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Release the binds of the past and start to live for today.

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You need to stop living your life having regrets for things in your past. Constantly thinking about events from your past that you aren’t proud of, mistakes you may have made in your relationships, or things you “should have” done isn’t going to make your future any better. You need to accept where you are in your life for what it is, and learn from your “mistakes”. No matter how bad you view something from your past to be, take the time to really find something positive from it. Look hard. There is something there.

Things are going to happen to you. They happen to everybody. It’s how you deal with them that allows you to grow as a person and an overall happier human being. If you’re able to find just one positive from an event, you will grow. Consider this example:

Say you’re in college and your friends invite you out for a few beers. However, you have a big exam the next day. You’ve studied for weeks and are certain of all the material that’s going to be on the exam. You decide to go because you heard that cute guy or girl you’ve had your eye on is going to be there. You have a few beers and finally get the courage to do some flirting. After a few more beers, you’re pretty drunk and decide you need to go home. You catch a few hours sleep and take your exam. Long story short, you fail the exam because you made a bad decision to go out the night before. You feel complete disappointment in yourself, which you should. However, instead of moping around about it, learn from your mistake and move on with your life. Realize that your hard work doesn’t pay off unless you complete the project. Studying for weeks for the exam was wasted for a night out of fun. Learn what you need to do to accomplish the goals you set out for yourself, and stay disciplined until you have successfully completed what you set out to do.

To take that first move toward to a new positive way of pursuing life, try the following:

Make a list of the events from your life that you continue to dwell on and can’t seem to let go of.

For each event, write down what your mistake was, what you learned from this mistake, and something positive you have today because of the situation.

 

Let go of it!

If you are able to release the binds of the past and start to live for today, you will start to feel a happiness that is very rewarding. What’s in the past, is in the past. It cannot be undone. Apply your energy to today and appreciate the life that you have.

By: Clayton Vincent

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Posted by on January 20, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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Today, navigating which emotions men are supposed to express when can be rather confusing.

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Men have always been expected to be strong and staid. Men were expected to be reserved and contemplative when calm, yet strong and capable when pushed too far. Then came the late ’60s and second-wave feminism. With women gaining equality in the workplace, the bedroom and society in general, gender borders began to erode at an alarming rate. Men were now expected to wear their emotions on their sleeves — or so was the stated opinion of women.

While women may say they want raw emotion, the truth, as is the case in so many circumstances, is that they don’t really know what they want. Believe us, no woman really wants to see you cry. Today, navigating which emotions men are supposed to express when can be rather confusing. The Emo-meter rating, measured on a scale of 0 (for never) to 5 (for frequent), lets men know when, if ever, they should really emote around women. Learn to control your emotions with the dating tips below.

 

Fear

 

While there is nothing to fear but fear itself, showing any amount of fear around women will prove disastrous unless you can really control your emotions. For all their claims about sensitive men, women still want to feel protected. Women still want you to kill those spiders and protect them on darkened streets, and your girlfriend doesn’t want you to cower behind her while she squishes the evil bug. Showing fear in a girly, unnecessary way is unacceptable, while referencing a personal fear that you’ve managed to overcome shows robust courage and self-control.

Emo-meter rating: 1

 

Jealousy

 

Women will state over and over again that they hate it when their men are jealous. While this is her official line, try letting her go out with her male friends without so much as an ounce of jealousy. When she gets back from this platonic meeting, you’ll be getting the cold shoulder. Even if you’re confident in yourself and know that this other guy isn’t a threat, she expects you to exert at least a little consternation over this type of meeting. So, while you need to control your emotions, she also wants to know you still cherish her and can control your jealousy. There’s no quicker way to do that than to show a little concern that you may in fact lose her.

Emo-meter rating: 2

 

Anger

 

There are few emotions more tied up with passion than anger. As such, women will want you, from time to time, to get angry. Lack of anger and lack of passion tell women that you are apathetic about certain aspects of your life. No matter what those aspects are, she’ll make the leap that you are apathetic toward your relationship, which is not the kind of control you want to have over your emotions. Of course, the anger expressed, even though it is vital to the health of the relationship, will need to be directed outward and never at her. Make sure that the target actually deserves the wrath, as unleashing anger on a cashier who shortchanged you comes off as petty and just isn’t the right way to control your emotions.

