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People who leave religion to seem to be the ones who tried hardest/invested most time into soul-searching.

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People who leave religion to seem to be the ones who tried hardest and who have invested those most time into soul-searching.

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There are themes of intense searching, bible reading, efforts to conform and find the promises of their religion, only to fail time and again. Ironically, the intense searching, bible reading and attempts to understand led many to recognize there were many things they were not being told and much was hidden or poorly explained.

  • The more sexually restrictive a religion is the more it uses guilt.

  • Conservative religions teach guilt and proscribe many behaviors such as sex before marriage, masturbation, oral sex and sex outside of marriage, and use religious based approaches to sex education with emphasis on abstinence only, failing to teach about birth control, condom use and abortion.

  • Biology seems to trump religion despite the millions of dollars and hours devoted to teaching religious children how to behave within their

    religious restrictions. Other general studies of sexuality show that 95% all adults have had premarital sex by the time they marry including, we believe, most ministers who tout abstinence only.

  • The religious kids were learning from sexual experience more than the less religious!

  • Most religions preach incessantly against pornography, yet it is the religious

    children in this sample that used it more.

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  • It appears that the things religions preach against most – sexual experimentation, pornography and the Internet – are what religious kids may use the most, while failing to talk to their parents.

  • Non-religious kids seem to be following the religious proscriptions better than the religious ones.

  • For the most religious, getting religion out of their lives seemed to make a huge difference in their sex life.

  • Those from the most guilt based religions would show the greatest drop in guilt and biggest increase in sexual satisfaction.

  • If porn is as bad as religions say it is, they aren’t doing a very good job of keeping it out of the hands of children and adolescents, 20% or more of both groups said they were using porn by 12 years old. For all the billboards and sermons against porn, there seems to be little return on the investment.

  • We were most interested in religion’s effect on porn use. If religion’s proscriptions are effective, we should see a clear difference between those who are most and least religious in the teen years when they are getting strong messages from their religion about sex. Looking only at men, we can see that there is very little difference between the groups. This suggests that the effect of religion is negligible for men.

 

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Posted by on October 15, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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That Loving Look! – Judging by the eyes alone, which woman is more attractive?

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From: Learning the Look of Love: In your Eyes, the Light the Heat by Cheryl Murphy.

Original source: Frank J. Padrone/Full Circle Photography

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Judging by the eyes alone, which woman is more attractive? If you answered the first, it may be because her pupils are slightly larger than in the second image. Numerous studies have shown that women are considered more feminine and attractive when their pupils are dilated. The reason may have to do with dopamine. In addition to being responsible for excitement, energy and motivation, dopamine causes pupillary dilation.

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Posted by on August 26, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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That Loving Look! – Judging by the eyes alone, which woman is more attractive?

 

 

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From: Learning the Look of Love: In your Eyes, the Light the Heat by Cheryl Murphy.

Original source: Frank J. Padrone/Full Circle Photography

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Judging by the eyes alone, which woman is more attractive? If you answered the first, it may be because her pupils are slightly larger than in the second image. Numerous studies have shown that women are considered more feminine and attractive when their pupils are dilated. The reason may have to do with dopamine. In addition to being responsible for excitement, energy and motivation, dopamine causes pupillary dilation.

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Posted by on June 29, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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Men – Sex and Social Programming.

 

 

Too many men are busy running around trying to get as many women to sleep with them as possible, thinking that it will prove something to them (although I can’t figure out what that might be) anyways, it won’t, and such men end up still having the same underlying problems. They need to fix their problems before they involve real people (well yeah people sleep with other people not toys or plastic mannequins).

Too many men entirely base their self worth on how many women say yes. Just a note: THAT puts all the power in the women since there is nothing personally powerful about that, she’s saying yes, not you.

Too many men see women as an obstacle to get around to get to the sex. Such men are just masturbating inside an object. So many men place power in a woman based solely on the woman’s looks. He does not even consider who she is as a person (sad is an understatement).

What men are seeking so relentlessly is nothing that comes from outside of them, it’s something they already have. A man, a real one at least, has only himself to rely on. And what better for a man to work on than himself? But in the end it call comes down to believing they deserve it. People don’t necessarily get what they want. People don’t necessarily get what they need. Instead, people get what they honestly and truly believe that they deserve. In other words, people get what they expect to get. The key to having what you want is being the person for whom getting what you want is a mere byproduct of the reality you create simply by the way you live life. It builds a foundation of belief that is very real and a relationship with reality that is very empowering.

Get Real.


Men need to separate and differentiate a woman from her looks. All women are human beings, they just have female body parts. Appreciate the beauty of a woman, but don’t give her undue credit just for her looks. Men, base your opinion on who she is as a person.

You like being with a woman, but you don’t “need” her. Do not base your self worth upon how many women agree to sleep with you, that’s just low and sick. Men need to base their self worth on what they think of themselves. Get self validated.

Be A Man. Live a life of integrity. Assume responsibility for your own thoughts and actions and always, respect. Command respect. Demand respect. Treat others with respect. Associate only with those who treat you with respect. Be assertive when need be. It all begins with self-respect.

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Posted by on June 12, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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Some of the most common injuries sustained during sex, both by the participants as well as the surroundings.

 

Every year, nearly one-third of Americans experience a sex related injury!

As much fun as sex is, it can also be very dangerous (and let’s be honest, isn’t that the most fun kind of sex anyway?) — This info graphic gives a detailed look at some of the most common injuries sustained during sex, both by the participants as well as the surroundings.

 

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Posted by on May 21, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying – There was no mention of more sex or bungee jumps.

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There was no mention of more sex or bungee jumps.

A palliative nurse who has counselled the dying in their last days has revealed the most common regrets we have at the end of our lives. And among the top, from men in particular, is “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.”

Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.

Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. “When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently,” she says, “common themes surfaced again and again.”

Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”

By Susie Steiner / Source: Business Insider

 
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Posted by on March 7, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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Book Review – Is Sexual Unhappiness a Religiously Transmitted Disease?

People who leave religion to seem to be the ones who tried hardest and who have invested those most time into soul-searching.

