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“I wish I knew then what I know now.”

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When we look back on the past – whether just yesterday or many years ago, sometimes we think, “I wish I knew then what I know now.” 

To help find peace of mind in the present, try working with that wish in your journaling practice. Go back to that previous time for a dialog with your younger self. Say all the things you wish you had heard at the time. The process is likely to turn up greater understanding than you expected, with insights into your present life as well as healthy perspectives on past events.

In your journal, write a letter to your past self, following these steps.

1. Take several minutes to make a mental picture of a time in your past that was stressful. Why was this period so challenging for you and exactly how did you feel? What kind of support would have helped you cope better? Are there mistakes you wish you could go back and redo? Are there decisions you made at the time that you still stand by?

2. Then spend a couple minutes making a mental list of what you have learned since that difficult time. If you could sit with your younger self and share an important piece of advice, what would it be?

3. On a fresh page in your journal, start a letter to yourself. Include as many details as you can remember of your life at that time. Be as empathetic as you can be towards your former self: be respectful of the feelings you had and understanding of the decisions you made.

4. Then give some advice to your younger self. What can your present self offer that might have helped you at that time? Say whatever you think would have been a wake-up call for you then. Be gentle, blunt, or funny; be kind but firm.

5. Before putting your pen down, be sure your letter includes a statement of love and forgiveness for your earlier self. Be sincere and generous, and reassure your past persona that you will be okay. After all, you survived and made it to today!

When you’re done writing, consider for a moment whether the advice you just shared might be relevant to any current issues in your life. What do you think your future self would say to you now?

 

 

By: Mari McCarthy

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Posted by on July 8, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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Disappointment and guilt will follow you around like a stray dog.

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I am going to share with you something that very few authors shared with their readers before. Many of the so-called gurus and world renown speakers that wrote a lot more books than me fail to share the ultimate tool with their readers and audiences. It can be ignorance or a lack of insight that cause this oversight or it can even be that they want their readers and audiences to remain reliant on them because it is good for business.

Look at the graph of the inner and outer or perfect self before you continue reading my prescription. You will notice that you have the perfect self at your core that is in turn layered by you false (impostor) self. You were pure perfect self at birth. Look at the characteristics that you were programmed with. Now look at the outer layer that envelope your perfect self and study the various characteristics depicted in this layer. You are an extension of God on your arrival, but get exposed to those that either out of habit or fear feels that you need to be domesticated so you can one day like them fit into society.

 You are conditioned by these enthusiastic programmers with a pain and pleasure method. When you acted as prescribed you were praised and when you fell short of their requirements you were punished physically or mentally. You gradually concluded that you are this defective false self that daily fall short of the hundred and one rules and regulations that they hammered into you. It did not take them long to get you to forget who you are and where you came from. Try as you may you continuously fell short of the requirements.

Read the characteristics again and you will see with what flawed perceptions you were left to take on the world. It is impossible for you to improve the false self or the impostor.  The impostor cannot become the perfect self. You can read your holy books and pray until you wear out your knees my friend. You can go to the so-called gurus that claim that they can miraculously transform the soiled and defective false self daily. You might for relative short periods experience an improvement, but will discover that the old false self program will kick in the moment you stop fighting and praying.

I am going to state this again. You cannot transform or modify the false self. The false self is not alive like the true self and connected to God. The false self (your ego) is like a virus that infiltrated your computer. It cannot perform at the level of the perfect self. All it does is to disrupt all your good intentions with its poison when triggered. The solution is thus not to try and improve your false self or the false self of anybody else. You are attempting the impossible if you sustain this fallacy. Disappointment and guilt will follow you around like a stray dog for as long as you live.

You also do not need a savoir my friend. Your real self is already an extension of God and the false self with its pathetic history is nothing more than defective software. Your biggest day since your birth is the day that you grasp what I am sharing with you here. The day you grasp this extremely important lesson is the day that you wake up to your full potential. You are not the perceptions that you formed about yourself. Who you currently think depict who you are is nothing more than a historical data file in your head. You can never remedy this cluster of thoughts or repair your historical mistakes. It is futile to try and heal this warped perception that dominated who you think you are since early childhood.

Most gurus, motivational speakers and authors use and abuse you. This guilt drenched warped image cannot adjusted to match the perfect and effective spiritual being that they use as bait. This cluster of historical perceptions is nothing more than your ego based self. You are here at earth school to evolve and learn. You are not the depicted sinner that usually does the best you can with what you know. My friend stuff will continue to happen to you and you are here to learn how to deal with it. 

 

Rene

 

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Posted by on March 11, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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Ten ways you can master (with minimum effort) a method to make you seem smarter than you are.

 

We all want to seem smart around workmates and acquaintances, but we often don’t have the time to put in to further study to achieve this. Luckily, there are a few ways you can make yourself seem smarter with a minimum of effort. This is a list of the ten best tips for appearing smarter.

 

10. Learn a topic to debunk

 

The majority of “hot topics” are debated by people with very little knowledge of the subject. A good example of this is global warming – the majority of people you speak to on this subject will tell you how we must change our habits to prevent global warming, but few will know what “anthropogenic global warming” is. Spend a little time learning what the real experts on these faddish topics say and you simply can’t go wrong. Try to remember some of the names of authors so you can quote them.

 

9. Improve your Vocabulary

 

The simplest way to do this is to subscribe to a “word a day” emailing list. Remember to ensure that you memorize the correct pronunciation and spelling of the new word or phrase. Perhaps you can start with mesonoxian, or any of the words on the Top 10 Weird English Words.

 

8. Obscure Knowledge

 

By developing knowledge in a very obscure area, you are very unlikely to meet someone else with the same knowledge. This means you can wax lyrical for hours and it doesn’t matter how many mistakes you make – no one will know, and you will seem ultra-smart. You might, for example, spend some time studying the early Egyptian dynasties (or an interesting character like Smenkhkare,) or the writings of early Christian writers. You can be sure that even the most staunch Southern Baptist fundamentalist has never heard of most of the “fathers of the Church”, let alone read anything they wrote. Saint Igantius of Antioch is a good start; you can follow up with Athenagoras, Irenaeus, Origen, Novatian, and Polycarp. Great subject matter for the Atheist who wishes to debate against fundamentalists.

 

7. General Knowledge

 

This can be done very easily. Buy a Trivial Persuit (Genus Edition) and memorize one card before going to bed each night. In no time you will have a fount of general knowledge so immense that no one will dare debate you at Friday night drinks.

 

6. Ask Questions

 

The best way to use this trick is to ask questions when you already know the answer. This is a form of Irony when used in the right way; when the person you are questioning answers, you can ask a related question which will make it appear that you have taken in what they said, absorbed it, and wish to clarify an aspect of the topic. Additionally, when you are discussing a subject with someone who clearly knows less about it than you, you can ask questions that you know will make them stumble. This is particularly good if you have a large audience as everyone will be in awe of you. Make sure you are humble when the person’s weakness shows.

 

5. Learn About Good Books

 

Sparknotes. I repeat, sparknotes. Use the short notes found on this site to get a broad overview of famous classic novels. You only need to learn enough to make it seem that you have read the book. For a decent classic you should be able to do this in 30 minutes or less. And who knows, you may find that you want to read the book and gain some real intelligence.

 

4. Watch Movies

 

Watch some classic movies that are both good and bad. These movies don’t have to be silent movies, black and white, etc. Just good movies, fulfilling movies. Also, watch some bad movies. Someone who can spout off one or two good movies will sound either smart or fake. But someone who can state both good and bad movies, and justify why each is classified that way, will sound intelligent.

 

3. Learn Quotes

 

A great writer once said: “Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone elses opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.” – while this is amusing, it is not entirely correct when trying to appear smarter. People will be utterly in awe of you if you can quote a famous line from poetry, a great play, or a witticism by a literarary master. There are a million sites on the internet that will help you to find quotations. Learn one a day. If you wish to learn a few lines of poetry, I recommend starting with Plath, Ginsberg, or Whitman; everyone knows who they are, but few will be able to quote them. Oh – the quotation I used here is by Oscar Wilde.

 

2. Use Words you Know

 

Nothing makes you looks more like an idiot than fumbling language. Stick to what you know! People will argue that tapes and books can teach you new words, but you still risk a terrible mistake. Learning new words can broaden your thinking and amplify your ability to communicate. However, doing so will open you up to appearing stupid, so you should stick with words you are 100% positive of pronunciation and meaning. Even if it takes you an entire extra sentence to explain a concept that one word would have clarified instantly, it’s totally worth it.

 

1. Be Quiet

 

Quite simply, the less you say, the less you can say wrong. Oh, and smile and nod knowingly.

 

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Posted by on May 23, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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We always find fresh excuses to cover up our inability to rectify the real CAUSES behind the SYMPTOMS that rob us of our HAPPINESS and SUCCESS.

 

 

We make the same MISTAKES and REPEAT the same old RITUALS endlessly. We buy self-help books, attend seminars, listen to gurus, go to church, read the Bible and other holy books, but end up REPEATING the same old poor CHOICES and face the same old PAINFUL outcomes. The main reason why we get stuck in these deadly REPEAT PERFORMANCES can be traced to our laziness, ignorance or often stubbornness to CONFRONT the CORE CAUSES of our problems. We doctor the SYMPTOMS and IGNORE the CAUSES that provide the fuel to the FIRE that burn away our potential to be HAPPY, HEALTHY and SATISFIED. New hope flares up like a brush fire when we read something wise or when we listen to something motivational. This injection of ENTHUSIASM never last long and always fade away again like the mist in the rays of the morning sun. We always find fresh excuses to cover up our inability to rectify the real CAUSES behind the SYMPTOMS that rob us of our HAPPINESS and SUCCESS.

