There are places and people that are constantly broadcasting gloom. Avoid exposure to anyone or anything promulgating pessimistic views.

A suggestion is like a seed…once it is thrown onto the soil of your mind, it can grow into a mighty tree; it can even create a forest, with trees bearing nothing but the fruit of that suggestion.

There are places and people that are constantly broadcasting gloom. Avoid exposure to anyone or anything promulgating pessimistic views; for their gloominess can vine onto you and in no time, the tree of pessimism will be rooted, miles deep, into your mind.

A forest cannot grow in unfriendly environments…environments of extreme cold or dryness. Make your mind so consumed with positive emotions, that it will become an unfriendly place for hopelessness to grow.

“Self-suggestion allows you to control what gets planted into your head.”
~Andres Lara

Here is how you can turn your mind into an unfriendly place for dispiritedness and other negative emotions:

1-What To Say: Suggest to yourself out-loud “I’m the best at what I do. I experience abundance everyday. I am a very lucky person. Wealth is attracted to me.” This is called self-suggestion, which is a great tool to plant great thoughts into your mind.

2-How You Say It: Think about the people who have had the most influence on you or society. They were influential because they believed in what they were saying. Say your suggestions with conviction, so they’re felt within the inner most chamber of your mind. It’s how you say it that counts.

3- When to Say It: The fields of your mind are the most fertile or receptive to suggestion when they are plowed…meaning when you are relaxed which is: 1-Right when you wake up because you are rested and untouched by exterior forces 2-Before you fall asleep because your conscious mind lacks the energy to disagree. Use self-suggestions at these times.

4-Limit Negativity: You can avoid strangers, but you cannot completely avoid a negative relative or coworker. Yet you can limit your interactions with them. Most importantly, you can make yourself inaccessible to them during your most receptive times (see #3). Save those times for you to plant some positive seeds with self-suggestions.

5-Picture it while you say it: Since a picture is worth a thousand words, develop a picture of each of those self-suggestions (see #1) inside your head. For instance, picture yourself being the best at what you do. What would others say about you? What kind of pay would you get? Where would you work from? Visualize and say your suggestions simultaneously.

By: Andres Lara – TheCubanGuy – Motivational Speaker

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All the positive emotions are part of love. Fear wears different masks!

According to A Course in Miracles, ¹¹ the Toltec tradition (Ruiz, 1999)¹² and Kryon (1999) ¹³ there are only two emotions: Love and fear. All the positive emotions are part of love. Fear wears different masks such as frustration, resentment, jealousy, anger, hatred and all the other negative emotions. We live in a fear based society and the majority of relationships are governed by fear. This explains why our Planet is in crisis and why we need to get back to our Source. Dyer (2002) states “(l)ove and love alone dissolves all negativity, not by attacking it, but by bathing it in higher frequencies, much as light dissolves darkness by its mere presence.” ¹⁴ Some of the following differences between love and fear have been obtained from the book, The Mastery of Love, authored by Miguel Ruiz (1999). ¹⁵