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There are themes of intense searching, bible reading, efforts to conform and find the promises of their religion, only to fail time and again. Ironically, the intense searching, bible reading and attempts to understand led many to recognize there were many things they were not being told and much was hidden or poorly explained.

  • The more sexually restrictive a religion is the more it uses guilt.

  • Conservative religions teach guilt and proscribe many behaviors such as sex before marriage, masturbation, oral sex and sex outside of marriage, and use religious based approaches to sex education with emphasis on abstinence only, failing to teach about birth control, condom use and abortion.

  • Biology seems to trump religion despite the millions of dollars and hours devoted to teaching religious children how to behave within their

    religious restrictions. Other general studies of sexuality show that 95% all adults have had premarital sex by the time they marry including, we believe, most ministers who tout abstinence only.

  • The religious kids were learning from sexual experience more than the less religious!

  • Most religions preach incessantly against pornography, yet it is the religious

    children in this sample that used it more.

 

  • It appears that the things religions preach against most – sexual experimentation, pornography and the Internet – are what religious kids may use the most, while failing to talk to their parents.

  • Non-religious kids seem to be following the religious proscriptions better than the religious ones.

  • For the most religious, getting religion out of their lives seemed to make a huge difference in their sex life.

  • Those from the most guilt based religions would show the greatest drop in guilt and biggest increase in sexual satisfaction.

  • If porn is as bad as religions say it is, they aren’t doing a very good job of keeping it out of the hands of children and adolescents, 20% or more of both groups said they were using porn by 12 years old. For all the billboards and sermons against porn, there seems to be little return on the investment.

  • We were most interested in religion’s effect on porn use. If religion’s proscriptions are effective, we should see a clear difference between those who are most and least religious in the teen years when they are getting strong messages from their religion about sex. Looking only at men, we can see that there is very little difference between the groups. This suggests that the effect of religion is negligible for men.

 

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A perfect partner who’s always happy and never complains is apparently now a reality.

A perfect partner who’s always happy and never complains is apparently now a reality. But there’s a catch – he or she will be made of plastic. From simple dolls to sophisticated robots, they seem to be winning the hearts and minds of people who’ve given up on finding true love. Here’s more from the freaky world of the synthetic spouse.

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Posted by on December 28, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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Book Review – Is Sexual Unhappiness a Religiously Transmitted Disease?

People who leave religion to seem to be the ones who tried hardest and who have invested those most time into soul-searching.

There are themes of intense searching, bible reading, efforts to conform and find the promises of their religion, only to fail time and again. Ironically, the intense searching, bible reading and attempts to understand led many to recognize there were many things they were not being told and much was hidden or poorly explained.

  • The more sexually restrictive a religion is the more it uses guilt.

  • Conservative religions teach guilt and proscribe many behaviors such as sex before marriage, masturbation, oral sex and sex outside of marriage, and use religious based approaches to sex education with emphasis on abstinence only, failing to teach about birth control, condom use and abortion.

  • Biology seems to trump religion despite the millions of dollars and hours devoted to teaching religious children how to behave within their

    religious restrictions. Other general studies of sexuality show that 95% all adults have had premarital sex by the time they marry including, we believe, most ministers who tout abstinence only.

  • The religious kids were learning from sexual experience more than the less religious!

  • Most religions preach incessantly against pornography, yet it is the religious

    children in this sample that used it more.

 

  • It appears that the things religions preach against most – sexual experimentation,pornography and the internet – are what religious kids may use the most, while failing to talk to their parents.

  • Non-religious kids seem to be following the religious proscriptions better than the religious ones.

  • For the most religious, getting religion out of their lives seemed to make a huge difference in their sex life.

  • Those from the most guilt based religions would show the greatest drop in guilt and biggest increase in sexual satisfaction.

  • If porn is as bad as religions say it is, they aren’t doing a very good job of keeping it out of the hands of children and adolescents, 20% or more of both groups said they were using porn by 12 years old. For all the billboards and sermons against porn, there seems to be little return on the investment.

  • We were most interested in religion’s effect on porn use. If religion’s

    proscriptions are effective, we should see a clear difference between those who are most and least religious in the teen years when they are getting strong messages from their religion about sex. Looking only at men, we can see that there is very little difference between the groups. This suggests that the effect of religion is negligible for men.

 

  •  The moral of this story, if you want a good sex life, don’t get  involved with a highlyreligious person. Many in our sample seem to have taken that path. Of those that do have highly religious spouses, the majority have sexual problems in the relationship. 

  • The main benefit that people  express is the ability to just enjoy sex without guilt.

    Over and over people said, they are much happier and fulfilled not only in their sex life,but in the rest of their life as well since leaving religion.

  •  Guilt messages have remarkably little measurable effect on actual behavior. As in other surveys, our results show that religion has a slight effect in delaying the onset of sexual activity.

  • Religious parents are perceived to be poorer at sex education compared to less religious parents, though neither are particularly good at it.

  • Religion simply ignores biology and creates psychological states that interfere

    with appropriate sexual expression and development. Teaching guilt and shame around things that are perfectly natural. Religion impacts how people see their bodies and express their sexuality whether gay, lesbian or straight. Religions have nothing to say about our biology. They are in large measure clueless about hormones, braindevelopment, attraction factors, body image formation and many other things.

  • If parents and schools spent as much time teaching kids about safe and enjoyable sex as they do teaching about safe driving, there would be fewer

    unwanted pregnancies, less disease, fewer abortions and far less guilt and shame that lead people to make poor decisions about partners and behavior.

  • Eliminate guilt and shame around sex, and religions have very little to work with.

  • Religions cannot claim that their ideas and principles actually impact

    behavior or make people happier.

  • We can also see that religion creates guilt and shame around the most basic sexualact, masturbation, but has no effect on its practice. 

  • Condemning children for masturbating, telling them they will go to hell or suffer in thislife for doing it, is child abuse pure and simple.

  • Religion uses sex for purposes of propagation not the happiness of its adherents.

  • There is ample evidence in this survey, that one of the best things one can do to

    improve your sex life is leave religion, especially if you were in a conservative religion.

  • We have seen that stigmas, shame and guilt do not work in preventing or stopping behavior, but they do make people feel sexually miserable.

  • 95% of Americans have sex before marriage. Your minister probably had sex beforemarriage but he tells you not to. Protect yourself, use a condom.

