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The next time you fly off the handle remember. Only fools start acting out the first routine that comes to mind

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Give yourself time to scan all incoming data. You can cause yourself and partner serious discomfort if you for example have a hair-trigger on jealousy. You can destroy a wonderful relationship if you have a hair-trigger on your impatience. You can flush your career down the toilet if you have a hair-trigger on your anger or jump to conclusions. Stop automatic reactions when triggered if you want to change your life. Learn to buy time and to delay your decisions until you have gathered enough data to make an informed decision. The next time you fly off the handle remember that only fools start acting out the first routine that comes to mind

Rene

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Posted by on March 13, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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Most of us AUTOMATICALLY slip into our reaction patterns and our SELF-ESTEEMS start dominating all our actions/reaction.

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The ROOT CAUSE of most of our PROBLEMS and FRUSTRATIONS can be traced to an INADEQUATE SELF-IMAGE and SELF-ESTEEM. Our feelings of inadequacy stem from FEELINGS and IMAGES that we stored in our heads when we were five, six or seven years old. We formed perceptions about ourselves at this young age. These feelings and images have been around since then. These FEELINGS, EMOTIONS and IMAGES still govern everything you do, say or the way you interpret what other say or do. They say that the average person use less than 5% of his/her potential. It stands to reason that it is very difficult to confront PROBLEMS or PERFORM above average when your using the SELF-IMAGE and SELF-ESTEEM of a child of six to drive your GOALS and DREAMS or attempt to SOLVE PROBLEMS. Can you think what disorder you would create if you assigned fairly mundane project to a six year old? We learned and gain in experience and cope to some extent with our day-today activities, but run into problems when these day-to-day activities trigger our feelings and emotions. Most of us AUTOMATICALLY slip into our reaction patterns and our SELF-ESTEEMS start dominating all our actions and reaction. We react with ANGER, EMOTIONAL OUTBURSTS. We apportion BLAME, become JEALOUS or SULK when things don’t go our way. You may feel that it is impossible, but ponder what I shared above and you will soon agree that many of the INADEQUACIES programmed into our heads are still ACTIVE and CONTROL many of our thoughts, feelings, decisions and responses.

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Posted by on February 7, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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The CHOICES you made YESTERDAY grew into what you are FACED with TODAY.

Very few people grasp that they are a POWERFUL MAGNET that day and night ATTRACT events, people, pain, pleasure, love, problems or solution into their SPACE. How you FEEL at any given moment indicates and reveals the QUALITY of the stuff that you are currently ATTRACTING. Your FEELINGS are your barometer that displays the quality of your current THOUGHTS, ACTION and REACTIONS. Things, people and event do not simply APPEAR or DISAPPEAR in or out of your LIFE. The CHOICES you made YESTERDAY grew into what you are FACED with TODAY. The LAW or CAUSE AND EFFECT is a natural law that regulate the quality of your LIFE. 

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Posted by on February 6, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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Decisions not made today become tomorrow’s problems and disputes.

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Decisions not made today become tomorrow’s problems and disputes. When you ignore any problem, it is provided with time to germinate and grow.

Develop a “do it now” attitude if you want to make progress with anything. Procrastination is at the root of most failures. What are you waiting for? The weather or circumstances will never be perfect. While you wait opportunities will pass you by and your minor problems will gain serious momentum.

Develop a do it now attitude and you will be successful. Procrastination is the main reason why people fail. They wait, hope and dream, but never push the go button. It is like a space shuttle on the launch pad. Only when the “go” button is pushed will the giant engines activate and pull the massive ship into orbit. If the go button is not pushed you will find the shuttle still in the same position decades later, all rusted and ready for the garbage heap. Most dreams and aspirations end up on the garbage heap of life as well.
 

Difficulties and problems are usually forerunners to growth and success periods. The fool gets stuck in the danger zone while the wise man rides the tide and usually emerges stronger and wiser on the other side.
 

Disconnect from people that enjoy making you look stupid or that take advantage of you. Nobody has the right to minimize your stature or self-perception. You are a champion in your own right. You can never tolerate any activity that is designed to degrade you.
 

Display true compassion, warmth and understanding if you want to penetrate the defences of someone. You might be pushing someone away with your cold and calculating style. Compassion draws people to you while a lack of compassion sends them into hiding.
 

Do everything in moderation. Even the most powerful horse becomes weary if worked too hard. Make a good thing even better by knowing when to stop. Begin to work in powerful spurts. Stop trying to sustain pressure all the time. There is a time to sustain pressure and then there is a time to let go and relax. Wisdom is to know when to go for gold and when to relax.
 

Do not allow friendliness to deceive you. Friendliness is often a good camouflage used to set you up for failure. Enjoy true friendliness, but validate each event on its own merits.
 

Do not allow other people’s opinions to cloud your better judgement. Most people attempt to influence you to do what is best for them.
 

Do not allow your current defeated status to prevent you to become who you know you can be. You are not your history and can at any time and at any age make a fresh new start. Nothing that happened in the past can have any hold on your “now” without your permission. It is not important how many times you have been knocked down, but the number of times you got up that counts in the end.

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Posted by on December 24, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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The ROOT CAUSE of most of our PROBLEMS and FRUSTRATIONS can be traced to an INADEQUATE SELF-IMAGE and SELF-ESTEEM.

