Checklist for Psychological Maturity.

30 Dec


In this newsletter you can read about:
1) Year’s End Checklist for Psychological Maturity (by Barbara Berger)
2) Free e-book for you! The Mental Laws – by Barbara Berger
3) News from the Far East: The Road to Power is still going strong in Japan!

Year’s End Checklist for Psychological Maturity
by Barbara Berger

Dear friends,

Here at Year’s End, it can be fun (and revealing) to ask ourselves – how are we doing when it comes to being psychologically mature people? To answer this question, we have to define what we mean by being psychologically mature. This is a question I’ve thought about it a lot – both on my own personal inner journey of awakening and because I work as a therapist/coach on a daily basis, helping people with their issues.

Here are some of the things I’ve discovered that characterize people as they become more mature psychologically.

First of all, we begin to realize that so many of us are not very psychologically mature, but rather we’re like four-year-old kids running around in adult bodies. This is not an accusation or a criticism, but rather just an observation. The causes of our childish behavior are many and stem from the programming and faulty belief systems we learn in our childhood. As a result, many of us don’t have a realistic assessment of life and instead we have unrealistic expectations to life and other people, which are very difficult or almost impossible to satisfy. This can leave us confused and make us perceive life as being difficult. The result can be dissatisfaction, frustration and even a great deal of unhappiness.

As we begin to clear up the flawed premises that have been running our lives and adopt a more realistic view of life and reality, we become more psychologically mature. Then, as a result, we begin to notice and feel that life is no longer such a struggle. In other words, life feels easier and actually becomes easier. We find that life is a much more interesting adventure (regardless of outer circumstances and what’s going on). So we experience more happiness.

People with a more realistic assessment of the human condition, have some or all of the following traits:

They understand that life is challenging (for everyone)
They realize that no one (including them) is perfect
They understand that making so-called “mistakes” is part of the human condition and in fact the way we learn
They understand that things aren’t so black and white – they have a more nuanced view of situations and people
They don’t generalize
They don’t catastrophize
They are no longer such drama queens
They have a more easy-going attitude towards life and its challenges
They stop basing their decisions and actions on assumptions but are able to do reality testing first
They don’t go to such extremes but prefer the middle way
They are not so judgmental because they realize that they can’t possibly know what’s best for other people
They’re better at minding their own business
They don’t blame other people for their problems
They take responsibility for themselves and what’s going on in their lives
They have the ability to look at themselves and other people more realistically and assess their own strengths and weaknesses and the strengths and weaknesses of other people more realistically
They can say “I don’t know” or “I’m sorry” without losing face
They have a healthy sense of self-esteem
They are grateful for all the good in their lives
They are moderately comfortable in their lives and in the world
They are pretty happy most of the time

So how are you doing when it comes to being psychologically mature? 

Free e-book for you!
Understanding the Way the Mind Works
by Barbara Berger

Do you understand the amazing – AMAZING – power of your mind? And do you know how to use it wisely? Do you understand that you can change your experience by changing the way you use your mind? Well if you’d like a quick refresher course / reminder of the amazing power of your mind and how to use it more wisely, you can read a summary of how your mind works in Barbara’s new e-book entitled “The Mental Laws – Understanding the Power of Your Mind” which we are giving away for free at the moment.

To get your own free e-book, just send an email to and write “The Mental Laws” in the subject line and we’ll send you your e-book within 24 hours. You can read the e-book on your computer, tablet, smartphone, Kindle and various e-book readers.

“The Mental Laws” grew out of readers’ questions to Barbara as to why the simple focus techniques in her book “The Road to Power – Fast Food for the Soul” are so effective.

And speaking of “The Road to Power” here’s some …

Good news from the Far East: The Road to Power is still going strong in Japan!

“The Road to Power – Fast Food for the Soul” has now been translated into more than 30 languages, which makes it Barbara’s bestselling book to date. One of the countries where the book continues to be very popular is Japan. In fact, the book is so popular that Barbara’s Japanese publisher Mikasa Shobo has just re-issued the book as a handy “Bunkohon” edition (a new, smaller edition of the original book). Check out the beautiful Japanese artwork!


Thank you for 2016! Looking forward to continued growth and awakening in 2017!

Tim and Barbara

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