  • Adolescents and young adults are in a critical time trying to

    establish their sexual identity. Religion intentionally plays upon the doubts and fears of youth to infect them with medieval ideas of sexuality.

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Society, the church, your parents and an endless number of other programmers dictated which paths are acceptable. You were trained like a dog to experience guilt and fear of loss when you made perceived mistakes according to the dogma of that specific group or person.

Rene

 
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Posted by on December 9, 2013 in 21 AND OLDER, WISDOM

 

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Some of the most common injuries sustained during sex, both by the participants as well as the surroundings.

Every year, nearly one-third of Americans experience a sex related injury!

As much fun as sex is, it can also be very dangerous (and let’s be honest, isn’t that the most fun kind of sex anyway?) — This info graphic gives a detailed look at some of the most common injuries sustained during sex, both by the participants as well as the surroundings.

 

Source: Medical Insurance

 
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Posted by on December 5, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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Book Review – Is Sexual Unhappiness a Religiously Transmitted Disease?

People who leave religion to seem to be the ones who tried hardest and who have invested those most time into soul-searching.

There are themes of intense searching, bible reading, efforts to conform and find the promises of their religion, only to fail time and again. Ironically, the intense searching, bible reading and attempts to understand led many to recognize there were many things they were not being told and much was hidden or poorly explained.

  • The more sexually restrictive a religion is the more it uses guilt.

  • Conservative religions teach guilt and proscribe many behaviors such as sex before marriage, masturbation, oral sex and sex outside of marriage, and use religious based approaches to sex education with emphasis on abstinence only, failing to teach about birth control, condom use and abortion.

  • Biology seems to trump religion despite the millions of dollars and hours devoted to teaching religious children how to behave within their

    religious restrictions. Other general studies of sexuality show that 95% all adults have had premarital sex by the time they marry including, we believe, most ministers who tout abstinence only.

  • The religious kids were learning from sexual experience more than the less religious!

  • Most religions preach incessantly against pornography, yet it is the religious

    children in this sample that used it more.

 

  • It appears that the things religions preach against most – sexual experimentation,pornography and the internet – are what religious kids may use the most, while failing to talk to their parents.

  • Non-religious kids seem to be following the religious proscriptions better than the religious ones.

  • For the most religious, getting religion out of their lives seemed to make a huge difference in their sex life.

  • Those from the most guilt based religions would show the greatest drop in guilt and biggest increase in sexual satisfaction.

  • If porn is as bad as religions say it is, they aren’t doing a very good job of keeping it out of the hands of children and adolescents, 20% or more of both groups said they were using porn by 12 years old. For all the billboards and sermons against porn, there seems to be little return on the investment.

  • We were most interested in religion’s effect on porn use. If religion’s

    proscriptions are effective, we should see a clear difference between those who are most and least religious in the teen years when they are getting strong messages from their religion about sex. Looking only at men, we can see that there is very little difference between the groups. This suggests that the effect of religion is negligible for men.

 

  •  The moral of this story, if you want a good sex life, don’t get  involved with a highlyreligious person. Many in our sample seem to have taken that path. Of those that do have highly religious spouses, the majority have sexual problems in the relationship. 

  • The main benefit that people  express is the ability to just enjoy sex without guilt.

    Over and over people said, they are much happier and fulfilled not only in their sex life,but in the rest of their life as well since leaving religion.

  •  Guilt messages have remarkably little measurable effect on actual behavior. As in other surveys, our results show that religion has a slight effect in delaying the onset of sexual activity.

  • Religious parents are perceived to be poorer at sex education compared to less religious parents, though neither are particularly good at it.

  • Religion simply ignores biology and creates psychological states that interfere

    with appropriate sexual expression and development. Teaching guilt and shame around things that are perfectly natural. Religion impacts how people see their bodies and express their sexuality whether gay, lesbian or straight. Religions have nothing to say about our biology. They are in large measure clueless about hormones, braindevelopment, attraction factors, body image formation and many other things.

  • If parents and schools spent as much time teaching kids about safe and enjoyable sex as they do teaching about safe driving, there would be fewer

    unwanted pregnancies, less disease, fewer abortions and far less guilt and shame that lead people to make poor decisions about partners and behavior.

  • Eliminate guilt and shame around sex, and religions have very little to work with.

  • Religions cannot claim that their ideas and principles actually impact

    behavior or make people happier.

  • We can also see that religion creates guilt and shame around the most basic sexualact, masturbation, but has no effect on its practice. 

  • Condemning children for masturbating, telling them they will go to hell or suffer in thislife for doing it, is child abuse pure and simple.

  • Religion uses sex for purposes of propagation not the happiness of its adherents.

  • There is ample evidence in this survey, that one of the best things one can do to

    improve your sex life is leave religion, especially if you were in a conservative religion.

  • We have seen that stigmas, shame and guilt do not work in preventing or stopping behavior, but they do make people feel sexually miserable.

  • 95% of Americans have sex before marriage. Your minister probably had sex beforemarriage but he tells you not to. Protect yourself, use a condom.

  • Adolescents and young adults are in a critical time trying to

    establish their sexual identity. Religion intentionally plays upon the doubts and fears of youth to infect them with medieval ideas of sexuality.

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Posted by on October 13, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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Sex, Death And The Meaning Of Life – Richard Dawkins vs TOM CAMPBELL’S BIG PICTURE

KNOWLEDGE IS POWER – KNOWLEDGE SET YOU FREE – DIG DEEPER AND QUESTION EVERYTHING THAT CHALLENGE YOUR COMFORT ZONE  – HOW CAN YOU GROW AND GAIN INSIGHT IF YOU NEVER LOOK AT STUFF FROM MANY DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVES?

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Tom Campbell: Faith, Religion, and God in the Big Picture

 

 
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Posted by on August 1, 2013 in WISDOM

 

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Book Review – Sex and Secularism – What Happens When You Leave Religion (21 and older please)

People who leave religion to seem to be the ones who tried hardest and who have invested those most time into soul-searching.

There are themes of intense searching, bible reading, efforts to conform and find the promises of their religion, only to fail time and again. Ironically, the intense searching, bible reading and attempts to understand led many to recognize there were many things they were not being told and much was hidden or poorly explained.

