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Top Five Regrets

Bronnie Ware

 

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.

People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learned never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

 

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:


1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me

 

This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard

 

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings

 

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
Tell people how you feel about them, whether you love them, disagree with them or want to help them.

 

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends

 
Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

 

 

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

 

When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

 

Life is a choice.

It is YOUR life.

 

Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly.

 

Thank you for this input Annalise!

 

http://www.sexcigarsbooze.com/2010/09/top-five-regrets-of-the-dying/

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Posted by on February 18, 2017 in WISDOM

 

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Cool technique you can use in the morning, to infuse a little magic into your day…

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Here’s a really cool technique you can use in the morning, to infuse a little magic into your day…

This technique uses the power of the Sun as a type of energetic- amplifier for the body and mind.

No, you don’t need to believe that you are actually drawing energy from the Sun for this to work.

In fact, the Sun you think you are seeing in the sky such a long distance away, isn’t actually “out there.”

So your mental focus on the Sun is enough to get a physical reaction from your brain, chemically.

Your mental and psychological associations to the Sun are all you need to make this work.

First thing in the morning, just as the Sun is rising, is the most effective time to do the following…

1. As you are waking up, move to a window where you can see the Sun rising, or if you cannot see it, imagine you are in front of a window watching the majestic Sun illuminate the Earth.

Mind Hack Recipe Book2. As the Sun continues to rise, breathe naturally and begin to notice the warmth of the Sun on your face and skin. As you begin to feel the warmth, breathe in the warming, radiating, invigorating energy.

3. Infuse imagination with tactile awareness. As you are imagining breathing in the Sun’s powerful energy on every inhale, it grows stronger and radiates through the entire body on every exhale. Bask within this cycle and every cell of your being imbued with increasing warmth, charge and power.

4. When you feel you are “full” of this energizing force, hold your breath for just a few moments while feeling the radiant Sun’s energy glowing inside…

5. Then let go and exhale while allowing the sunlight within to expand outward in all directions, with the intention of creating a miracle today… something unexpected, yet appreciated. Something amazing. Don’t limit the manifestation; let it be free.

Your higher intelligence knows exactly what to “do” with this new radiant energy.

Your only job is to do the technique, feel the effects, intend for a miracle utilizing this powerful Solar energy, and then completely LET GO.

Then, just go about your day as usual.

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By Jason Mangrum,
Creator of
Mind Hack Recipe Books

 
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223 YOUR PORTABLE WISDOM GUIDE – Too ridged rules/discipline invite mass frustration/ and rebellion.

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223. Inflexibility and intolerance in relationships cause resentment. Too ridged rules and discipline in companies invite mass frustration and rebellion. When you become too lenient, you promote sloppiness and when you ruthlessly enforce rules and regulations, you invite conflict and deviousness. There is a time to relax and be lenient and there is a time to be strong and ruthless. Wisdom is to know when to show empathy and when to act in a strong and assertive manner.

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Posted by on February 17, 2017 in WISDOM

 

Jim Carrey’s Top 10 Rules For Success.

 
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A change of your “Thinking environment” will benefit you greatly.

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Today’s world is fast-paced, challenging, and stressful. It’s understandable that people can lose focus and concentration easily, especially people that have a lot of work to do each day; work that requires a lot of focus. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, and you shouldn’t beat yourself over it.

However, you should do something to try to improve your concentration.

Firstly, you’ll need to get rid of stress because stress is a major issue that plagues almost everyone in the world. You can meditate, work out, do something creative that isn’t constrained by time, or similar activities. But when it comes to concentration and focus, you’ll need to do something else.

Here are the top 7 natural ways to help you increase your focus and concentration!

Have brain-healthy foods

The brain is an amazing organ. It controls every other organ, it’s responsible for our thoughts, and many other things. However, if you don’t give your brain enough energy, it won’t work as efficiently as it should.

Providing your body with brain-healthy foods will have an impact on brain performance. The best foods you can eat are vegetables, berries, cold-water fatty fish, nuts, rosemary, dark chocolate, turmeric, coconut oil… Basically, anything that is completely natural and not artificial will have a positive impact on your brain and improve your concentration and brain efficiency. Also, consider dieting. Create a diet of only brain-healthy foods without sugars and with only a small amount of fat.

Watch other people concentrating

A great way to learn about concentration and how you can improve your own is to visit a movie theater and in the middle of the movie, look around and notice how everyone is concentrated on what’s happening on the screen. Something really big would need to happen to break their concentration. You might notice that they breathe slower and more shallow. Some people may be squeezing their hands. All of these signs are great for you because you will learn how other people concentrate and, most likely, you’ll be able to improve your concentration.

Use your hands as blinkers

This is quite an interesting phenomenon. There’s this thing called the Pavlovian trigger. Pavlov used to ring the bell and then feed the dog. He would repeat this process until the dog associated the bell with food. The way this is useful to you is because, once you teach your body to associate, in this case, using your hands as blinkers with the need to have better concentration, it will work like this for a long time. So, next time you have a test or you need to focus on the task at hand, put your hands to the side of your eyes and create ‘tunnel vision’. This will cause you to have an increase in concentration.

Learn techniques to increase and control your energy

There are specific techniques that you can learn that will enable you to control your energy as well as increase it. One of these techniques is ParamhansaYogananda’s Energization Exercise. Once you learn this, you’ll have the ability to concentrate on a deeper level.

Unplug and chill out

Once you reach a certain point where everything you do is wrong or too difficult, it’s time to chill out and relax. Even though multitasking sounds like a great idea and an ability that is helpful, the truth is very different.

