Tom’s upcoming book, Primal Man Primal Woman (sure to be a best seller) is the subject of this interview about men and women at their most fundamental core.
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Using his unique understanding and experience to see behind the curtain of cultural belief, Tom gets to the core (there’s that apple again) of how we interact with the opposite gender, and answers what steps can be taken for an optimal loving relationship that is in accordance with his theory.
Tom Campbell’s My Big TOE must by definition (a big theory of everything) have an answer for how relationships can work optimally by shifting from need-based to love-based.
Women generally like Tom’s advice for the men, but they will also have some serious growing to do as well.
Evita Ochel of Evolving Beings has said the concept Tom proposes is “revolutionary”.
It is, and yet it is simple. He has observed and researched and tested it out, and have others, and “it works”.
And since Tom always goes beyond this reality in his interviews, he answers questions about relationships in other realities and more.
Students often ask me how they will be able to identify if they are in a state of RESISTANCE. The answer is simple and it is easy to detect when you are busy sabotaging yourself. How we feel at any given moment is a solid indicator where we are emotionally at that given moment in time. A feeling of unhappiness, frustration, doubt, fear and anxiety is all symptoms that we are right in the middle of a RESISTANCE storm. A feeling of boredom or dissatisfaction is also a solid indicator that we are in a state of RESISTANCE. Some of us have a feeling of guilt, but find it difficult to figure out why we are feeling so shitty and guilty. A feeling that we would rather stay in bed might be an indication that you have some kind of bug, but usually comes from a source where you are RESISTING something or someone. We often have no idea why we feel the way we do, but still come up with very creative excuses or blame our partner, friends, God or someone at work. Some attempt to drink, party or fuck their way out of the maze of RESISTANCE. Many of our addictions and obsessions come from the state of RESISTANCE. The consulting rooms of doctors and psychologists are full of victims or RESISTANCE. RESISTANCE can make you physically or mentally sick. RESISTANCE often turn into insomnia or anxiety attacks. Another symptom of RESISTANCE is a craving to shop and buy things. We often buy things we don’t need in an attempt to stop the craving deep inside us that eat away on our hearts, soul, dignity and financial capabilities.
You will notice that the consumer culture use our feelings of unhappiness and our desire for instant gratification to raid our wallets and credit cards. Look around you today and see if you can identify the many ways that we are exploited by the commercial world with promises that they will make us feel happy, satisfied, healed, more acceptable, slimmer, stronger, sexier etc. You will discover that the biggest percentage of sellers parasite on our basic habit of RESISTING our current moment. I will continue with this series tomorrow.
The most difficult element of getting things done is not the actual action part of the project, but the resistance we experience that sabotage us and prevent us from taking decisive action. I once gave a lecture to a major corporation on self-management. The first words I used when I opened my lecture were that I suggest that they carefully listen to what I have to share with them because it is costing their company a fortune to hire me. I looked them in the eye and told them that their management hope that I will manage to motivate them into getting their backsides anchored on their chairs. I told them that their management convinced me that they are actually a powerful team that can produce outstanding outcomes when they become focused. I also told them that I am going to recommend that management only pay them for actual work done. This caused a real stir in my audience and even woke up those at the back of the auditorium. I explained to them that I invented a device that will register all their actual work activities as well as all their time wasting activities. This device will daily send a full report to the managing director’s office that will reveal not only actual work executed, but also the time wasted chatting to other staff about stuff unrelated to work issues, drinking tea, updating blogs or Face book etc. Each staff member will thus daily be credited with an actual net production delivered. I allowed my words to sink in for a while and then told them that they will thus be paid on the net balance of their productivity account monthly. The biggest obstacle that prevent many of us to become great in our job or for that matter anything else is procrastination. I want to repeat that we have to overcome our reluctance and resistance to take action.
Spend some time today to probe why you have this reluctance to take action. What is the cause of the resistance deep inside you that is preventing you from being the best you that you can ever be? Make a list of everything that comes to mind. Think it and then ink it. I will continue this series tomorrow.
Several governments, officials, environmental agencies exhort us all to conserve that energy we use so that they can save the natural environment and sustain the continued existence on the globe.
On a personal level I think that we also need to know how to conserve, focus and maximise our own personal supply of energy. We unconsciously dissipate and waste our energy on people, situations, thoughts, attitudes and events which do not serve us well. This leaves less space and energy for creating and attracting the kind of abundance that we want in our lives.
Fascinatingly enough I’ve also found that as I conserve, concentrate and thereby maximise the energy, I tend to use less power on craving and acquiring “stuff”, but more energy emphasizing what is truly important to me, thereby helping the environment.
5 Ways to Maximise Your Personal Energy Supply.
1. Release Resistance
Releasing resistance will affect a profound change in your level of energy and how you view the world. Resistance often feels as though we are going against ourselves in order to satisfy some internal authority or a myriad of “shoulds” “oughts” and “have tos”. It takes a tremendous amount of energy to be resistant.
Related feelings and behaviour include: procrastination, using willpower and discipline to effect change (otherwise known as “I Have To Struggle To Achieve What I Want”!), stubborness, inflexibility, wanting to be right rather than happy (a very popular one:), holding onto self limiting beliefs way past their sell by date.
Releasing resistance is usually as easy as just making the decision to let choose of whatever you’re holding onto. Energy therapy furthermore helps release resistance in a very deep level.
2. Reduce time watching TV
Watching TV unconsciously is very exhausting. Haven’t you noticed that when you watch TV continuously and do little else, you become extremely tired? That’s because you are merely a passive recipient of information that you’re not fully engaged with. On an energetic level, taking in all of those rays from the TV (similar to a computer) is overstimulating on a physiological level. Of course while you are watch TV, it means that you’re not doing something more productive.
