Humility is a powerful attribute to the wise. There is a defective perception that arrogance is a prerequisite for those that want to achieve success. A careful blend of humility and assertiveness will open the door to success. People are drawn to humane and fair behavior while they are repelled and repulsed by arrogance. The wise man mastered the art of getting people to do things because they want to and not have to do them.
I am sure that you know that the combination of certain chemicals can be lethal. When you combine certain chemicals, you can create a bomb that could cause serious damage. When you add your own, emotional responses to what someone else said you mix two very powerful and potentially explosive chemicals together. If you refrain from adding your own chemicals (emotional responses), no explosion is possible. You can only do this if you are strong and confident enough not to allow someone else to play you like a cheap piano. You may feel that this is not possible and that we have been wired to automatically react when we come under attack. We may have been “wired” to automatically respond when we feel threatened, but these circuits have been put in place when our ancestors still lived in caves.
I have seen thousands of people that are highly competent in what they do, but because of their inability to contemplate the influence they have on others they never achieve close to their real potential. Your ability to exert influence can be compared to an invisible field that envelops you. This force field can be charged in a negative or positive manner. It can make you or break you. You will pull in ongoing negative experiences while you go around with a negatively charged force field.
I would suggest that you start living your life in bite size chunks. Do not only set yourself long-term goals. The key to success is to set minor goals as well. When you set minor goals, you remain focused and enthusiastic. You must allow yourself the luxury of enjoying your minor successes as well. When you climb the mountain of life, the summit might seem a lifetime away, but when you focus on the small steps that you need to take, the task suddenly loses its enormity. You must never be so busy focusing on the summit that you fail to see the beauty around you.
If a man is good at what he does, everybody wants him to be his or her leader. Good workmanship is often far removed from real leadership. Promoting a good worker is sometimes the worst thing you can do. If you are doing well right now, why take on something that might not suit your style or level of competence?
If you are a pompous judgmental faultfinder, you will repel others and isolate yourself. The wise man makes it easy for others to be with him.
When you are forced to fight, fight to win. If you achieve victory by fighting dirty or by using lies and deceit you are not a winner or champion, but fraudster and coward.