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How man has been reduced to entities that live in tiny boxes.

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You should by now understand that each one of us has a unique RESISTANCE bubble or energy field that encase us like a glove. Many of us live and die within the perimeters of our RESISTANCE zone. The biggest percentage of us is so dedicated to maintain our zone of RESISTANCE that we hardly ever venture outside its perimeters. We sometimes during moments of courage pull up the heavy draw bridge of our fortress of RESISTANCE and venture into the unknown. Our visits to the unknown zone are usually fleeting. We rush back to the safety of our walls the moment we run into anyone that criticize,  question or confront us with stuff that fail to match the blueprints in our perception archive. There comes a time when we feel that we must find a partner. We are then forced to venture out of our fortress. We begin our search for a suitable partner by matching the potential partner’s RESISTANCE against our own. We do our best to avoid bringing in a partner that might cause us discomfort. We reason that it will be very beneficial if we select a partner that closely matches the frequency of our own RESISTANCE level. That is why a partner with the same religious, political or race perceptions etc. is selected. We also know that there will be a gradual merging of the RESISTANCE levels of the partners. We try our level best to find a partner that will preferably enhance our own convictions and strengthen our RESISTANCE objectives. Our fear of the unknown immediately limits the number of potential partners that we have to choose from. When we find someone that we think will be a suitable partner we propose marriage. We then go through the prescribed rituals and gradually become a collective cluster of RESISTANCE. We then when appropriate procreate and begin to produce children. The children arrive in this dimension with no perceptions and no fears. They are free mentally. They are little spiritual bundles of joy that love unconditionally. Both partners soon realize that it is imperative that this new arrival are domesticated and taught how to become an acceptable member of the society that they live in. Can you see how the process of enslavement happened to you as well? This is how the never ending cycle of entrapment is sustained.

 

Look around you today and see how man has been reduced to entities that live in tiny boxes. Look at the endless rows of dwellings that go on for as far as the eye can see. Inside each of the dwellings (boxes) are living beings with hopes and dreams that are more often than not too afraid to attempt anything that might rock the boat or cause discomfort. We vigorously RESIST anything or anyone that dare to trespass into our space. We create the impression that we are happy and successful from behind our picket or barbed wired security fences. I will continue with this series tomorrow.

Rene

 

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Posted by on November 8, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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Have you noticed how man has been reduced to entities that live in tiny boxes?

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You should by now understand that each one of us has a unique RESISTANCE bubble or energy field that encase us like a glove. Many of us live and die within the perimeters of our RESISTANCE zone. The biggest percentage of us is so dedicated to maintain our zone of RESISTANCE that we hardly ever venture outside its perimeters. We sometimes during moments of courage pull up the heavy draw bridge of our fortress of RESISTANCE and venture into the unknown. Our visits to the unknown zone are usually fleeting. We rush back to the safety of our walls the moment we run into anyone that criticize,  question or confront us with stuff that fail to match the blueprints in our perception archive. There comes a time when we feel that we must find a partner. We are then forced to venture out of our fortress. We begin our search for a suitable partner by matching the potential partner’s RESISTANCE against our own. We do our best to avoid bringing in a partner that might cause us discomfort. We reason that it will be very beneficial if we select a partner that closely matches the frequency of our own RESISTANCE level. That is why a partner with the same religious, political or race perceptions etc. is selected. We also know that there will be a gradual merging of the RESISTANCE levels of the partners. We try our level best to find a partner that will preferably enhance our own convictions and strengthen our RESISTANCE objectives. Our fear of the unknown immediately limits the number of potential partners that we have to choose from. When we find someone that we think will be a suitable partner we propose marriage. We then go through the prescribed rituals and gradually become a collective cluster of RESISTANCE. We then when appropriate procreate and begin to produce children. The children arrive in this dimension with no perceptions and no fears. They are free mentally. They are little spiritual bundles of joy that love unconditionally. Both partners soon realize that it is imperative that this new arrival are domesticated and taught how to become an acceptable member of the society that they live in. Can you see how the process of enslavement happened to you as well? This is how the never ending cycle of entrapment is sustained.

 

Look around you today and see how man has been reduced to entities that live in tiny boxes. Look at the endless rows of dwellings that go on for as far as the eye can see. Inside each of the dwellings (boxes) are living beings with hopes and dreams that are more often than not too afraid to attempt anything that might rock the boat or cause discomfort. We vigorously RESIST anything or anyone that dare to trespass into our space. We create the impression that we are happy and successful from behind our picket or barbed wired security fences. I will continue with this series tomorrow.

Rene

 

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Posted by on June 30, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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Look around you and see how man has been reduced to entities that live in tiny boxes.

a story behind each window

    

You should by now understand that each one of us has a unique RESISTANCE bubble or energy field that encase us like a glove. Many of us live and die within the perimeters of our RESISTANCE zone. The biggest percentage of us is so dedicated to maintain our zone of RESISTANCE that we hardly ever venture outside its perimeters. We sometimes during moments of courage pull up the heavy draw bridge of our fortress of RESISTANCE and venture into the unknown. Our visits to the unknown zone are usually fleeting. We rush back to the safety of our walls the moment we run into anyone that criticize,  question or confront us with stuff that fail to match the blueprints in our perception archive. There comes a time when we feel that we must find a partner. We are then forced to venture out of our fortress. We begin our search for a suitable partner by matching the potential partner’s RESISTANCE against our own. We do our best to avoid bringing in a partner that might cause us discomfort. We reason that it will be very beneficial if we select a partner that closely matches the frequency of our own RESISTANCE level. That is why a partner with the same religious, political or race perceptions etc. is selected. We also know that there will be a gradual merging of the RESISTANCE levels of the partners. We try our level best to find a partner that will preferably enhance our own convictions and strengthen our RESISTANCE objectives. Our fear of the unknown immediately limits the number of potential partners that we have to choose from. When we find someone that we think will be a suitable partner we propose marriage. We then go through the prescribed rituals and gradually become a collective cluster of RESISTANCE. We then when appropriate procreate and begin to produce children. The children arrive in this dimension with no perceptions and no fears. They are free mentally. They are little spiritual bundles of joy that love unconditionally. Both partners soon realize that it is imperative that this new arrival are domesticated and taught how to become an acceptable member of the society that they live in. Can you see how the process of enslavement happened to you as well? This is how the never ending cycle of entrapment is sustained.

 

Look around you today and see how man has been reduced to entities that live in tiny boxes. Look at the endless rows of dwellings that go on for as far as the eye can see. Inside each of the dwellings (boxes) are living beings with hopes and dreams that are more often than not too afraid to attempt anything that might rock the boat or cause discomfort. We vigorously RESIST anything or anyone that dare to trespass into our space. We create the impression that we are happy and successful from behind our picket or barbed wired security fences. I will continue with this series tomorrow.