 

Affection

 

Affection is a context-specific tightrope men must walk. Using affection, an almost universally positive emotion, equally in all circumstances will net any man an irritated woman. Women want you to be affectionate, but as much as they love affection, they tend to prefer you play down the public displays of affection (PDAs). PDAs have a tendency to undermine a woman’s feeling of independence, so try not to step on her toes and control your emotions. Holding hands in public, a light kiss or walking arm in arm are all perfect public expressions of affection. Save the true affection for when you’re behind a veil of privacy.

Emo-meter rating: 2 in public, 4 in private.

 

Sadness

 

Feeling sad is a very vulnerable emotional state to be in, for anyone. Traditionally, men haven’t really expressed sadness outside the context of moderate to heavy drinking. Tears weren’t allowed to come out, but liquor went in — and it was never done in front of a woman. That was the understanding a man had with this most troubling emotion. Today, women want to know that a man feels sad on occasion. If he doesn’t, women may begin to question his connection with reality, which can be quite depressing. Modern men need to learn to control their emotions and show that they are sad every once in a while, and do so in the company of women. Choose the time and place wisely as the expression of sadness should only be shown under the gravest of circumstances. The death of a loved one, for example, would be appropriate — the love scene in Titanic would not.

Emo-meter rating:
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EMOTIONAL GUIDANCE

 

Contrary to popular belief, men have always had emotions, and these emotions have always been expressed. The company and context of such expression has changed, as in the past this largely took place behind closed doors and was, by and large, a solitary experience. Today, the expression has changed to accommodate what women think they want when it comes to the way men feel. This by no means gives us license to go overboard in expressing our emotions, however; as men, we must remember to exercise control in emotional circumstances in order to save ourselves from being labelled weak or unmanly.

http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_200/222_dating_advice.html

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Posted by on October 4, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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Being older/mature does not remove your beauty and ability to experience the joy of sensuality.

 

Being older and more mature does not remove your beauty and ability to experience the joy of sensuality. Age can be your mental jail or paradise. Why not decide TODAY, right NOW that you will LIVE until you DIE?

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Posted by on June 9, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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AMAZING HOW TIME SLIPS BY IN THE BLINK OF AN EYE!

GIVE TODAY YOUR BEST SHOT – AMAZING HOW TIME SLIPS BY IN THE BLINK OF AN EYE!

ASK YOURSELF “SHALL I LIVE BY MEMORY OR IMAGINATION TODAY?”

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TODAY IS A BRAND-NEW DAY. YOU HAVE NOT DONE TODAY BEFORE. BE WIDE OPEN FOR MIRACLES. THINK TO YOURSELF, “NOW IS NEW.” GIVE UP THE OLD. ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE OPEN TO NEW VISION, A NEW WAY OF THINKING AND A NEW LIVING!

 

STAY OPEN ALL HOURS FOR MIRACLES: If you are like everyone else on this planet, you have been tempted a thousand times to give up on life, love, happiness and yourself. You have experienced failure, heartbreak, pain and personal hell. It is one of the world’s worst kept secrets that everyone – yes – everyone – has had a dark night of the soul. We have all wanted to give up and die.

 

When life is not working for you, I want to ask you to give up. Yes! I want you to give up your thoughts, beliefs, perceptions, habits and fears that are holding you back. There can be no new miracles whilst you are holding on to old stuff. Pain is a signal to let go, give something up, open up and try something new. When life is not working for you, you might think that you are just not trying hard enough.

Whenever you feel stuck or that you are not making satisfactory progress it can always be linked to something or someone that are keeping you locked in. We are often our own worse enemies and allow our thoughts to lock us into the past or the future. We can only be at one place at any given moment in time. If you mind is locked into yesterday’s mistakes, guilt and failures, how can you operate successfully in the now? If your mind is paralysed with fear because of something that might happen at some future date, how can you operate successfully in the now?

If you are not satisfied with any situation or person then it might be a clear indication that you urgently need to let go of something or even someone. We often feel that we need to learn more or do more if we want success, but success is usually a ridding process. You usually do not need more weight, rules, laws and principle to complicate your life even more. What you need is a simple method of taking stock of what is outdated, overrated, and wrong or over its shelf life. Once you have identified what must go and you got rid of it you will be ready to start a new day and possibly a new life. Let us take a look at some of the weights that you may want to throw overboard.