  • The more sexually restrictive a religion is the more it uses guilt.

  • Conservative religions teach guilt and proscribe many behaviors such as sex before marriage, masturbation, oral sex and sex outside of marriage, and use religious based approaches to sex education with emphasis on abstinence only, failing to teach about birth control, condom use and abortion.

  • Biology seems to trump religion despite the millions of dollars and hours devoted to teaching religious children how to behave within their

    religious restrictions. Other general studies of sexuality show that 95% all adults have had premarital sex by the time they marry including, we believe, most ministers who tout abstinence only.

  • The religious kids were learning from sexual experience more than the less religious!

  • Most religions preach incessantly against pornography, yet it is the religious

    children in this sample that used it more.

 

  • It appears that the things religions preach against most – sexual experimentation,pornography and the internet – are what religious kids may use the most, while failing to talk to their parents.

  • Non-religious kids seem to be following the religious proscriptions better than the religious ones.

  • For the most religious, getting religion out of their lives seemed to make a huge difference in their sex life.

  • Those from the most guilt based religions would show the greatest drop in guilt and biggest increase in sexual satisfaction.

  • If porn is as bad as religions say it is, they aren’t doing a very good job of keeping it out of the hands of children and adolescents, 20% or more of both groups said they were using porn by 12 years old. For all the billboards and sermons against porn, there seems to be little return on the investment.

  • We were most interested in religion’s effect on porn use. If religion’s

    proscriptions are effective, we should see a clear difference between those who are most and least religious in the teen years when they are getting strong messages from their religion about sex. Looking only at men, we can see that there is very little difference between the groups. This suggests that the effect of religion is negligible for men.

 

  •  The moral of this story, if you want a good sex life, don’t get  involved with a highlyreligious person. Many in our sample seem to have taken that path. Of those that do have highly religious spouses, the majority have sexual problems in the relationship. 

  • The main benefit that people  express is the ability to just enjoy sex without guilt.

    Over and over people said, they are much happier and fulfilled not only in their sex life,but in the rest of their life as well since leaving religion.

  •  Guilt messages have remarkably little measurable effect on actual behavior. As in other surveys, our results show that religion has a slight effect in delaying the onset of sexual activity.

  • Religious parents are perceived to be poorer at sex education compared to less religious parents, though neither are particularly good at it.

  • Religion simply ignores biology and creates psychological states that interfere

    with appropriate sexual expression and development. Teaching guilt and shame around things that are perfectly natural. Religion impacts how people see their bodies and express their sexuality whether gay, lesbian or straight. Religions have nothing to say about our biology. They are in large measure clueless about hormones, braindevelopment, attraction factors, body image formation and many other things.

  • If parents and schools spent as much time teaching kids about safe and enjoyable sex as they do teaching about safe driving, there would be fewer

    unwanted pregnancies, less disease, fewer abortions and far less guilt and shame that lead people to make poor decisions about partners and behavior.

  • Eliminate guilt and shame around sex, and religions have very little to work with.

  • Religions cannot claim that their ideas and principles actually impact

    behavior or make people happier.

  • We can also see that religion creates guilt and shame around the most basic sexualact, masturbation, but has no effect on its practice. 

  • Condemning children for masturbating, telling them they will go to hell or suffer in thislife for doing it, is child abuse pure and simple.

  • Religion uses sex for purposes of propagation not the happiness of its adherents.

  • There is ample evidence in this survey, that one of the best things one can do to

    improve your sex life is leave religion, especially if you were in a conservative religion.

  • We have seen that stigmas, shame and guilt do not work in preventing or stopping behavior, but they do make people feel sexually miserable.

  • 95% of Americans have sex before marriage. Your minister probably had sex beforemarriage but he tells you not to. Protect yourself, use a condom.

  • Adolescents and young adults are in a critical time trying to

    establish their sexual identity. Religion intentionally plays upon the doubts and fears of youth to infect them with medieval ideas of sexuality.

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IMPORTANT NOTE!

Please note that I post a wide range of subject matter on this blog. You might enjoy most, but also find stuff that you find offensive and unacceptable. I suggest that you simply skip the stuff that you don’t like and look at the massive volume of other material I address in most posts. Please also don’t JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS and think that I support the point of view of the material posted. I believe that we must be bold and look at everything if we are real students and want to grow and mature. It is always a good idea to suspend your judgement when you read something and avoid simply filtering out stuff that do not match your current point of view. No growth is possible if you are not brave or bold enough to look at subject matter from perspective that is outside your current belief system. It is silly to conclude that stuff that oppose your current point of view is wrong or defective. Remember that everything that you currently hold onto in your filter system is nothing more than perceptions you formed since early childhood. 

Rene

 
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Posted by on June 13, 2013 in 21 AND OLDER, WISDOM

 

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Some of the most common injuries sustained during sex, both by the participants as well as the surroundings.

Every year, nearly one-third of Americans experience a sex related injury!

As much fun as sex is, it can also be very dangerous (and let’s be honest, isn’t that the most fun kind of sex anyway?) — This info graphic gives a detailed look at some of the most common injuries sustained during sex, both by the participants as well as the surroundings.

 

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Who Wants to Marry a Sex Robot?

A perfect partner who’s always happy and never complains is apparently now a reality. But there’s a catch – he or she will be made of plastic. From simple dolls to sophisticated robots, they seem to be winning the hearts and minds of people who’ve given up on finding true love. Here’s more from the freaky world of the synthetic spouse.

 
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Sexual Unhappiness is a Religiously Transmitted Disease – Book Review


People who leave religion to seem to be the ones who tried hardest and who have invested those most time into soul-searching.

There are themes of intense searching, bible reading, efforts to conform and find the promises of their religion, only to fail time and again. Ironically, the intense searching, bible reading and attempts to understand led many to recognize there were many things they were not being told and much was hidden or poorly explained.

  • The more sexually restrictive a religion is the more it uses guilt.

  • Conservative religions teach guilt and proscribe many behaviors such as sex before marriage, masturbation, oral sex and sex outside of marriage, and use religious based approaches to sex education with emphasis on abstinence only, failing to teach about birth control, condom use and abortion.