Rene

 

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Posted by on May 31, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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Slowly mentally repeat – FU*K FEAR – the next time you need to confront someone in a so-called power position!


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Posted by on April 21, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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Can you see how the process of enslavement happened to you? This is how the never ending cycle of entrapment is sustained.

a story behind each window

    

You should by now understand that each one of us has a unique RESISTANCE bubble or energy field that encase us like a glove. Many of us live and die within the perimeters of our RESISTANCE zone. The biggest percentage of us is so dedicated to maintain our zone of RESISTANCE that we hardly ever venture outside its perimeters. We sometimes during moments of courage pull up the heavy draw bridge of our fortress of RESISTANCE and venture into the unknown. Our visits to the unknown zone are usually fleeting. We rush back to the safety of our walls the moment we run into anyone that criticize,  question or confront us with stuff that fail to match the blueprints in our perception archive. There comes a time when we feel that we must find a partner. We are then forced to venture out of our fortress. We begin our search for a suitable partner by matching the potential partner’s RESISTANCE against our own. We do our best to avoid bringing in a partner that might cause us discomfort. We reason that it will be very beneficial if we select a partner that closely matches the frequency of our own RESISTANCE level. That is why a partner with the same religious, political or race perceptions etc. is selected. We also know that there will be a gradual merging of the RESISTANCE levels of the partners. We try our level best to find a partner that will preferably enhance our own convictions and strengthen our RESISTANCE objectives. Our fear of the unknown immediately limits the number of potential partners that we have to choose from. When we find someone that we think will be a suitable partner we propose marriage. We then go through the prescribed rituals and gradually become a collective cluster of RESISTANCE. We then when appropriate procreate and begin to produce children. The children arrive in this dimension with no perceptions and no fears. They are free mentally. They are little spiritual bundles of joy that love unconditionally. Both partners soon realize that it is imperative that this new arrival are domesticated and taught how to become an acceptable member of the society that they live in. Can you see how the process of enslavement happened to you as well? This is how the never ending cycle of entrapment is sustained.

 

Look around you today and see how man has been reduced to entities that live in tiny boxes. Look at the endless rows of dwellings that go on for as far as the eye can see. Inside each of the dwellings (boxes) are living beings with hopes and dreams that are more often than not too afraid to attempt anything that might rock the boat or cause discomfort. We vigorously RESIST anything or anyone that dare to trespass into our space. We create the impression that we are happy and successful from behind our picket or barbed wired security fences. I will continue with this series tomorrow.

Rene

 

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Posted by on December 13, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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Slowly repeat – FUCK FEAR – the next time you dodge something/someone that you need to confront in a so-called power position!


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Posted by on June 28, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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Look around you today and see how man has been reduced to entities that live in tiny boxes.

 

a story behind each window

 

    

You should by now understand that each one of us has a unique RESISTANCE bubble or energy field that encase us like a glove. Many of us live and die within the perimeters of our RESISTANCE zone. The biggest percentage of us is so dedicated to maintain our zone of RESISTANCE that we hardly ever venture outside its perimeters. We sometimes during moments of courage pull up the heavy draw bridge of our fortress of RESISTANCE and venture into the unknown. Our visits to the unknown zone are usually fleeting. We rush back to the safety of our walls the moment we run into anyone that criticize,  question or confront us with stuff that fail to match the blueprints in our perception archive. There comes a time when we feel that we must find a partner. We are then forced to venture out of our fortress. We begin our search for a suitable partner by matching the potential partner’s RESISTANCE against our own. We do our best to avoid bringing in a partner that might cause us discomfort. We reason that it will be very beneficial if we select a partner that closely matches the frequency of our own RESISTANCE level. That is why a partner with the same religious, political or race perceptions etc. is selected. We also know that there will be a gradual merging of the RESISTANCE levels of the partners. We try our level best to find a partner that will preferably enhance our own convictions and strengthen our RESISTANCE objectives. Our fear of the unknown immediately limits the number of potential partners that we have to choose from. When we find someone that we think will be a suitable partner we propose marriage. We then go through the prescribed rituals and gradually become a collective cluster of RESISTANCE. We then when appropriate procreate and begin to produce children. The children arrive in this dimension with no perceptions and no fears. They are free mentally. They are little spiritual bundles of joy that love unconditionally. Both partners soon realize that it is imperative that this new arrival are domesticated and taught how to become an acceptable member of the society that they live in. Can you see how the process of enslavement happened to you as well? This is how the never ending cycle of entrapment is sustained.

 

Look around you today and see how man has been reduced to entities that live in tiny boxes. Look at the endless rows of dwellings that go on for as far as the eye can see. Inside each of the dwellings (boxes) are living beings with hopes and dreams that are more often than not too afraid to attempt anything that might rock the boat or cause discomfort. We vigorously RESIST anything or anyone that dare to trespass into our space. We create the impression that we are happy and successful from behind our picket or barbed wired security fences. I will continue with this series tomorrow.

Rene

 

 

 
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Posted by on June 20, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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Face Your Problems Head On

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If you can really understand this, then the seed of that radical revolution has already been planted. Change comes into being when there is no fear, when there is neither the experiencer nor the experience; it is only then that there is the revolution which is beyond time. But that cannot be as long as I am trying to change the ‘I’, as long as I am trying to change what is into something else. I am the result of all the social and the spiritual compulsions, persuasions, and all the conditioning based on acquisitiveness -my thinking is based on that. To be free from that conditioning, from that acquisitiveness, I say to myself, ‘I must not be acquisitive; I must practice nonacquisitiveness.’ But such action is still within the field of time, it is still the activity of the mind. Just see that. Don’t say, ‘How am I to get to that state when I am nonacquisitive?’ That is not important. It is not important to be nonacquisitive; what is important is to understand that the mind which is trying to get away from one state to another is still functioning within the field of time, and therefore there is no revolution, there is no change. If you can really understand this, then the seed of that radical revolution has already been planted and that will operate: you have not a thing to do.