LOVE	FEAR
1. Love is unconditional and has no obligations. You do something because you want to do it. There are no ulterior motives.	1. Fear involves many obligations, which elicit resentment. You compel yourself to do certain things to avoid pain or rejection or to receive ‘love’.
LOVE	FEAR
2. There is no expectation of a favour being returned.	2. When you do something for the other person there is the expectation that the other person will behave in a certain way or do something for you in return.
3. When you truly love a person nothing can hurt you. There are no attachments to outcomes and therefore, no disappointments.	3. If the other person does not respond according to your expectations, there is a tendency to blame, withdraw, withhold love or punish the other person.
4. Love is based on mutual respect – respect for yourself and for the other party. You do not control or make decisions for the other party. You do not allow people to feel sorry for you, because you respect yourself.	4. When fear rules, you lack respect for yourself and the other person, because fear does not respect anything. Fear results in one person feeling sorry for the other person or controlling and making decisions for the other person. One partner is disempowered and if it is you, and you allow it, then you have no respect for yourself.
5. Love is compassionate, caring and giving. Love is not receiving for the self alone. A person who loves will always receive in order to share.	5 Fear is selfish and devoid of compassion. Fear will receive for the self alone and try to use the other person to satisfy personal needs.
6. Love has sufficient respect for the other party to support, encourage and empower the other person. Love will never abuse or take advantage of the other person.	6. Fear is ruthless and lacks respect. Fear will take advantage, compete with, manipulate and use the other party for personal gain.
LOVE	FEAR
7. Love is responsible and will take full responsibility for its own feelings, thoughts, words and actions. Love selects words appropriately and will never hurt others deliberately.	7. Fear avoids responsibility and will be inclined to name, blame and shame others when things go wrong or do not work out.
8. Love has no obligations or expectations; therefore, love is kind and generous. If you are abused, you are kind to yourself and you get out of the relationship.	8. Fear is unkind, because it is burdened with obligations and expectations. When expectations are not met, fear will victimise, manipulate or punish the other person. Due to fear people allow themselves to be abused.
9. Love is joy and happiness. If you love yourself and the other party, there is only joy. Joy is an inner state of being and if you give love, you will receive love. It is impossible to be sad and miserable if you love unconditionally and if you are loved.	9. Fear wears many masks and a relationship ruled by fear invites insecurity, frustration, guilt, sadness, disappointment, resentment helplessness, anger, shame and depression into the relationship. You feel alone, empty unfulfilled and very unhappy.
10. Love is unconditional and the other party is loved without justification or reason. The other party is loved as he is and no attempts are made to change the other party or to get him to act in a certain manner. Both parties are transparent and they both feel whole and cherished, due to the abundance of love.	10. Fear is conditional and there are expectations that need to be fulfilled – or else the love is withheld. Fear may attempt to change the other party. You cannot be yourself if you are criticised. These conditions elicit resentment and insecurity. In order to avoid punishment, the parties are likely to lie to and deceive each other.
LOVE	FEAR
11. Love is reasonable and fair; if you make a mistake you are confronted with your mistake once. You are not reminded of your mistakes. If you love yourself, you learn from the mistake, forgive yourself and move on with your life without guilt, self-blame or pity.	11. In a fear based relationship you pay for the same mistake more than once. The other party will put you on a guilt-trip or blame you repeatedly for the same mistake. A lack of self-love results in guilt, feelings of inferiority, self-loathing, a victim consciousness and in severe cases self-mutilation and suicidal tendencies.
12. Love is very forgiving. You forgive your partner and you do not allow mistakes from the past to interfere with your relationship.	12. Fear is revengeful and compels you to get back at the other person. Fear is spiteful and blaming. Fear will punish a person for making a mistake.
13. Love is trusting and not possessive or jealous. You give your love abundantly and your partner is free to be himself and to spend time with other people.	13. Fear can be very suspicious, as well as possessive, distrusting and jealous. When you fear that your partner may be disloyal or unfaithful to you, fear could manifest in terms of envy, restrictive, controlling or prescriptive behaviour.
14. Love is joy, laughter, humour and fun. Partners enjoy being together and try to spend as much time as possible in each other’s company. Due to a pleasant psychological climate, the partners feel relaxed and accepted.	14. Fear is stressful, draining, depressing and very lonely. Where fear dominates the partners avoid each other, withdraw, work extended hours or use distractions such as drugs, entertainment or alcohol to numb the pain. They attempt to escape each other’s toxic company.
LOVE	FEAR
15. Love is about giving, being willing to give more than you receive. When you receive, you respond by giving more.	15. Fear is about receiving and score-keeping. Fear does not lose track of how much you invested and how much the other person needs to do or give in return.
16. Love is transparent, open, frank, clear, but very polite and tactful. Love is sharing and high on self-disclosure. Communication is honest and sincere. When not respected, love will be assertive.	16. Fear lacks transparency, has ulterior motives and will act out the victim role, take advantage of or manipulate the other party. Fear can be sarcastic or will put the other party on a guilt trip in order to achieve personal objectives.
17. Love does not involve any contracts, vows or promises. Unconditional love in infinite and unbounded and it feeds only on the spirit of love.	17. Fear is based on vows contracts, and promises. The external conditions and rules that are imposed create more fear. You are in trouble if you deviate from the contract.
18. Love is unassuming, quiet and peaceful. Love has no ego or selfishness. Love is like a light in the darkness; it will attract people and others would want to spend time in the presence of love. Love enhances harmony and balance and brings out the best in other people.	18. Fear creates drama, disharmony, friction and conflict. Fear is selfish and often obsessed with personal needs and self-importance. Fear makes people tense and it can bring out the worst in another person. Fear is darkness and people tend to avoid the ‘heavy’ energy.
19. Love is wise and is wisdom in action. Love is perceptive, sensible, tactful, and compassionate and it exhibits good judgement. Love knows when, where and how to say something.	19. Fear lacks wisdom, good judgement and diplomacy. Fear is egocentric, cruel and will hurt the other party’s feelings in order to attain an objective.
LOVE	FEAR
20. Love has no ego, love is unselfish and wants to share and serve. When you truly love and you receive, you receive to share.	20. Fear is all about ego and ego is the antithesis of love. The ego is about taking/ receiving and creating a fear scenario. The ego is about receiving for the self alone.
21. Love in action results in happiness, a sense of well-being, fulfillment and joy.	21. Fear in action results in loneliness, a feeling of emptiness, sadness, despair, powerlessness, depression and disease.
22. On a subatomic level love vibrates at a very high frequency. On a biochemical level it has a positive impact on the immune system; other people are energised when they spend time in the presence of love.	22. On a subatomic level fear vibrates at a low level. On a biochemical level it impacts negatively on the immune system and if you spend time in the presence of fear, it drains your energy.

There are two reasons why we are afraid to love. The first reason is because we do not fully accept ourselves and the second reason is our fear of rejection. The main obstacle is our feeling of being unworthy and the notion that we are not lovable. If you function from an ego level, you will never feel that you are good enough. This is why we need to operate from a soul level. According to Miguel Ruiz (1999), the Toltecs were masters of love and he alleges: “The only way to master love is to practise love. You do not need to justify your love, you do not need to explain your love; you just need to practise your love. Practice creates the master.” ¹⁶