  • Biology seems to trump religion despite the millions of dollars and hours devoted to teaching religious children how to behave within their

    religious restrictions. Other general studies of sexuality show that 95% all adults have had premarital sex by the time they marry including, we believe, most ministers who tout abstinence only.

  • The religious kids were learning from sexual experience more than the less religious!

  • Most religions preach incessantly against pornography, yet it is the religious

    children in this sample that used it more.

 

  • It appears that the things religions preach against most – sexual experimentation,pornography and the internet – are what religious kids may use the most, while failing to talk to their parents.

  • Non-religious kids seem to be following the religious proscriptions better than the religious ones.

  • For the most religious, getting religion out of their lives seemed to make a huge difference in their sex life.

  • Those from the most guilt based religions would show the greatest drop in guilt and biggest increase in sexual satisfaction.

  • If porn is as bad as religions say it is, they aren’t doing a very good job of keeping it out of the hands of children and adolescents, 20% or more of both groups said they were using porn by 12 years old. For all the billboards and sermons against porn, there seems to be little return on the investment.

  • We were most interested in religion’s effect on porn use. If religion’s

    proscriptions are effective, we should see a clear difference between those who are most and least religious in the teen years when they are getting strong messages from their religion about sex. Looking only at men, we can see that there is very little difference between the groups. This suggests that the effect of religion is negligible for men.

 

  •  The moral of this story, if you want a good sex life, don’t get  involved with a highlyreligious person. Many in our sample seem to have taken that path. Of those that do have highly religious spouses, the majority have sexual problems in the relationship. 

  • The main benefit that people  express is the ability to just enjoy sex without guilt.

    Over and over people said, they are much happier and fulfilled not only in their sex life,but in the rest of their life as well since leaving religion.

  •  Guilt messages have remarkably little measurable effect on actual behavior. As in other surveys, our results show that religion has a slight effect in delaying the onset of sexual activity.

  • Religious parents are perceived to be poorer at sex education compared to less religious parents, though neither are particularly good at it.

  • Religion simply ignores biology and creates psychological states that interfere

    with appropriate sexual expression and development. Teaching guilt and shame around things that are perfectly natural. Religion impacts how people see their bodies and express their sexuality whether gay, lesbian or straight. Religions have nothing to say about our biology. They are in large measure clueless about hormones, braindevelopment, attraction factors, body image formation and many other things.

  • If parents and schools spent as much time teaching kids about safe and enjoyable sex as they do teaching about safe driving, there would be fewer

    unwanted pregnancies, less disease, fewer abortions and far less guilt and shame that lead people to make poor decisions about partners and behavior.

  • Eliminate guilt and shame around sex, and religions have very little to work with.

  • Religions cannot claim that their ideas and principles actually impact

    behavior or make people happier.

  • We can also see that religion creates guilt and shame around the most basic sexualact, masturbation, but has no effect on its practice. 

  • Condemning children for masturbating, telling them they will go to hell or suffer in thislife for doing it, is child abuse pure and simple.

  • Religion uses sex for purposes of propagation not the happiness of its adherents.

  • There is ample evidence in this survey, that one of the best things one can do to

    improve your sex life is leave religion, especially if you were in a conservative religion.

  • We have seen that stigmas, shame and guilt do not work in preventing or stopping behavior, but they do make people feel sexually miserable.

  • 95% of Americans have sex before marriage. Your minister probably had sex beforemarriage but he tells you not to. Protect yourself, use a condom.

  • Adolescents and young adults are in a critical time trying to

    establish their sexual identity. Religion intentionally plays upon the doubts and fears of youth to infect them with medieval ideas of sexuality.

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How To Initiate Sex

 

How To Initiate Sex

 

Despite nearly five decades passing since Betty Friedan wrote The Feminine Mystique and ushered in a new wave of feminism, many women are still uncomfortable initiating sex. If you’re not one of those women, congratulations! If you are, read on.

 

Sex seems to be the last wave in the feminist movement, which began in the 1800’s. Two hundred years later, we are beginning to understand that it’s good… really good… to be a woman. Women have skills that men can’t touch. And yes, men have skills women can’t touch, but we’re beginning to realize that doesn’t make them better. We are beginning to honor the feminine essence, and I say that it’s about time.

 

One of the great things that happens as we honor the essence of the feminine is that we let ourselves lighten up and play a little. If you’ve never initiated sex before, or do it rarely, you might be a little intimidated. Don’t take it so seriously! It’s really not that complicated, and most men are ridiculously easy to seduce (I mean that in the nicest possible way, of course). The feminine likes to be provocative. She appreciates herself as a sensual and sexual being. So put on your sexy on (remember, sexy is not a dress size) and use these tips, offered by Dr. Jessica O’Reilly, Sexologist PhD, to initiate sex with your sweetie.

 

Related: 5 Sexy Secrets from a Burlesque Star

How To Initiate Sex

1. Let Him Know He’s On Your Mind: Send a provocative text during the day. It doesn’t have to be steamy (unless you want it to be!), but could be as simple as “I miss you” or “I’m thinking of you.” In relationships, we often stop flirting and this is one of the primary reasons that sex becomes stale and/or infrequent.

 

2. Share Your Sexy Secrets: Tell him about a sexy dream you had to get his mind churning. Try to incorporate him into the story you tell so that it’s easier for him to picture the scene.” (Remember, guys are visual creatures; use this to your advantage!)

 

3. Get Hands On: Start with a massage — work your way down his back to his thighs and let your hands brush “incidentally” against his hot spots.

Related: Gettin’ Sexy Without Going ALL the Way

 

4. Kiss! The lips are our most exposed erogenous zone and kissing sets off a flurry of chemical and nerve activity in the brain and throughout the body. Kissing also promotes intimacy through the release of oxytocin — and rumor has it, kissing feels good! Play with your lips and see where it leads.

 

5. Spice it Up: O’Reilly didn’t mention this, but it’s my favorite way to initiate sex. Dress up in something you know your lover likes, then casually walk into the room. Give him a sexy stare, a hint of a smile, then turn around and saunter away. Don’t touch him, but stay near him. Bend over to pick up a book, and glance at him over your shoulder. A few minutes of this, and he’ll be begging for you. Not sure what to wear? Try heels and fishnets, or heels and a short dress, or heels and lingerie. It should be obvious that you’re teasing him and inviting him to want you.

