Parents teach your children that it is their attitude that decides their fate and future.

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Explain to your children that it is imperative to learn how to let go of the past. Many of us spend too much time on what could or should have been. We go around with a long face or a broken heart because things failed to pan out as expected. Living in the past prevents us from enjoying our current moments. Is it not that the most horrific storms always finally pass? Raging rivers gradually calm down and again become tranquil havens for the insects, birds and other wild life that live on their banks. Everything in life is impermanent. It is futile to drift around for days or weeks speculating what could or should have been. What happened in the past no longer have any power of its own. It is just data in our memory that need to be re-activated before it can force us to re-live what transpired. It is our thoughts that trigger these often unwelcome and sometimes unfair experiences. You cannot repair the past. You can just speculate what could or should have been. You can also just speculate what might transpire at some future date. Explain to your child that you cannot cross a bridge while you continue to keep your one foot firmly anchored on the one side. You also cannot get an egg back into its shell once broken. There is a saying that it is futile to cry over spilled milk. It is thus important to embrace each and every moment.                                     

Teach your children that you can make a fresh start after the biggest disaster. We cannot allow any historical mistake to define who we are. The old must often make way for the new. Not even the best players in sport can boast with a perfect record. It often takes a huge number of mistakes and failures before someone is crowned as champion. Putting things behind you will enhance your life and amplify your self-esteem. It often takes the courage of a lion to walk away from a disaster or failed venture. Parents – use examples how nature is often forced to make a fresh start. A volcano can blow a mountain apart leaving the area devastated, like the surface of mars. Go back a few years later and you will notice how nature is gradually rebuilding the surroundings to its previous splendour.                                         

PARENTS

 Parents teach your children that it is their attitude that decides their fate and future. Lead by example and show your child that there is nothing that can force you to throw in the towel. Moping around the house because something failed to turn out as you expected will not be a good example you set for your children. You cannot just talk a good game. You must remember that your children view you as a role model and will long after you are gone still duplicate what they learned from you. Tell your child that they can make a fresh start notwithstanding yesterday’s disasters. Making a fresh start is one single decision away. A decision acted on ensures growth and future happiness. There is nothing that your child cannot overcome with the right attitude and lots of love and support from you. Stop reminding your child of their failures. Tell your child that there are endless historical examples of legends that failed their way to success.                          

Rene

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