 
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Posted by on March 17, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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Look around you and see how man was gradually reduced to entities that live in tiny boxes.

a story behind each window

    

Each one of us have a unique RESISTANCE bubble or energy field that encase us like a glove. Many of us live and die within the perimeters of our RESISTANCE zone. The biggest percentage of us is so dedicated to maintain our zone of RESISTANCE that we hardly ever venture outside its perimeters. We sometimes during moments of courage pull up the heavy draw bridge of our fortress of RESISTANCE and venture into the unknown. Our visits to the unknown zone are usually fleeting. We rush back to the safety of our walls the moment we run into anyone that criticize,  question or confront us with stuff that fail to match the blueprints in our perception archive. There comes a time when we feel that we must find a partner. We are then forced to venture out of our fortress. We begin our search for a suitable partner by matching the potential partner’s RESISTANCE against our own. We do our best to avoid bringing in a partner that might cause us discomfort. We reason that it will be very beneficial if we select a partner that closely matches the frequency of our own RESISTANCE level. That is why a partner with the same religious, political or race perceptions etc. is selected. We also know that there will be a gradual merging of the RESISTANCE levels of the partners. We try our level best to find a partner that will preferably enhance our own convictions and strengthen our RESISTANCE objectives. Our fear of the unknown immediately limits the number of potential partners that we have to choose from. When we find someone that we think will be a suitable partner we propose marriage. We then go through the prescribed rituals and gradually become a collective cluster of RESISTANCE. We then when appropriate procreate and begin to produce children. The children arrive in this dimension with no perceptions and no fears. They are free mentally. They are little spiritual bundles of joy that love unconditionally. Both partners soon realize that it is imperative that this new arrival are domesticated and taught how to become an acceptable member of the society that they live in. Can you see how the process of enslavement happened to you as well? This is how the never ending cycle of entrapment is sustained.

 

Look around you and see how man was gradually reduced to entities that live in tiny boxes. Look at the endless rows of dwellings that go on for as far as the eye can see. Inside each of the dwellings (boxes) are living beings with hopes and dreams that are more often than not too afraid to attempt anything that might rock the boat or cause discomfort. We vigorously RESIST anything or anyone that dare to trespass into our space. We create the impression that we are happy and successful from behind our picket or barbed wired security fences. I will continue with this series tomorrow.

Rene

 

 
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Posted by on February 25, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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Once you accepted the worst that can happen your life will take on a new meaning.

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WORDS OF WISDOM FOR TODAY

You may ask, “What must I do when I am confronted with severe adversity and problems that seem insurmountable? What must I do when I tried my level best and I still failed miserably? We are often faced with circumstances that we have had very little control over. The biggest mistake that you can ever make is to immediately jump to the conclusion that you are punished by God because of something that you did somewhere in the past. It is also not that shady character Satan that is targeting you in an attempt to test if you are ready to join his team.

We are convinced from early childhood that we are usually responsible for the setbacks and failures that cross our path. I have interviewed women that have been brutally raped on their way from work that feel that it is some kind of sick test from God to see if they are still “heaven” material. You might feel that it is impossible that people in this day and age still think that way, but many do.

You will only learn to manage failure and setbacks if you accept that life is simply a process of cause and effect. There is no mystical force at work my friend. The key to problem and failure management is fairly simple. What happened to you might be real and very painful, but how you respond to such failure will decide the outcome of such setback.

I know it is difficult when your pain and disappointment is real to understand that you still hold the key to your recovery. You almost always have a choice. You can fall apart and play the role of a victim to perfection or you can decide that you are not going to allow this painful failure or problem to get you down permanently.

Please note that I do not claim that it will be easy, but want you to understand that you hold the key to recovery in your hands. You will shorten your recovery time tremendously if you can muster up the courage to get up when knocked down and come out fighting.

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LET US GET REAL AND FACE REALITY

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Sit down right now and make a list of all your problems, setbacks and failures that you feel is preventing you from being the success you know you can be. Make sure that your list is as comprehensive as possible.

Once you have your list, I want you to do the following. I want you to go through your list and see if you can identify the things that you feel is totally out of your control and that you can do very little about in the foreseeable future. Mark them with a ® in front of them. The ® is used to remind you of reality thinking. If you know that you will not be able to raise the million Rand you need to save your business, mark this problem with an ® and immediately stop bullshitting yourself that a fairy might drop in during the night and leave a cool million Rand next to your bed. The sooner you accept the inevitable that the problems and setbacks marked with ® is currently “unsolvable” the quicker you will come to term with the potential consequences. Rather face reality and focus on things that you can do something about than unrealistically clinging to fantasies.

Once you have illuminated the factual reality stuff you can begin to do something constructive about the rest of the items on your list. There is no purpose or logic in living in a fantasy zone. Once you have accepted the worst that can happen and you get busy with things that you can do something about your life will take on a new meaning. You can cry and feel sorry for yourselves all you like. You can continue to speculate what you or someone else could or should have done deep into the night, but when you wake up tired and depleted the next morning reality will still be there staring you in the face. When you accept, the inevitable it will bring closure to incomplete cycles and usually activate a wonderful feeling or relief in your heart and soul. Learn to face reality so you can spend more time doing something constructive about things that you have control over.

Rene

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Posted by on February 24, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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Look around you today and see how man has been reduced to entities that live in tiny boxes.

 

 

a story behind each window

 

    

You should by now understand that each one of us has a unique RESISTANCE bubble or energy field that encase us like a glove. Many of us live and die within the perimeters of our RESISTANCE zone. The biggest percentage of us is so dedicated to maintain our zone of RESISTANCE that we hardly ever venture outside its perimeters. We sometimes during moments of courage pull up the heavy draw bridge of our fortress of RESISTANCE and venture into the unknown. Our visits to the unknown zone are usually fleeting. We rush back to the safety of our walls the moment we run into anyone that criticize,  question or confront us with stuff that fail to match the blueprints in our perception archive. There comes a time when we feel that we must find a partner. We are then forced to venture out of our fortress. We begin our search for a suitable partner by matching the potential partner’s RESISTANCE against our own. We do our best to avoid bringing in a partner that might cause us discomfort. We reason that it will be very beneficial if we select a partner that closely matches the frequency of our own RESISTANCE level. That is why a partner with the same religious, political or race perceptions etc. is selected. We also know that there will be a gradual merging of the RESISTANCE levels of the partners. We try our level best to find a partner that will preferably enhance our own convictions and strengthen our RESISTANCE objectives. Our fear of the unknown immediately limits the number of potential partners that we have to choose from. When we find someone that we think will be a suitable partner we propose marriage. We then go through the prescribed rituals and gradually become a collective cluster of RESISTANCE. We then when appropriate procreate and begin to produce children. The children arrive in this dimension with no perceptions and no fears. They are free mentally. They are little spiritual bundles of joy that love unconditionally. Both partners soon realize that it is imperative that this new arrival are domesticated and taught how to become an acceptable member of the society that they live in. Can you see how the process of enslavement happened to you as well? This is how the never ending cycle of entrapment is sustained.

 

Look around you today and see how man has been reduced to entities that live in tiny boxes. Look at the endless rows of dwellings that go on for as far as the eye can see. Inside each of the dwellings (boxes) are living beings with hopes and dreams that are more often than not too afraid to attempt anything that might rock the boat or cause discomfort. We vigorously RESIST anything or anyone that dare to trespass into our space. We create the impression that we are happy and successful from behind our picket or barbed wired security fences. I will continue with this series tomorrow.

