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Forget the self-help books. No book or person can promise you happiness.

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Forget the self-help books. No book or person can promise you happiness.

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Christmas time is the most likely time of the year to experience depression. We share our love with friends and family, and get lots of gifts. So why aren’t we all joyous? What the hell is going on?

 

Did you ever wonder why people like Elvis Presley and Michael Jackson didn’t fare any better than you or I despite all their money, fame, and access to people of wisdom?

 

The answer lies in your own backyard. Look at the shrubs, tangled with vines, with here and there a sumac jutting out from the maze. Look at the pines pressed against the shingles for want of more sunlight, their roots reaching under the house to the length of 20 feet. In an effort to maintain themselves, I have known willows near the foundation to break into the cellar pipes for want of water.

 

What is a tree, after all, but a trunk with so many roots and leaves bringing food and water to the organism? After billions of years of evolution, it was inevitable that life would acquire the ability to locomote, to hunt and see, to protect itself from competitors. Observe the ants in the woodpile. They can engage in combat just as resolutely as any human. Our guns and ICBMs are merely the jaws of a more clever ant.

 

The goal of life is life. Every impulse and thought is a device developed towards that end. Consider our own species. We hunt and gather, do the dishes, and have sex. By day and night, we are serenaded by the notes of Beethoven modulating over the trump of the bullfrogs and the songs of the mating bird. Even poetry and art reflect our humanity and are impelled by instincts – by forms of fear and powerlessness, of pugnacity and mastery, of association and love.

 

To many creatures there are but a few necessities of life: food, water, shelter. To a bumblebee, these are a few flowers full of nectar. Even humankind is led by these primary drives, although we have invented not only the house and clothing but fire to cook our food. What pains we take during the holidays, with our mincemeat pies and rum cakes. The poor are wont to complain that they have no food for their families, and we devote a great deal of our economy to agriculture and housing.

 

Of course, the effort for self-preservation is vague and varied. There is, for instance, the need for understanding and knowledge to guide our emotions, to tame the beast in our animal nature. What shameless and chaotic lives many of us would live if we were not awakened by better desires from within.

 

Our behavior is motivated by needs and wants. Pleasure and pain consist in the extent to which these desires are satisfied or hindered. “Pleasure” according to Spinoza, one of the greatest philosophers of all time “is man’s transition from a lesser state of perfection to a greater. Pain is man’s transition from a greater state of perfection to a lesser.”

 

Here is a goal – completeness and power – that is wonderfully attractive to us at a time of recession, and when many lack the means to feed and clothe themselves. And when we have found all power, we may not be happier for it. When we have overcome our struggles and have no ambitions and no defeats, what do we do next? Build taller and more splendid houses, weave finer clothing? Where does the power to act come from when desire has been quieted?

 

Have you ever wondered why every TV show, movie, and book has villains? Every writer knows that the good guy has to be threatened somehow, perhaps chased by someone with a gun or an ax. Even Cinderella had an evil stepmother and had to sit in the cinders after she finished her work. Meeting the Prince just wouldn’t have been the same if she had been a spoiled little rich girl.

 

The keenest pleasures are for those who experience the keenest pain.

 

You can’t change the equation of life. And remember, while the world is celebrating the holiday season, if you’re depressed and have the blues it’s just money in the bank. And when your turn comes, spend it on something that you will be proud of.

Robert Lanza, MD worked with (and published a series of scientific papers with) the late Harvard psychologist B.F. Skinner, the father of modern behaviorism. His new book – Biocentrism – lays out his theory of everything.

Link to article in Huffington Pos

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Posted by on March 1, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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Christmas time – Why aren’t we all joyous? What the hell is going on?

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Forget the self-help books. No book or person can promise you happiness.

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Christmas time is the most likely time of the year to experience depression. We share our love with friends and family, and get lots of gifts. So why aren’t we all joyous? What the hell is going on?

 

Did you ever wonder why people like Elvis Presley and Michael Jackson didn’t fare any better than you or I despite all their money, fame, and access to people of wisdom?

 

The answer lies in your own backyard. Look at the shrubs, tangled with vines, with here and there a sumac jutting out from the maze. Look at the pines pressed against the shingles for want of more sunlight, their roots reaching under the house to the length of 20 feet. In an effort to maintain themselves, I have known willows near the foundation to break into the cellar pipes for want of water.