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Posted by on December 20, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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We all want to seem smart around workmates/acquaintances – Ten tips to appear smarter in a relative short period of time.

We all want to seem smart around workmates and acquaintances, but we often don’t have the time to put in to further study to achieve this. Luckily, there are a few ways you can make yourself seem smarter with a minimum of effort. This is a list of the ten best tips for appearing smarter.

 

10. Learn a topic to debunk

 

The majority of “hot topics” are debated by people with very little knowledge of the subject. A good example of this is global warming – the majority of people you speak to on this subject will tell you how we must change our habits to prevent global warming, but few will know what “anthropogenic global warming” is. Spend a little time learning what the real experts on these faddish topics say and you simply can’t go wrong. Try to remember some of the names of authors so you can quote them.

 

9. Improve your Vocabulary

 

The simplest way to do this is to subscribe to a “word a day” emailing list. Remember to ensure that you memorize the correct pronunciation and spelling of the new word or phrase. Perhaps you can start with mesonoxian, or any of the words on the Top 10 Weird English Words.

 

8. Obscure Knowledge

 

By developing knowledge in a very obscure area, you are very unlikely to meet someone else with the same knowledge. This means you can wax lyrical for hours and it doesn’t matter how many mistakes you make – no one will know, and you will seem ultra-smart. You might, for example, spend some time studying the early Egyptian dynasties (or an interesting character like Smenkhkare,) or the writings of early Christian writers. You can be sure that even the most staunch Southern Baptist fundamentalist has never heard of most of the “fathers of the Church”, let alone read anything they wrote. Saint Igantius of Antioch is a good start; you can follow up with Athenagoras, Irenaeus, Origen, Novatian, and Polycarp. Great subject matter for the Atheist who wishes to debate against fundamentalists.

 

7. General Knowledge

 

This can be done very easily. Buy a Trivial Persuit (Genus Edition) and memorize one card before going to bed each night. In no time you will have a fount of general knowledge so immense that no one will dare debate you at Friday night drinks.

 

6. Ask Questions

 

The best way to use this trick is to ask questions when you already know the answer. This is a form of Irony when used in the right way; when the person you are questioning answers, you can ask a related question which will make it appear that you have taken in what they said, absorbed it, and wish to clarify an aspect of the topic. Additionally, when you are discussing a subject with someone who clearly knows less about it than you, you can ask questions that you know will make them stumble. This is particularly good if you have a large audience as everyone will be in awe of you. Make sure you are humble when the person’s weakness shows.

 

5. Learn About Good Books

 

Sparknotes. I repeat, sparknotes. Use the short notes found on this site to get a broad overview of famous classic novels. You only need to learn enough to make it seem that you have read the book. For a decent classic you should be able to do this in 30 minutes or less. And who knows, you may find that you want to read the book and gain some real intelligence.

 

4. Watch Movies

 

Watch some classic movies that are both good and bad. These movies don’t have to be silent movies, black and white, etc. Just good movies, fulfilling movies. Also, watch some bad movies. Someone who can spout off one or two good movies will sound either smart or fake. But someone who can state both good and bad movies, and justify why each is classified that way, will sound intelligent.

 

3. Learn Quotes

 

A great writer once said: “Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone elses opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.” – while this is amusing, it is not entirely correct when trying to appear smarter. People will be utterly in awe of you if you can quote a famous line from poetry, a great play, or a witticism by a literarary master. There are a million sites on the internet that will help you to find quotations. Learn one a day. If you wish to learn a few lines of poetry, I recommend starting with Plath, Ginsberg, or Whitman; everyone knows who they are, but few will be able to quote them. Oh – the quotation I used here is by Oscar Wilde.

 

2. Use Words you Know

 

Nothing makes you looks more like an idiot than fumbling language. Stick to what you know! People will argue that tapes and books can teach you new words, but you still risk a terrible mistake. Learning new words can broaden your thinking and amplify your ability to communicate. However, doing so will open you up to appearing stupid, so you should stick with words you are 100% positive of pronunciation and meaning. Even if it takes you an entire extra sentence to explain a concept that one word would have clarified instantly, it’s totally worth it.

 

1. Be Quiet

 

Quite simply, the less you say, the less you can say wrong. Oh, and smile and nod knowingly.

SourceThe List Universe

 
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Posted by on November 22, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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The false self (your ego) is like a virus that infiltrated your computer. All it does is to disrupt all your good intentions with its poison when triggered.

I am going to share with you something that very few authors shared with their readers before. Many of the so-called gurus and world renown speakers that wrote a lot more books than me fail to share the ultimate tool with their readers and audiences. It can be ignorance or a lack of insight that cause this oversight or it can even be that they want their readers and audiences to remain reliant on them because it is good for business.

Look at the graph of the inner and outer or perfect self before you continue reading my prescription. You will notice that you have the perfect self at your core that is in turn layered by you false (impostor) self. You were pure perfect self at birth. Look at the characteristics that you were programmed with. Now look at the outer layer that envelope your perfect self and study the various characteristics depicted in this layer. You are an extension of God on your arrival, but get exposed to those that either out of habit or fear feels that you need to be domesticated so you can one day like them fit into society.

 You are conditioned by these enthusiastic programmers with a pain and pleasure method. When you acted as prescribed you were praised and when you fell short of their requirements you were punished physically or mentally. You gradually concluded that you are this defective false self that daily fall short of the hundred and one rules and regulations that they hammered into you. It did not take them long to get you to forget who you are and where you came from. Try as you may you continuously fell short of the requirements.

Read the characteristics again and you will see with what flawed perceptions you were left to take on the world. It is impossible for you to improve the false self or the impostor.  The impostor cannot become the perfect self. You can read your holy books and pray until you wear out your knees my friend. You can go to the so-called gurus that claim that they can miraculously transform the soiled and defective false self daily. You might for relative short periods experience an improvement, but will discover that the old false self program will kick in the moment you stop fighting and praying.

I am going to state this again. You cannot transform or modify the false self. The false self is not alive like the true self and connected to God. The false self (your ego) is like a virus that infiltrated your computer. It cannot perform at the level of the perfect self. All it does is to disrupt all your good intentions with its poison when triggered. The solution is thus not to try and improve your false self or the false self of anybody else. You are attempting the impossible if you sustain this fallacy. Disappointment and guilt will follow you around like a stray dog for as long as you live.

You also do not need a savoir my friend. Your real self is already an extension of God and the false self with its pathetic history is nothing more than defective software. Your biggest day since your birth is the day that you grasp what I am sharing with you here. The day you grasp this extremely important lesson is the day that you wake up to your full potential. You are not the perceptions that you formed about yourself. Who you currently think depict who you are is nothing more than a historical data file in your head. You can never remedy this cluster of thoughts or repair your historical mistakes. It is futile to try and heal this warped perception that dominated who you think you are since early childhood. Most gurus, motivational speakers and authors use and abuse you. This guilt drenched warped image cannot adjusted to match the perfect and effective spiritual being that they use as bait. This cluster of historical perceptions is nothing more than your ego based self. You are here at earth school to evolve and learn. You are not the depicted sinner that usually does the best you can with what you know. My friend stuff will continue to happen to you and you are here to learn how to deal with it. 

 

Rene

 

 
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Posted by on October 9, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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Jean-Claude Koven – Going Deeper – Start your journey today!

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It would appear that we are quite mad, recklessly destroying our planet and each other. But this is just the tip of the iceberg. All the old axioms supporting our past assurances of reality are beginning to fall apart. Family structures, relationships, careers, self-image, finances, government, even our time-honored concepts of morality seem to be crumbling in the whirlwind of some implacable energetic imperative. Could this be the termination of civilization prophesized by the Hopi, Mayans, and other indigenous cultures; or even the predicted end conveyed in the bible?

Already being considered a metaphysical classic, new novel “Going Deeper: How to Make Sense of Your Life When Your Life Makes No Sense” (ISBN 0972395458) “is not about self improvement” explains author Jean-Claude Koven. “It isn’t about how to become more popular or how to attract more money or romance into your life. Rather, it deals with awakening to the purpose for being here.” In Koven’s entertaining, engaging and subtle book, Larry and his wise-cracking dog Zeus make their way to Joshua Tree National Park for a relaxing vacation. Unexpectedly, Larry begins a journey of spiritual awakening and true enlightenment with the help of Zeus’ wisdom of ages, and other unusual friends. Larry learns that the Earth and all of her inhabitants are depending on him and many others, to transit them smoothly into the next paradigm.

Dedicated to the 70 million wanderers already incarnated on earth, “Going Deeper” is a significant teaching novel offering 434 pages of spiritual wisdom with fiction and humor. “Many people write me saying that the book changed their lives and provided a degree of clarity they hadn’t been able to obtain before reading it” says Koven. “I can only speak to what ‘Going Deeper’ has done for me” he adds, “It has unleashed a never-ending torrent of awareness, reconnecting me to my own personal source, reaffirming my purpose on this planet.”