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The ROOT CAUSE of most of our PROBLEMS and FRUSTRATIONS can be traced to an INADEQUATE SELF-IMAGE and SELF-ESTEEM. Our feelings of inadequacy stem from FEELINGS and IMAGES that we stored in our heads when we were five, six or seven years old. We formed perceptions about ourselves at this young age. These feelings and images have been around since then. These FEELINGS, EMOTIONS and IMAGES still govern everything you do, say or the way you interpret what other say or do. They say that the average person use less than 5% of his/her potential. It stands to reason that it is very difficult to confront PROBLEMS or PERFORM above average when your using the SELF-IMAGE and SELF-ESTEEM of a child of six to drive your GOALS and DREAMS or attempt to SOLVE PROBLEMS. Can you think what disorder you would create if you assigned fairly mundane project to a six year old? We learned and gain in experience and cope to some extent with our day-today activities, but run into problems when these day-to-day activities trigger our feelings and emotions. Most of us AUTOMATICALLY slip into our reaction patterns and our SELF-ESTEEMS start dominating all our actions and reaction. We react with ANGER, EMOTIONAL OUTBURSTS. We apportion BLAME, become JEALOUS or SULK when things don’t go our way. You may feel that it is impossible, but ponder what I shared above and you will soon agree that many of the INADEQUACIES programmed into our heads are still ACTIVE and CONTROL many of our thoughts, feelings, decisions and responses.

Rene

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Posted by on December 9, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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Things are never quite as bad as we think.

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"Seek out those who are in the process of blossoming, people who've got something to teach you.

Let me explain, imagine that switch operates your levels of self confidence, which, in turn affects your self image… now somebody or something or maybe just a set of circumstances turns that switch down , bang… down you go , down goes your self confidence and with it goes your self esteem…

 Then on another occasion again something else occurs , and suddenly you are way up there in the clouds!… again you cannot quite grasp what is triggering these extremes of lows and highs – leaving you feeling helpless in the fight to control your mood swings…

Because you are experiencing feelings of helplessness due to not being in control (something has hold of your switch) this ends up in a spiral…. down into the depths of despair… trying to overcome negative thoughts and fighting to throw that switch the other way seems at the moment a bridge too far … makes sense ?

Things are never quite as bad as we think, there are now lots of solutions out there to help you overcome these problems, many new strategies which once followed will help you fight whatever problems are affecting your life… and put you right back in charge – just where you should be!

Finding ways to pinpoint whatever de-motivates you and affects your self confidence is the first step.

Taking this first step is like saying to yourself “I now recognize that whatever problems I have need sorting out – I have to get a handle on it .. I could do with a little help”

Don’t forget also that when we are fighting our inner demons on a daily basis we often completely forget that it affects not just ourselves, but everyone around us – loved ones included.

So, OK, our new road to self discovery is not going to be easy but rest assured, there is help out there, if you want it , but why wouldn’t you?

There are so many “people” out there. Experts (that’s what they call themselves) who are willing to assist. It can be downright confusing to say the least. It can leave you feeling pretty low just trying to decide what to do!

Let me tell you that now you’ve decided to take some action towards giving yourself what you really deserve your self esteem will rocket and so will your self confidence!

With the right help and guidance (don’t fall into the trap of feeling weak, because you are asking for a “leg up” because this is your first massive step. Don’t fight it, be proud!) You will take control… Get your own hand back on that dimmer switch – the right people will assist you and help you fight to overcome the ups and downs.

 

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Posted by on September 24, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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“Why do this always happen to me?”

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There are many of us that find it difficult to grasp why virtually everything we do often turn to mud. I know friends that can write elaborate books on their experiences with failed ventures or a range of never ending projects that always ended up a disaster. Their initial enthusiasm with a new venture, relationship or experience almost always rapidly fades like the mist in the morning sun. They can corner you and explain to you for hours how life is out to get them. You can see from their facial expressions and hear from their tone of voice that they are well versed in the “I am a victim” roles that they play like mediocre actors in a low budget movie. When you go around with a spirit of RESISTANCE you operate on a frequency level that draw in a stream of problems and challenges that match your frame of mind. There are many that hobble around with an endless range of symptoms that they claim make them feel sick most of the time. The spirit of RESISTANCE used by these potential hypochondriacs give them what they perceived legitimate excuses to remain in a NON-ACTION state. They endlessly visit doctors and alternative healers, but usually suffer a relapse the moment there are signs of improvement. Your enthusiasm is nullified when you use this handy tool supplied by the spirit of RESISTANCE. The attention that this type of individual get from family, friends and even strangers nullify any obligation that they might have to do a solid day’s work or fulfil their role as a partner, mother, father or student. They think that you are a heartless bastard if you expect them to work with their excruciating headaches that come on soon after lunch daily. Don’t get me wrong. Not everyone that applies this method is a hypochondriac or a person that yearns for attention. I suggest that you find a good doctor and get yourself sorted out if there is something that is bothering you. Accept the doctor’s diagnoses. Do not hop from doctor to doctor while you attempt to find one that will support your spirit of RESISTANCE. Anything we fail to complete while we hide behind hollow excuses is an attempt to focus the attention on ourselves and is motivated by our spirit of RESISTANCE. An accident prone person or the individual that is often late for appointments usually suffer with the symptoms of RESISTANCE. It is often their fear of the unknown that cause them to make silly mistakes. It is a misconception to think that they feel ashamed when you reprimand them for their lack of stamina or commitment. They might create the impression that they are embarrassed, but deep inside enjoy the negative attention. They feel that any attention is better than no attention at all.

 

Look around you and check if you have individuals in your family, at work or that you play golf with that display any of the symptoms mentioned. You might be surprised to discover that there are a big percentage of these individuals that will go to almost any length continue to hide in the RESISTANCE zone. They will often act like stooges or belittle themselves in an attempt to avoid the unknown and untested. I will continue with this series tomorrow.

 

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Posted by on September 22, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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