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YOUR HEAD IS LIKE A TOOLBOX

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YOU MAKE A THOUSAND CHOICES EVERY DAY!

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YOUR MIND IS FULL OF THOUGHTS OF LOVE, JUDGEMENT, PEACE, FEAR, GRACE, GUILT, JOY, ANGER, FORGIVENESS, ATTACK, LAUGHTER, WORK, PLAY, JUDGMENT, KINDNESS, ISOLATION AND ONENESS ETC!

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YOUR HEAD IS LIKE A TOOLBOX: Everyday you make a thousand choices. You choose what to wear, where to go, who to meet, what to eat and what to do. MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL, YOU decide WHAT TO THINK. One thing is sure and that is that your day will not be better than you thoughts.

Just close your eyes for a moment and see if you can visualise this open toolbox and if you can see the hundreds of tools that are neatly placed in this toolbox. Now look if you can see the maker’s name on these tools. The creator of these tools (thoughts and perceptions) is you. You created thousands of thoughts and perceptions (tools) about everything since your childhood.

When confronted with any situation or problem you reach into this toolbox and take out what you think the most appropriate tool and attempt to fix the problem. It is estimated that your mind thinks at least 2,500 thoughts an hour. Every thought that you think is a tool (perception) that you have that you imagine would work best under specific circumstances. This thought process continue day and night and will do so for the rest of your life.

I am convinced that we think ourselves to a standstill. We never stop playing with these tools in our toolbox and can hardly ever really relax for a while. If we are not faced with a problem or task that needs completion we still continue to take out these tools and mentally rehears and contemplate how we will use them should something that we fear become a reality.

We are forever thinking and scheming and never become still and tranquil inside. Our bodies might seem relaxed, but deep inside our heads this thought process continues churning around. What I am most worried about is that most of the tools that you have in our toolboxes is very old and outdated.

Many of the modern problems that you face cannot be repaired using these tools. If you take a modern mechanic’s toolbox and you place the toolbox of a mechanic of fifty years ago next to it you will find that there are major discrepancies. When you are confronted with something that needs repair and you do not have the right tool for the task at hand it can be very frustrating. We usually improvise and try using some other tool and hope that it will also get the job done.

 

When you are faced with a problem you need to select the right tool for the task at hand. If you do not have the tool in your toolbox it can complicate your life. What most people seem to ignore is that it is sometimes better not to reach for your toolbox when faced with a problem. Sometimes you need time to pass or need to leave the problem with its rightful owner. How well you use your tools is usually reflected in the world you see around you. What would you do if you were faced with any or all of the following?

 

You get a flat tire on your way to an important customer or meeting. You can fall apart, develop a migraine and think that life is against you or you can take out the right tools (patience and reality) and take care of the problem in a relaxed manner.

 

You have been working on the computer for hours and suddenly lose all your work. You can drop dead with a heart attack, think that God hates you or you can take out the right tool (sanity and reality) and begin over again and remember this time to make a backup your work.

 

A lover or wife possibly cheated on you. You can go crazy and get an assassin to take her potential lover out, think that you are a failure or you can take out the right tool (no fear of loss) and get on with your life.

 

When you have the right tools in your toolbox it makes life a lot easier. The choices we make are vital in our lives. The more quality choices we make during any given day the higher the probability of success and peace of mind.

I suggest that you equip your toolbox with the best tools you can lay your hands on. If you discover that one of your tools are outdated or that a more modern version is available. How would you react if your TV packed up and a technician that obviously knows very little about electronics arrived at your house with only a sledgehammer and a few other primitive tools in his toolbox? I am sure that you will send him away and find someone better qualified and equipped for the task.

You might sometimes be like this incompetent and poorly equipped technician indicated above if you do not often update your tools (thoughts) in your toolbox. You can also have all the right tools in your toolbox and never use them because you are afraid that you might make a mistake.

You must remember that happiness and success is always just one thought (tool) away. You should remember when you find it difficult to cope with something that one new tool (thought) could change your life. One fresh thought and one new idea can change your life from pain and suffering to success and peace of mind.

You are what you think. Your choices that you make on a moment-to-moment basis decide your fate and future. You are really what you think. You can never feel or perform better than the ongoing thoughts that you allow to occupy your mind!

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He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life.

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Today I’m concentrating on one of sports all time

champions…Muhammad Ali!

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Here’s the top ten quotes of ‘The Greatest’

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10. Age is whatever you think it is. You are as old as you

think you are.

 

9. At home I am a nice guy: but I don’t want the world to

know. Humble people, I’ve found, don’t get very far.

 

8. He who is not courageous enough to take risks will

accomplish nothing in life.

 

7. I never thought of losing, but now that it’ s happened,

the only thing is to do it right. That’s my obligation to

all the people who believe in me. We all have to take

defeats in life.

 

6. I’m so fast that last night I turned off the light switch

in my hotel room and was in bed before the room was dark.

 

5. What keeps me going is goals.

 

4. It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief.

And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things

begin to happen.

 

3. I am the greatest, I said that even before I knew I was.

 

2. I hated every minute of training, but I said, “Don’t quit.

Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.”

And the most thought provoking one…
 

1. I figured that if I said it enough, I would convince the

world that I really was the greatest.

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Posted by on September 2, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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No one is perfect. Accept yourself as you are.

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If you are not feeling good and happy in this life, then it is impossible to feel good with yourself. You might feel a kind of anxiety or discomfort in each moment, each event and each situation.

Maybe you would like to have some courage in certain occasions. Maybe you do not dare to speak in public or ask a question because you are afraid from others judgments and misunderstandings. Anxiety and panic attacks will result from such a scheme of thoughts.

In order to overcome anxiety and feel the courage to achieve tasks, the primary thing to do is to be honest with yourself. Honesty is the synonym of courage and self confidence.

If you feel anxious when you have to face something or somebody, you undoubtedly do not believe sufficiently in you. However, more you doubt in yourself and the more you will put barriers in the way of your self improvement. You will have very big difficulties to take yourself in charge.

So you might be asking yourself on how to overcome anxiety and have some courage when you have to face some situations?

What can I do to keep a strong self confidence without being disturbed by events and situations ?

This method is your first step to overcome anxiety. It is composed from 6 practical steps that will help you to feel well and happy. Consider this method as a start for your self esteem and confidence recovery.

1. Learn to know yourself:

Take a sheet of paper and describe the way you see yourself. Without showing your sheet, ask 2 or 3 of your best friends to describe the way they see you. You will be able to note many differences between your own vision and theirs. You have to be sure that the others cannot know a lot about you. But each one of their remarks can constitute a very interesting starting point so you can begin to analyze yourself deeply and honestly.

2. Accept yourself as you are:

If the objective of this analyze will make you notice the good points in your personality, it will also indicates you the wrong ones. You have to be able to handle all the critics from your best friends because all the negative points should appear after this analyze. If you think that what was told to you by your close relations is justified, don not make a drama. No one is perfect. All the negative points can be fixed and substitute by good points that will help you to adapt in society.

3. Be honest towards yourself:

As we mentioned above, honesty is a sign of courage and a first step to overcome anxiety. While becoming honest with yourself, you will admit and agree to be somebody of distressed for example. You will realize that it is not awful. Starting from this recognition and this acceptance, you will be able to accept and love yourself as you are, and on the other hand you will begin to eradicate panic attacks.