Set in the storytelling style of recent successful teaching novels such as James Redfield’s “The Celestine Prophecy” and Daniel Quinn’s “Ishmael,” Koven has weaved his 40+ years of studying and teaching metaphysics and spirituality into “Going Deeper.” A wake-up call brilliantly designed to spark the consciousness of millions of people who want to recover their innate wisdom and power, “it offers a blueprint for breaking free of self-created limitation and dependence on others for our wellbeing” concludes Koven.

Recently awarded the USA Book News Best Books 2005 Award for Best New Age Fiction, “Going Deeper” is poised to shift the mind/body/spirit communities around the world. According to Linda Salvin, host of the Visions & Solutions radio program, this is “the hottest metaphysical book of the millennium…” And in the words of internationally known author, anthropologist, and social visionary Jean Houston, PH.D., “an extraordinary work that harvests the wisdom of many times and peoples…Mythic and masterful, it is a work to be read and re-read.”

Jean-Claude Koven was born in 1940 in Villenueve-sur-Lot, a market town in France. After a short stay in North Africa, his family immigrated to Brooklyn on a Portuguese fishing boat, eventually settling in Manhattan. His many business ventures and entrepreneurial pursuits have been a cover for an impressive spiritual curriculum that has lasted some 40 years – several pages in the Acknowledgments section of his book detail the many teachers, mentors, and guides, each of whom expanded some aspect of his consciousness. Currently, Jean-Claude lives in Rancho Mirage, California with his wife, Arianne. “Going Deeper” can be purchased at major online bookstores. For more information about “Going Deeper” and Jean-Claude’s recent writings, go to http://www.prismhouse.com.

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Although you may also want to consider the convenience of owning your own hard copy, you can now download each chapter of the book, Going Deeper, in PDF format at no charge!

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Table of Contents

CHAPTER 1 In the Beginning Was the Ad
CHAPTER 2 9/11-The Day the World Changed Forever
CHAPTER 3 Calling It a Day
CHAPTER 4 The Lessons Begin in Earnest
CHAPTER 5 Parting the Curtains of Reality
CHAPTER 6 The Heavens Respond
CHAPTER 7 The State of Planet Earth
CHAPTER 8 Rocky’s Rap
CHAPTER 9 The Dialogue Circle
CHAPTER 10 The Ultimate Proposition
CHAPTER 11 Making the Decision
CHAPTER 12 The Consummating Experience
CHAPTER 13 Cosmic Perspectives
CHAPTER 14 The Other Side of the Veil
CHAPTER 15 The Voice
CHAPTER 16 Wherever You Go, There You Are
CHAPTER 17 The Myth of Creation
CHAPTER 18 Why Nothing Is As It Seems
CHAPTER 19 Lessons in Mastering the Illusion
CHAPTER 20 The Way Out
CHAPTER 21 Back into the Void
CHAPTER 22 The Prime Mandate of Creation
CHAPTER 23 What Happens Next?
CHAPTER 24 Help from Above
CHAPTER 25 You Can’t Get There from Here
CHAPTER 26 Redefining Reality
CHAPTER 27 What You See Is What You Get
Acknowledgments
Suggested Explorations
Glossary
Index
Author Bio

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Posted by on September 9, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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The day you grasp this extremely important lesson is the day that you wake up to you full potential.

I am going to share with you something that very few authors shared with their readers before. Many of the so-called gurus and world renown speakers that wrote a lot more books than me fail to share the ultimate tool with their readers and audiences. It can be ignorance or a lack of insight that cause this oversight or it can even be that they want their readers and audiences to remain reliant on them because it is good for business.

Look at the graph of the inner and outer or perfect self before you continue reading my prescription. You will notice that you have the perfect self at your core that is in turn layered by you false (impostor) self. You were pure perfect self at birth. Look at the characteristics that you were programmed with. Now look at the outer layer that envelope your perfect self and study the various characteristics depicted in this layer. You are an extension of God on your arrival, but get exposed to those that either out of habit or fear feels that you need to be domesticated so you can one day like them fit into society.

 You are conditioned by these enthusiastic programmers with a pain and pleasure method. When you acted as prescribed you were praised and when you fell short of their requirements you were punished physically or mentally. You gradually concluded that you are this defective false self that daily fall short of the hundred and one rules and regulations that they hammered into you. It did not take them long to get you to forget who you are and where you came from. Try as you may you continuously fell short of the requirements.

Read the characteristics again and you will see with what flawed perceptions you were left to take on the world. It is impossible for you to improve the false self or the impostor.  The impostor cannot become the perfect self. You can read your holy books and pray until you wear out your knees my friend. You can go to the so-called gurus that claim that they can miraculously transform the soiled and defective false self daily. You might for relative short periods experience an improvement, but will discover that the old false self program will kick in the moment you stop fighting and praying.

I am going to state this again. You cannot transform or modify the false self. The false self is not alive like the true self and connected to God. The false self is like a virus that infiltrated your computer. It cannot perform at the level of the perfect self. All it can do is to disrupt all your good intentions with its poison when triggered. The solution is thus not to try and improve your false self or the false self of anybody else. You are attempting the impossible if you sustain this fallacy. Disappointment and guilt will follow you around like a stray dog for as long as you live.

You also do not need a savoir my friend. Your real self is already an extension of God and the false self with its pathetic history is nothing more than defective software. Your biggest day since your birth is the day that you grasp what I am sharing with you here. The day you grasp this extremely important lesson is the day that you wake up to your full potential. You are not the perceptions that you formed about yourself. Who you currently think depict who you are is nothing more than a historical data file in your head. You can never remedy this cluster of thoughts or repair your historical mistakes. It is futile to try and heal this warped perception that dominated who you think you are since early childhood. Most gurus, motivational speakers and authors use and abuse you. This guilt drenched warped image cannot adjusted to match the perfect and effective spiritual being that they use as bait. This cluster of historical perceptions is nothing more than your ego based self. You are here at earth school to evolve and learn. You are not the depicted sinner that usually does the best you can with what you know. My friend stuff will continue to happen to you and you are here to learn how to deal with it. 

 

Rene

 

 
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Posted by on August 20, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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Ten ways you can master (with minimum effort) to make you seem smarter than you are.

We all want to seem smart around workmates and acquaintances, but we often don’t have the time to put in to further study to achieve this. Luckily, there are a few ways you can make yourself seem smarter with a minimum of effort. This is a list of the ten best tips for appearing smarter.

 

10. Learn a topic to debunk

 

The majority of “hot topics” are debated by people with very little knowledge of the subject. A good example of this is global warming – the majority of people you speak to on this subject will tell you how we must change our habits to prevent global warming, but few will know what “anthropogenic global warming” is. Spend a little time learning what the real experts on these faddish topics say and you simply can’t go wrong. Try to remember some of the names of authors so you can quote them.

 

9. Improve your Vocabulary

 

The simplest way to do this is to subscribe to a “word a day” emailing list. Remember to ensure that you memorize the correct pronunciation and spelling of the new word or phrase. Perhaps you can start with mesonoxian, or any of the words on the Top 10 Weird English Words.

 

8. Obscure Knowledge

 

By developing knowledge in a very obscure area, you are very unlikely to meet someone else with the same knowledge. This means you can wax lyrical for hours and it doesn’t matter how many mistakes you make – no one will know, and you will seem ultra-smart. You might, for example, spend some time studying the early Egyptian dynasties (or an interesting character like Smenkhkare,) or the writings of early Christian writers. You can be sure that even the most staunch Southern Baptist fundamentalist has never heard of most of the “fathers of the Church”, let alone read anything they wrote. Saint Igantius of Antioch is a good start; you can follow up with Athenagoras, Irenaeus, Origen, Novatian, and Polycarp. Great subject matter for the Atheist who wishes to debate against fundamentalists.

 

7. General Knowledge

 

This can be done very easily. Buy a Trivial Persuit (Genus Edition) and memorize one card before going to bed each night. In no time you will have a fount of general knowledge so immense that no one will dare debate you at Friday night drinks.

 

6. Ask Questions

 

The best way to use this trick is to ask questions when you already know the answer. This is a form of Irony when used in the right way; when the person you are questioning answers, you can ask a related question which will make it appear that you have taken in what they said, absorbed it, and wish to clarify an aspect of the topic. Additionally, when you are discussing a subject with someone who clearly knows less about it than you, you can ask questions that you know will make them stumble. This is particularly good if you have a large audience as everyone will be in awe of you. Make sure you are humble when the person’s weakness shows.

 

5. Learn About Good Books

 

Sparknotes. I repeat, sparknotes. Use the short notes found on this site to get a broad overview of famous classic novels. You only need to learn enough to make it seem that you have read the book. For a decent classic you should be able to do this in 30 minutes or less. And who knows, you may find that you want to read the book and gain some real intelligence.

 

4. Watch Movies

 

Watch some classic movies that are both good and bad. These movies don’t have to be silent movies, black and white, etc. Just good movies, fulfilling movies. Also, watch some bad movies. Someone who can spout off one or two good movies will sound either smart or fake. But someone who can state both good and bad movies, and justify why each is classified that way, will sound intelligent.

 

3. Learn Quotes

 

A great writer once said: “Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone elses opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.” – while this is amusing, it is not entirely correct when trying to appear smarter. People will be utterly in awe of you if you can quote a famous line from poetry, a great play, or a witticism by a literarary master. There are a million sites on the internet that will help you to find quotations. Learn one a day. If you wish to learn a few lines of poetry, I recommend starting with Plath, Ginsberg, or Whitman; everyone knows who they are, but few will be able to quote them. Oh – the quotation I used here is by Oscar Wilde.