 

What is a tree, after all, but a trunk with so many roots and leaves bringing food and water to the organism? After billions of years of evolution, it was inevitable that life would acquire the ability to locomote, to hunt and see, to protect itself from competitors. Observe the ants in the woodpile. They can engage in combat just as resolutely as any human. Our guns and ICBMs are merely the jaws of a more clever ant.

 

The goal of life is life. Every impulse and thought is a device developed towards that end. Consider our own species. We hunt and gather, do the dishes, and have sex. By day and night, we are serenaded by the notes of Beethoven modulating over the trump of the bullfrogs and the songs of the mating bird. Even poetry and art reflect our humanity and are impelled by instincts – by forms of fear and powerlessness, of pugnacity and mastery, of association and love.

 

To many creatures there are but a few necessities of life: food, water, shelter. To a bumblebee, these are a few flowers full of nectar. Even humankind is led by these primary drives, although we have invented not only the house and clothing but fire to cook our food. What pains we take during the holidays, with our mincemeat pies and rum cakes. The poor are wont to complain that they have no food for their families, and we devote a great deal of our economy to agriculture and housing.

 

Of course, the effort for self-preservation is vague and varied. There is, for instance, the need for understanding and knowledge to guide our emotions, to tame the beast in our animal nature. What shameless and chaotic lives many of us would live if we were not awakened by better desires from within.

 

Our behavior is motivated by needs and wants. Pleasure and pain consist in the extent to which these desires are satisfied or hindered. “Pleasure” according to Spinoza, one of the greatest philosophers of all time “is man’s transition from a lesser state of perfection to a greater. Pain is man’s transition from a greater state of perfection to a lesser.”

 

Here is a goal – completeness and power – that is wonderfully attractive to us at a time of recession, and when many lack the means to feed and clothe themselves. And when we have found all power, we may not be happier for it. When we have overcome our struggles and have no ambitions and no defeats, what do we do next? Build taller and more splendid houses, weave finer clothing? Where does the power to act come from when desire has been quieted?

 

Have you ever wondered why every TV show, movie, and book has villains? Every writer knows that the good guy has to be threatened somehow, perhaps chased by someone with a gun or an ax. Even Cinderella had an evil stepmother and had to sit in the cinders after she finished her work. Meeting the Prince just wouldn’t have been the same if she had been a spoiled little rich girl.

 

The keenest pleasures are for those who experience the keenest pain.

 

You can’t change the equation of life. And remember, while the world is celebrating the holiday season, if you’re depressed and have the blues it’s just money in the bank. And when your turn comes, spend it on something that you will be proud of.

Robert Lanza, MD worked with (and published a series of scientific papers with) the late Harvard psychologist B.F. Skinner, the father of modern behaviorism. His new book – Biocentrism – lays out his theory of everything.

Link to article in Huffington Pos

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Posted by on December 11, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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Sometimes it’s too late to say the thing you meant to say.

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TOO LATE

 

Sometimes it’s too late to say the thing you meant to say – too late to say you are sorry or some kindness to repay. Too late to speak the loving words or lend the helping hand – to show appreciation or to give the gift you planned. Thus we pile up vain regrets that haunt the years ahead – memories of all the things we might have done or said. Save yourself the pain and take each opportunity – of doing all that is in your power for friends and family.

 

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Posted by on October 11, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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I WILL BE THE BEST ME AT ANY GIVEN MOMENT IN TIME.

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TRUE COURAGE IS TO DO WITHOUT WITNESSES EVERYTHING THAT ONE IS CAPABLE OF DOING BEFORE THE ENTIRE WORLD!

La Rochefoucauld

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I have had many friends that found it impossible to stop being the doctor, professor or managing director when they arrive home or came for a visit. The same “management tools” that they used at their offices they continued to use at home and in their private lives. They found it impossible to adjust roles when they arrived home or mixed with friends and family.