4. Act, act and act:

Having recognized and agreed that you have a problem somewhere, being conscious of this problem and wanting to improve, you have to act in a positive way .Acting means that the problem will be solved. Not taking action will lead you to the real failure. Lastly, it is while testing and failing that you will succeed.

5. Shut down your interior criticism:

All of us and certainly you, who is suffering from anxiety and panic attacks, have little voices in your brain that judges you and criticize you. In order to improve yourself and overcome anxiety, you do not really need to hear these voices. Sometimes they might be telling you that you are a loser, you are in late, you have to work 20 hours a day in order to succeed, etc…..These little bottles of poison are not allowing you to be calm and Zen. The way to shut them down is to take several seconds in a day and ask yourself if you are anxious or not. If you are feeling sad and the answer is that you are anxious, then you have to repeat the opposite sentence of what you are hearing. Ex: I should not be late otherwise it will be catastrophic, so you should say, if i am five minutes before the meeting then i will be Zen. Eradicate everything negative.

6. Accept the idea of failure:

You have to know and to be convinced that failure is a very good thing in life. You should know that it is not because you failed to achieve a task or to do something that you are not worth anything. You have certainly in the mind a lot of the big names in history and in the world that knew failures. The failure is a must in order to succeed and achieve our objectives. The small difference between a loser and a winner is that a loser commits the mistakes twice and the winner once. The failure does not kill “What does not kill me makes me stronger” Frederic Nietzsche. When you are convinced of these ideas, all the pressure that you had in the past will go away. This calm will lead you to better results and efficiency.

By: Steve Buffett

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Posted by on August 30, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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There is a misconception that you need to feel something or do something when triggered.

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We live in a “button” pushing society today. We all have a natural tendency to push back when we feel someone activated one of our “buttons”. We allow people to trigger, anger, anxiety, fear of loss, discomfort in us daily with what they say, do or fail to say and do. The only way that you can get the habitual button pushers out of your life is to stop reacting and responding on their triggers.

The fact of the matter is that people will continue pushing your buttons and they will continue to control you and your emotions while you respond to their silly games. I would suggest that you take a few days and observe how you act and react automatically when your partner, friends or even strangers say or do something that automatically trigger a negative emotional responds in you. Do not judge yourself or the button pushers. Simply become an observer and see if you can identify who and what tend to bring out negative and destructive reaction patterns.

Learn to stop reacting and responding when you notice that you have been triggered. Mentally simply detach and say and do nothing. There is a misconception that you need to feel something or do something when triggered. This is a false perception. The “button pushers” in your life conditioned you to react and respond in a specific manner to enhance their control. Watch their faces and listen to their tone of voice when you stop reacting the way you have been trained. You will be surprised how quickly they will either try harder to regain their control or stop this destructive habit.

The simple art of detachment can change your life. When you learn to let go you bring a brand new dimension into your life. Lear to detach and let go when anyone, yes even someone in the traffic or you child with his or her attitude of entitlement push your buttons. You will be happier, healthier and will most probably live longer as well.

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Posted by on August 20, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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It is NATURAL to experience UPS AND DOWNS in life.

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It is NATURAL to experience UPS AND DOWNS in life. There has never been anyone ever in the history of man that only experienced UP (high) periods in his or her life. Look around you and you will notice that everything presents unique CYCLES. Everyone goes through GROWTH and REDUCTION cycles. It will be crazy to feel like a victim when you experience a DOWN period in any area of your life. You are not in a DOWN period because some kind of punishment is metered out to you. You are not in a DOWNWARD phase because you are a SINNER or because you are INFERIOR in any way. Repeat as often as you can today. It is NATURAL to experience LOW periods in any area of my life. It is NATURAL to experience a general DOWN period as well. See the following image in your head while you repeat these words of wisdom.

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Posted by on July 30, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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Smile for a while

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Posted by on June 30, 2015 in 21 AND OLDER, WISDOM

 

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What can I do to keep a strong/self confidence without being disturbed by events and situations ?

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If you are not feeling good and happy in this life, then it is impossible to feel good with yourself. You might feel a kind of anxiety or discomfort in each moment, each event and each situation.

Maybe you would like to have some courage in certain occasions. Maybe you do not dare to speak in public or ask a question because you are afraid from others judgments and misunderstandings. Anxiety and panic attacks will result from such a scheme of thoughts.

In order to overcome anxiety and feel the courage to achieve tasks, the primary thing to do is to be honest with yourself. Honesty is the synonym of courage and self confidence.

If you feel anxious when you have to face something or somebody, you undoubtedly do not believe sufficiently in you. However, more you doubt in yourself and the more you will put barriers in the way of your self improvement. You will have very big difficulties to take yourself in charge.

So you might be asking yourself on how to overcome anxiety and have some courage when you have to face some situations?

What can I do to keep a strong self confidence without being disturbed by events and situations ?

This method is your first step to overcome anxiety. It is composed from 6 practical steps that will help you to feel well and happy. Consider this method as a start for your self esteem and confidence recovery.

1. Learn to know yourself:

Take a sheet of paper and describe the way you see yourself. Without showing your sheet, ask 2 or 3 of your best friends to describe the way they see you. You will be able to note many differences between your own vision and theirs. You have to be sure that the others cannot know a lot about you. But each one of their remarks can constitute a very interesting starting point so you can begin to analyze yourself deeply and honestly.

2. Accept yourself as you are:

If the objective of this analyze will make you notice the good points in your personality, it will also indicates you the wrong ones. You have to be able to handle all the critics from your best friends because all the negative points should appear after this analyze. If you think that what was told to you by your close relations is justified, don not make a drama. No one is perfect. All the negative points can be fixed and substitute by good points that will help you to adapt in society.

3. Be honest towards yourself:

As we mentioned above, honesty is a sign of courage and a first step to overcome anxiety. While becoming honest with yourself, you will admit and agree to be somebody of distressed for example. You will realize that it is not awful. Starting from this recognition and this acceptance, you will be able to accept and love yourself as you are, and on the other hand you will begin to eradicate panic attacks.

4. Act, act and act:

Having recognized and agreed that you have a problem somewhere, being conscious of this problem and wanting to improve, you have to act in a positive way .Acting means that the problem will be solved. Not taking action will lead you to the real failure. Lastly, it is while testing and failing that you will succeed.

5. Shut down your interior criticism:

All of us and certainly you, who is suffering from anxiety and panic attacks, have little voices in your brain that judges you and criticize you. In order to improve yourself and overcome anxiety, you do not really need to hear these voices. Sometimes they might be telling you that you are a loser, you are in late, you have to work 20 hours a day in order to succeed, etc…..These little bottles of poison are not allowing you to be calm and Zen. The way to shut them down is to take several seconds in a day and ask yourself if you are anxious or not. If you are feeling sad and the answer is that you are anxious, then you have to repeat the opposite sentence of what you are hearing. Ex: I should not be late otherwise it will be catastrophic, so you should say, if i am five minutes before the meeting then i will be Zen. Eradicate everything negative.

6. Accept the idea of failure:

You have to know and to be convinced that failure is a very good thing in life. You should know that it is not because you failed to achieve a task or to do something that you are not worth anything. You have certainly in the mind a lot of the big names in history and in the world that knew failures. The failure is a must in order to succeed and achieve our objectives. The small difference between a loser and a winner is that a loser commits the mistakes twice and the winner once. The failure does not kill “What does not kill me makes me stronger” Frederic Nietzsche. When you are convinced of these ideas, all the pressure that you had in the past will go away. This calm will lead you to better results and efficiency.