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Am I saying that you stop watching TV altogether? No, but to be more selective and watch only those programs that you are engaged with. I’d also say that stop watching the TV news – all of that manufactured fear really affects you on a cellular level. I find that my mindset, moods and overall energy improve significantly when I watch less TV.
3. Consciously create vacuums
Ever heard of the saying: “Nature abhors a vacuum”. If you clean out an area of your life, you are giving the Universe a message to bring in something to replace it. This is otherwise known as energetic and/or physical clutter clearing. Start with either. Most people find it easier to start with clearing out the physical which has an effect on their energies. You are consciously creating the space for change to occur and inviting what you want into your life. This is much much easier than efforting to make things happen.
4. Avoid/deal with Energy Vampires
One of the quickest ways to get an energy boost is to disassociate yourself from those with those whose energy drains you. It is very effective. Unfortunately, it also becomes a little more difficult if they are your partner, member of your family, work colleagues or boss. It helps to develop a stronger set of boundaries and energetic protection, so that they are less likely to affect you in this way.
5. Create quiet time for yourself every day.
Never to do anything (unless it relaxes you), but just to clear and refresh your mind. We are human beings, not doings. There are situations when our crowded schedule and minds don’t allow space and time for any creative to be welcomed in. Einstein liked going sailing in the afternoons after working each day. Okay, most individuals don’t have this opportunity, but you get the point.
If you only do one of the above, then your well-being will undergo the profound change. Friends Blog
The force of RESISTANCE that envelope us individually and collectively have many different tricks up its sleeve. I mentioned in previous posts that it will use distraction to get us to forgo of activities that we know need our urgent attention. Many have been trained since early childhood that there is no real need to work hard in a sustained manner until the task at hand is completed. Many have been programmed to expect massive rewards in a relative short period of time. There is a spirit of entitlement visible everywhere. Children that leave school or university want to walk into a job where they start with a very attractive income. They immediately expect all the bells and whistles that earlier generations took years to achieve.
It is the force of RESISTANCE that created the impression with today’s generation that instant gratification is within their reach. They think that you can become an overnight millionaire if you read “The Secret” book and do a few relatively simple visualisation exercises. You might be surprised what major role sex play in the methods used by the force of RESISTANCE. Sex provides a false sense of progress to those that are slaves to the force of RESISTANCE. Sex provides rapid gratification and at the same time hides serious flaws like procrastination and wishful thinking. Many RESIST the sustained effort that is needed to grow and sustain a relationship. They think that their partner is satisfied with their pathetic general commitment to the relationship because he or she participated in the act of love making. Sex provides them with a welcome escape and a feeling of worthiness while they daily struggle with the cloud of resistance that endlessly follow them around like a stray dog. Overcoming the possible RESISTANCE of a partner or someone they just met make them feel like a winner. Many get so involved looking for their next “sex” fix that they neglect their work and other obligations. Can you see what powerful role instant gratification play in the hands of the force of RESISTANCE? Sex can be a wonderful experience if both partners participate outside the boundaries of RESISTANCE. Sex will never become addictive or a source of RESISTANCE if it takes place outside the perimeters of the RESISTANCE zone. Sex is an amazing natural act when it takes place between two individuals that expect absolutely nothing from each other. Your motives are RESISTANT based if you experience a victory feeling or hollow emptiness afterwards. You are definitely in a state of RESISTANCE if you feel like you are busy making a deal with the person that you want to make love to or experience buyer’s remorse afterwards. Making love to obtain something or fulfil an obligation is nothing more than the deals made by men with prostitutes. Giving up sex to a partner becomes a powerful “control” method of those that operate from the RESISTANCE stronghold. The same holds true if you get the same feelings after you drank too much, bought stuff that you don’t really need or when you used prescription or other drugs.
The key to escape from the claws of RESISTANCE is to become aware of the many different ways that the force of RESISTANCE uses daily to retain you in a slave like not-action state. Become an observer and see if you can identify anything that keeps you in an enslaved state. There are a wide range of activities that we involve ourselves in daily that provide us with no real long-term benefits. I will continue this series tomorrow.
Rene
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One of the most important speeches in recorded history was given by a comedian by the name of Charlie Chaplin. Listen to this profound and visionary monologue about world peace and global cooperation, the triumph of the spirit of humanity!
Intended of course as a parody (his character was based on Hitler) – these words and insights reach way beyond the comedic effect the were composed for.
His message is as powerful now as the time of this release, 1940, in the film The Great Dictator and was this Chaplin’s first true talking picture as well as his most commercially successful.