 

2. Use Words you Know

 

Nothing makes you looks more like an idiot than fumbling language. Stick to what you know! People will argue that tapes and books can teach you new words, but you still risk a terrible mistake. Learning new words can broaden your thinking and amplify your ability to communicate. However, doing so will open you up to appearing stupid, so you should stick with words you are 100% positive of pronunciation and meaning. Even if it takes you an entire extra sentence to explain a concept that one word would have clarified instantly, it’s totally worth it.

 

1. Be Quiet

 

Quite simply, the less you say, the less you can say wrong. Oh, and smile and nod knowingly.

 

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A Letter to My Kids – Dear Kids …………………… life is a never-ending journey that is filled with shades of gray.

A Letter to My Kids

 

Dear Kids,

I’m taking the time to write this to you today, years before there’s a chance that you’ll ever read it.

One of my reasons for doing this is simply because I want to affirm some things that I see you doing and some of the ways you are being before you forget them.

But also, I want to give you an example of how life is a never-ending journey that is filled with shades of gray.

So, although you’re not quite ready to hear me talk about all of the challenges in my life, hopefully what follows will help you understand that no one has it all figured out… even your dad.

And that’s OK.

Part I: Who You Are – What You Want

When I started out in business, I was missing some key ingredients.

I didn’t know much about being an entrepreneur (I had just quit my job and decided to go out on my own. If I teach you right and you decide my suggestion is right for you, hopefully, you’ll never have a job, so this won’t be an issue) and I lacked confidence in myself.

But most importantly, I lacked a clear understanding of who I was and what I wanted.

I don’t blame anyone for that but myself. It was pretty much my way of surviving I imagine. A way to avoid conflict and to ensure that I didn’t ruffle any feathers.

If you don’t shine too brightly, there’s less of a chance of sticking out and calling attention to yourself.

So that’s where I want to begin, with the whole idea of who you are and what you want.

It’s funny that this is even an issue for me at 33, because right now, at your age, you are very, very clear about WHO you are and what you want.

I’m writing to you to tell you never to forget that.

Just a word of warning…

As you grow up, people around you might react to your clarity in a variety of ways.

To some, your ability to be clear and to say exactly what you want will make them uncomfortable. It might make some angry.

Please don’t listen to them. Their lives are the way they are, in part, because they aren’t able to clearly articulate what they want.

This lack of ability creates a lot of suffering in the world.

I will do my best to steer you around it now that I understand how it works.

Two of the keys to living a full life are to understand who you are and to be clear about what you want.

Everything else flows from that.

Part II: How to Become Successful

I used to think that in order to become a successful businessperson, I had to become more like successful business people.

So I read a lot of books about other people.

I read about Carnegie… I read about Bill Gates… I read about Felix Dennis…

The books I read were packed with pages and pages of “how to do it” information and stories of how others became successful.

Little did I know at the time that I was walking in the opposite direction of success.

Instead of learning how to be more like someone else, my focus should have been on learning how to become a more effective version of me.

In business, there’s this idea of the unique selling proposition. In a nutshell, it’s how what you have to offer is different (and therefore better) than anything else out there.

Being you… thinking the way you think… doing things the way you do them… your take on the world….

That’s your USP. It’s built in. Those are your competitive advantages.

But if those are not well developed, because you have not taken the time to develop them, then those differences are hardly noticeable at best, and completely hidden at worst.

This will work against you, because there will be no obvious reason for people and opportunities to flock to you over another.

You will be competing against the herd and your journey will be harder than it needs to be.

So despite what you might read in books, I recommend that you dobecome a pioneer.

After all, there’s really no other way to be successful as you.

You’re the only one living your life. So you are a pioneer whether or not you like it.

The only question is how effective you’ll be.

How do you measure success?

I can’t tell you that because that’s a decision that only you can make.

For me, success means that I’m a better version of myself today than I was yesterday.

Maybe that will work for you. Maybe not.

I’m probably on a very different journey than you are on, so please figure this out for yourself.

Just listen… you’ll hear the answer.

Part III: Money

You’ll hear a lot of stories about money as you grow up.

Some will say it’s good.

Others will say it’s evil.

Still others will say it’s OK as long as you only have enough… not too much.

Here’s my advice: They’re all lying.

Money has no meaning.

So when you hear people arguing about it… when you hear them say it’s good to have it… when you hear them say it’s bad to have it…

Please just ignore all of them.

They are wrong.

Money is energy. It flows to people who understand it.

It flows away from people who do not.

Don’t listen to the stories about money, just watch what it does and watch how it moves.

Here are facts:

As I write this, money is required to do things in the world.

Want to go to Italy and live there for 6 months?

You need money.

Needing money is not bad…

Needing money is not good…

Needing money just is.

Be OK with that.

But my recommendation is to develop a deep understanding of how it works. That way you can use it as a tool to live your life, instead of being like most people who use up their life working for it.

If you want to create a lot of it… go ahead.

If you want to exist with little of it, that’s your choice.

If you have other plans, pursue them, just don’t forget Part I of my letter.

You see, money isn’t evil.

Wanting money isn’t evil.

Going out of your way to get money isn’t evil.

It’s all a story. Someone else’s story.

The only thing that matters in life is your story. That’s why you’re here.

You’re here to write your own story.

Part IV: Know What You Stand For

In order to attract to yourself the people, the experiences and the opportunities that will make your life full, you have to shine a bright light out into the world.

Its message cannot be mixed, uncertain or unclear.

When the message you send out into the world based on who you are, what you do and what you offer is clear and powerful, you will attract just about anything you want.

But to do that, you have to know what you stand for. Of course, this list will change over time as you grow, but my hunch is that it will not change very much.

Just to give you an example of what I’m talking about, I’m going to give you my list below. Please don’t let any of these items make their way onto your list word for word.

You have your own list to make.

Again, if I’ve done my job well by the time you read this, you’ll already know your list without giving it a whole lot of thought.

What I Stand For

  • I stand for being real. For being who you are no matter what everyone says about it. Being anything else is living a lie. And it will kill you on the inside far before you die on the outside.

  • I stand for looking out for my own best interest. If I choose to help others, that is my choice to make. For helping others is a gift you give, not something you are forced to do.

  • I stand for power. Not the loud strong arm way of acting people see on the outside, but the quiet power that exists on the inside. It’s this power that you use to create anything you want in your life.

  • I stand for taking 100% responsibility for my life. This applies to the good the bad and the ugly. 100% responsibility means no exceptions.

  • I stand for living my life how I choose to live it, provided I do not tread on the freedoms of others’ ability to do the same.

In the end, the best advice I can give you is this:

Be true to who you are and take one step at a time. There’s no rush.

I wish you the best of luck on your journey,

 

Dad

 
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This is a list of the ten best tips for appearing smarter than you are with minimum effort.

The study of ethics can help us illuminate moral questions and clarify difficult questions, but it cannot find some illusive 'essence' of goodness, because there is none.

We all want to seem smart around workmates and acquaintances, but we often don’t have the time to put in to further study to achieve this. Luckily, there are a few ways you can make yourself seem smarter with a minimum of effort. This is a list of the ten best tips for appearing smarter.

10. Learn a topic to debunk

The majority of “hot topics” are debated by people with very little knowledge of the subject. A good example of this is global warming – the majority of people you speak to on this subject will tell you how we must change our habits to prevent global warming, but few will know what “anthropogenic global warming” is. Spend a little time learning what the real experts on these faddish topics say and you simply can’t go wrong. Try to remember some of the names of authors so you can quote them.

9. Improve your Vocabulary

The simplest way to do this is to subscribe to a “word a day” emailing list. Remember to ensure that you memorize the correct pronunciation and spelling of the new word or phrase. Perhaps you can start with mesonoxian, or any of the words on the Top 10 Weird English Words.

8. Obscure Knowledge

By developing knowledge in a very obscure area, you are very unlikely to meet someone else with the same knowledge. This means you can wax lyrical for hours and it doesn’t matter how many mistakes you make – no one will know, and you will seem ultra-smart. You might, for example, spend some time studying the early Egyptian dynasties (or an interesting character like Smenkhkare,) or the writings of early Christian writers. You can be sure that even the most staunch Southern Baptist fundamentalist has never heard of most of the “fathers of the Church”, let alone read anything they wrote. Saint Igantius of Antioch is a good start; you can follow up with Athenagoras, Irenaeus, Origen, Novatian, and Polycarp. Great subject matter for the Atheist who wishes to debate against fundamentalists.

7. General Knowledge

This can be done very easily. Buy a Trivial Persuit (Genus Edition) and memorize one card before going to bed each night. In no time you will have a fount of general knowledge so immense that no one will dare debate you at Friday night drinks.

6. Ask Questions

The best way to use this trick is to ask questions when you already know the answer. This is a form of Irony when used in the right way; when the person you are questioning answers, you can ask a related question which will make it appear that you have taken in what they said, absorbed it, and wish to clarify an aspect of the topic. Additionally, when you are discussing a subject with someone who clearly knows less about it than you, you can ask questions that you know will make them stumble. This is particularly good if you have a large audience as everyone will be in awe of you. Make sure you are humble when the person’s weakness shows.

