recognize the signs she’s flirting. While any one of these visual cues taken alone often won’t constitute a green light, a combination of multiple flirtatious cues should pique your interest.
So, we’ve decided to lay down some distinct signs she’s flirting with you, so you can recognize the bait she’s laid for your affections. Women can sometimes be hard to read, but if you’re armed with a guide to signs she’s flirting, then you’re already one step ahead.
When a woman has an interest in you, her smile can hold your attention from across a crowded room and it is definitely one of the major signs she’s flirting. It takes an effort on her part to do so, so if she’s exerting this kind of effort, engage in her flirting by returning the smile.
She keeps walking by
If it seems like she continues to walk by with apparently no sense of why she’s there, she’s there for you. She’s trying to get you to notice her with this obvious sign she’s flirting, and you need to say something endearing. By walking past repeatedly, perhaps out of her way, she’s giving you a sense that she wants your attention, but she’s making you work for it.
She draws attention to her mouth
A woman’s mouth can be extremely seductive, and she’s fully aware of this fact. Some of the effective signs she’s flirting will have her applying lip gloss, running her finger across her lip or using the straw in her cocktail instead of just sipping from the glass. There is a tremendous amount of flirtatious energy tied up in a woman’s lips. Lips are flirting tools that are both potent and effective.
She isolates herself
If, after having made eye contact, she strays from her pack, then she’s trying to flirt with you. Women know that the most difficult defense for a man to penetrate is her wall of friends and well-wishers. If she’s specifically removing herself from that fortress then this is one of the sure signs she’s flirting and letting you know she’s lowering her defensive barriers to let you in.
She mimics your body movements
For some reason, when human beings are interested or infatuated with each other, they begin to pick up certain traits from the other person. If she’s mimicking your mannerisms — the way you hold a drink or the way you’re sitting — she may very well be interested in gaining your attention and is giving you solid signs she’s flirting. Imitation is a rather high form of flattery, after all.
There are a few more signs she’s flirting you need to watch out for…
She plays with her hair
While relatively simple and commonplace, in the right hands a woman’s hair is a versatile weapon. When trying to get your attention, she may twirl her hair in her fingers or let it cascade in front of one eye, adding a sense of come-hither mystery to her persona.
She touches you
The slight touch that sends chills up both your spines and makes your hair stand on end is one of the hallmark signs she’s flirting. When she reaches out and lightly touches your forearm or shoulder, hand or wrist, you know you have a live one. You need to reciprocate because there are few clearer signs she can provide.
She makes eye contact
It has been said that the eyes are the windows to the soul, and that through the eyes truth can be gleamed. Eye contact is a sign of confidence and trust. She’s stating that she is not interested in games and that her intentions are straightforward. The duration of the eye contact is proportional to her level of initial interest.
She enters your personal space
Personal space, by definition, is where others are not. When a woman enters this space, say, brushing past you with a glance and a smile, she’s inviting a response with this sure sign she’s flirting. The caliber and character of her invasion will give you cues as to how you should respond.
She approaches you to talk
Her approach may be closely tied to No. 2, but this cue takes it a step further. Cutting through any game she may be playing, her approach and specific engagement by speaking is playing her strongest flirting card. It allows her, while speaking to you, to maintain eye contact, play with her hair, lightly touch you, and mimic your mannerisms among other flirting techniques. If she’s come over to talk to you, she wants to know what you’re all about. It’s the first step in an interview process called dating.
By James Griffin, Relationship Correspondent | askmen.com