The question that we need to answer is, “Who is really in charge of our life and our world?”

Who really have the say and authority in your life (world)? Who is and have been creating your life experiences since early childhood up to now? Many of us have been playing the role of a victim for so many years that we are unable to recall who allocated this (victim) role to us. The question that we need to answer is, “Who is really in charge of our life and our world?” It is important to remember that everyone is a creator in his/her own right. Everyone is thus the ruler of their own world and circumstances. It is vital to understand that it is unacceptable to allow anyone to impose his/her ideas, will and creations on to us and our world. This is how we become the slave of those that enforce their will (scripts) on us and take over our domain.

 Rene

 

Our mode of thinking either charge or drain our body’s battery.

Very few of us understand that we have an electric current that drives the many systems in our body and mind. Our mode of thinking either charge or drain our body’s battery. Positive and realistic thinking charge our battery while negative, destructive thinking about the future or the past drain our battery at an alarming rate.

We are charging or discharging other people’s batteries. We charge their batteries when we have a healthy, compassionate and supportive relationship with them and discharge their batteries if we find fault or criticize them. People either leave you feeling drained or invigorated after interacting with you. The same also holds true with those that come into your space. They either parasite on your energy and suck out huge chunks of energy leaving you drained and depleted or they leave you feeling more upbeat and inspired.

This might be a wonderful opportunity to check your own power status. There might be something or someone that is draining your energy that must be disconnected from your energy supply. It is impossible to perform at your best if your battery is low or depleted. I found that the biggest cause of battery depletion is our own self-talk and our tendency to live our lives on a reactive basis. Procrastination is another battery killer. A do it now attitude tend to quickly recharge your battery and self-esteem.

Find time to meditate for about 20 minutes a day. You will be astounded how daily meditation pumps in fresh new energy in record time when you stop your mind from flooding you with its endless speculations about everything. Become aware of how many stories we make up about people, situations, challenges and events long before we have enough data to make informed decisions.

We charge our cell phones when we notice that its battery is low. We want to make sure that it will operate well when needed. The time has come for you to check your own battery on a regular basis as well. Your battery status indicator is your feelings and emotions. Your battery is low when you feel negative, defeated, overworked, angry, depressed, anxious and frustrated. It is important to stop for a re-charge when you experience any of the above. Nothing is going to magically charge your battery until you make an objective decision to alter your current mode of operation.

Let us look at how we can use (charge) what we learned about the energy source that governs almost everything we do daily and how we often (drain) energy from our partner in our relationships.

RELATIONSHIP

DRAIN – PARTNER’S ENERGY – fault finding, criticizing, talking down to partner, anger, jealousy, attempt to control, communicate parent to child, suspicious, always right, cling to partner, question, need reassurance often, amplify mistakes, demand respect, look for problems and not solutions, unforgiving, forgive- but will not forget, often remind partner of past mistakes, insist partner must always be honest – but cannot cope with such honesty, sulk, silent treatment, judge, arrogant and belittle.

CHARGE – PARTNER’S ENERGY – flexible, adaptable, tolerant, understanding, comforting, compassionate, promote, praise, supportive, aware, loving, kind, forgive and forget, ask – don’t insist, open to change, do not expect perfection, listen, communicate adult to adult, poise, confident, don’t need partner to reassure him/her all the time, own passions – hobbies – project – no need to be entertained all the time, earn respect, inspire, talk about problems – don’t turn disputes into a win at all cost affairs, do the unexpected, allow honesty even if it is a sensitive matter, responsible, dignity, warm and a soft place to land for partner when he/she is taking strain. 

Rene