We live in a “button” pushing society today. We all have a natural tendency to push back when we feel someone activated one of our “buttons”. We allow people to trigger, anger, anxiety, fear of loss, discomfort in us daily with what they say, do or fail to say and do. The only way that you can get the habitual button pushers out of your life is to stop reacting and responding on their triggers.
The fact of the matter is that people will continue pushing your buttons and they will continue to control you and your emotions while you respond to their silly games. I would suggest that you take a few days and observe how you act and react automatically when your partner, friends or even strangers say or do something that automatically trigger a negative emotional responds in you. Do not judge yourself or the button pushers. Simply become an observer and see if you can identify who and what tend to bring out negative and destructive reaction patterns.
Learn to stop reacting and responding when you notice that you have been triggered. Mentally simply detach and say and do nothing. There is a misconception that you need to feel something or do something when triggered. This is a false perception. The “button pushers” in your life conditioned you to react and respond in a specific manner to enhance their control. Watch their faces and listen to their tone of voice when you stop reacting the way you have been trained. You will be surprised how quickly they will either try harder to regain their control or stop this destructive habit.
The simple art of detachment can change your life. When you learn to let go you bring a brand new dimension into your life. Lear to detach and let go when anyone, yes even someone in the traffic or you child with his or her attitude of entitlement push your buttons. You will be happier, healthier and will most probably live longer as well.