By: Steve Buffett

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Posted by on May 22, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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Do what need to be done.

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Get up off your chair or get out of your bed and rise to your full height. Lift your head and take a few deep breaths. Then begin to act in a positive manner. Walk like a person that owns the world. Smile and show compassion to the people around you. Walk tall and with deliberate steps. Do what need to be done. You will be astounded how quickly you will feel the cloud of despair lift from you head. Do not whine like a person that is on the verge of expiring. Raise your voice and talk at a comfortable speed. Inject enthusiasm and passion into your voice. You will soon find that you begin to feel as positive as the way you act

Rene

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Posted by on May 12, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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Sex may help you live a longer, happier, and healthier life due to the health benefits.

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Enjoyment

 

Sex is more than an act of pleasure; it’s the ability to be able to feel so close to a person, so connected, so comfortable that it’s almost breathtaking to the point you feel you can’t take it. And at this moment you’re a part of them.

 

All aspects of sex can be very enjoyable. Kissing and foreplay have all kinds of wonderful sensations and pleasures. Orgasm is an intense sensation of pleasure, frequently coupled with involuntary actions, such as muscular spasms in numerous areas of the body; a general euphoric sensation and, usually, body movements and vocal sounds are uttered.

 

As good as all that sounds, the best part of what happens when we have sex is what happens in the brain. The brain is the largest & most important sex organ. The brain controls our sexual responses, releases sex hormones, and it is where all our sex fantasies, and sexual identities live.

 

Go ahead, enjoy having sex with your partner and celebrate the fact that the sex is so good! “Dare to gasp, sigh, wail, scream, whimper, giggle, or cry for joy the next time you tap your sensual nature! You’re super sexual – and that’s worth getting loud about!” ~Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., M.S.Ed.

 

The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in any love story. It changes the relationship of two people much more strongly than even the final surrender; because this kiss already has within it that surrender. ~Emil Ludwig

 

Health benefits

 

Sex is more than a hormonal release and brief pleasure. Modern science has now proven that sex is good for both your physical and mental health. Sex may help you live a longer, happier, and healthier life due to the health benefits.

 

Some of the health benefits include:

  • Relieves Stress

  • Improves Relaxation and Sleep

  • More Energy

  • Beauty Treatment – look more than 10 years younger

  • Burns Calories and overall fitness

  • Lower Cholesterol

  • Reduces Risk of Heart Disease

  • Lower risk of heart attack

  • Relieves menstrual cramps

  • Prevents endometriosis

  • Dental Health

  • Anti-Depressive

  • Safest Tranquilizer

  • Relieves Pain and Headache

  • Natural Antihistamine

  • Boosts Immune System

  • Improves Blood Flow Circulation

  • Improves Sense of Smell

  • Improves Bladder Control

  • Healthy Prostate and Genitals

  • Boosts Self-Esteem, Sense of Well Being, and Marital Bliss

  • Live Longer, Stay Younger

  • Boost Testosterone, Estrogen and DHEA

  • Lowers the level of Cortisol – The stress hormone

  • The Healing Power of Intimacy

  • Improves your relationship with your mate

  • Lowers feelings of insecurity

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Posted by on March 13, 2015 in 21 AND OLDER, WISDOM

 

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Not making a choice is actually also a choice that you make.

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Most of us sooner or later discover that we have two forces that course through our veins. We automatically vacillate between the “upper” and “lower” limits of this force on a moment to moment basis. The UPPER end of the pole of this system is called the “ACTION” zone and the “LOWEST” end of this pole is characterized as the “NON-ACTION” zone. The feelings generated by thoughts, events or for that matter everything and everyone we encounter decides the quality of the output we intend using to deal with the matter at hand. The mistake we make is that many of us think that we are at the mercy of this so-called automatic reaction patterns that endlessly flood our minds and hearts daily. We jump with joy and run like the wind when good feelings are generated by the thought or event that we are confronted with (ACTION) or shut down and retreat into a dark place in our minds (NON-ACTION). What many of us never knew or understood is that there is no need to remain a victim of our historical conditioning or past mistakes. All that is real and valid is our current moment. We can if we decide to take control act in an appropriate and powerful manner notwithstanding the threat and feelings of doubt that we might be confronted with. You are part of a universal force that caters for evolution on a moment to moment basis. Call this force God my friend if it will make you feel more comfortable. This force is fair and allows every living thing in the universe to evolve, grow and expand notwithstanding his or her history. You can make a fresh start on a moment to moment basis. You are allocated 86400 new moments in any given day where you can make a fresh start. There is no need to fear failure or hide in the “NON-ACTION” zone. The NON-ACTION zone is a place where you become stagnant and RESIST risking the possibility of getting hurt or disappointed. The choices you make decide the quality of the outcomes you experience daily. Very few of us understand that not making a choice is actually also a choice that you make. You choose NON-ACTION and RESISTANCE and give up control.

 

Spend some time today to probe why you have this reluctance to take action. What is the cause of the resistance deep inside you that is preventing you from being the best you that you can ever be? Now make a list of all the things you will do if you knew that you cannot fail. Make a list of everything that comes to mind. Think it and then ink it. I will continue this series tomorrow.

 

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Posted by on March 10, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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Constantly ask yourself, “Why am I such an idiot” and you will continue to display “idiotic” behaviour.

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YOU ARE ASKING YOURSELF QUESTIONS ALL DAY LONG. THE TYPE OF QUESTIONS YOU ASK YOURSELF WILL DETERMINE THE QUALITY OF YOUR LIFE, THE TYPE OF RELATIONSHIPS YOU HAVE AND THE SUCCESS YOU ACHIEVE IN YOUR CAREER!

The process of thinking is nothing more than an ongoing series of questions that you ask yourself. You question your own performance and the performances of others all the time. You ability to focus on the positive in life is determined by the type of questions that you ask yourself. If you constantly ask yourself, “Why am I such an idiot” you will continue to display “idiotic” behaviour. When you continually ask yourself, “Why is everybody picking on me all the time” you will continue to display the role of a victim. If you ask yourself, “Why am I continually missing out on career advances and promotions” you will make very little progress in whatever career you currently follow.

Superficially these questions might seem as if they come from the heart, but if you study them closer you will see that they cannot in any way enhance your performance in any area of your life. If you for example ask, “Why am I such an idiot” you will never really discover why you feel that you are giving the performance of an idiot all the time.

We also ask questions about the people around us all the time. We will for example ask, “Why is he always out to belittle me and make me look bad in situations.” This type of question can send you on a mental trip into a maze that will never provide you with a solution to the discomfort this person are causing you. We must stop asking ourselves questions that are designed to make our already negative and despondent feelings even more destructive.

 

The quality of your life depends on the type of questions you ask yourself about your own performance and the performances of others. If you are at the moment feeling let down by someone and you ask, “Why is everybody always letting me down” will not alleviate your pain, but rather deepen the feeling of disgust or despondency in you.

I think that this questioning habit comes from our childhood where our parents “questioned” us when we made mistakes or did something wrong. We seem to take this parent to child method of questioning into our adult life.

 

I WILL ALWAYS ASK MYSELF QUESTIONS THAT WILL LEAD ME TO SOLUTIONS. QUESTIONS THAT PUT ME IN AN ENDLESS LOOP WILL NOT IMPROVE MY LIFESTYLE OR SOLVE ANYTHING!