You should by now understand that each one of us has a unique RESISTANCE bubble or energy field that encase us like a glove. Many of us live and die within the perimeters of our RESISTANCE zone. The biggest percentage of us is so dedicated to maintain our zone of RESISTANCE that we hardly ever venture outside its perimeters. We sometimes during moments of courage pull up the heavy draw bridge of our fortress of RESISTANCE and venture into the unknown. Our visits to the unknown zone are usually fleeting. We rush back to the safety of our walls the moment we run into anyone that criticise, question or confront us with stuff that fail to match the blueprints in our perception archive. There comes a time when we feel that we must find a partner. We are then forced to venture out of our fortress. We begin our search for a suitable partner by matching the potential partner’s RESISTANCE against our own. We do our best to avoid bringing in a partner that might cause us discomfort. We reason that it will be very beneficial if we select a partner that closely matches the frequency of our own RESISTANCE level. That is why a partner with the same religious, political or race perceptions etc. is selected. We also know that there will be a gradual merging of the RESISTANCE levels of the partners. We try our level best to find a partner that will preferably enhance our own convictions and strengthen our RESISTANCE objectives. Our fear of the unknown immediately limits the number of potential partners that we have to choose from. When we find someone that we think will be a suitable partner we propose marriage. We then go through the prescribed rituals and gradually become a collective cluster of RESISTANCE. We then when appropriate procreate and begin to produce children. The children arrive in this dimension with no perceptions and no fears. They are free mentally. They are little spiritual bundles of joy that love unconditionally. Both partners soon realise that it is imperative that this new arrival are domesticated and taught how to become an acceptable member of the society that they live in. Can you see how the process of enslavement happened to you as well? This is how the never ending cycle of entrapment is sustained.
Look around you today and see how man has been reduced to entities that live in tiny boxes. Look at the endless rows of dwellings that go on for as far as the eye can see. Inside each of the dwellings (boxes) are living beings with hopes and dreams that are more often than not too afraid to attempt anything that might rock the boat or cause discomfort. We vigorously RESIST anything or anyone that dare to trespass into our space. We create the impression that we are happy and successful from behind our picket or barbed wired security fences. I will continue with this series tomorrow.
The force of RESISTANCE is very cunning and will use any means possible to stop you from doing what needs to be done. The endless stream of voices and feelings that activate when you are confronted with a task that might be risky or beyond your comfort zone is mind blowing. The voices will come at you from all angles. It will fabricate any story, myth or examples that it can dig from the archives in your mind to stop you from taking action. It exaggerate, belittle, seduce and attempt to bully you into submission. It will cry, scoff and take on any form in an attempt to deceive you and discourage you. You might recall how bewildered you became when you were faced historically with a decision that could send your life in a new direction. This force that is a master at building RESISTANCE will stop at nothing to convince you to stick to the well worn path that you are currently travelling on. This force will one moment talk to you as if you are a helpless child and the very next moment attempt to flood your mind with guilt and fear. Look around you and you might notice that everyone that made a success of anything did not fall for the dirty tricks used by this force. This force will create the impression that the threats are out there waiting for you if you dare to think or act outside the box. You have been lied to since early childhood. The source of your pain and discomfort is generated from within. It was the stories and bullshit myths that brought on the RESISTANCE and RELUCTANCE that you experienced every time you attempted to venture out of your comfort zone. The world you created for yourself and the relationships that you formed was heavily influenced by this invisible, but powerful force. You are not only up against your own history, but also against all the stories and myths that your parents and teachers shared with you in your formative years. It might not surprise you when I tell you that those that domesticated you faithfully implanted all their own fears and anxieties that they have been fighting against into your mind. They possibly gave their own RESISTANCE force a massive run for its money, but lost. They were defeated. I cannot come to any other conclusion. They finally succumbed to their own force of RESISTANCE or they would not have downloaded so much shit into your subconscious computer. There is nothing you fear today that cannot be traced back to nonsense downloaded into your fragile and vulnerable mind by a wide range of well intentioned programmers.
I would suggest that you today become acutely aware of the RESISTANCE that you experience periodically. Make a note when you feel the RESISTANCE welling up in you. Make a note who you spoke to or what did a person say or do that activated RESISTANCE in you. You might be so used to giving in or up that the RESISTANCE might be feeble and difficult to detect. I can guarantee you that the force of RESISTANCE will come at you in waves as described earlier in this post the moment you stop displaying your usual submissive demeanour. I will continue this series tomorrow.
The force of RESISTANCE that envelope us individually and collectively have many different tricks up its sleeve. I mentioned in previous posts that it will use distraction to get us to forgo of activities that we know need our urgent attention. Many have been trained since early childhood that there is no real need to work hard in a sustained manner until the task at hand is completed. Many have been programmed to expect massive rewards in a relative short period of time. There is a spirit of entitlement visible everywhere. Children that leave school or university want to walk into a job where they start with a very attractive income. They immediately expect all the bells and whistles that earlier generations took years to achieve.
It is the force of RESISTANCE that created the impression with today’s generation that instant gratification is within their reach. They think that you can become an overnight millionaire if you read “The Secret” book and do a few relatively simple visualisation exercises. You might be surprised what major role sex play in the methods used by the force of RESISTANCE. Sex provides a false sense of progress to those that are slaves to the force of RESISTANCE. Sex provides rapid gratification and at the same time hides serious flaws like procrastination and wishful thinking. Many RESIST the sustained effort that is needed to grow and sustain a relationship. They think that their partner is satisfied with their pathetic general commitment to the relationship because he or she participated in the act of love making. Sex provides them with a welcome escape and a feeling of worthiness while they daily struggle with the cloud of resistance that endlessly follow them around like a stray dog. Overcoming the possible RESISTANCE of a partner or someone they just met make them feel like a winner. Many get so involved looking for their next “sex” fix that they neglect their work and other obligations. Can you see what powerful role instant gratification play in the hands of the force of RESISTANCE? Sex can be a wonderful experience if both partners participate outside the boundaries of RESISTANCE. Sex will never become addictive or a source of RESISTANCE if it takes place outside the perimeters of the RESISTANCE zone. Sex is an amazing natural act when it takes place between two individuals that expect absolutely nothing from each other. Your motives are RESISTANT based if you experience a victory feeling or hollow emptiness afterwards. You are definitely in a state of RESISTANCE if you feel like you are busy making a deal with the person that you want to make love to or experience buyer’s remorse afterwards. Making love to obtain something or fulfil an obligation is nothing more than the deals made by men with prostitutes. Giving up sex to a partner becomes a powerful “control” method of those that operate from the RESISTANCE stronghold. The same holds true if you get the same feelings after you drank too much, bought stuff that you don’t really need or when you used prescription or other drugs.