Rene

 

 

 
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Posted by on December 4, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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We always find fresh excuses to cover up our inability to rectify the real CAUSES behind the SYMPTOMS that rob us of our HAPPINESS and SUCCESS.

We make the same MISTAKES and REPEAT the same old RITUALS endlessly. We buy self-help books, attend seminars, listen to gurus, go to church, read the Bible and other holy books, but end up REPEATING the same old poor CHOICES and face the same old PAINFUL outcomes. The main reason why we get stuck in these deadly REPEAT PERFORMANCES can be traced to our laziness, ignorance or often stubbornness to CONFRONT the CORE CAUSES of our problems. We doctor the SYMPTOMS and IGNORE the CAUSES that provide the fuel to the FIRE that burn away our potential to be HAPPY, HEALTHY and SATISFIED. New hope flares up like a brush fire when we read something wise or when we listen to something motivational. This injection of ENTHUSIASM never last long and always fade away again like the mist in the rays of the morning sun. We always find fresh excuses to cover up our inability to rectify the real CAUSES behind the SYMPTOMS that rob us of our HAPPINESS and SUCCESS.

Rene

 
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Posted by on December 1, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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Learn to face reality so you can spend more time doing something constructive about things that you have control over.

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WORDS OF WISDOM FOR TODAY

You may ask, “What must I do when I am confronted with severe adversity and problems that seem insurmountable? What must I do when I tried my level best and I still failed miserably? We are often faced with circumstances that we have had very little control over. The biggest mistake that you can ever make is to immediately jump to the conclusion that you are punished by God because of something that you did somewhere in the past. It is also not that shady character Satan that is targeting you in an attempt to test if you are ready to join his team.

We are convinced from early childhood that we are usually responsible for the setbacks and failures that cross our path. I have interviewed women that have been brutally raped on their way from work that feel that it is some kind of sick test from God to see if they are still “heaven” material. You might feel that it is impossible that people in this day and age still think that way, but many do.

You will only learn to manage failure and setbacks if you accept that life is simply a process of cause and effect. There is no mystical force at work my friend. The key to problem and failure management is fairly simple. What happened to you might be real and very painful, but how you respond to such failure will decide the outcome of such setback.

I know it is difficult when your pain and disappointment is real to understand that you still hold the key to your recovery. You almost always have a choice. You can fall apart and play the role of a victim to perfection or you can decide that you are not going to allow this painful failure or problem to get you down permanently.

Please note that I do not claim that it will be easy, but want you to understand that you hold the key to recovery in your hands. You will shorten your recovery time tremendously if you can muster up the courage to get up when knocked down and come out fighting.

LET US GET REAL AND FACE REALITY

 
Sit down right now and make a list of all your problems, setbacks and failures that you feel is preventing you from being the success you know you can be. Make sure that your list is as comprehensive as possible.

Once you have your list, I want you to do the following. I want you to go through your list and see if you can identify the things that you feel is totally out of your control and that you can do very little about in the foreseeable future. Mark them with a ® in front of them. The ® is used to remind you of reality thinking. If you know that you will not be able to raise the million Rand you need to save your business, mark this problem with an ® and immediately stop bullshitting yourself that a fairy might drop in during the night and leave a cool million Rand next to your bed. The sooner you accept the inevitable that the problems and setbacks marked with ® is currently “unsolvable” the quicker you will come to term with the potential consequences. Rather face reality and focus on things that you can do something about than unrealistically clinging to fantasies.

Once you have illuminated the factual reality stuff you can begin to do something constructive about the rest of the items on your list. There is no purpose or logic in living in a fantasy zone. Once you have accepted the worst that can happen and you get busy with things that you can do something about your life will take on a new meaning. You can cry and feel sorry for yourselves all you like. You can continue to speculate what you or someone else could or should have done deep into the night, but when you wake up tired and depleted the next morning reality will still be there staring you in the face. When you accept, the inevitable it will bring closure to incomplete cycles and usually activate a wonderful feeling or relief in your heart and soul. Learn to face reality so you can spend more time doing something constructive about things that you have control over.

Rene

 
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Posted by on November 28, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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Most problems lose their potency when we expose them to scrutiny.

I concluded a long time ago that there is one major flaw that is mostly responsible for the demise of relationships, businesses and even empires. This deadly virus that infests and kills initiative is non-action. Many of us tend to go into a paralysed non-action frame of mind when we are confronted with problems or projects that pose perceived insurmountable challenges. I grew up in nature and often watched how a frog or bird seems hypnotised when they come face to face with a snake. They often have ample time to evade becoming a meal, but just sit there. We often do the same when we are confronted with challenges. We also just sit there and hope that the problem or challenge will go away. Adopting an action orientated frame of mind is imperative in the game of life. Waiting, hoping and praying that things will get better is just not good enough. The solution to most problems is action. The moment you take deliberate action you create momentum. I am not promoting random, run around panic action, but simple deliberate “one step at a time” action. The first thing that you need to do is to “accept what is”. Many of us live in denial and don’t want to accept or admit that we are in deep shit. We cannot take decisive action if we deny that we have a huge hole in our boat that need urgent fixing. The fairies will not mystically come while you sleep and wait and fix the problem. I have seen many executives that seemingly have a magnetic backside that glue them to their chairs. Their factory is burning or the financial vultures are circling their business ready to attack and remove while they wait and hope that a miracle will rescue them. Things are never as hopeless as they seem. The biggest proportion of the challenges we face can be overcome and often even sidestepped if we take positive and decisive action. Logical action is only possible the moment we fully understand what we are faced. Most problems lose their potency when we expose them to scrutiny. The more quality information we have the easier it becomes to take decisive action.

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Posted by on November 26, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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We always find fresh excuses to cover up our inability to rectify the real CAUSES behind the SYMPTOMS that rob us of our HAPPINESS and SUCCESS.

We make the same MISTAKES and REPEAT the same old RITUALS endlessly. We buy self-help books, attend seminars, listen to gurus, go to church, read the Bible and other holy books, but end up REPEATING the same old poor CHOICES and face the same old PAINFUL outcomes. The main reason why we get stuck in these deadly REPEAT PERFORMANCES can be traced to our laziness, ignorance or often stubbornness to CONFRONT the CORE CAUSES of our problems. We doctor the SYMPTOMS and IGNORE the CAUSES that provide the fuel to the FIRE that burn away our potential to be HAPPY, HEALTHY and SATISFIED. New hope flares up like a brush fire when we read something wise or when we listen to something motivational. This injection of ENTHUSIASM never last long and always fade away again like the mist in the rays of the morning sun. We always find fresh excuses to cover up our inability to rectify the real CAUSES behind the SYMPTOMS that rob us of our HAPPINESS and SUCCESS.

