Power Tool: Keep the following image in mind the next time you feel cheated or devastated about something. You cannot un-fry an egg or change what transpired into what could or should have been according to your expectations. It is vital to accept “WHAT IS” and move on as soon as possible. The best thing to do is to learn from what transpired and then to continue walking forward with bold steps towards you final objective.
Let’s try a little experiment.
Just think how you would feel if you didn’t resist what is, just for a few minutes. And I’m not joking when I make this suggestion. In fact it’s a very interesting experiment. So let’s try it and see how would it feel if we didn’t resist what is, if we simply couldn’t resist the way things are. If we could just for a moment allow things to be exactly the way they are, without fighting them.
If you play around with this idea or mind shift, you will discover that it can be quite liberating.
So please give it a try.
You can start by putting this book down and letting yourself feel this thought, this shift in perspective, for the next couple of minutes. Just say to yourself, “For the next couple of minutes, I’m not going to fight what is. I’m just going to totally let whatever is happening, be. Whatever it is, I’m just going to accept it.” If for example you have a headache or you’re not feeling well, you could say to yourself, “I’m not going to fight the fact that I have a headache and am feeling lousy. I’m not going to resist my headache or what my body is doing at the moment. I’m not going to resist the discomfort I’m feeling and think that there is something wrong with me because I don’t feel as good as I think I should feel. Nor am I going to tell myself a story about what this feeling of discomfort might mean. I’m not going to imagine that I’m coming down with the flu or have a brain tumor. No I’m just going to let it be and accept what’s going on right now. Without having any opinion about it at all.” Please give it a try right now.
When you do this for a couple of minutes, you will probably experience a huge sense of relief almost immediately. No matter how lousy you may be feeling, the moment you accept what is, you will feel everything in you relaxing and falling into place. You will feel peaceful. It’s quite amazing what happens when you shift your focus.
Why? Because the way it is, is the way it is. And this is what is at this very moment. And when you accept what is, you find strangely enough, that all there is left is a feeling of peace, and then you feel happy despite your troubles!
Out of her new Book
ARE YOU HAPPY NOW?