Do something constructive about things that you have control over.

20 Jun





You may ask, “What must I do when I am confronted with severe adversity and problems that seem insurmountable? What must I do when I tried my level best and I still failed miserably? We are often faced with circumstances that we have had very little control over. The biggest mistake that you can ever make is to immediately jump to the conclusion that you are punished by God because of something that you did somewhere in the past. It is also not that shady character Satan that is targeting you in an attempt to test if you are ready to join his team.

We are convinced from early childhood that we are usually responsible for the setbacks and failures that cross our path. I have interviewed women that have been brutally raped on their way from work that feel that it is some kind of sick test from God to see if they are still “heaven” material. You might feel that it is impossible that people in this day and age still think that way, but many do.

You will only learn to manage failure and setbacks if you accept that life is simply a process of cause and effect. There is no mystical force at work my friend. The key to problem and failure management is fairly simple. What happened to you might be real and very painful, but how you respond to such failure will decide the outcome of such setback.

I know it is difficult when your pain and disappointment is real to understand that you still hold the key to your recovery. You almost always have a choice. You can fall apart and play the role of a victim to perfection or you can decide that you are not going to allow this painful failure or problem to get you down permanently.

Please note that I do not claim that it will be easy, but want you to understand that you hold the key to recovery in your hands. You will shorten your recovery time tremendously if you can muster up the courage to get up when knocked down and come out fighting.



Sit down right now and make a list of all your problems, setbacks and failures that you feel is preventing you from being the success you know you can be. Make sure that your list is as comprehensive as possible.

Once you have your list, I want you to do the following. I want you to go through your list and see if you can identify the things that you feel is totally out of your control and that you can do very little about in the foreseeable future. Mark them with a ® in front of them. The ® is used to remind you of reality thinking. If you know that you will not be able to raise the million Rand you need to save your business, mark this problem with an ® and immediately stop bullshitting yourself that a fairy might drop in during the night and leave a cool million Rand next to your bed. The sooner you accept the inevitable that the problems and setbacks marked with ® is currently “unsolvable” the quicker you will come to term with the potential consequences. Rather face reality and focus on things that you can do something about than unrealistically clinging to fantasies.

Once you have illuminated the factual reality stuff you can begin to do something constructive about the rest of the items on your list. There is no purpose or logic in living in a fantasy zone. Once you have accepted the worst that can happen and you get busy with things that you can do something about your life will take on a new meaning. You can cry and feel sorry for yourselves all you like. You can continue to speculate what you or someone else could or should have done deep into the night, but when you wake up tired and depleted the next morning reality will still be there staring you in the face. When you accept, the inevitable it will bring closure to incomplete cycles and usually activate a wonderful feeling or relief in your heart and soul. Learn to face reality so you can spend more time doing something constructive about things that you have control over.



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