 

O’Reilly also noted that initiating sexual or affectionate activity doesn’t have to lead to intercourse or orgasm. This made me ponder the delicious torture of getting your guy… and yourself… all riled up just before you go out to dinner with friends or over to your parents’ house. Sometimes the anticipation is better than instant gratification.

 

Related: 5 TIps for Getting in the Mood

 

I mentioned that most men are easy to seduce. So easy, in fact, that a simple “Hey, let’s have sex!” will likely have them taking of their clothes in seconds. But I know you want to have more fun with it than that, and that’s a good thing. Not only will seducing your man in these suggested ways result in sex, but it will have an added benefit.

 

When you surprise your man with seduction, and really when you surprise him in any positive way, you increase his level of attraction to you. Most men crave variety, so any and all the ways you can mix things up and take him by surprise will keep him on his toes, which will increase his desire for you and increase the chances that your relationship will not only survive, but thrive.

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5 Moves Women Love In Bed, But Can Be Too Afraid To Ask For!

 

 

I’ve never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. I guess because during my teenage years I figured out I was/am a perv and I just owned it. But in my decade-plus of hooking up with dudes, I’ve come to see being clear about what I want is a bit rare: Guys have told me other women become self-conscious when asking for something risqué or kinky.

 

So, I’m going to help you out, boys. Here are some things your lady might want, but she’s too self-conscious to ask for. Don’t pressure anything, of course — but if you offer, you may be pleasantly surprised at how enthusiastically she accepts …1. She wants you to eat her out more: Our culture has a weird relationship with vag, if you haven’t noticed. Your lady has likely been exposed to a lot of lame-o messages telling her that her vag is “too hairy,” “too smelly,” “tastes gross,” “ugly,” etc. She might really love getting oral sex, but she’s afraid to ask you to do it because she’s afraid you’ve internalized the same messages that she has.

 

How to ask: It’s time to start sincerely praising her lady parts big time: “Your p**sy is so pretty!” “I love the way your vagina looks.” “I love the way your p**sy tastes.” “I love hearing you moan while I eat you out!” And so on. (If she is offended by the word “p**sy,” obviously you should say something different.) If she is still skittish about being eaten out, don’t push it. Offer to give a massage all over her inner thighs and on the outer folds of her labia; keep offering to do this, and keep praising her vag, until she mellows out. And if she never does, hey, maybe she’s just not into oral sex!

 

2. She wants to fool around in public: Let me be clear: Having full-on sex in public might be a little too risqué — not to mention messy — for some women, myself included. But that doesn’t mean a lady wouldn’t love a heavy-duty make-out session at that banquet in the far corner of the bar, the backseat of her car, or on her front steps!

 

How to ask: Download the Kelis song “In Public” — the chorus goes “Let’s get it on in public” — and when it plays, ask your girl if she thinks it’s sexy.

 

3. She wants to be dominated: Even big-mouthed ballsy women like me enjoy being dominated! Yet dominating a woman scares a lot of men because they are afraid — rightfully so — of being rape-y. But with tons of trust and communication, she’ll be creaming her panties in no time! You just need to take baby steps and constantly read her body language to make sure she’s comfortable, both physically and emotionally. I want to emphasize the importance of baby steps: If you’re going to play around with domination, it’s never a good idea to start off with anything that might hurt her feelings or humiliate her, i.e., barking orders at her (“Go down on me NOW!”) or name-calling (“Slut!”). Playing around with restraints — loose restraints, of course — is definitely a better way to go.

 

How to ask: Start simple. Really simple. “Would you like it if I blindfolded you the next time I go down on you?” If she likes that, next time ask, “Would you like it if I loosely tied your wrists to the bedposts?” If she likes that, next time ask, “Would you like it if I held down your arms while I lick your breasts?” If she likes that, the two of you can figure out what else she might like. It’s also a good idea to create a “safe word,” which is something she can say when she wants you to stop immediately. (Sometimes in the heat of the moment people say “Oh, noooo!” when they really mean “Oh, that feels good!” So it’s good if your safe word is something other than “no.”) My safe word is this sentence: “I want you to stop now.” Because it makes my intentions clear.

 

4. She wants you to be the submissive one: Getting dominated might not be her thing, but she might want to dominate you. Yes, even if she’s the meek and shy one! Speaking from a lady’s point of view, it can be awkward to tell a guy you want to dominate him because it’s hard to ascertain which guys will think it’s too emasculating. (I am not saying a man getting dominated has to be emasculating; some guys just perceive it that way.) But if you think your woman might get her rocks off by playing the sex goddess, you getting dominated is worth bringing up.

 

How to ask: Does your lady ever ride cowgirl? If that’s your favorite move — and in my experience, for a lot of guys, it is — tell her that you just LOVE her in control. Then suggest the same things that I recommended under the “She wants to be dominated” section — say you want her to give you a BJ while you’re blindfolded, then with your wrists tied to the bed post, etc. If she finds her inner domination queen, you’re a lucky guy!

 

5. She wants to be spanked: Lightly spanking a woman (i.e., nothing that could cause a bruise) can feel amazing for both of you: I’ve heard lots of women say that getting spanked sends lots of tingly feelings to their vaginal and anal areas and I’ve heard lots of men say spanking a woman makes them feel like they are physically demonstrating their lust. I’ve been pretty open about my own enjoyment with getting spanked and, I promise you, lots of women really like it. Unfortunately, asking to be spanked can be embarrassing for a woman because, well, it is sort of silly!