 

The way to question yourself should always bring your closer to a solution to your perceived problem. Rather ask, “What can I do to improve my performance in maths” and avoid the “Why am I such an idiot” style. When you ask “how can I improve” questions you, start thinking solutions while when ask “Why am I such an “idiot” questions you just deepen the negative perception you have about your performance in maths.

When you begin to pose solution-orientated questions, you are directing your attention towards things you can do to improve your status. If you ask destructive questions that only highlight your perceived inadequacies, you are setting yourself up for ongoing failure.

You can ask yourself questions on paper and begin to grow right now. If you list a number of “improvement questions” and begin to work on things you can do to improve on your current performance you are well on your way to success. If you are unhappy about something then ask, “What can I do right now to become more happy and fulfilled?” Make a list of positive question on the following subjects and then answer them in a constructive manner.

Make a list of questions on happy, success, passion, gratitude, money etc. Now answer your “what can I do to improve” questions. You will be amazed what progress you make in a relative short period. Remember questions are good as long as they are posed and answered in a constructive manner.

 

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Posted by on March 7, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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One fresh thought/new idea can change your life from pain and suffering/success/peace of mind.

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YOU MAKE A THOUSAND CHOICES EVERY DAY!

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YOUR MIND IS FULL OF THOUGHTS OF LOVE, JUDGEMENT, PEACE, FEAR, GRACE, GUILT, JOY, ANGER, FORGIVENESS, ATTACK, LAUGHTER, WORK, PLAY, JUDGMENT, KINDNESS, ISOLATION AND ONENESS ETC!

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YOUR HEAD IS LIKE A TOOLBOX: Everyday you make a thousand choices. You choose what to wear, where to go, who to meet, what to eat and what to do. MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL, YOU decide WHAT TO THINK. One thing is sure and that is that your day will not be better than you thoughts.

Just close your eyes for a moment and see if you can visualise this open toolbox and if you can see the hundreds of tools that are neatly placed in this toolbox. Now look if you can see the maker’s name on these tools. The creator of these tools (thoughts and perceptions) is you. You created thousands of thoughts and perceptions (tools) about everything since your childhood.

When confronted with any situation or problem you reach into this toolbox and take out what you think the most appropriate tool and attempt to fix the problem. It is estimated that your mind thinks at least 2,500 thoughts an hour. Every thought that you think is a tool (perception) that you have that you imagine would work best under specific circumstances. This thought process continue day and night and will do so for the rest of your life.

I am convinced that we think ourselves to a standstill. We never stop playing with these tools in our toolbox and can hardly ever really relax for a while. If we are not faced with a problem or task that needs completion we still continue to take out these tools and mentally rehears and contemplate how we will use them should something that we fear become a reality.

We are forever thinking and scheming and never become still and tranquil inside. Our bodies might seem relaxed, but deep inside our heads this thought process continues churning around. What I am most worried about is that most of the tools that you have in our toolboxes is very old and outdated.

Many of the modern problems that you face cannot be repaired using these tools. If you take a modern mechanic’s toolbox and you place the toolbox of a mechanic of fifty years ago next to it you will find that there are major discrepancies. When you are confronted with something that needs repair and you do not have the right tool for the task at hand it can be very frustrating. We usually improvise and try using some other tool and hope that it will also get the job done.

 

When you are faced with a problem you need to select the right tool for the task at hand. If you do not have the tool in your toolbox it can complicate your life. What most people seem to ignore is that it is sometimes better not to reach for your toolbox when faced with a problem. Sometimes you need time to pass or need to leave the problem with its rightful owner. How well you use your tools is usually reflected in the world you see around you. What would you do if you were faced with any or all of the following?

 

You get a flat tire on your way to an important customer or meeting. You can fall apart, develop a migraine and think that life is against you or you can take out the right tools (patience and reality) and take care of the problem in a relaxed manner.

 

You have been working on the computer for hours and suddenly lose all your work. You can drop dead with a heart attack, think that God hates you or you can take out the right tool (sanity and reality) and begin over again and remember this time to make a backup your work.

 

A lover or wife possibly cheated on you. You can go crazy and get an assassin to take her potential lover out, think that you are a failure or you can take out the right tool (no fear of loss) and get on with your life.

 

When you have the right tools in your toolbox it makes life a lot easier. The choices we make are vital in our lives. The more quality choices we make during any given day the higher the probability of success and peace of mind.

I suggest that you equip your toolbox with the best tools you can lay your hands on. If you discover that one of your tools are outdated or that a more modern version is available. How would you react if your TV packed up and a technician that obviously knows very little about electronics arrived at your house with only a sledgehammer and a few other primitive tools in his toolbox? I am sure that you will send him away and find someone better qualified and equipped for the task.

You might sometimes be like this incompetent and poorly equipped technician indicated above if you do not often update your tools (thoughts) in your toolbox. You can also have all the right tools in your toolbox and never use them because you are afraid that you might make a mistake.

You must remember that happiness and success is always just one thought (tool) away. You should remember when you find it difficult to cope with something that one new tool (thought) could change your life. One fresh thought and one new idea can change your life from pain and suffering to success and peace of mind.

You are what you think. Your choices that you make on a moment-to-moment basis decide your fate and future. You are really what you think. You can never feel or perform better than the ongoing thoughts that you allow to occupy your mind!

Rene

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ADDITIONAL MATERIAL ON CHOICES AT THE LINK BELOW

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Realism can be bad for your health.

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A free drug can help treat many disorders with no side effects: our minds. Jo Marchant reveals six ways to exploit its power

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POSITIVE THINKING

Heal thyself: Think positive

 

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Go on, try to convince yourself, because realism can be bad for your health
 

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TRUST

Heal thyself: Trust people

 

 

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Being lonely increases the risk of everything from heart attacks to dementia, whereas a good social life means better sleep and slower ageing
 

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MEDITATION

Heal thyself: Meditate

 

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Meditation may boost the immune response, protect against a relapse in major depression, soothe skin conditions and even slow the progression of HIV
 

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HYPNOSIS

Heal thyself: Self-hypnosis

 

 
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Hypnosis may help pain management, anxiety, depression, sleep disorders, obesity and asthma, not to mention some nasty skin conditions
 

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PURPOSE

 

Heal thyself: Know your purpose

 

 

In a study of 50 people with advanced lung cancer, those judged to have high “spiritual faith” responded better to chemotherapy and survived longer
 

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If you want to exert serious influence on people, learn about the power of honest appreciation.

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EVEN A LITTLE BIT OF RECOGNITION CAN GO AN INCREDIBLY LONG WAY IN A PERSON’S LIFE

 JOHN MAXWELL

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I am often astounded when I see how unappreciative people have become. I am not talking about buying someone a vehicle or sending him or her on a boat trip around the world in appreciation here. I am talking about something much more simple. What I have in mind is the simple and low energy activity of moving your lips and forming the words, “Thank you.” Society has become sour, critical and self-centred and takes far too much for granted. I will start with children. Children today begin at a very young age to become takers and usually sustain this parasite behaviour habit into adulthood. I have seen many parents go without to ensure a good education for their children. I have seen how parents worked two jobs and forfeit their health and best years of their life to ensure that their ungrateful offspring can go around with “designer or brand name” clothing. I can feel the veins in my neck popping when I see how ill mannered children treat their parents as if they are brain dead morons. Appreciation usually only enters the picture when the spoiled child needs to lay his hands of the wallet of their “well worn” parents.