 

· ADDICTION TO STRUGGLE

· TRYING TOO HARD

· LACK OF FAITH IN LIFE

· SELF-DOUBT

· CYNICISM

· DISBELIEF

· EXPECTATIONS OR PLANS

· DYSFUCTIONAL INDEPENDENCE

· UNHEALTHY COMPETITIVINESS

· PATTERNS OF SACRIFICE

· FEAR OF REJECTION

· AN OLD DISSAPOINTMENT

· AN OLD WOUND

· AN OLD HEARTBREAK

· AN OLD MISTAKE

· AN OLD FEAR

· BITTERNESS AT MY EX-PARTNER

· RESENTMENT AT MY MOTHER OR FATHER

· FURY AT GOD

· FEAR OF GOD

· FEAR OF SIN

· FEAR OF HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS

· FEAR OF LOVE

· FEAR OF ABUNDANCE

· FEAR ROOTED IN THE PAST

· FEAR OF THE FUTURE

· FEAR OF JUST BEING YOURSELF

 

GIVE UP AND LIVE AGAIN: Why is it so difficult to give things up? I found that people hate giving things up even if they serve no real further purpose in their lives. Just look around you and see if you can spot anything that is outdated, broken and dysfunctional. It can be an old broken chair or an old bicycle in your garage. You might never use it again, but for sentimental reasons hold on to it as if it is made of gold. Take stock today and you will see that there are possibly hundreds of things that you have not used, touched or looked at in the last twelve months that are just sitting there and cluttering your space.

Possibly and old computer, books, magazines or exercise equipment just lying there cluttering the room or your garage. Most of this stuff served their purpose, but you hang on to them as if your life depends on them.

We do the same with thousands of old and outdated thoughts and feelings as well. We tend to hang on to old fears, failures, mistakes and guilt feelings as if our lives depend on them. What we fail to understand is that we need to cast out old and outdated perceptions from yesterday to make room for new ideas and opportunities that may come our way today.

While we drag these old thoughts and fears with us no real change will come into our lives. Only when we understand that only the now is alive and our window of opportunity will wisdom come into our lives. Yesterday with all its mistakes, sins, wounds and failures is dead and gone forever. The only place where these failures and guilt is still alive is in your imaginations. It is like old dusty videotapes that you take out now and then and play on the screens of your mind.

All the old “pain” tapes that you regularly haul out of the filing system in your mind and play serves no other purpose than that of self-punishment. You have been conditioned since early childhood to feel guilty when you failed or did something wrong. The only way that you were taught that you could repair or repay for your wrongdoings was that of punishment.

You were taught that all sins carry the same weight and as such soon found that the punishment metered out was not enough for your ever growing mountain of failures and sins. Your ego loved this and used this false sense of guilt to punish you and kept you locked into the past.

 

WHEN IT IS OVER IT IS OVER: The day that you realise that you have only the moment that you are living in right now to live in and to love in your will life changes dramatically. When you finally LET GO of the past unconditionally you enter a wonderful new period in your life. You need to learn to let go of things once its life moment is over.

You can file the information in your mind and learn from your mistakes, but when that moment is over then it is over forever. You may decide to take a few selected thoughts with you, but they should never include pain and guilt. You can recall wonderful moments in your life that will built you and motivate you, but should not spoil your perfect new moment by blending in old garbage moments. Let go and live a life of pleasure and joy. Cling to past failures and create your own personal hell on earth. You are the creator of your own future and the victim of your past. Disconnect today and give yourself a break.

 

LEAD THE WAY: If you can teach the people that play in your game of life this golden rule you will refresh and renew the world that you live in. If everybody stops living in the past and begin to focus on the now you are going to enjoy many moments of success and fun together. No more time will be wasted on what could or should have been or done. They will make the most of any given moment and begin to love each other unconditionally.

When everyone stops reminding each other of yesterday’s broken promises, failures, conflicts and petty arguments they learn to accept each other unconditionally. Yes my friend lead by example and explain to all players in your game of life that you will not entertain any garbage reshuffling from now on.