 

How to ask: Just like when you’re asking a woman if she wants to be dominated, the key is to take baby steps. While you’re making out, touch her ass a lot; squeeze it, rub it; show her you think her booty is a-maz-ing. Whisper in her ear, “Can I give you a little spank?” If she says yes, do it once, softly. Ask, “Do you like that?” If she says yes or even if she’s ambivalent, ask if you can do it a few more times, all the while kissing her and still squeezing and rubbing her ass. Then you should probably stop. Next time you guys are cuddling, bring up how you liked giving her little spanks and ask if she wants to try it again sometime. If she’s receptive, ask her if she wants you to do it harder or if she’d like to lie in your lap while you spank her. One more thing: my advice about dominating a woman is the same here, too. Do not call her names or humiliate her unless she tells you that’s what she wants. For all you know, she has issues left over from childhood about being physically punished and calling her a “bad girl” might be upsetting. The same goes for women who might have had abusive relationships in the past: Even if your woman really likes getting spanked, it’s important to remember that spanking is still hitting and you need to make it 100 percent absolutely clear that you’re only doing it in the context of sexual arousal. Understood? Now go get it on.

 

Help me, Frisky-verse: What other things do women love to try in bed that we’re sometimes too self-conscious to ask for?

 

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Sex is more than a hormonal release and brief pleasure. Modern science has now proven that sex is good for both your physical and mental health. Sex may help you live a longer, happier, and healthier life due to the health benefits.

 

 

 

 

Enjoyment

 

Sex is more than an act of pleasure; it’s the ability to be able to feel so close to a person, so connected, so comfortable that it’s almost breathtaking to the point you feel you can’t take it. And at this moment you’re a part of them.

 

All aspects of sex can be very enjoyable. Kissing and foreplay have all kinds of wonderful sensations and pleasures. Orgasm is an intense sensation of pleasure, frequently coupled with involuntary actions, such as muscular spasms in numerous areas of the body; a general euphoric sensation and, usually, body movements and vocal sounds are uttered.

 

As good as all that sounds, the best part of what happens when we have sex is what happens in the brain. The brain is the largest & most important sex organ. The brain controls our sexual responses, releases sex hormones, and it is where all our sex fantasies, and sexual identities live.

 

Go ahead, enjoy having sex with your partner and celebrate the fact that the sex is so good! “Dare to gasp, sigh, wail, scream, whimper, giggle, or cry for joy the next time you tap your sensual nature! You’re super sexual – and that’s worth getting loud about!” ~Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., M.S.Ed.

 

The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in any love story. It changes the relationship of two people much more strongly than even the final surrender; because this kiss already has within it that surrender. ~Emil Ludwig

 

Health benefits

 

Sex is more than a hormonal release and brief pleasure. Modern science has now proven that sex is good for both your physical and mental health. Sex may help you live a longer, happier, and healthier life due to the health benefits.

 

Some of the health benefits include:

  • Relieves Stress

  • Improves Relaxation and Sleep

  • More Energy

  • Beauty Treatment – look more than 10 years younger

  • Burns Calories and overall fitness

  • Lower Cholesterol

  • Reduces Risk of Heart Disease

  • Lower risk of heart attack

  • Relieves menstrual cramps

  • Prevents endometriosis

  • Dental Health

  • Anti-Depressive

  • Safest Tranquilizer

  • Relieves Pain and Headache

  • Natural Antihistamine

  • Boosts Immune System

  • Improves Blood Flow Circulation

  • Improves Sense of Smell

  • Improves Bladder Control

  • Healthy Prostate and Genitals

  • Boosts Self-Esteem, Sense of Well Being, and Marital Bliss

  • Live Longer, Stay Younger

  • Boost Testosterone, Estrogen and DHEA

  • Lowers the level of Cortisol – The stress hormone

  • The Healing Power of Intimacy

  • Improves your relationship with your mate

  • Lowers feelings of insecurity

 

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That Loving Look! – Judging by the eyes alone, which woman is more attractive?

From: Learning the Look of Love: In your Eyes, the Light the Heat by Cheryl Murphy.

Original source: Frank J. Padrone/Full Circle Photography

Judging by the eyes alone, which woman is more attractive? If you answered the first, it may be because her pupils are slightly larger than in the second image. Numerous studies have shown that women are considered more feminine and attractive when their pupils are dilated. The reason may have to do with dopamine. In addition to being responsible for excitement, energy and motivation, dopamine causes pupillary dilation.

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Reasons Why Men & Women Have Sex

 

A survey published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior, reveals why men and women have sex. The psychologists, David Buss and Cindy Meston of the University of Texas at Austin, found 237 reasons in all. They received many interesting answers. Here are the top 50 answers, both for women and then for men.

 

Top 50 reasons women have sex:

 

1. I was attracted to the person.

2. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.

3. It feels good.

4. I wanted to show my affection to the person.

5. I wanted to express my love for the person.

6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.

7. I was “horny.”

8. It’s fun.

9. I realized I was in love.

10. I was “in the heat of the moment.”

11. I wanted to please my partner.

12. I desired emotional closeness (i.e., intimacy).

13. I wanted the pure pleasure.

14. I wanted to achieve an orgasm.

15. It’s exciting, adventurous.

16. I wanted to feel connected to the person.

17. The person’s physical appearance turned me on.

18. It was a romantic setting.

19. The person really desired me.

20. The person made me feel sexy.

21. The person caressed me.

22. It seemed like the natural next step in my relationship.

23. I wanted to become one with another person.

24. It just happened.

25. I wanted to increase the emotional bond by having sex.

26. I wanted the experience.

27. I wanted the adventure/excitement.

28. The person had an attractive face.

29. The person was a good kisser.

30. I wanted to intensify my relationship.

31. My hormones were out of control.

32. I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions.

33. I wanted to feel loved.

34. The person had a desirable body.

35. I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion.

36. I wanted to communicate at a “deeper” level.

37. I was curious about sex.

38. It was a special occasion.

39. The person was intelligent.

40. I wanted to say “I’ve missed you.”

41. I wanted to keep my partner satisfied.

42. I got “carried away.”

43. The opportunity presented itself.

44. The person had a great sense of humor.

45. I wanted to improve my sexual skills.

46. I was curious about my sexual abilities.

47. The person seemed self-confident.

48. I wanted to make up after a fight.

49. I was drunk.

50. I was turned on by the sexual conversation.

Top 50 reasons men have sex:

 

1. I was attracted to the person.

2. It feels good.

3. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.

4. It’s fun.

5. I wanted to show my affection to the person.

6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.