 

The inability to express appreciation is rife in society today. Not only children go around taking things for granted. When last did you catch someone expressing honest out of the heart unsolicited appreciation? People are starved of this vital ingredient in all levels of society today. People blush and become embarrassed when you thank them or express your honest appreciation. You can detect that they are out of practice receiving appreciation. The sudden rush of “good chemicals” from their brains that are released when you feel appreciated makes them dizzy and tend to stun them.

 

I WILL TODAY EXPRESS MY APPRECIATION AS IF I HAVE AN ENDLESS STOCK OF IT IN THE STOREHOUSE OF MY MIND

 

If you want to exert serious influence on people, learn about the power of honest appreciation. Express and show your appreciation more often and see what enormous difference it can make in the lives of people. The rumour that has been around that appreciation cannot be experienced when you become older or when your hair turns grey is just an urban legend. You never grow too old, rich, or fat to enjoy appreciation. It is something that you obtain free of charge and that will not bankrupt you if you hand it out in generous proportions. You can freely use this powerful tool on parents, gardeners, strangers, and even intimate friends.

 

Invite people to tell you more about themselves, their hopes, their fears, and dreams. Show real interest in what they have to say. Learn to take the focus off your own needs, fears, and ego driven aspirations for a while. Most people are so ego driven that they find it very difficult to listen. Do not try and top every story they tell with one of your own that makes their achievement bleak in comparison. Send people “thank you “ notes. I have seen mothers treasure a thank you note for decades that a son or daughter wrote them in a moment of weakness. You also do not need to wait for special occasions to show your appreciation. A single flower or a one-minute phone call can often do more for a worn out mother or father than the medication he or she takes for his or her depression or insomnia. Become a strong source of influence today by giving your appreciation freely to everybody you meet. The amazing thing about giving appreciation and recognition is that it also makes you feel good and worthy.

Rene

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Posted by on February 23, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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Champions do not allow historical FAILURES to influence their current choices that they need to make.

CHAMPIONS SEEM TO HAVE ACCESS TO SOME KIND OF POWER OR ABILITY THAT FAILURES NEVER SEEM TO FULLY MASTER. MATURE PEOPLE SHOW COMPOSURE AND WISDOM WHILE THE IMMATURE BLINDLY REPEAT THE SAME MISTAKES ON A CONTINUOUS BASIS! 

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Why do certain people turn out success after success while others display the uncanny ability to make things of beauty or great potential turn into shit almost all the time? Why do certain people remain calm, relaxed and composed under difficult conditions while others seem to change into bumbling anxious idiots when the first sign of potential pain or problems are detected?

I think that your frame of mind and “belief system” plays a very important role in everything you do. We all have a decoding system in our brains that either enhance our effectiveness or diminish our ability to think in a rational and objective manner.

Let me explain how I perceive how this process works. When we are faced with any decision, we “run” the information or data collected through our “pain” and “pleasure” processor in our brains. If we perceive that we might experience pain or loss, we usually take evasive action. We then mentally and physically move away as far as possible from the person, situation, or circumstances that might cause us the anticipated pain.

When we sense that we might find ourselves in somewhat risky waters our pain centre starts playing us videos of previous situations where we experienced pain under similar or almost the same type of circumstances. These video packages also generate the feelings that we experienced in our previous failures. We cannot think in a positive and constructive manner while we are mentally confused, in pain or physically go around projecting an image of a fully-fledged victim. The main reason why people lose their composure or respond in a negative and destructive manner is because they fear potential pain or a negative outcome.

 

Your belief system is made up out of these “feeling” packages that are stored in your computer. While you run your life and make decisions using your “auto-pilot” in your pain – pleasure processor you remain at the mercy of your history. If you are sensitised on pain avoidance you will continually and automatically allow anxiety or past pain to taint new experiences or decisions that you are faced with.

I am sure that you have met many “pain avoiders” in your life. They spend the best part of their lives running away physically or mentally from potential pain. Champions on the other hand do not allow historical pain videos to influence their current choices that they need to make. They know that victory will only come to the bold and the objective.

Champions also feel fear, but they then replace the fear feeling with objectiveness and courage. They take out the fear videos that are playing in their mind and replace them with success-projected outcomes. Champions finally learned that what you see mentally always become a reality in your life.

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REMEMBER, YOU CANNOT PLAY PAIN FILLED VIDEOS ON THE SCREEN OF YOUR MIND AND EXPERIENCE POSITIVE AND CONSTRUCTIVE FEELINGS.

 

I WILL TODAY REPLACE AT LEAST ONE NEGATIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE PERCEPTION I HAVE WITH A CONSTRUCTIVE AND PLEASURE FILLED MOVIE IN THE THEATRE OF MY MIND!

 

Take thirty minutes and first play one of your horror movies and see if you can make the outcome as bad as possible. Feel the pain, anxiety, doubt, and fear. Do not spare your feelings. Go for it in a big way. Before you play a positive outcome movie first ask yourself, “Is this what I want?” If you are not happy with what you see in your mind’s eye or feel mentally then slip a positive movie into your mental projector. Project yourself into a successful outcome. See and feel success and victory. Feel good feelings pumping through your body and mind. Remember what you see is what you get. The final choice is now in your hands my friend. Continue to play horror movies founded on historical BS or create a brand new successful future for yourself!

Rene

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Happy people have an advantage.

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Happy people have an advantage over unhappy ones — they may be healthier and may live longer.

 

An extensive review of literature using seven types of evidence indicates that high subjective well-being (SWB), such as life satisfaction, optimism, and positive emotions, causes better health and longevity. The review, published in Applied Psychology: Health and Well-Being (2011), examined 160 studies which showed compelling evidence that positive feelings predict health and longevity.

 

The findings of the review, based from seven types of evidence, are summarized below:

Longitudinal studies. These studies, which have large sample sizes and have followed participants for a decade or more, revealed that SWB was related to lower mortality rate in both healthy and diseased populations. Positive moods such as joy and happiness, life satisfaction, hopefulness, optimism, and a sense of humor were associated with reduced risk of mortality and predicted longevity.

 

Physiology and health. Moods and emotions are associated with biological markers such as blood pressure, cortisol, and inflammation. Studies found that pessimists have higher blood pressure levels. Anger and hostility were related not only to the development of cardiovascular disease, but also to disease progression and inflammation. Stress predicted lower levels of immune response; whereas, positive affect strengthened immunity. Positive affect was associated with greater social connectedness, perceived social support, and greater probability of performing healthy behaviors.

 

Experimental manipulations of emotions. In experimental studies, positive and negative moods are induced which are then measured. Research showed that participants exposed to positive mood induction had quicker cardiovascular recovery after a stressful task than subjects who were exposed to neutral and negative mood inductions. Studies also revealed that couples who were generally higher in hostility had slower wound healing than low hostile couples, as well as more tumor necrosis and a poorer immune response.

 

Animal studies. Animals are used in experimental research to obtain information about how certain positive and negative situations affect their health and longevity. Studies revealed that socially-stressed monkeys developed more extensive atherosclerosis than unstressed ones. Stress, threatening human behavior, and isolation suppressed the immune system of monkeys, chickens, and pigs. Pigs that learned a mastery task to obtain rewards, giving them some control over their environment, later showed quicker wound healing and carcass quality.

 

Quasi-experimental studies in natural settings. Studies in quasi-experimental studies suggest that events and disasters are associated with cardiovascular and immune changes. Disasters, bereavement, and observing exciting sports events can trigger cardiac deaths in vulnerable individuals. Further, people with work overload and worry showed higher cortisol response at awakening and on weekdays but not on weekends.