The key to escape from the claws of RESISTANCE is to become aware of the many different ways that the force of RESISTANCE uses daily to retain you in a slave like not-action state. Become an observer and see if you can identify anything that keeps you in an enslaved state. There are a wide range of activities that we involve ourselves in daily that provide us with no real long-term benefits. I will continue this series tomorrow.
Rene
.
One of the most important speeches in recorded history was given by a comedian by the name of Charlie Chaplin. Listen to this profound and visionary monologue about world peace and global cooperation, the triumph of the spirit of humanity!
Intended of course as a parody (his character was based on Hitler) – these words and insights reach way beyond the comedic effect the were composed for.
His message is as powerful now as the time of this release, 1940, in the film The Great Dictator and was this Chaplin’s first true talking picture as well as his most commercially successful.
Several governments, officials, environmental agencies exhort us all to conserve that energy we use so that they can save the natural environment and sustain the continued existence on the globe.
On a personal level I think that we also need to know how to conserve, focus and maximise our own personal supply of energy. We unconsciously dissipate and waste our energy on people, situations, thoughts, attitudes and events which do not serve us well. This leaves less space and energy for creating and attracting the kind of abundance that we want in our lives.
Fascinatingly enough I’ve also found that as I conserve, concentrate and thereby maximise the energy, I tend to use less power on craving and acquiring “stuff”, but more energy emphasizing what is truly important to me, thereby helping the environment.
So here are 5 Ways to Maximise Your Personal Energy Supply.
1. Release Resistance
Releasing resistance will affect a profound change in your level of energy and how you view the world. Resistance often feels as though we are going against ourselves in order to satisfy some internal authority or a myriad of “shoulds” “oughts” and “have tos”. It takes a tremendous amount of energy to be resistant.
Related feelings and behaviour include: procrastination, using willpower and discipline to effect change (otherwise known as “I Have To Struggle To Achieve What I Want”!), stubborness, inflexibility, wanting to be right rather than happy (a very popular one:), holding onto self limiting beliefs way past their sell by date.
Releasing resistance is usually as easy as just making the decision to let choose of whatever you’re holding onto. Energy therapy furthermore helps release resistance in a very deep level.
2. Reduce time watching TV
Watching TV unconsciously is very exhausting. Haven’t you noticed that when you watch TV continuously and do little else, you become extremely tired? That’s because you are merely a passive recipient of information that you’re not fully engaged with. On an energetic level, taking in all of those rays from the TV (similar to a computer) is overstimulating on a physiological level. Of course while you are watch TV, it means that you’re not doing something more productive.
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.
Am I saying that you stop watching TV altogether? No, but to be more selective and watch only those programs that you are engaged with. I’d also say that stop watching the TV news – all of that manufactured fear really affects you on a cellular level. I find that my mindset, moods and overall energy improve significantly when I watch less TV.
3. Consciously create vacuums
Ever heard of the saying: “Nature abhors a vacuum”. If you clean out an area of your life, you are giving the Universe a message to bring in something to replace it. This is otherwise known as energetic and/or physical clutter clearing. Start with either. Most people find it easier to start with clearing out the physical which has an effect on their energies. You are consciously creating the space for change to occur and inviting what you want into your life. This is much much easier than efforting to make things happen.
4. Avoid/deal with Energy Vampires
One of the quickest ways to get an energy boost is to disassociate yourself from those with those whose energy drains you. It is very effective. Unfortunately, it also becomes a little more difficult if they are your partner, member of your family, work colleagues or boss. It helps to develop a stronger set of boundaries and energetic protection, so that they are less likely to affect you in this way.
5. Create quiet time for yourself every day.
Never to do anything (unless it relaxes you), but just to clear and refresh your mind. We are human beings, not doings. There are situations when our crowded schedule and minds don’t allow space and time for any creative to be welcomed in. Einstein liked going sailing in the afternoons after working each day. Okay, most individuals don’t have this opportunity, but you get the point.
If you only do one of the above, then your well-being will undergo the profound change. Friends Blog
One of the most corrosive things many of us do is that we often rationalise perceived mistakes we made. I am often astounded with the justifications that some people come up when they fall short of their own or other’s expectations. They will find something or someone to blame. They often blame the weather, racism, historical disadvantages, God or Satan, the government, the recipe, fellow workers, the children, their partner etc.
What we fail to understand is that rationalisation fortifies our habit of living a life of RESISTANCE. Did it ever cross your mind that mistakes you make or events where you fail to conclude a project successfully is a wonderful opportunity to learn and grow? The word “sin” originally simply meant that a person fell short of the expectation (goal) that he was expected to achieve. It is only when devious and clever operators noticed the wonderful opportunity to use failure as a mind control system that the concept of sin took on the horrific dimensions still used in many religions.
People were made to feel like shit when they once again fell short of the so-called requirements that God personally cast in stone. What amplified the fear of sinning and letting God down was the absolute nonsense preached that nobody can escape the all seeing eye of God. People became devious and began to hide, rationalise and justify their failures. Children that have strict and obsessive parents soon discover that telling the truth can turn into a fairly unpleasant experience. They soon develop a wide range of justifications and rationalisation that would make a judge scratch his head. Some children can think up excuses and reasons for poor performance or a lack of progress that would make most defence attorneys blush.