5. Learn About Good Books

Sparknotes. I repeat, sparknotes. Use the short notes found on this site to get a broad overview of famous classic novels. You only need to learn enough to make it seem that you have read the book. For a decent classic you should be able to do this in 30 minutes or less. And who knows, you may find that you want to read the book and gain some real intelligence.

4. Watch Movies

Watch some classic movies that are both good and bad. These movies don’t have to be silent movies, black and white, etc. Just good movies, fulfilling movies. Also, watch some bad movies. Someone who can spout off one or two good movies will sound either smart or fake. But someone who can state both good and bad movies, and justify why each is classified that way, will sound intelligent.

3. Learn Quotes

A great writer once said: “Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone elses opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.” – while this is amusing, it is not entirely correct when trying to appear smarter. People will be utterly in awe of you if you can quote a famous line from poetry, a great play, or a witticism by a literarary master. There are a million sites on the internet that will help you to find quotations. Learn one a day. If you wish to learn a few lines of poetry, I recommend starting with Plath, Ginsberg, or Whitman; everyone knows who they are, but few will be able to quote them. Oh – the quotation I used here is by Oscar Wilde.

2. Use Words you Know

Nothing makes you looks more like an idiot than fumbling language. Stick to what you know! People will argue that tapes and books can teach you new words, but you still risk a terrible mistake. Learning new words can broaden your thinking and amplify your ability to communicate. However, doing so will open you up to appearing stupid, so you should stick with words you are 100% positive of pronunciation and meaning. Even if it takes you an entire extra sentence to explain a concept that one word would have clarified instantly, it’s totally worth it.

1. Be Quiet

Quite simply, the less you say, the less you can say wrong. Oh, and smile and nod knowingly.

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Portable Wisdom Series No. 2 – Tom Campbell: Bruce Lipton and Tom Campbell Summit Part 1 and 2

 
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There are a few ways you can make yourself seem smarter with a minimum of effort.

We all want to seem smart around workmates and acquaintances, but we often don’t have the time to put in to further study to achieve this. Luckily, there are a few ways you can make yourself seem smarter with a minimum of effort. This is a list of the ten best tips for appearing smarter.

10. Learn a topic to debunk

 

The majority of “hot topics” are debated by people with very little knowledge of the subject. A good example of this is global warming – the majority of people you speak to on this subject will tell you how we must change our habits to prevent global warming, but few will know what “anthropogenic global warming” is. Spend a little time learning what the real experts on these faddish topics say and you simply can’t go wrong. Try to remember some of the names of authors so you can quote them.

9. Improve your Vocabulary

 

The simplest way to do this is to subscribe to a “word a day” emailing list. Remember to ensure that you memorize the correct pronunciation and spelling of the new word or phrase. Perhaps you can start with mesonoxian, or any of the words on the Top 10 Weird English Words.

8. Obscure Knowledge

 

By developing knowledge in a very obscure area, you are very unlikely to meet someone else with the same knowledge. This means you can wax lyrical for hours and it doesn’t matter how many mistakes you make – no one will know, and you will seem ultra-smart. You might, for example, spend some time studying the early Egyptian dynasties (or an interesting character like Smenkhkare,) or the writings of early Christian writers. You can be sure that even the most staunch Southern Baptist fundamentalist has never heard of most of the “fathers of the Church”, let alone read anything they wrote. Saint Igantius of Antioch is a good start; you can follow up with Athenagoras, Irenaeus, Origen, Novatian, and Polycarp. Great subject matter for the Atheist who wishes to debate against fundamentalists.

7. General Knowledge

 

This can be done very easily. Buy a Trivial Persuit (Genus Edition) and memorize one card before going to bed each night. In no time you will have a fount of general knowledge so immense that no one will dare debate you at Friday night drinks.

6. Ask Questions

 

The best way to use this trick is to ask questions when you already know the answer. This is a form of Irony when used in the right way; when the person you are questioning answers, you can ask a related question which will make it appear that you have taken in what they said, absorbed it, and wish to clarify an aspect of the topic. Additionally, when you are discussing a subject with someone who clearly knows less about it than you, you can ask questions that you know will make them stumble. This is particularly good if you have a large audience as everyone will be in awe of you. Make sure you are humble when the person’s weakness shows.

5. Learn About Good Books

 

Sparknotes. I repeat, sparknotes. Use the short notes found on this site to get a broad overview of famous classic novels. You only need to learn enough to make it seem that you have read the book. For a decent classic you should be able to do this in 30 minutes or less. And who knows, you may find that you want to read the book and gain some real intelligence.

4. Watch Movies

 

Watch some classic movies that are both good and bad. These movies don’t have to be silent movies, black and white, etc. Just good movies, fulfilling movies. Also, watch some bad movies. Someone who can spout off one or two good movies will sound either smart or fake. But someone who can state both good and bad movies, and justify why each is classified that way, will sound intelligent.

3. Learn Quotes

 

A great writer once said: “Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone elses opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.” – while this is amusing, it is not entirely correct when trying to appear smarter. People will be utterly in awe of you if you can quote a famous line from poetry, a great play, or a witticism by a literary master. There are a million sites on the Internet that will help you to find quotations. Learn one a day. If you wish to learn a few lines of poetry, I recommend starting with Plath, Ginsberg, or Whitman; everyone knows who they are, but few will be able to quote them. Oh – the quotation I used here is by Oscar Wilde.

2. Use Words you Know

 

Nothing makes you looks more like an idiot than fumbling language. Stick to what you know! People will argue that tapes and books can teach you new words, but you still risk a terrible mistake. Learning new words can broaden your thinking and amplify your ability to communicate. However, doing so will open you up to appearing stupid, so you should stick with words you are 100% positive of pronunciation and meaning. Even if it takes you an entire extra sentence to explain a concept that one word would have clarified instantly, it’s totally worth it.

1. Be Quiet

Quite simply, the less you say, the less you can say wrong. Oh, and smile and nod knowingly.

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Books, courses and religions which claim that man’s ‘natural’ state is one of happiness are just plain wrong.

Mankind’s ‘natural’ state is one of constant struggle to maintain equilibrium. His reward for this, if he masters it, is contentment.

Do you sometimes feel stressed and fed-up with life? Want to be happy? Joyful? Well I wonder if joy really is the state to aim for… Is it even possible?

When you think about it, intense happiness and joy are, by their nature, short lived. Note the use of the words ‘by their nature.’ This implies that you cannot artificially sustain joy, say by maintaining or increasing the stimulus which produced it.

You know those Amazonian insect-eating plants? Once an insect has triggered the plant to close, no amount of further stimulation will have the slightest effect for several hours. You can put that plant on a lead and take it for a walk through a swarm of flies, and its lips will remain stubbornly sealed.

Our ‘joy’ mechanism is similar.

Once triggered, it activates, and then a certain time period must elapse before it can be triggered again. It is has filled its purpose; I will explain what that is in a moment.

The same is true of intense happiness. We feel this fleeting, wonderfully positive response when one of our needs starts to be met.

Carefully note those last words.

I did not say ‘when one of our needs is fully met.’ Joy or intense happiness is our reward to ourselves for taking good care of the organism, just as pain is the opposite.

Our Needs

We have many needs, as I am sure you know.

First in the hierarchy come our physical needs (food, water, warmth, safety, shelter, sex, touch etc…). Many of these are essential for our physical survival and so these become pressing if not met. We feel intense and desperate pain (thirst, hunger, cold) and an intense joy at the first sip of water, morsel of food or warmth of the blanket thrown around our shoulders. But this quickly wears off because that need has now been satisfied. More (or prolonged) warmth, more food or more water bring diminishing returns in happiness.

Soon we pass into boredom and indifference about those needs. We decline the third helping of swan’s breast and wearily wave away the fifth overflowing goblet of mead and… isn’t it getting a little warm in here? Can somebody please stop throwing peasants onto the fire…

Eventually, other needs come to the surface – the need to be cool, the need to rest and digest. Whereas before, the cold wind caused the most intense agony and you longed for a good crackling fire to warm your bottom against, now the cold breeze from the open window feels good against your face.

You feel a momentary flash of joy…

How It All Began

In mankind’s distant past, our physical needs were mostly all we took care of. Food, water, shelter, sex, warmth – that was what it was all about.

Fast forward one million years and many of us have cracked the ‘physical needs’ thing. Douglas Adams described the three stages of man’s evolution as “How shall we eat?” “What shall we eat?” and “Where shall we do lunch?” Well, we’re at the ‘doing lunch’ stage now, at least in the Western world. For the main part we are all more than adequately fed, watered and housed. Actually, this is a gross understatement – we luxuriate in a massive surplus of these things.

But we are far more than a collection of physical needs. We also have a whole range of intellectual and emotional needs. We also have ‘spiritual’ needs in the sense of wanting answers to “what’s it all about?” questions and wanting to make sense of our life as a whole and attain meaning.

Let’s call these our ‘higher’ needs.

Higher Needs

Examples of ‘higher level’ needs include our need for love, meaning, contribution, efficacy, beauty, order, companionship, excitement, respect, authenticity, choice, trust, harmony — the list is a very long one (at least two dozen needs).

Which Are More Important?

The temptation here is to class these ‘higher level’ needs as less important than the lower level. In just one way, they are.

Non-fulfilment of lower level needs often leads to death – the actual extinction of the organism. Not filling higher level needs rarely has this effect. But there, the difference ends.

The purpose of life is not brute survival at any cost. The purpose is to survive as a man or woman, with all that this implies. To both surive and to thrive. Thriving requires that your higher level needs are also met. If they are not met, the result will be misery, defeat, low self esteem and low energy.