7. I was “horny.”

8. I wanted to express my love for the person.

9. I wanted to achieve an orgasm.

10. I wanted to please my partner.

11. The person’s physical appearance turned me on.

12. I wanted the pure pleasure.

13. I was “in the heat of the moment.”

14. I desired emotional closeness (i.e., intimacy).

15. It’s exciting, adventurous.

16. The person had a desirable body.

17. I realized I was in love.

18. The person had an attractive face.

19. The person really desired me.

20. I wanted the adventure/excitement.

21. I wanted to feel connected to the person.

22. I wanted the experience.

23. It was a romantic setting.

24. The person caressed me.

25. The person made me feel sexy.

26. It seemed like the natural next step in my relationship.

27. I wanted to increase the emotional bond by having sex

28. I wanted to keep my partner satisfied.

29. The opportunity presented itself.

30. It just happened.

31. I wanted to intensify my relationship.

32. I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions.

33. My hormones were out of control.

34. The person was too “hot” (sexy) to resist.

35. I was curious about my sexual abilities.

36. I wanted to improve my sexual skills.

37. I wanted to become one with another person.

38. I saw the person naked and could not resist.

39. The person was a good kisser.

40. I wanted to feel loved.

41. I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion.

42. The person was too physically attractive to resist.

43. It was a special occasion.

44. I hadn’t had sex for a while.

45. The person had beautiful eyes.

46. I wanted to communicate at a “deeper” level.

47. I wanted to experiment with new experiences.

48. The person was intelligent.

49. I wanted to keep my partner happy.

50. I was curious about what the person was like in bed.

 

 
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Are you a WRITER who does not write a PAINTER who does not paint, an ENTREPRENEUR who never starts a venture? Do you feel that SOMETHING prevents you from ACHIEVING your full potential? Then it might be an appropriate moment to take a hard look at how your RESISTENCE arrested your ability to take decisive and sustained action. New Series – No. 12

 

 

The force of RESISTENCE that envelope us individually and collectively have many different tricks up its sleeve. I mentioned in previous posts that it will use distraction to get us to forgo of activities that we know need our urgent attention. Many have been trained since early childhood that there is no real need to work hard in a sustained manner until the task at hand is completed. Many have been programmed to expect massive rewards in a relative short period of time. There is a spirit of entitlement visible everywhere. Children that leave school or university want to walk into a job where they start with a very attractive income. They immediately expect all the bells and whistles that earlier generations took years to achieve. It is the force of RESISTANCE that created the impression with today’s generation that instant gratification is within their reach. They think that you can become an overnight millionaire if you read “The Secret” book and do a few relatively simple visualisation exercises. You might be surprised what major role sex play in the methods used by the force of RESISTANCE. Sex provides a false sense of progress to those that are slaves to the force of RESISTANCE. Sex provides rapid gratification and at the same time hides serious flaws like procrastination and wishful thinking. Many RESIST the sustained effort that is needed to grow and sustain a relationship. They think that their partner is satisfied with their pathetic general commitment to the relationship because he or she participated in the act of love making. Sex provides them with a welcome escape and a feeling of worthiness while they daily struggle with the cloud of resistance that endlessly follow them around like a stray dog. Overcoming the possible RESISTANCE of a partner or someone they just met make them feel like a winner. Many get so involved looking for their next “sex” fix that they neglect their work and other obligations. Can you see what powerful role instant gratification play in the hands of the force of RESISTANCE? Sex can be a wonderful experience if both partners participate outside the boundaries of RESISTANCE. Sex will never become addictive or a source of RESISTANCE if it takes place outside the perimeters of the RESISTANCE zone. Sex is an amazing natural act when it takes place between two individuals that expect absolutely nothing from each other. Your motives are RESISTANT based if you experience a victory feeling or hollow emptiness afterwards. You are definitely in a state of RESISTANCE if you feel like you are busy making a deal with the person that you want to make love to or experience buyer’s remorse afterwards. Making love to obtain something or fulfil an obligation is nothing more than the deals made by men with prostitutes. Giving up sex to a partner becomes a powerful “control” method of those that operate from the RESISTANCE stronghold. The same holds true if you get the same feelings after you drank too much, bought stuff that you don’t really need or when you used prescription or other drugs.

 

The key to escape from the claws of RESISTANCE is to become aware of the many different ways that the force of RESISTANCE uses daily to retain you in a slave like not-action state. Become an observer and see if you can identify anything that keeps you in an enslaved state. There are a wide range of activities that we involve ourselves in daily that provide us with no real long-term benefits. I will continue this series tomorrow.

 

Rene

 

 
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Los Sentidos De La Vida

Un Blog de Cine, Musica, Vinos... En 75 palabras aprox.

My Time is Now

Dancing With The Elderly- A Hollywood Actress's Day Job

let the free birds fly

surviving creating instigating

Qubethink

Permutate

AshiAkira's Blog

Just another WordPress.com site

diary of a single mom in the south

my life, my love, my story

My Hong Kong Husband

Polish girl married to a Hongkonger, based in Hong Kong

Gorgeous

Ramblings from a disturbed mind ©2013 Cho Wan Yau

Middle-Aged Martial Arts Mom

Loving a crippling compulsion....

lovinchelle

LIVING LIFE AND TAKING PICS ALONG THE WAY.

Just me being curious

A blog of questions and few answers.

I Dont Want To Talk About It

The Ultimate Paradox: Depression in Sobriety

Shepherd Mulwanda

ICT Research Training and Consultancy,Agriculture for Youth Development.

Don Charisma

because anything is possible with Charisma

White Shadows

Story of a white pearl that turned to ashes while waiting for a pheonix to be born inside her !

dancingwithanother

Trying to make sense of turmoil

Dince's Chronicles

My Personal Blog

Awareness It Self

Quotes for spiritual enjoyment

Doug Does Life

A Creative Monkey On How To Find Your Path In Life.

philosophie et existence!

blog de philosophie imprévisible, dir. Jean-Paul Galibert

How my heart sings

Poetry and lovely images

muralskp

This WordPress.com site is the bee's knees

SYL JUXON SMITH'S BLOG

Changing Our Mindset is the Imperative and Way Forward

ALL DIRECTIONS ALL SPEEDS

my transformational journey into new light and occasional gushing of mind and heart - Corozal, Belize, CA

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