They expected their families to “consult” with them. They expected their family or friends to continuously “earn” their love. They never really dropped their pose. I got the feeling that they were afraid that they might not be accepted, respected and loved without their title. They become the piece of paper (certificate) that decorates their wall or the position they held in their offices. Without their title or money they felt invisible and powerless. I can still remember a person that held a virtual celebrity status in the community and how he fell apart when he lost his job and title as “Metropolitan Chief Security Officer”. He deflated like a beach ball that sprung a major leak. His “Mr. Big image disappeared overnight. He changed from a leader to a stuttering insecure follower. He lost his imposing and dominating figure and even looked smaller with his bowed shoulders. It was pathetic to see this person fade away when he lost his uniform and title.

 

It takes real courage to just be you on all occasions. The best doctors do not float around in a God like manner. They are usually warm, kind, empathetic and compassionate people. They are effective and highly professional and only wear masks when they operate. Don’t get me wrong. I do not say that a person that is just himself goes around with a frozen smile on his face all the time. He is also not in a good mood all the time. He is simply a “What you see is what you get.” kind of person.

 

I WILL BE THE BEST ME AT ANY GIVEN MOMENT IN TIME. I WILL NOT “ROLE PLAY” FOR ANYBODY. PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER ME AS A “WHAT YOU SEE IS WHAT YOU GET” PERSON

 

People play very complicated games with each other. Man is the most devious of all creations. They can change shape, loyalty, form and colour like chameleons. They have a mask for most occasions. Most people position themselves so they can get the best deal for themselves possible from every encounter. A fool convinces himself that friends, family and even strangers have their best interest at heart.

 

Life is not a popularity contest. When you start living your life without fear of rejection or loss you gain real power. When you can be you, wherever you go you have reached full maturity. When you meet a person that can be honest without a police officer looking over his shoulder, you have met a person of integrity. When you have a worker that can give you an honest days work without constant supervision you have met a person with integrity. It is easy to say and do the right things when you are in the public eye, but to sustain deliberate and honest action when you are out of the spotlight shows real character. Just be you. If someone does not like who you are it is his or her problem. You can only live a stress free life if you love your fear of failure.

 

Rene

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Posted by on October 11, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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Relationship Failure – Don’t let the break up crush your spirit, and don’t stop loving.

 

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Nobody gets into a relationship expecting the end right away. Men and women who want to love and be loved in return would not in the slightest way have the notion of how the relationship will end. This is the exact reason why the pain can tear you apart once a break up actually happens.

If ever you find yourself in such a situation, your family and friends will surely be there to offer a shoulder to cry on as well as break up advice. Yes, most of their advice will probably be solicited, but what’s important is that the people who matter the most will always love you.

This is one thought you should always keep in mind after your partner decides to leave the relationship. Your ex may have left you to suffer, but that doesn’t mean you’re any less lovable now. Things may not have worked out the way you planned and your ex have other fish to fry, but you still deserve to be loved. Your friends and family can confirm that.

Look for someone you can have a heart-to-heart talk with. Spend a night with your girl friends. Many women find comfort from talking with their moms when they get heartbroken. Don’t hesitate to pour your heart out. You don’t have to be alone in this struggle.

You may feel like you’ve hit rock bottom, but don’t let the pain swallow you whole. If ice cream makes you feel better, go ahead and indulge, but never ever just sit in one corner, eat sweets and cry. Don’t give in to such cravings. Instead, pamper yourself. This is the perfect time to hit the gym, get a facial, etc. You have more time for yourself now. Make the most out of your freedom, and use it to your emotional and physical advantage.

After your ex left, you might feel as though a beloved just died. However, what really died was the relationship. It’s perfectly okay to mourn and grieve at your loss. If it takes crying a river and throwing a fit to release the tension, do so by all means. Throw things around and scream till you lose your voice. That’s a lot better than keeping your emotions bottled up inside. If you keep it all in, you’ll only end up bitter about love and relationships.

Don’t let the break up crush your spirit, and don’t stop loving.

 

 

By: Ezra Sawyer

 

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Posted by on July 24, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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Relationship Failure – Don’t let the break up crush your spirit, and don’t stop loving.

 

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Nobody gets into a relationship expecting the end right away. Men and women who want to love and be loved in return would not in the slightest way have the notion of how the relationship will end. This is the exact reason why the pain can tear you apart once a break up actually happens.

If ever you find yourself in such a situation, your family and friends will surely be there to offer a shoulder to cry on as well as break up advice. Yes, most of their advice will probably be solicited, but what’s important is that the people who matter the most will always love you.