If too many of your needs are not met for a long period, the result will be depression in all of its guises and possibly even psychosis or suicide. Yes, lack of water will kill the organism called ‘man’ in a few days; but solitary confinement will kill a man (not the organism but his spirit) in a few months.

Starvation will kill a woman in two weeks; but total lack of love, warmth or affection will kill a woman (not the organism but her spirit) in a few short years.

I do not mean to imply that men and women have a different set of needs. They do not. All humans share an identical set of needs.

The Cyclical Nature of Needs

Our higher level needs are also cyclical. One example should suffice.

We have a need for companionship – we are social creatures by nature. This implies that our need for companionship is not optional. If we do not fill this need we start to feel pain. So imagine now being in solitary confinement (enforced or accidental).

After two or three days you feel discomfort. As the days of solitude accrue, you feel more intense pain – the pain of deep loneliness and the strong desire to see another human face or hear a voice.

If this continues indefinitely, the result is depression and even suicide. Can you possibly imagine that you might say: “Leave me alone! I want to be by myself! I need my space!”? No, this seems inconceivable. But let us see…

Suppose after months of confinement, you receive a visitor. What intense joy! What rapture! You cling on to the person, greedily devouring every line and wrinkle in their face; sucking up their words like a parched traveler in a desert.

Too Much of a Good Thing?

Now I want you to imagine a second visitor and a third – all friends and much loved family. Such happiness! You greet them all warmly. Now a fourth and a fifth; soon fifty well-wishers and friends are crowded into your room.

Hours pass, you start to feel weary. So many people, so much talk. You start to long for some peace and quiet. But your guests have no intention of going. They stay and stay – for hours, then days. They crowd your bedroom whist you sleep, lovingly watching over you. They crowd your living room whilst you are awake, cuddling you, kissing you, touching you – saying nice things.

Gradually it becomes unbearable. You long for solitude. Your need for companionship has been sated and your need for space and quiet is now urgent. You scream out in pain: “Please! Will you all just GO AWAY! I want to be alone! I need space!”

To dark mutterings of “Well! Of all the ungrateful…” they stalk off into the night, leaving you with that which you most need at present… solitude.

And so it goes on, round and round. You could call this a ‘cycle of needs.’

I like to imagine this as one of the those Hi Fi volume meters made up of moving illuminated bars (like a bar chart).

Each bar represents a need, the current level of the bar indicating the intensity of that need at any one moment. They never stand still. They dance up and down as each need is either met, or comes to the foreground demanding to be met.

The further below the mid line a bar drops, the more pain you feel. This triggers you into action to get that need met and hopefully the bar comes up to midway – the object is to keep it there.

If it goes above midway, you have overfilled that need (too much food, too much warmth, too much companionship); this also causes pain and triggers you to further action.

[Aside: Can you have too much of seemingly positive things like love or harmony? Sure you can! Imagine a cloying, overbearing lover who will not leave your side for one second and who strums lutes below your lighted window each night – or a 100% harmonious world with never an argument, never a disagreement, everything always being perfect.]

You could say that everything you do in life is a strategy for keeping those bars all in a line, in the middle. Often our strategies are misguided and even counterproductive, but still the intention is to fill a need.

No Final Result

Of course this is a dynamic thing, like juggling. It is never static.

There is never a time – not once in your entire life – where you can sit back and admire your straight line of bars, secure in the knowledge that they will remain that way for longer than a few moments.

A juggler can never relax her concentration and have the balls remain in a perfect arc above her head. And here’s the really important bit: even when those bars are in a line, it does not produce joy or ecstatic happiness. These, as we have seen, are our brief reward for starting to fill an urgent, chronic need.

So what do you think is the emotion corresponding to a full set of well-filled needs?
Contentment.

Now we are getting closer to a sustainable and desirable state to aim for.

Everyone thinks they want to be blissfully happy, (in this particular article I am using this word in the sense of intense happiness bordering on joy.) In fact, this is unsustainable by any means – just as the fly trap cannot munch its way through an endless queue of suicidal bluebottles. It is not in the nature of the plant to do this. It is not in our nature to feel constant joy.

This is such an important point that I want you to be very clear about it. As an organism, it is not the case that our purpose is to move towards a state of permanent intense happiness (joy), any more than the juggler aims to attain a perfect frozen arc of equally-spaced balls above her head so that she might relax, arms folded.

So what is our purpose?

It is to maintain a state of dynamic equilibrium – neither too hot, nor too cold; neither too tired, nor over-rested; neither starving, nor bloated.

To achieve this, evolution has provided us with two important feelings: pain and pleasure. Pain is the stick, goading us away from danger, chronic lack, or massive excess. Pleasure is the carrot, enticing us to act in a way that gets it just right – perfectly balanced. Both have the purpose of getting us to act – to do something to restore equilibrium.

Once equilibrium has been achieved, the feeling is not one of intense, prolonged happiness (that is our reward for starting to fill a much neglected need.) The result is equilibrium for the organism and we experience this as a quality of contentment.

Become a Master Juggler of Life

If we become a master juggler of life and get the hang of keeping those tricky bars all in a row, or balls in the air, our reward is deep and lasting contentment.

Since words have many meanings, let me be a little more specific about this state. You feel that all is right with your world (which, of course, it is). You feel calm, in flow, certain, in focus, open, poised, sensitive and clear.

Other people will feel a very special quality about you and want to be close to it – they crave it too, just as every human being does. Life seems easy for you. You wonder why on earth you struggled and strained for so many years, wracked by guilt, angst, pain and unhappiness.

The reason is that you were not, at that point, a master of life.

To push the juggler analogy a teensy bit further; top jugglers like Brad Byers spend years learning exactly how to keep all of those balls or clubs flying in an arc above his head. I imagine that at times it seemed impossible; he felt like giving up. He was probably often frustrated, angry and despairing about ever being able to do such a difficult thing. But having mastered it, the process now is almost effortless for him. When juggling, he is in a ‘flow’ state – not struggling, sweating and striving to maintain the arc, but calm, certain, almost in a meditative state.

Happiness Is Not Natural

Is contentment the ‘natural’ human state?

Well, that depends on what you mean by ‘natural.’ Our default condition is not one of contentment.

It is entirely incorrect to say that if you do nothing, let go or drop out then you will default to a ‘natural’ state of contentment. The exact opposite is true, in fact.
If you seek contentment you are required to engage in a constant, relentless struggle with nature and reality (required by your essential nature, that is).

Disengaging with this struggle, as you might expect, rapidly produces discontentment closely followed by unhappiness, pain and then death. All the balls come tumbling to the ground and the audience holds it breath, wondering if this is a joke or whether they are witnessing a disaster.

Books, courses and religions which claim that man’s ‘natural’ state is one of happiness are just plain wrong – as wrong as a book on juggling which claims that the balls ‘naturally’ want to be in a neat arc and that your task as a juggler is to ‘get in touch’ with this natural state and ‘release’ the balls to ‘do their own thing’…

Mankind’s ‘natural’ state is one of constant struggle to maintain equilibrium. His reward for this, if he masters it, is contentment.

Does all this talk about ‘constant struggle’ put you off? Perhaps you are thinking that happiness and even contentment are now well out of your reach?

Not so.

Just because you are engaged in a lifelong ‘dance’ with nature, does not mean that it is arduous, deeply painful and harsh – although it can be these things if you get it wrong. The truth is that it is possible to be content because our needs are not that difficult to meet, particularly these days. Not easy, but not that hard either.

The reason we feel such discontent, pain, unhappiness and angst is mainly because of false information leading to erroneous and completely incorrect strategies for filling our needs.

How to Become A Master of Life

I want to summarise the important things I have been explaining to you:

1. You have many needs, both ‘lower level’ (e.g. food) and ‘higher level’ (e.g. love).

2. Your needs are the ‘voice’ of the organism called a ‘human being’ telling you what it needs for survival as a human (not survival at any level, e.g. as a cringing, naked half-starved beast.)

3. Your needs are never filled, finally, for all time. They are cyclical. Your two dozen (or so) needs cycle round and around. At any one moment, several are urgently screaming at you, a few are muttering for attention and others are satisfied – for now.

4. When a need is not filled, you feel discomfort and then pain. This is the human organism’s method of alerting the higher part of your mind (the strategy part) to come up with some plans, pronto, for filling that need.

5. If a need has been unfilled for a long time, when you attend to it you feel a burst of an emotion we call ‘joy.’ This is your instant reward for getting started. It is not a sustainable feeling.

6. Gradually, as you master how to juggle your needs and respond to them in a timely fashion, your reward is a feeling we call ‘contentment.’

7. The trick is to become a ‘master of life’ – a master juggler. This is not a ‘natural’ state. You need to work at it and practice it. You also need an instructor. (If you have ever tried your hand at juggling, you will know it is impossible to learn, by yourself, from first principles. But if someone shows you the step-by-step method, then anyone can learn to juggle three balls in around five hours. Five balls? Come back in five years!)

In case you have not yet realised this fact, it is going to take time for you to become a ‘master of life’.

By Stuart Goldsmith / Author of The Midas Method

 
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Your life might just change forever TODAY! – if you view this amazing conversation between Thomas Campbell/Bruce Lipton

I’ve been studying the work of Thomas Campbell for the last year, and I’d like to share an amazing interview/summit he did with Bruce Lipton.