Multitasking lowers your concentration and focus because there are so many things you’re doing at once. It’s important that you give yourself some time to rest and to complete the tasks you have correctly. Focus on only one thing and when you finish it, switch to another one. It’s much more efficient than multitasking.

While meditating watch your breath

When I first started meditating, I made the mistake of trying to control my breath. This is bad because you’re unnecessarily forcing yourself to do something that happens by itself. Simply focus on your breathing but don’t control it in any way; simply observe. As time goes by, you’ll notice your breathing slow down along with the mind. Both your mind and your body will feel recharged and ready to continue working. Remember: Don’t control your breath; let it happen naturally!

MindTrip MagazineSee as if for the first time or the last time

The next time your mind wanders far away from where you are, take a look around you. Notice the small details that you constantly seem to ignore. Look at something that you know is there, but as if you’re looking at it for the first time. Let your mind focus on objects and people around you. This change of ‘environment’ will benefit you greatly, and you’ll be able to focus much more easily in the future.

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By Alice Mackenzie / Nutrition Inspector

 
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Posted by on February 17, 2017 in WISDOM

 

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222 YOUR PORTABLE WISDOM GUIDE – No need to role-play. Be your normal/natural self.

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222. Individuals that learn to live in the “now” and allow other people to do the same find life stimulating and exciting. They exert massive influence over others. People love them because they feel mentally free and unrestricted when they spend time with them. They do not have to role-play, but can just be their normal and natural self. How do you feel when you enter a room or when you are introduced to people and you detect that they are screening you like an x-ray machine at an airport terminal?

Rene

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Posted by on February 16, 2017 in WISDOM

 

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Letting go of the bias bubbles created by being wrapped in the necessities/catering to society/ego.

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I was in the woods, on 5 acres bordering several National forests, Northern Wisconsin was the place.

It was an old, dusty, spider and spider web filled mini-camper, just enough for one person to sleep in with a small cook stove and sleeping bag.

No phone, computer, radio, TV, just a handful of books and quest to reach deep down within myself, to find myself, God, Nature ….whatever may be. I was dropped off and left there, not to see another soul for another 3 weeks.

Day 2

By day 2, the ego/mind was going crazy lacking the constant stimulation from smart phones, TV’s, roommates, work/co-workers, society, etc. Yet I was aware of the “going crazy.” I tempered this with meditation near the camp fire.

The first couple of nights, there was fear in the pitch black night due to the visiting critters, the fact that the camper was used by bats as a shelter as well, and with the unknowing of what can be outside of the camper. I tempered the fear with prayer, observation, meditation.

Day 5

Jesus in the DesertAround day 5, I was settled with stillness, nature, silence, with myself, the mind settling down w/ lack of stimulation, and fear was no more. All I could do is just Be, Flow w/ what is. I fasted during the days, and ate a handful of grains, nuts, or a small fruit at night.

Day 8

Somewhere around day 8-9, things began to make sense. Society seemed artificial. We’ve gone so far from Flow/Being and live in fear, ego, and addiction to stimulation. I was deep within myself, fine with myself. I was in a sense Home, deprogramming from societal ways.

Day 12

Day 12-14, the tree’s began to glow. I hugged the tree’s and acknowledged the Life of nature. Squirrels, wild turkey’s, deer began to come near and check out what this odd human was doing there. As the days past, they would get closer and closer, having less fear of me

Day 16

I found the core me. I was fine no matter what. Can face anything, feared nothing, and understood existence as Being, as Flow, as interconnected to me. Even the books I brought with did not matter to what reality taught me there in nature. The fasting tempered the lusts of the body for sexual release. The idea of sex, porn, lust w/ beautiful sexual women lost meaning and I saw through it, discovering many connections between the body and mind.

Day 18

There are Universes revolving above my head. I’ve had this before, but it really sank in now. The majority of stuff is irrelevant in the big picture. I have closure and detachment in my life and if it’s time to physically die, today is a good day for that. I’m open to whatever Flow & Being has in store for a tiny grain of sand like me. Fear is let go of, and the grand scheme of things runs the show.

Day 21

In Love with this type of existence. I’ve reached a part of myself and existence that I never knew was there, but always had a hunch about. Considering monasteries now or permanently living like this. However it’s time to say goodbye and get back to society, considering I still have some familial and financial obligations to take care of.

Takeaways

A friend picks me up and we go to a pizza joint to eat. Everything seems artificial, commercialized, and corporate/government ran. Still I see the Flow/Being within society, but it’s covered up, manipulated by ego/mind to fit it’s own molds and concepts of how things should be. In retrospect, everything now looks slow, lacking, dirty, superficial. The truth is there, but most don’t see the sublime. Rushing and wrapped in roles, the present moment is entirely missed, instead people have replaced this with; “what might one day be if only I can ____(fill in the blank)!”

This was a set of diary posts from my 21 day solo retreat in the woods. I can only imagine the further changes that would occur if I was to go the full 40 like Jesus did.

All that to say, that there is something to, letting go of the bias bubbles we’ve all created by being wrapped up in the necessities of catering to society and our own ego’s. By tempering that, with going into solitude, into the wild for a set amount of time, that bias bubble pops, and for that set amount of time, you find certain things about yourself, nature, Love, life, existence, that you would not otherwise find, things that remain with you for the rest of your life, things that the majority of people may not be aware of, but are most definitely there.

Food for thought perhaps, or the ramblings of a madman.

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