It is extremely difficult to cope when you find yourself in the middle of a problem and just cannot see the way out of your current predicament. Your mind starts racing around like a racehorse. This horse thunders around in your head causing untold damage. It kicks down your stable door of self-esteem and jumps the fence of the current moment. Wave after wave of anxiety and fear deliver crushing blows to your confidence. You franticly attempt to take control with little or no success. Your once composed mind changes into a whirlpool of chaos. Anxiety, isolation and fear break through the protective barriers that usually sheltered you from potential threats. Your emotions dart around and cannot decide if you must fight like a wounded animal or run like the wind. You know that you do not want or need what is happening to you, but find it impossible to row your boat of life to calmer waters. Horrific images of disaster and destruction flash on the screen of your mind. Your tired mind begs for safety and security, but a reprieve seems impossible.
Have you noticed that your mind seems to automatically spring into action like a horse breaking free from the starting gate? This horse with the peculiar name called “what if” rush around with its blinkered eyes. This horse is often confused and seems to gallop back into your past or forward into your future in an attempt to find a solution for the current perceived threat that you are faced with. This spooked break away horse is frantically trying to compute what might transpire if the current problem or obstacle is not quickly removed.
It is imperative to notice that our minds seem to lack a “pause” mode. Our minds react spontaneously when triggered. Thousands of “what if” messages and images bounce around in our heads. Our minds become human pinball machines with alarm bells and whistles going off all over the show. Old painful wounds are ripped open and potential disasters are predicted. Our minds are everywhere, but in the now. Virtually anything or anyone can trigger a landslide of fear and emotion that clouds your judgement and ability to compose yourself. No calm and controlled assessment is made of what you are actually and realistically faced with. Panic decisions are made with limited information at your disposal. We become so panic-stricken that we will rather guess or speculate than base our decisions on solid and valid information. Relax for a moment and validate what I shared with you so far. Study previous problems that you were faced with historically and see if there is any validity in the claim that I am making that we have a strong tendency to avoid the now as if it is the carrier of a dreaded disease. See if you agree if there is some kind of mechanism in your head that hates to confront the present moment when you are faced with adversity. Our vivid imagination will rather present us with horror movies than solve a current problem that we are faced with. It will go to amazing lengths to mentally whisk you away from “what is” to a place called “what might happen” that is always future based.
The discomfort of the unknown makes it almost unbearable for us to stay focused in the now. The unlimited range of options and answers that might be right in front of you in the now is ignored. Your mind will rather paint an endless range of horrific scenarios that are more often than not based on fear and illusions. It is impossible to grasp why we will rather amplify whatever we are faced with than simply accept “what is”. There is amazing power hidden in the now. The now properly applied is much less scary than the horrific creations of our mind. Most of our problems that we are faced with cannot stand careful scrutiny. The habit of habitually filtering the current moment through past experiences based on defective data just does not make sense. No two problems or situations are the same. We are trying to hammer a square peg into a round hole when we attempt to compare “what is” with the past. We must also not forget that our habit of acting in the insane manner depicted above is not new. It thus stands to reason that decisions based on historical performances will just compound the problem. Spontaneous reactions based on “what is” will always provide you with better outcomes. Acting in the “now” with what you currently have will empower you while reacting with a coping mechanism based on historical garbage or future fantasies will strip you of your power.