Rene

 
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Posted by on October 26, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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You can continue to speculate what you or someone else could or should have done deep into the night, but when you wake up tired and depleted the next morning reality will still be there staring you in the face.

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WORDS OF WISDOM FOR TODAY

You may ask, “What must I do when I am confronted with severe adversity and problems that seem insurmountable? What must I do when I tried my level best and I still failed miserably? We are often faced with circumstances that we have had very little control over. The biggest mistake that you can ever make is to immediately jump to the conclusion that you are punished by God because of something that you did somewhere in the past. It is also not that shady character Satan that is targeting you in an attempt to test if you are ready to join his team.

We are convinced from early childhood that we are usually responsible for the setbacks and failures that cross our path. I have interviewed women that have been brutally raped on their way from work that feel that it is some kind of sick test from God to see if they are still “heaven” material. You might feel that it is impossible that people in this day and age still think that way, but many do.

You will only learn to manage failure and setbacks if you accept that life is simply a process of cause and effect. There is no mystical force at work my friend. The key to problem and failure management is fairly simple. What happened to you might be real and very painful, but how you respond to such failure will decide the outcome of such setback.

I know it is difficult when your pain and disappointment is real to understand that you still hold the key to your recovery. You almost always have a choice. You can fall apart and play the role of a victim to perfection or you can decide that you are not going to allow this painful failure or problem to get you down permanently.

Please note that I do not claim that it will be easy, but want you to understand that you hold the key to recovery in your hands. You will shorten your recovery time tremendously if you can muster up the courage to get up when knocked down and come out fighting.

LET US GET REAL AND FACE REALITY

 
Sit down right now and make a list of all your problems, setbacks and failures that you feel is preventing you from being the success you know you can be. Make sure that your list is as comprehensive as possible.

Once you have your list, I want you to do the following. I want you to go through your list and see if you can identify the things that you feel is totally out of your control and that you can do very little about in the foreseeable future. Mark them with a ® in front of them. The ® is used to remind you of reality thinking. If you know that you will not be able to raise the million Rand you need to save your business, mark this problem with an ® and immediately stop bullshitting yourself that a fairy might drop in during the night and leave a cool million Rand next to your bed. The sooner you accept the inevitable that the problems and setbacks marked with ® is currently “unsolvable” the quicker you will come to term with the potential consequences. Rather face reality and focus on things that you can do something about than unrealistically clinging to fantasies.

Once you have illuminated the factual reality stuff you can begin to do something constructive about the rest of the items on your list. There is no purpose or logic in living in a fantasy zone. Once you have accepted the worst that can happen and you get busy with things that you can do something about your life will take on a new meaning. You can cry and feel sorry for yourselves all you like. You can continue to speculate what you or someone else could or should have done deep into the night, but when you wake up tired and depleted the next morning reality will still be there staring you in the face. When you accept, the inevitable it will bring closure to incomplete cycles and usually activate a wonderful feeling or relief in your heart and soul. Learn to face reality so you can spend more time doing something constructive about things that you have control over.

Rene

 
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Posted by on August 14, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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The collective overall feelings we hold about ourselves become who we think we are.

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I studied the bearded face of the elderly man that sat next to me on the plane out of the corner of my eye for a moment. I hoped that he would not be the talkative type you sometimes get on trips like this that attempt to start up an endless conversation in an attempt to hide their fear of flying. I was on my way to conduct a seminar. I have been doing motivational and inspirational seminars on a wide range of subjects for longer than I care to remember, but could not shake the feeling that I am unprepared that cloaked me like a dark shadow since I let home early that morning. I tried to put this feeling out of my head several times, but found that it bounced back at regular intervals on my way to the airport.

 

The man with the grey beard turned slightly in the limited space of the seat, pushed his huge hand towards me and said, “My name in John”. I automatically lifted my hand from the arm rest, shook his hand and informed him that my name is Rene. “So what do you do for a living?” he said with his deep gravelly voice. I experienced a fleeting moment of frustration before I told him that I run a training school and that I am on my way to give a lecture on responds and reaction patterns to substantial group of executives that are attending a seminar. “I am giving the final speech before they disperse back to their individual provinces”, I said and hoped that he would allow me to do some more preparation. I opened my briefcase and took out a note pad in an attempt to indicate to him in a polite manner that the conversation was over. He smile with a smile that lit up his deep blue eyes and said, “I once gave a lecture on the same subject many moons ago.” This comment grabbed my attention. I immediately probed him on the content of the lecture he gave.

 

This is what John told me about reaction patterns.

 

He first posed a question that also formed the foundation of what he told me on this important subject matter. He asked, “Why do we react/act the way we do when we are confronted with anything or anyone that solicit a responds from us?” He did not wait for my answer and continued. We act and react on any stimuli that come in via our five senses the way we have been programmed since early childhood. We have a software package in our heads that contain many millions of responds clips stored in our sub-conscious minds. Embedded in these clips are all the images and all the feelings that were frozen together since its initial download. Most of us automatically respond to the incoming request spontaneously.

 

He stopped for a moment to check if I am still with him. He then continued and said something that was so profound that it blew me away. He explained that we have been running our lives since early childhood on “our feelings” and not on facts or reality. We have been forced by society and everyone else (teachers, brothers, sisters, preachers etc.) to act and react in a specific manner when any of our buttons are pushed. He clarified his statement and explaining that it is our feelings that govern all our choices and decisions. We respond with feelings of fear, pain, anger and anxiety when anything happens that could according to our conditioning cause us discomfort, loss, pain or embarrassment. We on the other hand respond with enthusiasm, joy, delight and friendliness when the incoming data match the “canned” and approved perceptions and beliefs that we hold on any given thing or event. We are thus controlled by our feelings and accepted norms every moment of our lives. It is our feelings that decide our fate and future. It is our feelings that decide our success or failures in our relationships or even in the work we do. It is our feelings that decide if we will become rich or end up begging for a living. Our collective feelings about ourselves tell us if we are worthy. The collective and overall feelings we hold about ourselves become who we think we are. It is impossible for most of us to react and respond from a different feeling base than those dictated by our conditioning. It is this invisible map that controls all areas of our lives. We early in life begin to follow this “pain or pleasure” feeling map and often sustain our pattern until we expire. You will find that only those that are brave enough to question and overcome their fears evolve and grow to their full potential.

 

John, suddenly stopped his lecture, took out a magazine from the magazine holder at the back of the seat in front of him and said, “I am sure you know all I said, but it was good to share some of this stuff with you.