Something else that must be kept in mind is that all of us look at life through our own filter systems. We see our own perceptions as real and valid and often cannot see anything from other’s perspectives. We become mentally blind and cannot for a moment contemplate why someone is making such a fuss about a perceived mistake we made. Empathy (putting you in other’s shoes) fell apart over the years. Showing empathy means that you admit to your mistakes and as explained earlier could lead to pain and punishment. Every time we get away with the justifications we make up we entrench ourselves deeper in our castle of RESISTANCE.
The problem with “making up stories and justifications” is that we must suddenly remember what bullshit story we used to cover up our dispositions. The joke is that we begin to believe our own stories and will often be prepared to fight to the death to keep what really happened under wraps. Admitting mistakes we made provide wonderful learning opportunities and at the same time extract the toxic substance that accompanies whatever transpired. We came to this dimension to experience and to grow. The mistakes we make are wonderful opportunities to learn and to expand our self-image and self-esteem. You can save lots of time, tap dancing and frustration if you admit your mistake and offer to remedy whatever damage you caused.
There are parent that strongly insist that their children tell them the truth (and nothing but the truth). The child often views a hair raising performance from their parents when they tell the truth. Their mother begin to hyperventilate while she rips bundles of hair out of her sculpt while the father clutch his chest while he whisper and wheeze how he is going to beat the child up and force him to stay in his room for fifteen years. Let’s be honest. Very few children will continue to admit to mistakes after a few dramatic performances by his or her parents. Children later become adults and even later parents. They in turn duplicate the examples set by their parents and in the process produce a new generation of children that RESIST admitting mistakes that also find it impossible to show empathy to those that they harmed in with a mistake they made. The solution is to “tell it like it is” and let the chips fall where they may.
Spend today and see if you notice how you or others justify and rationalise when mistakes are made. See how service staff blame the computer when the messed up your account. See how incompetent mechanics flounder and lie when you question the quality of work they did on your vehicle. Try a few time do admit your mistakes without trying to justify your error. You might shock a few individuals that are not used to hearing the truth – but do it anyway. I will continue this series tomorrow.
You should by now understand that each one of us has a unique RESISTANCE bubble or energy field that encase us like a glove. Many of us live and die within the perimeters of our RESISTANCE zone. The biggest percentage of us is so dedicated to maintain our zone of RESISTANCE that we hardly ever venture outside its perimeters. We sometimes during moments of courage pull up the heavy draw bridge of our fortress of RESISTANCE and venture into the unknown. Our visits to the unknown zone are usually fleeting. We rush back to the safety of our walls the moment we run into anyone that criticize, question or confront us with stuff that fail to match the blueprints in our perception archive. There comes a time when we feel that we must find a partner. We are then forced to venture out of our fortress. We begin our search for a suitable partner by matching the potential partner’s RESISTANCE against our own. We do our best to avoid bringing in a partner that might cause us discomfort. We reason that it will be very beneficial if we select a partner that closely matches the frequency of our own RESISTANCE level. That is why a partner with the same religious, political or race perceptions etc. is selected. We also know that there will be a gradual merging of the RESISTANCE levels of the partners. We try our level best to find a partner that will preferably enhance our own convictions and strengthen our RESISTANCE objectives. Our fear of the unknown immediately limits the number of potential partners that we have to choose from. When we find someone that we think will be a suitable partner we propose marriage. We then go through the prescribed rituals and gradually become a collective cluster of RESISTANCE. We then when appropriate procreate and begin to produce children. The children arrive in this dimension with no perceptions and no fears. They are free mentally. They are little spiritual bundles of joy that love unconditionally. Both partners soon realize that it is imperative that this new arrival are domesticated and taught how to become an acceptable member of the society that they live in. Can you see how the process of enslavement happened to you as well? This is how the never ending cycle of entrapment is sustained.
Look around you today and see how man has been reduced to entities that live in tiny boxes. Look at the endless rows of dwellings that go on for as far as the eye can see. Inside each of the dwellings (boxes) are living beings with hopes and dreams that are more often than not too afraid to attempt anything that might rock the boat or cause discomfort. We vigorously RESIST anything or anyone that dare to trespass into our space. We create the impression that we are happy and successful from behind our picket or barbed wired security fences. I will continue with this series tomorrow.
Several governments, officials, environmental agencies exhort us all to conserve that energy we use so that they can save the natural environment and sustain the continued existence on the globe.
On a personal level I think that we also need to know how to conserve, focus and maximise our own personal supply of energy. We unconsciously dissipate and waste our energy on people, situations, thoughts, attitudes and events which do not serve us well. This leaves less space and energy for creating and attracting the kind of abundance that we want in our lives.
Fascinatingly enough I’ve also found that as I conserve, concentrate and thereby maximise the energy, I tend to use less power on craving and acquiring “stuff”, but more energy emphasizing what is truly important to me, thereby helping the environment.
So here are 5 Ways to Maximise Your Personal Energy Supply.
1. Release Resistance
Releasing resistance will affect a profound change in your level of energy and how you view the world. Resistance often feels as though we are going against ourselves in order to satisfy some internal authority or a myriad of “shoulds” “oughts” and “have tos”. It takes a tremendous amount of energy to be resistant.
Related feelings and behaviour include: procrastination, using willpower and discipline to effect change (otherwise known as “I Have To Struggle To Achieve What I Want”!), stubborness, inflexibility, wanting to be right rather than happy (a very popular one:), holding onto self limiting beliefs way past their sell by date.