 

People treat you the way you teach them to treat you. Teach the other players in your life that you will from now on just accept “now” talk in your life. If anything from yesterday needs to be re-viewed it will be done in an objective manner and then shredded. The next time you get stuck go through the list in the document in see what things need urgent dumping. Let go of the past (even ten seconds ago) and start living every fresh new moment to the full.

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Posted by on February 25, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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Timeless You with Deepak Chopra

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“Yet the timeless in you is aware of life’s timelessness, 

And knows that yesterday is but today’s memory and tomorrow 
is today’s dream. 

And that that which sings and contemplates in you is still dwelling 
within the bounds of that first moment which scattered the stars into space. 

Who among you does not feel that his power to love is boundless? 

And yet who does not feel that very love, though boundless, 
encompassed within the centre of his being, and moving not from 
love thought to love thought, nor from love deeds to other love deeds? 

And is not time even as love is, undivided and paceless?”

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Posted by on February 7, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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Being the best you that you can be. Think it and then ink it.

 

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The most difficult element of getting things done is not the actual action part of the project, but the resistance we experience that sabotage us and prevent us from taking decisive action. I once gave a lecture to a major corporation on self-management.  I looked them in the eye and told them that their management hope that I will manage to motivate them into getting their backsides anchored on their chairs. I told them that their management convinced me that they are actually a powerful team that can produce outstanding outcomes when they become focused. I also told them that I am going to recommend that management only pay them for actual work done. This caused a real stir in my audience and even woke up those at the back of the auditorium. I explained to them that I invented a device that will register all their actual work activities as well as all their time wasting activities. This device will daily send a full report to the managing director’s office that will reveal not only actual work executed, but also the time wasted chatting to other staff about stuff unrelated to work issues, drinking tea, updating blogs or Face book etc. Each staff member will thus daily be credited with an actual net production delivered. I allowed my words to sink in for a while and then told them that they will thus be paid on the net balance of their productivity account monthly. The biggest obstacle that prevent many of us to become great in our job or for that matter anything else is procrastination. I want to repeat that we have to overcome our reluctance and resistance to take action.

 

Spend some time today to probe why you have this reluctance to take action. What is the cause of the resistance deep inside you that is preventing you from being the best you that you can be? Make a list of everything that comes to mind. Think it and then ink it. I will continue this series tomorrow.

 

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Posted by on February 1, 2014 in WISDOM

 

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What’s in the past, is in the past. It cannot be undone. Apply your energy to today and appreciate the life that you have.

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You need to stop living your life having regrets for things in your past. Constantly thinking about events from your past that you aren’t proud of, mistakes you may have made in your relationships, or things you “should have” done isn’t going to make your future any better. You need to accept where you are in your life for what it is, and learn from your “mistakes”. No matter how bad you view something from your past to be, take the time to really find something positive from it. Look hard. There is something there.

Things are going to happen to you. They happen to everybody. It’s how you deal with them that allows you to grow as a person and an overall happier human being. If you’re able to find just one positive from an event, you will grow. Consider this example:

Say you’re in college and your friends invite you out for a few beers. However, you have a big exam the next day. You’ve studied for weeks and are certain of all the material that’s going to be on the exam. You decide to go because you heard that cute guy or girl you’ve had your eye on is going to be there. You have a few beers and finally get the courage to do some flirting. After a few more beers, you’re pretty drunk and decide you need to go home. You catch a few hours sleep and take your exam. Long story short, you fail the exam because you made a bad decision to go out the night before. You feel complete disappointment in yourself, which you should. However, instead of moping around about it, learn from your mistake and move on with your life. Realize that your hard work doesn’t pay off unless you complete the project. Studying for weeks for the exam was wasted for a night out of fun. Learn what you need to do to accomplish the goals you set out for yourself, and stay disciplined until you have successfully completed what you set out to do.

To take that first move toward to a new positive way of pursuing life, try the following:

Make a list of the events from your life that you continue to dwell on and can’t seem to let go of.

For each event, write down what your mistake was, what you learned from this mistake, and something positive you have today because of the situation.

 

Let go of it!

If you are able to release the binds of the past and start to live for today, you will start to feel a happiness that is very rewarding. What’s in the past, is in the past. It cannot be undone. Apply your energy to today and appreciate the life that you have.

By: Clayton Vincent

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