 

It was later that afternoon that I fully realised the valuable information John shared with me. I walked up to the podium and opened my lecture with the following question, “What is the ultimate steering mechanism that decides your fate and future?”

 

Rene

 
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Posted by on July 31, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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We make the same MISTAKES and REPEAT the same old RITUALS endlessly.

The main reason why we get stuck in REPEAT PERFORMANCES can be traced to our laziness, ignorance or often stubbornness to CONFRONT the CORE CAUSES of our problems.

We make the same MISTAKES and REPEAT the same old RITUALS endlessly. We buy self-help books, attend seminars, listen to gurus, go to church, read the Bible and other holy books, but end up REPEATING the same old poor CHOICES and face the same old PAINFUL outcomes. The main reason why we get stuck in these deadly REPEAT PERFORMANCES can be traced to our laziness, ignorance or often stubbornness to CONFRONT the CORE CAUSES of our problems. We doctor the SYMPTOMS and IGNORE the CAUSES that provide the fuel to the FIRE that burn away our potential to be HAPPY, HEALTHY and SATISFIED. New hope flares up like a brush fire when we read something wise or when we listen to something motivational. This injection of ENTHUSIASM never last long and always fade away again like the mist in the rays of the morning sun. We always find fresh excuses to cover up our inability to rectify the real CAUSES of behind the SYMPTOMS that rob us of our HAPPINESS and SUCCESS.

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Posted by on July 26, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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You can be brave/confident when you start living in the moment and handle each moment on its own merit.

There is no other characteristic that can provide you with more power and progress than a positive frame of mind and confidence. I am not talking about ego based confidence here. Ego based confidence is nothing more than role playing. Ego based illusions of confidence usually spring a leak when confronted with a serious obstacle. Confidence is an invisible force that supports you and guides you when the shadows of fear cling to you like old stale smoke. Confidence is something deep inside you that allow you to confront any person or situation in a calm and mature manner notwithstanding a strong desire to run for the hills.

When they construct a building they introduce tons and tons of steel into the concrete structure that will support the building when completed. Confidence is something stronger than steel. It is embedded deep inside and assists you to look adversity in the eye while you remain calm and rational.

I used the word rational because a careful search for the reason why many of us lack confidence is that we do not remain rational when we are faced with challenges and obstacles. We allow our minds to manufacture monster movies in our heads that predict horrific outcomes should the perceived threats that we are confronted with gain the upper hand. We see and experience ourselves in a pain producing, helpless and vulnerable state. Our hearts beat like a drum while our subconscious minds send out waves of urgent messages that recommend that we leave the area urgently.

The above reaction is a standard reaction and is described as the “fight or flight” responds. The above describe the flight reaction. Our subconscious mind might on the other hand select a different coping option and instruct you to fight like a wounded tiger. Both these reactions are more often than not irrational and based on a “jump to conclusions” mode of thinking. It is usually nothing more than a cocktail of chemicals dumped into our system. Our ancestors found that they were forced to act decisively when confronted by a tiger or a dinosaur. They were forced to either run like the wind or fight for their lives. We are still stuck with the same mechanism. We still today apply the “fight or flight” mode of operation when we feel threatened. The problem we are faced with is that the world changed and most of our reactions are no longer based on this old and outdated reality.

How can we override these “automatic reaction patterns”?

We must stop living our lives on a reactive basis. We must stop “jumping to conclusions”. We must detach, even if it is for a few seconds from the strong desire to slip into the “fight or flight” mode. How can we take decisive and rational action before we assessed the current perceived threat? This article is about confidence. You can only become confident when you know what you are dealing with. You need to ask questions and gather as much information as you can before you take action. The biggest percentage of the threats that you are confronted with is not even close to the rubbish that your sub-conscious mind dish up for you daily. The reactions you feel is nothing more than a false alarm caused by the pre-programmed reactions that ensured survival to your ancestors. The key is thus not to do or say the first thing that comes to mind. Compose yourself and gather quality information before you take action. You might feel that a confident person will fight the perceived threat or run like the wind. I can assure you that you just learned a top secret used by the real confident individuals and heroes that you admire. Let us look at a few of the other secrets that brave individuals mastered.

Ask the golden question – “What is the worst that can happen?”

Fear of the unknown drain huge volumes of energy out of your system. Most of us want to live in a predictable world. The sooner you understand that life is not fair and will never be predictable the quicker you will master the art of rock solid confidence. Acceptance of the worst case scenario will immediately reduce your stress and anxiety. I am suggesting a true and realistic evaluation of the perceived threat at hand. You must stop wasting valuable energy on a phantom outcome that might never reach maturity. You must take action on the stuff that you have control over and manage the elements that you have less control over. You must accept “what is” and then take decisive action.

Make your own movie that show how you overcome and succeed.

I explained earlier that your sub-conscious mind produce horror movies when you are faced with a perceived challenge. You can use this same powerful method, but produce a movie where you are the hero that slaughter the dragon and gallop away into the sunset, successful and victorious. Your mind does not know the difference between an actual event and something vividly imagined. That is why you act and react the way you do when your sub-conscious mind dish up one of its horror movies for you. Visualise, as often as you can how you manage and overcome the problem or adversity. What you see is what you get. You will find that this method will give you confidence and all the energy you need to stand up to anything that life might throw at you.

You must accept “what is” if you want to be confident and decisive.

The biggest mistake we make is that we fail to accept the reality of the current moment. We leak valuable energy when we play the role of a victim and moan and groan what could or should have been. No progress can be made until we accept what we are dealing with. Accepting the harsh reality of “what is” triggers confidence in most individuals. I have seen many average timid individuals that transformed into confident and decisive problem solvers the moment they accepted reality. They showed leadership abilities that astounded their friends and family. Accepting the worst case scenario and “what is” usually stops us from participating in frantic activities that serves little or no purpose. It might astound you to read that acceptance and non-action is often the way to take control.

Find a role model that inspire you

You will be amazed when you begin to emulate the confident behaviour that you see in individuals that already act and react the way you would like to act in similar circumstances. Take public speaking for example. Most of us fear public speaking and become very tense when we need to address groups. You will find that your confidence get a massive boost when you emulate an outstanding motivational speaker. Become that person for a while when it comes to confidence, but retain your own unique personality.

Use the method – How would I act or react if I knew that I would succeed?

What would you do if you knew before hand that you just cannot fail? I found that the “as if” method is very powerful. You can boost your confidence if you begin to speak, play, act and react “as if” you are outstanding in what you do. Hesitation is a serious deal breaker. Doubt and fear hand your opponents the winning edge. Learn to ask questions. You will be amazed how a question can disarm a person that think he has the upper hand. A simple question like, “What leave you with the impression that your information is correct?” can stun your opponent. Another question like, “Are you sure that the conclusion you made of the matter at hand is factual?” A question that I find extremely powerful is, “How would you feel and deal with this matter if you discovered that you came to the wrong conclusion?” Avoid asking questions that can be answered with a simple “yes” or “no” responds. Can you see how questions, any question can change a meaningless argument into a rational conversation?