 

Interventions that influence SWB. Researchers found that transcendental meditation and progressive relaxation reduced blood pressure over a 3-month follow-up period, compared to a control group. People who wrote about intensely positive experiences had fewer health center visits for illness during the following 3 months, compared to people who wrote about a control topic. Patients who suffered from myocardial infarction, who received Type-A counseling (for Type A behavior) in addition to traditional cardiac counseling, were less likely to die within 5 years.

 

SW’s impact on quality of life and pain. Studies showed that positive emotions were related to lower pain and greater tolerance for pain. Patients suffering from fibromyalgia and rheumatoid arthritis reported less pain with positive mood induction while women reported less pain to heat stimuli when looking at photos of their partner.

 

In sum, these converging studies form a compelling proof that SWB, such as happiness, causally influences health and longevity.

By Amy Chaves, Ph.D. / Source: Natural News

 

 

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Posted by on February 18, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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It is NATURAL to experience UPS AND DOWNS in life.

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It is NATURAL to experience UPS AND DOWNS in life. There has never been anyone ever in the history of man that only experienced UP (high) periods in his or her life. Look around you and you will notice that everything presents unique CYCLES. Everyone goes through GROWTH and REDUCTION cycles. It will be crazy to feel like a victim when you experience a DOWN period in any area of your life. You are not in a DOWN period because some kind of punishment is metered out to you. You are not in a DOWNWARD phase because you are a SINNER or because you are INFERIOR in any way. Repeat as often as you can today. It is NATURAL to experience LOW periods in any area of my life. It is NATURAL to experience a general DOWN period as well. See the following image in your head while you repeat these words of wisdom.

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Posted by on February 18, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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YOUR ABILITY TO COMPOSE YOURSELF CAN MAKE YOU OR BREAK YOU.

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YOUR ABILITY TO COMPOSE YOURSELF CAN MAKE YOU OR BREAK YOU. THE WAY YOU WALK AND TALK AND PRESENT YOURSELF WILL DECIDE THE LEVEL ON INFLUENCE YOU EXERT!

 

Very few people understand the powerful role their composure plays in everything they do and how they feel. You can never act in a positive manner if you go around with a troubled look on your face, slumped shoulders and whine in your voice. How can you think and act in a positive manner if your whole demeanour is that of a loser or fader? What you think is displayed in the image you project to the people around you. I have never seen a person with a negative attitude and poor self-image go up to any rostrum to receive first prize. I have never seen any person with the image of a bird with a broken wing sell like a champion. I have never seen a parent with the image of a bull terrier win the love and respect of his own children. What you project activates chemicals in your brain that will either fuel your passion or dowse the fire in your heart.

How can you expect to feel, act and be positive if you project an image of a dog that got one too many hiding? The point I am making here is that you have the power within you to turn you negative feelings around by simply adjusting your composure. When you feel down and defeated, pull back your shoulders, lift your head and take a few deep breaths. Look life and people straight in the eye. This will immediately trigger positive chemicals in your brain. The dark clouds will lift from your brain and stop smothering your creativity and passion.

This might sound too simple to be worth much, but just try it the next time you feel down and defeated. You will be amazed what power is locked up in your brain that will be unleashed when you use this method. You will discover that the sun will push away the dark clouds of despair and the feelings of gloom that kept you imprisoned in a mental torture chamber will dissipate. You will begin to act in a manner conducive to winning again. Please remember that you cannot think or act in a positive manner with an image that reminds you of a helpless child.

 

I NOW HAVE A TRIGGER MECHANISM THAT I CAN USE IN MOMENTS WHEN I FEEL DEFEATED, OUTCLASSED OR DOWN.

 

If you want to exert influence, you will have to look at the image that you project while at work and play. People treat you the way you project yourself. People, will use and abuse you if you go around with the image of a defeated man. You will feel exactly what you project. People do not follow losers and cry babies. They latch onto winners and people that make them feel safe and protected.

Will you put your life in the hands of a doctor that project an image of insecurity and hesitation? Will you invest money with a person that presents you with an image of an illiterate person? You must never forget that life is a jungle out there. If you show any sign of weakness or vulnerability, the vultures, and scavengers of life will appear like magic.

In nature the weak always becomes the victim of the strong. When a kudu feels ill or appear injured, the scavengers will target and devour him. In life, it is the same. When your head and shoulder go down you lose your zest for life. Your tone of voice drops to a whisper or whine and your feel drained and tired. Remember the trigger to get you out of this frame of mind is to reverse the process.

Lift your head and shoulders. Take a few deep breaths and walk like a man with a mission. You will be pleasantly surprised how quickly you feel in control again and how much fresh new energy will begin to pump through your body and mind.

 

Rene

 

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Posted by on February 17, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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The Top Five Regrets – Will you one day say, “I wish that I had let myself be happier.”

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Top Five Regrets

Bronnie Ware

 

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.

People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learned never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

 

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:


1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me

 

This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard

 

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings

 

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
Tell people how you feel about them, whether you love them, disagree with them or want to help them.

 

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends

 
Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

 

 

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

 

When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

 

Life is a choice.

It is YOUR life.

 

Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly.

 

Choose happiness.

 

Thank you for this input Annalise!

 

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Self confidence in 15 minutes – Everybody can learn to be more confident!

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Self confidence in 15 minutes

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Some people have naturally high levels of confidence but everybody can learn to be more confident!

 

Firstly, it’s important to get a clear idea of what self confidence really means, otherwise you won’t know when you’ve got it! So, self confidence means:

 

1) Being calm. For every situation in life you need to run on the appropriate level of emotion. Too much emotional ‘leakage’ into a experience can spoil the experience. You make great strides towards confidence when you begin to relax in a greater range of situations.

 

2) Being cool. The second part of self confidence is about being able to relax with uncertainty. To be ‘cool’ in a situation really means relaxing with not knowing how things will pan out. If you truly tolerate uncertainty, you can do pretty much anything.

 

3) Not being too concerned with what others think of you. You know when you imagine what some place is going to be like before you go there but when you get there it is totally different to your imagination? That’s how reliable your imagination is! Stop trusting your imagination so much. I’ve long since stopped bothering to imagine what others think of me because so often I’ve turned out to be wrong.

 

4) Being specific – where do you want confidence?‘Confidence’ is meaningless until you tie it to something specific. You are already confident that you can read these words or can switch a light on and off. So you don’t need more confidence everywhere. To get what you want in life you have to establish exactly what you do want. Where do you want confidence in your life? Think about the specific situations now and write them down. You beginning to steer your brain towards confidence.

 

5) Understanding that what you expect is what you get. Your brain is an organ that needs clear goals to work towards. When a task has been set in your brain it will do everything it can do to bring about the completion of that task. If you’ve tried to recall someone’s name but can’t, hours later you’ll often find their name pops into your head.

 

The ‘trying to recall’ experience set the task or blueprint for your brain’s future subconscious behaviour which eventually produced the name for you – when you weren’t thinking about it consciously. You can use this natural mechanism to start feeling more confident. But, to ensure you set the right task for your subconscious mind, the next point is vital.

 

6) Don’t task your mind with negatives. Instead of: ‘I don’t want to screw up’ (which sets the task of ‘screwing up’ for your brain), set the blueprint for what you do want! Your brain doesn’t work towards what to do by being told what not to do. And nature has given you a wonderful natural tool to set the right task blueprints with.