 

Tom’s website is : http://www.my-big-toe.com

Bruce Lipton : http://www.brucelipton.com/

 
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We buy self-help books/attend seminars/listen to gurus/go to church/read the Bible/other holy books, but end up REPEATING the same old poor CHOICES and face/same old PAINFUL outcomes.

 

 

We make the same MISTAKES and REPEAT the same old RITUALS endlessly. We buy self-help books, attend seminars, listen to gurus, go to church, read the Bible and other holy books, but end up REPEATING the same old poor CHOICES and face the same old PAINFUL outcomes. The main reason why we get stuck in these deadly REPEAT PERFORMANCES can be traced to our laziness, ignorance or often stubbornness to CONFRONT the CORE CAUSES of our problems. We doctor the SYMPTOMS and IGNORE the CAUSES that provide the fuel to the FIRE that burn away our potential to be HAPPY, HEALTHY and SATISFIED. New hope flares up like a brush fire when we read something wise or when we listen to something motivational. This injection of ENTHUSIASM never last long and always fade away again like the mist in the rays of the morning sun. We always find fresh excuses to cover up our inability to rectify the real CAUSES of behind the SYMPTOMS that rob us of our HAPPINESS and SUCCESS.

Rene

 
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The 100 Most Spiritually Influential Living People

 

100 Spiritual Power List by Watkins

The 100 Most Spiritually Influential Living People

 

We’re delighted to share our début list of the 100 most spiritually influential living people, that was published in the Spring issue #26 of the Watkins Review.*  Yes, we’ve taken up the not so simple task of naming the most popular authors and spiritual teachers, whose contribution in spirituality and spreading awareness is affecting us all.

We live in an age of lists – from groceries and obituaries to Facebook friends, resume facts, lists of city capitals and lottery numbers. Of course, lists that classify the past, are easier to compile than lists that attempt to predict the future. With the holy grail of sorting algorithms, the world is sure to be your oyster.

 

The 100 Spiritual Power List

Lists help us organize, explore and perceive our environments. But are so many lists really necessary? It is very much in vogue to publish lists of people: Time Magazine publishes an annual list of the 100 people who most influence the world; Forbes publishes several lists including a Celebrity 100 list, the World’s 100 Most Powerful Women, and a list of 1000 Billionaires; Art Review’s Power 100 is an annual list of the worlds 100 most powerful collectors, artists, gallerists, etc…

The lists of lists of people, just keep going and going. However, the Watkins Review believes that an important list has been long overdue, and we are delighted to share with you our list of the 100 Most Spiritually Influential Living People. Lists of influential people contribute to the discourse and issues that each person represents, and the Watkins Review hopes that our list will nurture the debates surrounding contemporary spirituality.

There are several factors that were taken into account when compiling the list. Listed below are the main three:

1) The person has to be alive

2) The person has to have made a unique and spiritual contribution on a global scale

3) The person is frequently googled, appears in Nielsen Data, and highlighted in throughout the blogosphere It’s interesting to think about the amount of times that a person is googled; in a sense, being googled is a form of digital voting, and illustrates just how often someone is being sought out.

*The Watkins Review magazine (published by and available from Watkins Books) not only offers reviews of all the latest releases in the Mind, Body, Spirit field, but also features articles and interviews with leading authors. The Review is published three times a year and has a readership of over 30,000 people worldwide.

Read about the Top 10 people in the Watkins 100 Spiritual Power List >>

List at a glance:

1. Eckhart Tolle

34. Joseph Alois Ratzinger

67. John Bradshaw

2. Dalai Lama

35. Krishna Das

68. Jeff Foster

3. Dr Wayne W. Dyer

36. Drunvalo Melchizedek

69. Patrick Holford

4. Thich Nhat Hanh

37. Sai Baba

70. Andrew Cohen

5. Deepak Chopra

38. Jack Kornfield

71. Vladimir Megre

6. Louise L. Hay

39. Pema Chödrön

72. Thomas Cleary

7. Paulo Coelho

40. T.K.V. Desikachar

73. Daniel Pinchbeck

8. Oprah Winfrey

41. Esther & Jerry Hicks

74. Jonathan Goldman

9. Ken Wilber

42. Dan Brown

75. Sonia Choquette

10. Rhonda Byrne

43. Z’ev Ben Shimon Halevi

76. Seyyed Hossein Nasr

11. James Redfield

44. Diana Cooper

77. Mother Meera

12. Neale Donald Walsch

45. Ram Dass

78. Barefoot Doctor

13. Doreen Virtue

46. Andrew Weil

79. Richard Bandler

14. Alejandro Jodorowsky

47. Satya Narayan Goenka

80. Robert Bly

15. Richard Bach

48. Jon Kabat-Zinn

81. Adyashanti

16. Alex Grey

49. Alan Moore

82. Sogyal Rinpoche

17. Byron Katie

50. Dan Millman

83. Li Hongzhi

18. Masaru Emoto

51. Bruce Lipton

84. Sri Bhagavan

19. Nelson Mandela

52. Peter Kingsley

85. Rupert Sheldrake

20. Bernie Siegel

53. Karen Armstrong

86. John & Caitlín Matthews

21. Caroline Myss

54. Judy Hall

87. Chogyal Namkhai Norbu

22. Brian Weiss

55. Colin Wilson

88. Kenneth Grant*

23. Mantak Chia

56. Joscelyn Godwin

89. Stanislav Grof

24. John Gray

57. James Lovelock

90. James Hillman

25. Gregg Braden

58. Satish Kumar

91. Clarissa Pinkola Estés

26. Stephen R. Covey

59. Shakti Gawain

92. Stephen Levine

27. Marianne Williamson

60. Elaine Pagels

93. Candace Pert

28. Desmond Tutu

61. Kyozan Joshu Sasaki

94. Barbara Ann Brennan

29. Mata Amritanandamayi

62. Gary Zukav

95. Coleman Barks

30. Philip Berg

63. Erich von Däniken

96. Robert Thurman

31. Ervin Laszlo

64. David Deida

97. B.K.S Iyengar

32. Andrew Harvey

65. Oberto Airaudi ‘Falcon’

98. William Bloom

33. Don Miguel Ruiz

66. Stuart Wilde

99. Lynne McTaggart

(for full details read the 100 List in the Watkins Review #26)

100. Marion Woodman

http://www.watkinsbooks.com/review/watkins-spiritual-100-list

 
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“I wish I knew then what I know now.”

 

 

When we look back on the past – whether just yesterday or many years ago, sometimes we think, “I wish I knew then what I know now.” 

To help find peace of mind in the present, try working with that wish in your journaling practice. Go back to that previous time for a dialog with your younger self. Say all the things you wish you had heard at the time. The process is likely to turn up greater understanding than you expected, with insights into your present life as well as healthy perspectives on past events.

In your journal, write a letter to your past self, following these steps.

1. Take several minutes to make a mental picture of a time in your past that was stressful. Why was this period so challenging for you and exactly how did you feel? What kind of support would have helped you cope better? Are there mistakes you wish you could go back and redo? Are there decisions you made at the time that you still stand by?

2. Then spend a couple minutes making a mental list of what you have learned since that difficult time. If you could sit with your younger self and share an important piece of advice, what would it be?

3. On a fresh page in your journal, start a letter to yourself. Include as many details as you can remember of your life at that time. Be as empathetic as you can be towards your former self: be respectful of the feelings you had and understanding of the decisions you made.

4. Then give some advice to your younger self. What can your present self offer that might have helped you at that time? Say whatever you think would have been a wake-up call for you then. Be gentle, blunt, or funny; be kind but firm.

5. Before putting your pen down, be sure your letter includes a statement of love and forgiveness for your earlier self. Be sincere and generous, and reassure your past persona that you will be okay. After all, you survived and made it to today!

When you’re done writing, consider for a moment whether the advice you just shared might be relevant to any current issues in your life. What do you think your future self would say to you now?

 

 

By: Mari McCarthy

 

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Posted by on October 18, 2012 in WISDOM

 

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I WANT TO CLEAR UP A FEW MISCONCEPTIONS!

I WANT TO CLEAR UP A FEW MISCONSEPTIONS!

There is misconception that many of us have. This fallacy is that we will become massively successful in our work, relationships and life in general if we pray or meditate hard enough. Some of us think that we can find success in books or peace of mind when we attend seminars. Then there are those that think that working long hours will assist them to make tons of money so they would ultimately become a manager or director in the company. We crave success in all areas of our lives. We want acknowledgement and recognition. We want our partner or fellow team members to respect us. We want to live an affluent life where we own our own palace and drive a fancy expensive car. In short we want security, predictability and recognition. We want all the above, but many fall short of these dreams and goals and gradually slip into a painful and fairly mediocre lifestyle. You might ask – What is causing most people to start life with tyres burning the tar on the highway of life only to slow down to a crawl later? I will attempt to give you the background below.

 

The main reason why many slow down to a crawl or finally grind to a standstill is their lack of confidence and drive. Many take a few hits early in life and often fail to recover. Many also allow their own perceptions of reality to smother their potential. We have so many dreams and fantasies when we are young. We believe that we can become president, a stinking rich author or a fire fighter, but soon discover that we often fall short of our own expectations and dreams in the arena of life. We begin to measure ourselves against the opinion that our teachers, family and friends have of us. We participate in athletics at school and come stone last. We get an “F” in some of the subjects that we are expected to study as school. We notice that there are many of our fellow students that are faster, stronger and better students than us. Our original dreams, goals and desires gradually fade into nothingness.