Releasing resistance is usually as easy as just making the decision to let choose of whatever you’re holding onto. Energy therapy furthermore helps release resistance in a very deep level.
2. Reduce time watching TV
Watching TV unconsciously is very exhausting. Haven’t you noticed that when you watch TV continuously and do little else, you become extremely tired? That’s because you are merely a passive recipient of information that you’re not fully engaged with. On an energetic level, taking in all of those rays from the TV (similar to a computer) is overstimulating on a physiological level. Of course while you are watch TV, it means that you’re not doing something more productive.
Am I saying that you stop watching TV altogether? No, but to be more selective and watch only those programs that you are engaged with. I’d also say that stop watching the TV news – all of that manufactured fear really affects you on a cellular level. I find that my mindset, moods and overall energy improve significantly when I watch less TV.
3. Consciously create vacuums
Ever heard of the saying: “Nature abhors a vacuum”. If you clean out an area of your life, you are giving the Universe a message to bring in something to replace it. This is otherwise known as energetic and/or physical clutter clearing. Start with either. Most people find it easier to start with clearing out the physical which has an effect on their energies. You are consciously creating the space for change to occur and inviting what you want into your life. This is much much easier than efforting to make things happen.
4. Avoid/deal with Energy Vampires
One of the quickest ways to get an energy boost is to disassociate yourself from those with those whose energy drains you. It is very effective. Unfortunately, it also becomes a little more difficult if they are your partner, member of your family, work colleagues or boss. It helps to develop a stronger set of boundaries and energetic protection, so that they are less likely to affect you in this way.
5. Create quiet time for yourself every day.
Never to do anything (unless it relaxes you), but just to clear and refresh your mind. We are human beings, not doings. There are situations when our crowded schedule and minds don’t allow space and time for any creative to be welcomed in. Einstein liked going sailing in the afternoons after working each day. Okay, most individuals don’t have this opportunity, but you get the point.
If you only do one of the above, then your well-being will undergo the profound change.
It is mind blowing to see what hardship and distress some of us need to go through before we wake up to the fact that we are trapped in a state of NON-ACTION by our fear. How many of our relationships must be destroyed by our inability to do what need to be done or say what we desire to say before we grab resistance by the throat. We resist our feelings in our relationships because our partner might gain the upper hand or get the wrong impression of us. A person or partner treat us like shit and we just stand there and bite our tongues. We are too afraid to take drastic and sustained action because we are afraid that he or she might leave us. We remain in a toxic relationship because we are afraid that we might end up lonely in a flat with only a big fat cat and a canary to keep us company. We yearn for success, money and affluence, but do little or nothing that can move us towards our desires and dreams. We are so afraid that we might fail that we remain in a sustained state of hibernation. Many of us want to write a book, play or paint something, but we fail to lift a finger because we allow the fog of resistance to cloud our mind. What are we waiting for? Who do we think will come and rescue us or break down the door to come and give us a job or show us that we are worthy? The fog of resistance clouds our judgement and ability to walk tall and play to win. This feeling or force that kept many of us prisoner since early childhood has no power to bind us. We are its power source. It feeds off our fear of failing or getting hurt. It is recharged every time we allow doubt to clasp its slimy cold fingers around our hearts. Do you know why many outperform us in business, relationships and entrepreneurial ventures? I am sad to report that they have nothing that you don’t have other than the courage to walk forward in the face of adversity. Champions also feel the fear, but they have that little something that override their fear. Their hearts are also beating like a drum, but they do what they know needs to be done until the task is completed. The key is to take that first step forward no matter what you are faced with. Then take a second, third and forth step as well. You will soon gather a rhythm of your own while you write that first page of your book or put down that paint on your masterpiece’s canvas. Yes my friend feel the fear and then do what needs to be done anyway.
Spend some time today pushing back the resistance that have been blocking you for far too long now. Make a list of stuff that you have been sidestepping for a while now. Take number one on the list and do what needs to be done until you can put a tick (task completed) next to it on your list. Now do the same with number two etc. You will soon be flooded with powerful surges of energy and courage. I will continue this series tomorrow.
The force of RESISTANCE is very cunning and will use any means possible to stop you from doing what needs to be done. The endless stream of voices and feelings that activate when you are confronted with a task that might be risky or beyond your comfort zone is mind blowing. The voices will come at you from all angles. It will fabricate any story, myth or examples that it can dig from the archives in your mind to stop you from taking action. It exaggerate, belittle, seduce and attempt to bully you into submission. It will cry, scoff and take on any form in an attempt to deceive you and discourage you. You might recall how bewildered you became when you were faced historically with a decision that could send your life in a new direction. This force that is a master at building RESISTANCE will stop at nothing to convince you to stick to the well worn path that you are currently travelling on. This force will one moment talk to you as if you are a helpless child and the very next moment attempt to flood your mind with guilt and fear. Look around you and you might notice that everyone that made a success of anything did not fall for the dirty tricks used by this force. This force will create the impression that the threats are out there waiting for you if you dare to think or act outside the box. You have been lied to since early childhood. The source of your pain and discomfort is generated from within. It was the stories and bullshit myths that brought on the RESISTANCE and RELUCTANCE that you experienced every time you attempted to venture out of your comfort zone. The world you created for yourself and the relationships that you formed was heavily influenced by this invisible, but powerful force. You are not only up against your own history, but also against all the stories and myths that your parents and teachers shared with you in your formative years. It might not surprise you when I tell you that those that domesticated you faithfully implanted all their own fears and anxieties that they have been fighting against into your mind. They possibly gave their own RESISTANCE force a massive run for its money, but lost. They were defeated. I cannot come to any other conclusion. They finally succumbed to their own force of RESISTANCE or they would not have downloaded so much shit into your subconscious computer. There is nothing you fear today that cannot be traced back to nonsense downloaded into your fragile and vulnerable mind by a wide range of well intentioned programmers.
