TRUE COURAGE IS TO DO WITHOUT WITNESSES EVERYTHING THAT ONE IS CAPABLE OF DOING BEFORE THE ENTIRE WORLD!
I have had many friends that found it impossible to stop being the doctor, professor or managing director when they arrive home or came for a visit. The same “management tools” that they used at their offices they continued to use at home and in their private lives. They found it impossible to adjust roles when they arrived home or mixed with friends and family.
They expected their families to “consult” with them. They expected their family or friends to continuously “earn” their love. They never really dropped their pose. I got the feeling that they were afraid that they might not be accepted, respected and loved without their title. They become the piece of paper (certificate) that decorates their wall or the position they held in their offices. Without their title or money they felt invisible and powerless. I can still remember a person that held a virtual celebrity status in the community and how he fell apart when he lost his job and title as “Metropolitan Chief Security Officer”. He deflated like a beach ball that sprung a major leak. His “Mr. Big image disappeared overnight. He changed from a leader to a stuttering insecure follower. He lost his imposing and dominating figure and even looked smaller with his bowed shoulders. It was pathetic to see this person fade away when he lost his uniform and title.
It takes real courage to just be you on all occasions. The best doctors do not float around in a God like manner. They are usually warm, kind, empathetic and compassionate people. They are effective and highly professional and only wear masks when they operate. Don’t get me wrong. I do not say that a person that is just himself goes around with a frozen smile on his face all the time. He is also not in a good mood all the time. He is simply a “What you see is what you get.” kind of person.
I WILL BE THE BEST ME AT ANY GIVEN MOMENT IN TIME.
I WILL NOT “ROLE PLAY” FOR ANYBODY. PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER ME AS A “WHAT YOU SEE IS WHAT YOU GET” PERSON
People play very complicated games with each other. Man is the most devious of all creations. They can change shape, loyalty, form and colour like chameleons. They have a mask for most occasions. Most people position themselves so they can get the best deal for themselves possible from every encounter. A fool convinces himself that friends, family and even strangers have their best interest at heart.
Life is not a popularity contest. When you start living your life without fear of rejection or loss you gain real power. When you can be you, wherever you go you have reached full maturity. When you meet a person that can be honest without a police officer looking over his shoulder, you have met a person of integrity. When you have a worker that can give you an honest days work without constant supervision you have met a person with integrity. It is easy to say and do the right things when you are in the public eye, but to sustain deliberate and honest action when you are out of the spotlight shows real character. Just be you. If someone does not like who you are it is his or her problem. You can only live a stress free life if you love your fear of failure.
Courage is reckoned the greatest of all virtues, because, useless a man that has not this virtue, he has no security for preserving any other
Dr. Samuel Johnson
There is a perception with many people that courage needs to be accompanied by loud and visible tokens of bravery. There are those that can be classified as adrenalin junkies that jump off tall buildings to display their courage.
If I must single out one virtue that is vital for ongoing success I will select “courage” every time. Courage can be compared to the iron structure that support skyscrapers. Courage is the spice that gives food a wonderful and palatable taste. Courage is a chemical process that makes ordinary people do extraordinary things. When you blend courage with logical and constructive thinking you have a sure formula for success.
The invisible support structure that supports your hopes and dreams must be courage or they will never become a reality. When you take a careful look at your own life and feel that things are just not working out for you, you need to take a careful look at your courage levels. If you fade under pressure you will never achieve anything of value. When you hide when you need to step forward opportunity will always pass you by.
When others run for the hills in fear you need to steadfastly continue to believe in your dreams and goals. Most of the biggest achievements in history only came about because someone stood firm and persisted in the face of great adversity and danger. Courage is a vitamin for the soul while fear works like a poison and causes paralysis of the will.
Do not mix with fear filled people that can only see the potential risks in any endeavour. Their negative attitude will contaminate you and make you a sniveling member of their little band of failures. When others look for reasons why a project will fail the courageous players look for reasons why it will work. Champions also experience fear and feel the urge to run for cover, but they don’t. They confront their fears and anxieties and do what need to be done. They do not falter notwithstanding the anxiety and fear that they feel wants to swamp their fortitude and composure.
WALK TALL AND STAND FIRM IN THE FACE OF DANGER AND ADVERSITY
Courage will enhance the quality of your life. Courage will support you during the biggest storms in our life. Do not confuse courage with aggression and conflict. There is no need to fight a lion with your bare hands. This will not be an act of bravery, but an act of serious stupidity. When you are faced with difficult choices, the first impulse is usually to try and avoid making such decision.
Many of us think that abstaining from making difficult choices will make the problem go away. The contrary is usually true. When you avoid making hard choices you also made a choice, a choice to do nothing. The moment you fail to make such choices, you lose control. You do not need to fight a lion with your bare hands to prove your level of courage. A simple decisive choice often shows your real level of courage. The act of resisting the urge to get involved in things that might be unlawful or immoral is a deed of courage.
I am sure you can see that the golden thread that runs through all achievements is always courage. The pillar that supports your dreams and goals is courage. The fuel that drives the champions is courage.
Never forget that very courageous people also feel fear, doubt and anxiety, but they still do what needs to be done!