This is one thought you should always keep in mind after your partner decides to leave the relationship. Your ex may have left you to suffer, but that doesn’t mean you’re any less lovable now. Things may not have worked out the way you planned and your ex have other fish to fry, but you still deserve to be loved. Your friends and family can confirm that.

Look for someone you can have a heart-to-heart talk with. Spend a night with your girl friends. Many women find comfort from talking with their moms when they get heartbroken. Don’t hesitate to pour your heart out. You don’t have to be alone in this struggle.

You may feel like you’ve hit rock bottom, but don’t let the pain swallow you whole. If ice cream makes you feel better, go ahead and indulge, but never ever just sit in one corner, eat sweets and cry. Don’t give in to such cravings. Instead, pamper yourself. This is the perfect time to hit the gym, get a facial, etc. You have more time for yourself now. Make the most out of your freedom, and use it to your emotional and physical advantage.

After your ex left, you might feel as though a beloved just died. However, what really died was the relationship. It’s perfectly okay to mourn and grieve at your loss. If it takes crying a river and throwing a fit to release the tension, do so by all means. Throw things around and scream till you lose your voice. That’s a lot better than keeping your emotions bottled up inside. If you keep it all in, you’ll only end up bitter about love and relationships.

Don’t let the break up crush your spirit, and don’t stop loving.

 

 

By: Ezra Sawyer

 

Article Directoryhttp://www.articledashboard.com

 
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Posted by on May 23, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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Man often change shape, loyalty, form and colour like chameleons.

 

TRUE COURAGE IS TO DO WITHOUT WITNESSES EVERYTHING THAT ONE IS CAPABLE OF DOING BEFORE THE ENTIRE WORLD!

La Rochefoucauld

.

I have had many friends that found it impossible to stop being the doctor, professor or managing director when they arrive home or came for a visit. The same “management tools” that they used at their offices they continued to use at home and in their private lives. They found it impossible to adjust roles when they arrived home or mixed with friends and family.

They expected their families to “consult” with them. They expected their family or friends to continuously “earn” their love. They never really dropped their pose. I got the feeling that they were afraid that they might not be accepted, respected and loved without their title. They become the piece of paper (certificate) that decorates their wall or the position they held in their offices. Without their title or money they felt invisible and powerless. I can still remember a person that held a virtual celebrity status in the community and how he fell apart when he lost his job and title as “Metropolitan Chief Security Officer”. He deflated like a beach ball that sprung a major leak. His “Mr. Big image disappeared overnight. He changed from a leader to a stuttering insecure follower. He lost his imposing and dominating figure and even looked smaller with his bowed shoulders. It was pathetic to see this person fade away when he lost his uniform and title.

 

It takes real courage to just be you on all occasions. The best doctors do not float around in a God like manner. They are usually warm, kind, empathetic and compassionate people. They are effective and highly professional and only wear masks when they operate. Don’t get me wrong. I do not say that a person that is just himself goes around with a frozen smile on his face all the time. He is also not in a good mood all the time. He is simply a “What you see is what you get.” kind of person.

 

I WILL BE THE BEST ME AT ANY GIVEN MOMENT IN TIME. I WILL NOT “ROLE PLAY” FOR ANYBODY. PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER ME AS A “WHAT YOU SEE IS WHAT YOU GET” PERSON

 

People play very complicated games with each other. Man is the most devious of all creations. They can change shape, loyalty, form and colour like chameleons. They have a mask for most occasions. Most people position themselves so they can get the best deal for themselves possible from every encounter. A fool convinces himself that friends, family and even strangers have their best interest at heart.

 

Life is not a popularity contest. When you start living your life without fear of rejection or loss you gain real power. When you can be you, wherever you go you have reached full maturity. When you meet a person that can be honest without a police officer looking over his shoulder, you have met a person of integrity. When you have a worker that can give you an honest days work without constant supervision you have met a person with integrity. It is easy to say and do the right things when you are in the public eye, but to sustain deliberate and honest action when you are out of the spotlight shows real character. Just be you. If someone does not like who you are it is his or her problem. You can only live a stress free life if you love your fear of failure.

 

Rene

 
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Posted by on April 24, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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