Ask yourself – “Why am I making such a big deal out of this thing?”

We tend to amplify things when we have an overdose of adrenaline rushing through our system. We become hyper sensitive and over-react on many occasions. We sometimes explode with rage or feel rejected and defeated when someone defaults on a promise or do something that we think minimised our self-image and self-esteem. I can assure you that the biggest percentage of all perceived threats or obstacles vanishes when you stop pumping negative energy into them. The best and most confident thing you can do on many occasions is to do absolutely nothing. Take note of the matter at hand and then if it is not a matter of life or death put it on hold until you have more information or when it becomes more urgent. Look back and you will see that many of the things that you feared turned out ok for you. You are still functional and did well to date. I in fact found that many of the biggest problems that I faced in my life turned out to be the best thing that could ever have happened to me. I learned valuable lessons and moved on.

You must stop talking to yourself in a negative and destructive manner.

We are constantly talking to ourselves. We must not allow our negative and destructive “inner voice” run our show for us. We are in control and must dictate how things will be done. The “inner voice” that causes you so many problems and constantly warns you of impending danger is nothing more than your ego based software. You allowed this silly voice in your head to take on a persona of its own. You even began to believe that it is who you are. What most of us forget is that the voice in our head is nothing more than a cluster of perceptions that we formed since early childhood. Many of the fears expressed by the voice in our heads are nothing more than a perception that we formed when still a child. We cannot let this inner child dictate how we should live our lives today.

Follow the above tips and you will be astounded how your confidence grows in a relative short period of time. You can be brave and confident when you start living in the moment and handle each moment on its own merit.

Rene

 
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Posted by on July 3, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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We live in an instant gratification world where we want to hit a button and see our desired outcome materialise.

 

 

The enemy and the most destructive force inside all of us is our resistance to anything that might force us to think or take action outside our comfort zone. We have this door that automatically slams shut when anything or anyone expects us to take action for an extended period of time. An extended period can be anything between five minutes and several years. We live in an instant gratification world where we want to hit a button and see our desired outcome materialise. A powerful resistance instantaneously swamp our mind when we are confronted with anything that our current frame of reference identifies as “unknown” or “risky”. Some of us walk or even run away (mentally or physically) from challenges that could cause us discomfort or expect us to confront challenges where the outcomes are difficult to compute. We become like a donkey that digs in his heels. We must often literally be dragged through our wall of resistance by our manager or partner.

 

Please think about the role that RESISTANCE possibly play in your life today. Make a few notes. I will continue with this series tomorrow.

 

Rene

 
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Posted by on February 26, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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We make the same MISTAKES and REPEAT the same old RITUALS endlessly.

 

 

We make the same MISTAKES and REPEAT the same old RITUALS endlessly. We buy self-help books, attend seminars, listen to gurus, go to church, read the Bible and other holy books, but end up REPEATING the same old poor CHOICES and face the same old PAINFUL outcomes. The main reason why we get stuck in these deadly REPEAT PERFORMANCES can be traced to our laziness, ignorance or often stubbornness to CONFRONT the CORE CAUSES of our problems. We doctor the SYMPTOMS and IGNORE the CAUSES that provide the fuel to the FIRE that burn away our potential to be HAPPY, HEALTHY and SATISFIED. New hope flares up like a brush fire when we read something wise or when we listen to something motivational. This injection of ENTHUSIASM never last long and always fade away again like the mist in the rays of the morning sun. We always find fresh excuses to cover up our inability to rectify the real CAUSES of behind the SYMPTOMS that rob us of our HAPPINESS and SUCCESS.

Rene

 

 
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Posted by on December 17, 2012 in WISDOM

 

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What must I do when I tried my level best and I still failed miserably?

 

WORDS OF WISDOM FOR TODAY

You may ask, “What must I do when I am confronted with severe adversity and problems that seem insurmountable? What must I do when I tried my level best and I still failed miserably? We are often faced with circumstances that we have had very little control over. The biggest mistake that you can ever make is to immediately jump to the conclusion that you are punished by God because of something that you did somewhere in the past. It is also not that shady character Satan that is targeting you in an attempt to test if you are ready to join his team.

We are convinced from early childhood that we are usually responsible for the setbacks and failures that cross our path. I have interviewed women that have been brutally raped on their way from work that feel that it is some kind of sick test from God to see if they are still “heaven” material. You might feel that it is impossible that people in this day and age still think that way, but many do.

You will only learn to manage failure and setbacks if you accept that life is simply a process of cause and effect. There is no mystical force at work my friend. The key to problem and failure management is fairly simple. What happened to you might be real and very painful, but how you respond to such failure will decide the outcome of such setback.

I know it is difficult when your pain and disappointment is real to understand that you still hold the key to your recovery. You almost always have a choice. You can fall apart and play the role of a victim to perfection or you can decide that you are not going to allow this painful failure or problem to get you down permanently.

Please note that I do not claim that it will be easy, but want you to understand that you hold the key to recovery in your hands. You will shorten your recovery time tremendously if you can muster up the courage to get up when knocked down and come out fighting.


LET US GET REAL AND FACE REALITY

Sit down right now and make a list of all your problems, setbacks and failures that you feel is preventing you from being the success you know you can be. Make sure that your list is as comprehensive as possible.

Once you have your list, I want you to do the following. I want you to go through your list and see if you can identify the things that you feel is totally out of your control and that you can do very little about in the foreseeable future. Mark them with a ® in front of them. The ® is used to remind you of reality thinking. If you know that you will not be able to raise the million Rand you need to save your business, mark this problem with an ® and immediately stop bullshitting yourself that a fairy might drop in during the night and leave a cool million Rand next to your bed. The sooner you accept the inevitable that the problems and setbacks marked with ® is currently “unsolvable” the quicker you will come to term with the potential consequences. Rather face reality and focus on things that you can do something about than unrealistically clinging to fantasies.

Once you have illuminated the factual reality stuff you can begin to do something constructive about the rest of the items on your list. There is no purpose or logic in living in a fantasy zone. Once you have accepted the worst that can happen and you get busy with things that you can do something about your life will take on a new meaning. You can cry and feel sorry for yourselves all you like. You can continue to speculate what you or someone else could or should have done deep into the night, but when you wake up tired and depleted the next morning reality will still be there staring you in the face. When you accept, the inevitable it will bring closure to incomplete cycles and usually activate a wonderful feeling or relief in your heart and soul. Learn to face reality so you can spend more time doing something constructive about things that you have control over.

