Are you aware that you have thousands of dormant, but highly explosive reaction patterns that lurk in your mind? Every word that you ever read – heard or expressed carry with it a packages of reaction patterns. These words remain dormant until triggered. Less evolved and immature individuals tend to “spontaneously” react words, especially those that contain toxic memories. A single word can for example trigger a whole range of painful memories that in turn trigger a range of negative and destructive actions and reactions. Our reactions when one of our “hot buttons” is pushed can fluctuate between sadness and rage. Many that read this document or listen to one of my lectures on this subject find it astounding that we have such a massive volume of hibernating toxic capsules floating around somewhere in our heads. These capsules wake up instantaneously when triggered and could turn our world upside down. You will also notice that you sometimes show or experience no negative reactions on specific words that some years ago turned you into a raging bull.
The reason for this lack of destructive reactions notwithstanding your historical bad memories can be ascribed to various factors. The first important reason can be because you forgave the individual that were originally responsible for the pain or anxiety that you experienced. The other reason can be that you decided to stop RESISTING the person or event and simply ignore the triggers that historically animated you and turned you into an out of control revenge seeker. Your act of pardoning the original culprit defused the toxicity that lurked in the bellies of any of the destructive memory capsules that you associated with this event. Let me give you an example. Your lover or wife ran away with the TV repair man. You were initially filled with rage and pain. You finally came to terms with what transpired and forgave this person. That would have been noble of you to act in this saintly manner and would have released the toxic charge that you associated with anyone with the same name or anything that reminded you of what transpired. Your act of forgiveness set you free.
The other reason why you no longer experience discomfort can be because your wife or lover soon also left this man and now live with a guy in the Mediterranean that make cheap shoes from recycled motor vehicle tires that they sell to tourists on the beach. The bottom line is that you stopped RESISTING the toxicity released historically when this memory was triggered. The key to control and peace of mind is the art of DETACHMENT. It is a sure sign of maturity when you reach a point where you stop spontaneously jumping to conclusions or when you spontaneously do the first thing that comes to mind when triggered. It is impossible to hope that all the “hot buttons” lurking in your head will have such a happy ending. Most of these memories have been with you for many, many years. It will be silly to attempt to find a guru that can defuse all the sensitive word capsules that could trigger painful reactions in you. The solution is to STOP RESISTING anything that happened in the past that caused you discomfort. You need to learn how to manage your automatic reaction patterns and triggers. It is actually a simple process.
You must STOP the spontaneous nonsense that you practice every time someone or something hit a hot button. See the flood of negative emotions that begin to flood your mind as an early alarm system. Then relax and become an observer that for a moment STUDY the data before you let it go. STOP RESISTING the flow of emotions. Let them flow around you like water. You will be astounded when you notice that no pain or discomfort appear when you refrain from playing the silly role that you always played when triggered historically.
I suggest you test this method today. See if you can cope without RESISTING and FIGHTING the toxic images and feelings that mystically appear every time they are triggered. OBSERVE the images and feelings for a few moments and then just let it go. Nothing can be achieved while you repeat the same old painful cycles in your head. You are the power source of these destructive capsules that trigger periodically. You will discover that nothing happened and nothing was said until you act or react. Please re-read this document and read in the word “THOUGHT(S)” where I used WORD(S). The alarming aspect of the embedded “toxic hot buttons” described is that a simple THOUGHT or IMAGE can “trigger” these devastating mind viruses that always generate huge RESISTANCE in all your day-to-cay activities. I will continue this series tomorrow.