 

7) Use nature’s goal-setter: Now you understand how vital it is to set the right task for your brain, you need to know how to do this reliably. Good hypnosis will strongly ‘program’ the right blueprint in your mind through the use of your imagination. If you powerfully imagine feeling confident and relaxed while in a relaxed state it will be hard for your unconscious mind to do anything else. The blueprint for relaxation has been set firmly into your subconscious mind.

 

3 simple strategies to get you feeling confident quickly:

 

1) Think specifically of the time/place/situation you want to feel confident in. Remember ‘confidence’ doesn’t mean anything until you attach it to something specific.

 

2) Focus on words in your mind right now that describe how you do want to be in that time and place. Maybe words such as ‘calm’, ‘relaxed’ or ‘focused’. Remember your brain works on clear positive instructions.

 

3) Close your eyes for as long as you like and think about how those words feel. Then, imagine the situation itself and rehearse it in your mind feeling confident and relaxed. This way you set the right blueprint or ‘task’ for your unconscious mind.

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You can repeat the above often to make it more effective and use it with as many areas of your life as you need to. So if you feel like you’d be blessed with less confidence than some other people you can start redressing the balance by using your mind in the right way right now.

Rene

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Posted by on February 10, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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Mother Nature deposits her gifts on everyone regardless of their status, race or career

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My mood was cold, dark, and directionless. My tortured mind was filled with thoughts of missed opportunities and broken promises.

 

The cutting wind on my unshaven face made my eyes water and drove the dark clouds of depression into my shattered soul.

 

The years slipped by like fleeting dreams. Moments of joy and victory came and vanished like the waves of the ocean bashed on the black rocks of sadness.

 

I looked up and noticed the sheets of rain that endlessly poured its gift of life and growth in all directions.

 

A thought darted into my tired defeated mind. I suddenly noticed how nature shares her abundance with everyone and everything.

 

Mother Nature is not selective when she sends gifts of rain and sunshine to feed, nourish and rejuvenate everything with a smattering of life at their core.

 

These gifts of life are given to the seeds that are still sleeping in the soil. The dark scorched earth will soon put on a new coat of colour and in turn pass on these gifts of life to the bees, birds and everything else that waited patiently on Mother Nature to return as she has done since the beginning of time.

 

I suddenly understood that it is mankind’s inability to give unconditionally that is responsible for the inequality that drips off this planet like black wax from a candle.

 

Our homes are filled to the brim with stuff, but we want more, better, faster and the latest. Something inside us drives us like a hungry pack of wolves forward in our quest to feed our greedy ego.

 

There is no time for compassion in our busy lives. Poverty stares at us on every corner, but we are so obsessed with our own little world that we never notice that cold and hungry child on the corner of the street or a mother that worked her hands to the bone to serve us where we sit in our artificial castles sipping our wine of success.

 

The clouds of gloominess gradually lifted from my bowed shoulders. I knew what Mother Nature came to teach me in this dark night of my soul. She came to teach me about compassion and gratitude. She showed me that I must learn to give unconditionally and abundantly if I want to make a contribution to life on this planet.

 

I noticed that the sun began to break through the clouds announcing that the rain moved on to go and do some more teaching down the road. A rainbow suddenly appeared on the horizon. I slowly got up, wiped the water from my face, pushed back my shoulders with new hope in my heart against the backdrop of the singing of the birds that were thanking Mother Nature in advance for the new gifts that she will bring the next time she pays us a visit. She will like before pour her gifts on the rich and the poor, on those that have in abundance and those that have virtually nothing. She deposits her gifts on everyone regardless of their status, race or career and knows that a time will come when mankind has evolved enough to grasp that we are one and an extension of her.

Rene

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Posted by on February 3, 2015 in WISDOM

 

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A champion knows that his winter season will pass like so many times before and make way for a brand new summer.

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1. A child reared without clear boundaries has little chance of success. Limits are necessary to give purpose, direction and structure to life. The fool swims in a boundless sea of opportunity and finally drowns because of his failure to latch onto a specific purpose. He tries to own the sea while the wise man selects a single purpose (opportunity/goal) and then pursue it with all his heart. The wise man understands the power of commitment and focused thought and is well rewarded.

2. A defeated person becomes indifferent about his fate. He finally stops feeling ashamed or sorry. He stops resisting and fighting to reclaim his dignity. The wise is very aware that passive behaviour could make him act like a dog with a broken spirit. Our parks are filled with defeated individuals that tragically accepted their fate in life.

3. A desperate or worried person displays the tendency to cling to anything or anyone that displays even slight compassion. A true warrior understands that this behaviour will eventually exhaust the person that he clings to. A champion never makes panic decisions or choices. He lives in the moment and knows that his winter season will pass like so many times before and make way for a brand new summer.

4. A few moments of indiscretion could become a burden that you might haunt you for the rest of your life. The need for instant gratification is usually at the root of most of our less spectacular choices. Any choice that we make can be compared to the pull of a trigger on a gun. Once the bullet leaves the barrel it cannot be recalled.

5. A good friend is like a good investment. To make good longterm friends be a friend. Friends become a shield in troubled times. Friendship is not a one-sided deal. There are people that claim that they are your friends, but they are often just stranger exploiting you. Several of the friends you make during your lifetime will stick a knife in your back the first time your friendship is really tested.

6. A grievance poisons your mind and chains you to the past. It leaves you bitter and twisted. Everyday of your life you chose between grievances and freedom. You must make up your mind if you want “pain” or “joy” or the “old” or the “new”. When you choose to go for freedom then learning the art of letting go becomes a top priority. When you have mastered the art of letting go of your history you begin to predominantly live in the now.

7. A man that cannot find enough compassion in his heart to forgive is a fool. We all make mistakes, but the fool continues trying to convince everybody that he is flawless. When you master the art of forgiveness you enter a safe harbour and gain peace of mind.

8. A man that is mature, fair and respectable is worth more than precious jewellery. Everybody respects maturity and predictability. Wisdom only comes to those that are slow to anger and careful in their judgement.

9. A man that lacks self-esteem needs titles and certificates to justify his position in life. A man at peace with who he is does not need the constant blessing or praise of others. Never allow a person’s title or position to intimidate or dominate you. See yourself on equal footing with others. Do not allow a person to intimidate you with his pedigree or current superior vantage point.

10. A man with willpower always has the best chance of coming out on top. The main reason why people fail is not because they do not have the skills and know-how, but because they lack the willpower. A person without willpower and determination always ends up the slave of those that do.


Rene

 

(from my book – PORTABLE LIFE SKILLS WISDOM GUIDE)

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“Compassion is not religious business, it is human business, it is not luxury, it is essential for our peace and mental stability, it is essential for human survival” – The Dalai Lama

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Resilience is one of the greatest survival skills – 8 tips to help you learn how to bounce back.

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Fall down seven times. Stand up eight. (Japanese proverb.)

 

Resilience is one of the greatest survival skills. It helps you both psychologically and physically in the long-run. While it can’t make your problems go away, it can help you endure any sort of hardship – like traumatic events, loss, illness, disaster, the death of a loved one, or any other setback or challenge.

Resilience is about enlisting your inner strengths, and harnessing your healthy coping mechanisms, so that you keep functioning without getting over-anxious, depressed, overwhelmed or apathetic.

Here are 8 tips to help you learn how to bounce back when some misfortune strikes, or when you are faced with a challenge:

Maintain your hopefulness. Even though the picture may look grim for now, think back to all the challenges that you have encountered and overcome in your life so far, to gain hope and optimism that a solution will be found and remember that any wound, no matter how big it seems right now, will heal in time.