 

 

 

Rene

 
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Posted by on November 6, 2012 in WISDOM

 

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Look around you today and see how man has been reduced to entities that live in tiny boxes.

 
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You should by now understand that each one of us has a unique RESISTANCE bubble or energy field that encase us like a glove. Many of us live and die within the perimeters of our RESISTANCE zone. The biggest percentage of us is so dedicated to maintain our zone of RESISTANCE that we hardly ever venture outside its perimeters. We sometimes during moments of courage pull up the heavy draw bridge of our fortress of RESISTANCE and venture into the unknown. Our visits to the unknown zone are usually fleeting. We rush back to the safety of our walls the moment we run into anyone that criticize,  question or confront us with stuff that fail to match the blueprints in our perception archive. There comes a time when we feel that we must find a partner. We are then forced to venture out of our fortress. We begin our search for a suitable partner by matching the potential partner’s RESISTANCE against our own. We do our best to avoid bringing in a partner that might cause us discomfort. We reason that it will be very beneficial if we select a partner that closely matches the frequency of our own RESISTANCE level. That is why a partner with the same religious, political or race perceptions etc. is selected. We also know that there will be a gradual merging of the RESISTANCE levels of the partners. We try our level best to find a partner that will preferably enhance our own convictions and strengthen our RESISTANCE objectives. Our fear of the unknown immediately limits the number of potential partners that we have to choose from. When we find someone that we think will be a suitable partner we propose marriage. We then go through the prescribed rituals and gradually become a collective cluster of RESISTANCE. We then when appropriate procreate and begin to produce children. The children arrive in this dimension with no perceptions and no fears. They are free mentally. They are little spiritual bundles of joy that love unconditionally. Both partners soon realize that it is imperative that this new arrival are domesticated and taught how to become an acceptable member of the society that they live in. Can you see how the process of enslavement happened to you as well? This is how the never ending cycle of entrapment is sustained.

Look around you today and see how man has been reduced to entities that live in tiny boxes. Look at the endless rows of dwellings that go on for as far as the eye can see. Inside each of the dwellings (boxes) are living beings with hopes and dreams that are more often than not too afraid to attempt anything that might rock the boat or cause discomfort. We vigorously RESIST anything or anyone that dare to trespass into our space. We create the impression that we are happy and successful from behind our picket or barbed wired security fences. I will continue with this series tomorrow.

Rene

 

 

 
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Posted by on October 7, 2012 in WISDOM

 

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We make the same MISTAKES and REPEAT the same old RITUALS endlessly.

We make the same MISTAKES and REPEAT the same old RITUALS endlessly. We buy self-help books, attend seminars, listen to gurus, go to church, read the Bible and other holy books, but end up REPEATING the same old poor CHOICES and face the same old PAINFUL outcomes. The main reason why we get stuck in these deadly REPEAT PERFORMANCES can be traced to our laziness, ignorance or often stubbornness to CONFRONT the CORE CAUSES of our problems. We doctor the SYMPTOMS and IGNORE the CAUSES that provide the fuel to the FIRE that burn away our potential to be HAPPY, HEALTHY and SATISFIED. New hope flares up like a brush fire when we read something wise or when we listen to something motivational. This injection of ENTHUSIASM never last long and always fade away again like the mist in the rays of the morning sun. We always find fresh excuses to cover up our inability to rectify the real CAUSES of behind the SYMPTOMS that rob us of our HAPPINESS and SUCCESS.

Rene

 
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Posted by on May 14, 2012 in WISDOM

 

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LISTEN YOUR WAY TO SUCCESS!

IF YOU CONTINUE TO DO THE SAME THING YOU WILL GET THE SAME RESULTS EVERY TIME. IF WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS NOT WORKING OR GIVING YOU THE OUTCOME YOU DESIRE, CHANGE YOUR APPROACH, FOCUS OR PARTNER.


I find it quite astounding how certain people continue to bake the same old cake using the same old defective recipe in the game of life. They hope, pray and yearn for success, but are confronted with repeated disastrous outcomes every time. They try positive thinking and meditate under waterfalls before they bake, but the results remain substandard until the defective recipe is modified or a new one is found. Nothing is going to change until they make a purposeful decision to replace or repair the recipe that they are currently using.

It is often amazing to see a person in love runs into a brick wall time and again in hope that the next contact with the wall will be less painful and bloody. It is sometimes pathetic to see how a tainted lover hopes that his partners will suddenly grow courage, commitment and loyalty between the letdowns and painful contacts with the wall. When you confront such person about his confusing behaviour he often claims that his encounters with the wall are actually a sign of his persistence and bravery. He is often convinced that the love of his life will magically change if he runs into the wall long enough.

What we fail to understand is if the outcome of any of our actions do not bring us our desired outcome then something needs to be changed. A decision needs to be taken to face the reality of the situation. New plans must be made or current plans need to be adjusted. Most of us often hate to face the reality and the cold, hard facts of a situation or person.

If you for example get involved with a partner in business and discover that he or she is a crook or taker you will have to make a choice sooner or later about this relationship. It could be fatal if you avoid making the vital decision to end such relationship. If you hope that the person will suddenly change from a crook to a loyal and fair friend and partner you might need a few intense sessions with a trained psychologist.

The best way to test if your recipe is working is study what you are getting from a specific relationship or action. If you discover that you are always getting a raw deal or walk away the loser you might need to do some serious decision-making.

I WILL CAREFULLY STUDY WHAT I GET FROM MY ACTIONS, FRIENDSHIPS, AND PROJECTS. IF I OFTEN END UP WITH A BAD DEAL I WILL STOP AND RE-EVALUATE MY POSITION OR SITUATION!

You must stop or modify something if you discover that any of your actions makes you feel bad or land you in trouble. It is usually time to make critical decisions if you feel drained, used, abused, fleeced or in pain in any relationship or project that you are busy with. It is peoples’ fear of change or the unknown that cause them to remain on the sinking ship.

I have consulted with an endless number of battered wives that hope and pray that the monster that they are married to will have a change of heart. They hang in and hope that the magic of decades ago will return to their relationship. I can categorically state here today that not one of these abusive monsters ever change permanently. They usual change for days or a few weeks and then carry on where they left off. Just look around you and see if you can count the number of people that really changed from a crook, abuser, opportunist, or loser to an angel of the light on a sustained basis. You might be surprised how few fingers you need of your one hand to count them all.

Individuals with a strong ability to influence understand that if things continually fail to turn out as anticipated some drastic life changing decisions need to be taken.

Rene

 

 
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Posted by on April 3, 2012 in WISDOM

 

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