I would suggest that you today become acutely aware of the RESISTANCE that you experience periodically. Make a note when you feel the RESISTANCE welling up in you. Make a note who you spoke to or what did a person say or do that activated RESISTANCE in you. You might be so used to giving in or up that the RESISTANCE might be feeble and difficult to detect. I can guarantee you that the force of RESISTANCE will come at you in waves as described earlier in this post the moment you stop displaying your usual submissive demeanour. I will continue this series tomorrow.
One of the most corrosive things many of us do is that we often rationalise perceived mistakes we made. I am often astounded with the justifications that some people come up when they fall short of their own or other’s expectations. They will find something or someone to blame. They often blame the weather, racism, historical disadvantages, God or Satan, the government, the recipe, fellow workers, the children, their partner etc.
What we fail to understand is that rationalisation fortifies our habit of living a life of RESISTANCE. Did it ever cross your mind that mistakes you make or events where you fail to conclude a project successfully is a wonderful opportunity to learn and grow? The word “sin” originally simply meant that a person fell short of the expectation (goal) that he was expected to achieve. It is only when devious and clever operators noticed the wonderful opportunity to use failure as a mind control system that the concept of sin took on the horrific dimensions still used in many religions.
People were made to feel like shit when they fell short of the so-called requirements that God personally cast in stone. What amplified the fear of sinning and letting God down was the absolute nonsense preached that nobody can escape the all seeing eye of God. People became devious and began to hide, rationalise and justify their failures. Children that have strict and obsessive parents soon discover that telling the truth can turn into a fairly unpleasant experience. They soon develop a wide range of justifications and rationalisation that would make a judge scratch his head. Some children can think up excuses and reasons for poor performance or a lack of progress that would make most defence attorneys blush.
Something else that must be kept in mind is that all of us look at life through our own filter systems. We see our own perceptions as real and valid and often cannot see anything from other’s perspectives. We become mentally blind and cannot for a moment contemplate why someone is making such a fuss about a perceived mistake we made. Empathy (putting you in other’s shoes) fell apart over the years. Showing empathy means that you admit to your mistakes and as explained earlier could lead to pain and punishment. Every time we get away with the justifications we make up we entrench ourselves deeper in our castle of RESISTANCE.
The problem with “making up stories and justifications” is that we must suddenly remember what bullshit story we used to cover up our dispositions. The joke is that we begin to believe our own stories and will often be prepared to fight to the death to keep what really happened under wraps. Admitting mistakes we made provide wonderful learning opportunities and at the same time extract the toxic substance that accompanies whatever transpired. We came to this dimension to experience and to grow. The mistakes we make are wonderful opportunities to learn and to expand our self-image and self-esteem. You can save lots of time, tap dancing and frustration if you admit your mistake and offer to remedy whatever damage you caused.
There are parent that strongly insist that their children tell them the truth (and nothing but the truth). The child often views a hair raising performance from their parents when they tell the truth. Their mother begin to hyperventilate while she rips bundles of hair out of her sculpt while the father clutch his chest while he whisper and wheeze how he is going to beat the child up and force him to stay in his room for fifteen years. Let’s be honest. Very few children will continue to admit to mistakes after a few dramatic performances by his or her parents. Children later become adults and even later parents. They in turn duplicate the examples set by their parents and in the process produce a new generation of children that RESIST admitting mistakes that also find it impossible to show empathy to those that they harmed in with a mistake they made. The solution is to “tell it like it is” and let the chips fall where they may.
Spend today and see if you notice how you or others justify and rationalise when mistakes are made. See how service staff blame the computer when the messed up your account. See how incompetent mechanics flounder and lie when you question the quality of work they did on your vehicle. Try a few time do admit your mistakes without trying to justify your error. You might shock a few individuals that are not used to hearing the truth – but do it anyway. I will continue this series tomorrow.
The force of RESISTANCE that envelope us individually and collectively have many different tricks up its sleeve. I mentioned in previous posts that it will use distraction to get us to forgo of activities that we know need our urgent attention. Many have been trained since early childhood that there is no real need to work hard in a sustained manner until the task at hand is completed. Many have been programmed to expect massive rewards in a relative short period of time. There is a spirit of entitlement visible everywhere. Children that leave school or university want to walk into a job where they start with a very attractive income. They immediately expect all the bells and whistles that earlier generations took years to achieve.
It is the force of RESISTANCE that created the impression with today’s generation that instant gratification is within their reach. They think that you can become an overnight millionaire if you read “The Secret” book and do a few relatively simple visualisation exercises. You might be surprised what major role sex play in the methods used by the force of RESISTANCE. Sex provides a false sense of progress to those that are slaves to the force of RESISTANCE. Sex provides rapid gratification and at the same time hides serious flaws like procrastination and wishful thinking. Many RESIST the sustained effort that is needed to grow and sustain a relationship. They think that their partner is satisfied with their pathetic general commitment to the relationship because he or she participated in the act of love making. Sex provides them with a welcome escape and a feeling of worthiness while they daily struggle with the cloud of resistance that endlessly follow them around like a stray dog. Overcoming the possible RESISTANCE of a partner or someone they just met make them feel like a winner. Many get so involved looking for their next “sex” fix that they neglect their work and other obligations. Can you see what powerful role instant gratification play in the hands of the force of RESISTANCE? Sex can be a wonderful experience if both partners participate outside the boundaries of RESISTANCE. Sex will never become addictive or a source of RESISTANCE if it takes place outside the perimeters of the RESISTANCE zone. Sex is an amazing natural act when it takes place between two individuals that expect absolutely nothing from each other. Your motives are RESISTANT based if you experience a victory feeling or hollow emptiness afterwards. You are definitely in a state of RESISTANCE if you feel like you are busy making a deal with the person that you want to make love to or experience buyer’s remorse afterwards. Making love to obtain something or fulfil an obligation is nothing more than the deals made by men with prostitutes. Giving up sex to a partner becomes a powerful “control” method of those that operate from the RESISTANCE stronghold. The same holds true if you get the same feelings after you drank too much, bought stuff that you don’t really need or when you used prescription or other drugs.
