There is a simple, but very effective system that you can use when you find yourself ready to explode or implode.

 

 

The most powerful question that you can ever ask when you are feeling angry, frustrated or miserable is, “Is it true?” We trigger many painful feelings and emotions with our thoughts or self-talk. We think that we would have felt much better if a person (friend, family or stranger) did not say or do something that caused what we are currently experiencing. Some of us become depressed and slam shut like a clam while we feel sorry for ourselves. Some of us erupt like a volcano and spew our fury over the landscape around us. We sometimes look back after one of our ego driven expressions and can often not believe how we over reacted. There are also some of us that don’t get guilt attacks or experience remorse. We justify our often lunatic behaviour and avoid investigating the aftermath of our behaviour like the plague. There is a simple, but very effective system that you can use when you find yourself ready to explode or implode. Stop for a moment and ask yourself if what you are about to respond to is “true”. Wars have been triggered and millions died because of the misinterpretation of a current set of circumstances. What I am saying is that millions died (weapons of mass destruction) because of a responds based on weak or tarnished data. It is vital to pause for a moment or as long as you can before you take action. Make it your business to establish without any shadow of doubt that whatever is currently motivating you to say or do something is based on the “truth”. We look at life through our set of perceptions that we formed while still in our formative years. Most of us never updated our perceptions software and continue to base our decisions and choices on old and often false and outdated information. It is not what is happening to us that cause the real damage. It is always how we interpret what we heard or experienced that decides how we are going to “manage” what we are confronted with. We must expect negative outcomes if we base our responds on invalid or warped data. Always gather information and establish if your own interpretation or the interpretation of what you currently view as the enemy is based on valid and true information. A big percentage of conflicts and disputes can be settled long before they get out of hand if we honestly answer the question. “Is it really true?”

 

Rene