 

We soon while still very young develop perceptions about many things. Many of these perceptions that we form about life and ourselves are negative, warped and devoid of “truth”. It is our collective perception base that soon controls our lives and dictates to us who we are. These perceptions soon become our self-image and self-esteem. Our self-image and self-esteem becomes the filter in our lives that we use to observe life through. We begin to live and perform according to this mould in our heads. This is the invisible force that holds us at ransom, usually until the day we expire. We need to break this mould if we want to achieve the original hopes and dreams mentioned above.

 

Willpower

 

We all have a very potent system that governs how we react to life and how we address life with all its whims and surprises. The problem we have is that we apply our energy according to this perception base mentioned earlier. We automatically act and react to stimuli that we detect via our five senses. We thus do, say and act on things without thinking. We sustain the stuff we fear in this manner. We attempt to control things, people and events according to our collective perception base. This is the reason why so many of us lack courage, self-esteem and confidence. We never call time out for a moment and question our belief structure.

 

We do not apply our willpower in a constructive and positive manner. We in fact allow our perceptions to override our willpower. Many of us become spineless in our actions and reactions and allow the winds of life to blow us around like leafs. Brave individuals are not abnormal when they display courage. They also experience fear, worry and anxiety, but they understand that these emotions come from their perception base and might have nothing to do with the task at hand. They delay their actions or reaction fed to them by their perception software long enough so they can make an informed decision. Please read this again. You cannot grow, develop and achieve your hopes and dream or achieve a different outcome in your relationships or for that matter anything else until you stop duplicating your standard reactions patterns. You must take your power back. It must do the job that it is suppose to do. Your willpower must validate WHAT IS and investigate if your old historical perceptions and reactions will get the job done. You cannot imitate a photo copy machine and duplicate your previous days, weeks, months and even years and expect different outcomes.

 

How do you do this?

 

You learn to pause and first carefully investigate what you currently have in front of you. What you are faced with today might be light years removed from the old recipe that you used historically. You need to “pause” before you act or react. Do nothing and say nothing until you fully understand “what is” you are confronted with.

 

You will discover that you will suddenly become much more assertive, wise and brave. You will soon no longer be poisoned by your historical perceptions. It is more often than not, not what you are confronted with that discourage or floor you. It is the emotions, feelings and fears in your perception data base that is causing the flood of negative and destructive chemical that your brain release into your system. Your control centre automatically acts on the stimuli received from your perception data base because your “willpower” fell asleep at the job.

 

Try pausing for a while before you act and react and notice how much better you feel about yourself. You must use your willpower to your advantage. You must and can do amazing things when you take your power back. You will walk tall and never cringe in the face of adversity. You need to set goals and then use your willpower to achieve those goals. Your perception base might attempt to discourage you and force you back to the old way of doing things. All I am saying is that you need to honestly often ask yourself the following question. When you discover that you again become lazy, lethargic and passive ask yourself, “How is this working for me?” Stop using the old and outdate recipes and find something new. Nothing is going to change my friend. You are the one that must enforce changes in your life.

 

Rene

 
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Book review – 101 Relationship myths – By my friend Tim Ray – Read first 30 pages!

 

 

 

In his new book “101 Relationship Myths”, Tim takes a closer look at the insanity of modern-day relationships and challenges many of our common delusions and myths about love. And to help us through the maze of conflicting thoughts and emotions surrounding love and relationships, he offers us his simple “mythbusting” techniques, which can help us increase our self-awareness and avoid some of the misguided ideas that make so many of us unhappy in our relationships today.

  

To read the first 30 pages of the book for free, click here.

 

Tim and Barbara

 

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Book Review – 101 Relationship Myths! By my friend Tim Ray

 

 

Dear friends,

 

We’re so excited to tell you that Tim’s groundbreaking book – “101 Relationship Myths – How to Stop them from Sabotaging Your Happiness” – has just been released in English by Findhorn Press in the UK and US. We are thrilled to share this news with you because we are sure that all our friends around the world are going to love this straight-talking, humorous guide to couple relationships.

 

In the book, Tim takes a closer look at the insanity of modern-day relationships and challenges many of our common delusions and myths about love. And to help us through the maze of conflicting thoughts and emotions surrounding love and relationships, he offers us his simple “mythbusting” techniques which can help us increase our self-awareness and avoid some of the misguided ideas that make so many of us unhappy in our relationships today.

 

From our experience with the Danish edition of the book here in Denmark, we know you are going to really get a kick out of chapters such as Stay Far Away from Women in Their 30s, Your Partner Isn’t a Mind Reader, Can a Relationship Only Work if You Compromise?, Does Strong Sexual Attraction Mean You’re a Good Match?, and Is It Better to Be in a Relationship Than to Be Single?

 

So in short: We’re happy and delighted to present you with a great book from Tim, which is guaranteed to provide greater clarity and contentment between any two people. A book, which offers provocative—and much-needed—social commentary in a humorous fashion.

 

Look forward to a great read!

 

To read the first 30 pages of the book for free, click here.

 
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Posted by on April 16, 2012 in WISDOM

 

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The day you grasp this extremely important lesson is the day that you wake up to you full potential.

 

 

I am now going to share with you something that very few authors shared with their readers before. Many of the so-called gurus and world renown speakers that wrote a lot more books than me fail to share the ultimate tool with their readers and audiences. It can be ignorance or a lack of insight that cause this oversight or it can even be that they want their readers and audiences to remain reliant on them because it is good for business. Look at the graph of the inner and outer or perfect self before you continue reading my prescription. You will notice that you have the perfect self at your core that is in turn layered by you false (imposter) self. You were pure perfect self at birth. Look at the characteristics that you were programmed with. Now look at the outer layer that envelope your perfect self and study the various characteristics depicted in this layer. You are an extension of God on your arrival, but get exposed to those that either out of habit or fear feels that you need to be domesticated so you can one day like them fit into society. You are conditioned by these enthusiastic programmers with a pain and pleasure method. When you acted as prescribed you were praised and when you fell short of their requirements you were punished physically or mentally. You gradually concluded that you are this defective false self that daily fall short of the hundred and one rules and regulations that they hammered into you. It did not take them long to get you to forget who you are and where you came from. Try as you may you continuously fell short of the requirements. Read the characteristics again and you will see with what flawed perceptions you were left to take on the world. It is impossible for you to improve the false self or the imposter. The imposter cannot become the perfect self. You can read your holy book and pray until you wear out your knees my friend. You can go to the so-called gurus that claim that they can miraculously transform the soiled and defective false self daily. You might for relative short periods experience an improvement, but will discover that the old false self program will kick in the moment you stop fighting and praying. I am going to state this again. You cannot transform or modify the false self. The false self is not alive like the true self and connected to God. The false self is like a virus that infiltrated your computer. It cannot perform at the level of the perfect self. All it can do is to disrupt all your good intentions with its poison when triggered. The solution is thus not to try and improve your false self or the false self of anybody else. You are attempting the impossible if you sustain this fallacy. Disappointment and guilt will follow you around like a stray dog for as long as you live. You also do not need a savior my friend. Your real self is already an extension of God and the false self with its pathetic history is nothing more than defective software. Your biggest day since your birth is the day that you grasp what I am sharing with you here. The day you grasp this extremely important lesson is the day that you wake up to you full potential.

 

Rene

 

 
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We must also stop writing fantasy plays in our head about people and places. Our biggest disappointments come from people that fail to act according to the scrip we wrote for them.

 

 

 

An interviewer once asked me what I would select as the most self-sabotaging thing people do. I never really gave this question much thought, but responded in the following manner.

 

I am convinced that the “mind reading” habit that most people develop must be close to the top of our self-sabotaging hit parade. I explained that we have no clue what is going on in anyone’s head. We speculate, guess and randomly make up stories what we think depict what others are thinking at any given moment in time. We think we know what our partner, friends, children, the bank manager, our neighbor, our dog, cat and canary THINK and then act or react on our conclusions as if it’s the truth. We think we know what a person is thinking while we drive to work. We think we know what is going on in politicians’ heads. We think we know and understand what our sport stars and celebrities are thinking. Most of our problems that we face daily can be traced to this fallacy. The sooner we understand that we actually have no clue what is going on in anyone’s head the quicker we will get rid of this habit of jumping to conclusions.

 

We read a story in a newspaper and think that we are now well informed. We see an advert on TV and think we now have a good idea about of product or service. We look at the news or read someone’s blog and think we know what there is to know about the owner. It is imperative to discover that nothing and nobody is what we see superficially. Everything and everyone is made up of many layers. We see selectively because our “filter system” (belief structure) blocks important data from reaching our objective and rational mind. People in turn only show us the layers of their personality that they think would create the best impression. Can you see that you are more often than not flying blind with your filtered detection system and the many un-revealed layers of everyone or everything else. Nothing my friend is as it seem. It will thus be most beneficial if you live your life one moment at a time. We must also stop writing fantasy plays in our head about people and places. Our biggest disappointments come from people that fail to act according to the scrip we wrote for them. Dare to enjoy the moment, but remain vigilant because nothing that you see or experience can be deemed as real and sustainable. All you have is what you have in front of you right now. Deal with it and stop speculating or making up stories that might be based on fantasies or myths.

 

Rene

 

 

 
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