Learn to be more stoical about life. Accept that unwanted events, sudden changes in circumstances are a part of life, and instead of clinging to your belief of how things “ought to be” learn to adapt, tolerate and even welcome your problems. Sometimes, problems are teachers and help us grow and become hardier and wiser.

Take some distance from the event, misfortune or challenge and try to view it as happening to someone else. How would you help that person cope? What would you advise him/her to do? Follow your own advice. There are many angles from which you can view a situation. Taking some distance, becoming an observer rather than a participant may give you the strength but also the problem-solving resources to overcome your challenge. Resilience requires flexibility, not holding onto rigidly to only one point of view.

Reach out to your friends or other support groups. You don’t have to go it alone. A friend’s advice, help or even willing ear or shoulder to cry on may help you re-organize better your inner resources. Feeling connected helps empower people in times of hardship. Offering help to others does the same. Help others in need, you will get empowered as much as they!

Take appropriate action.You don’t have to know the whole solution, you don’t have to examine all the parameters before you take some action in a positive direction. Small steps can help you greatly to feel that you are gaining control of the situation. Play it by ear for a while, test what works and what doesn’t.

Remember to laugh. Every challenge, every misfortune has its comical side. Use humor to lighten up. Think of how comedians can describe a tragic situation in ways that make you laugh. It’s a great coping mechanism, a relaxing break from serious thinking, worrying or grieving.

Don’t neglect yourself. Take good care of your nutrition, sleep, and home environment. Create relaxation time, see friends, do things that please you, like relaxing hobbies, or going to the gym.

Maintain your vision and sense of purpose. Setbacks create havoc, sometimes, emotional upheaval and tend to require all of our attention. We tend to obsess about our problem, as if it’s the only thing going on in our lives. It’s good to continue to keep in mind your long-term personal goals, visions, the things that make your life meaningful and focus back on all these areas that provided joy, hope and a sense of accomplishment before the upsetting event. It will help create a sense of balance in your life.

Finally, remember that “this too shall pass”. Repeating this often to yourself will have a soothing and healing effect and boost your resilience.

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Ismini Apostoli

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ONLY WHEN YOU HAVE HAD ENOUGH OF THE CONTROL/SILLY GAMES WILL YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT THIS BOOK IS ALL ABOUT!

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ONLY WHEN YOU HAVE HAD ENOUGH OF THE CONTROL AND SILLY GAMES WILL YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT THIS BOOK IS ALL ABOUT!

The mechanical matrix of post modern consumer society, built by ordinary men and women, is a reality that is indeed a snare, serving only to isolate its inhabitants from a truer, wider, and richer interpretation in which all things are interwoven and cooperative. The matrix we live in, and which we uphold with each and every one of our thoughts (though as we shall see, these thoughts are not our own), is a world built blindly, through fear and rationality, a prison pervaded by misery, hostility, confusion, resentment, and despair. It ain’t no playground. And if it’s a game, then it’s one which few of us ever get to enjoy playing, perhaps because no one ever told us the rules.

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 EN MATRIX WARRIOR: BEING THE ONE (complete book) 4.2 MB

Contents:

COVER
FOREWORD: “NOT JUST A MOVIE, IT’S AN EXPERIENCE !”
FIRST VARIABLE: LIVING IN A DREAM WORLD
I. REALITY AS A SNARE: POSTMODERNIST TWENTY-FIRST CENTURY FRAGMENTATION
II. WE ARE NOT AMUSED: RULES FOR BEGINNERS
III. THE SEVEN DEADLY VIRTUES: PRIMARY MOTIVATING FACTORS FOR PLUGGED-IN HUMANS
IV. AUTOMATONS ‘R’ US
SECOND VARIABLE: THERE IS NO SPOON
V. HOLOGRAM ETHICS: REALITY AS GAME-PLAN
VI. RULES OF EMPOWERMENT: DIY UNPLUGGING
VII. SINS AGAINST THE STATE: EIGHT CARDINAL VIRTUES OF THE MATRIX WARRIOR
VIII. THE VALE OF SOUL-MAKING: UNDERSTANDING THE MATRIX
THIRD VARIABLE: YOU THINK THAT’S AIR YOU’RE BREATHING ?
IX. DO YOU BELIEVE IN FATE ? THE SORCERER’S WILL TO FREEDOM
X. LIFE IN THE MATRIX: APPROPRIATE RESPONSES TO ILLUSORY STIMULI
XI. YOU ARE NOT YOU: LIFE AS SIMULACRA
FOURTH VARIABLE: WALKING THE PATH
XII. THE LUCID’S VIEW SEX (THE WOMAN IN THE RED DRESS)
FIFTH VARIABLE: THE DESERT OF THE REAL
XIII. ARMAGEDDON OUTTA HERE: THE GREAT UNPLUGGING
XIV. THE SOUND OF INEVITABILITY: PLANNING AROUND THE APOCALYPSE
XV. THE NIGHTMARE OF HISTORY: INFORMATION AGE AND ESCHATON
SIXTH VARIABLE: MY NAME IS NEO !
XVI. LUCIDITY IS DESTINY: THE DOUBLE LIFE OF THE MATRIX SORCERER
XVII. READING THE CODE: EVERYTHING IS ENERGY
XVIII. BECOMING GOD: LIFE BEYOND THE MATRIX
AFTERWORD: SO YOU STILL SAY IT’S ONLY A MOVIE ?
APPENDIX ONE: PHILIP K. DICK’S DIVINE
APPENDIX TWO: CARLOS CASTANEDA: MAY THE MYTH BE WITH YOU
APPENDIX THREE: THE COOPERATION OF ARCHETYPES
GLOSSARY

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The most powerful tool you own is your ability to measure if your current ACTION will take you TOWARDS or AWAY from what you DESIRE.

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The most powerful tool you own is your ability to measure if your current ACTION will take you TOWARDS your GOAL or AWAY from what you DESIRE. You measure your progress and the quality of your CHOICES by the FEELINGS that you experience. People, events, blogs, movies, newspaper articles and people in general will either make you FEEL empowered or dis-empowered, strong or weak, inspired or deflated during or after you engaged them. Your FEELINGS guide you faithfully during all your endeavours. FEELINGS of ANGER, FEAR, ANXIETY and DEPRESSION shout out to you that you need to move away from a POTENTIAL TROUBLE SOURCE. When you read a book, blog or magazine you become UPLIFTED and MOTIVATED or you become aware that the material is sucking some of your valuable energy out of your body and soul. My friend many of the things we do and the interactions we have either HEAL us or make us SICK. We are either swimming UPSTREAM or DOWNSTREAM while we participate in this game of life. We must take time to STOP periodically so we can evaluate the STATUS of our current activity. Our best friend can be our worst enemy if such friend often feed us with toxic interactions that make us WEAK and WORRIED. The most dangerous people, situations and perceived opportunities are often “packaged” in fancy false disguise. Groups are often toxic. They might have a facades of saintliness and salvation that hide their hidden agendas and concealed motives. Repeat the following as often as you can today. I will today allow my FEELINGS and INTUITION to guide me while at work or play. I will not accommodate people, things and events that make me feel deflated, depressed or weak. My FEELINGS guide me today toward SUCCESS and away from potential FAILURE and LOSS. Look around you today and become aware how many things and people attempt to suck the LIFE ENERGY from you! Become aware how society is set up to US and ABUSE you. perceptions (beliefs) might need updating.

Rene

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