The key to escape from the claws of RESISTANCE is to become aware of the many different ways that the force of RESISTANCE uses daily to retain you in a slave like not-action state. Become an observer and see if you can identify anything that keeps you in an enslaved state. There are a wide range of activities that we involve ourselves in daily that provide us with no real long-term benefits. I will continue this series tomorrow.
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One of the most important speeches in recorded history was given by a comedian by the name of Charlie Chaplin. Listen to this profound and visionary monologue about world peace and global cooperation, the triumph of the spirit of humanity!
Intended of course as a parody (his character was based on Hitler) – these words and insights reach way beyond the comedic effect the were composed for.
His message is as powerful now as the time of this release, 1940, in the film The Great Dictator and was this Chaplin’s first true talking picture as well as his most commercially successful.
The most difficult element of getting things done is not the actual action part of the project, but the resistance we experience that sabotage us and prevent us from taking decisive action. I once gave a lecture to a major corporation on self-management. The first words I used when I opened my lecture were that I suggest that they carefully listen to what I have to share with them because it is costing their company a fortune to hire me. I looked them in the eye and told them that their management hope that I will manage to motivate them into getting their backsides anchored on their chairs. I told them that their management convinced me that they are actually a powerful team that can produce outstanding outcomes when they become focused. I also told them that I am going to recommend that management only pay them for actual work done. This caused a real stir in my audience and even woke up those at the back of the auditorium. I explained to them that I invented a device that will register all their actual work activities as well as all their time wasting activities. This device will daily send a full report to the managing director’s office that will reveal not only actual work executed, but also the time wasted chatting to other staff about stuff unrelated to work issues, drinking tea, updating blogs or Face book etc. Each staff member will thus daily be credited with an actual net production delivered. I allowed my words to sink in for a while and then told them that they will thus be paid on the net balance of their productivity account monthly. The biggest obstacle that prevent many of us to become great in our job or for that matter anything else is procrastination. I want to repeat that we have to overcome our reluctance and resistance to take action.
Spend some time today to probe why you have this reluctance to take action. What is the cause of the resistance deep inside you that is preventing you from being the best you that you can ever be? Make a list of everything that comes to mind. Think it and then ink it. I will continue this series tomorrow.
You should by now understand that each one of us has a unique RESISTANCE bubble or energy field that encase us like a glove. Many of us live and die within the perimeters of our RESISTANCE zone. The biggest percentage of us is so dedicated to maintain our zone of RESISTANCE that we hardly ever venture outside its perimeters. We sometimes during moments of courage pull up the heavy draw bridge of our fortress of RESISTANCE and venture into the unknown. Our visits to the unknown zone are usually fleeting. We rush back to the safety of our walls the moment we run into anyone that criticise, question or confront us with stuff that fail to match the blueprints in our perception archive. There comes a time when we feel that we must find a partner. We are then forced to venture out of our fortress. We begin our search for a suitable partner by matching the potential partner’s RESISTANCE against our own. We do our best to avoid bringing in a partner that might cause us discomfort. We reason that it will be very beneficial if we select a partner that closely matches the frequency of our own RESISTANCE level. That is why a partner with the same religious, political or race perceptions etc. is selected. We also know that there will be a gradual merging of the RESISTANCE levels of the partners. We try our level best to find a partner that will preferably enhance our own convictions and strengthen our RESISTANCE objectives. Our fear of the unknown immediately limits the number of potential partners that we have to choose from. When we find someone that we think will be a suitable partner we propose marriage. We then go through the prescribed rituals and gradually become a collective cluster of RESISTANCE. We then when appropriate procreate and begin to produce children. The children arrive in this dimension with no perceptions and no fears. They are free mentally. They are little spiritual bundles of joy that love unconditionally. Both partners soon realise that it is imperative that this new arrival are domesticated and taught how to become an acceptable member of the society that they live in. Can you see how the process of enslavement happened to you as well? This is how the never ending cycle of entrapment is sustained.
Look around you today and see how man has been reduced to entities that live in tiny boxes. Look at the endless rows of dwellings that go on for as far as the eye can see. Inside each of the dwellings (boxes) are living beings with hopes and dreams that are more often than not too afraid to attempt anything that might rock the boat or cause discomfort. We vigorously RESIST anything or anyone that dare to trespass into our space. We create the impression that we are happy and successful from behind our picket or barbed wired security fences. I will continue with this series tomorrow.
Several governments, officials, environmental agencies exhort us all to conserve that energy we use so that they can save the natural environment and sustain the continued existence on the globe.
On a personal level I think that we also need to know how to conserve, focus and maximise our own personal supply of energy. We unconsciously dissipate and waste our energy on people, situations, thoughts, attitudes and events which do not serve us well. This leaves less space and energy for creating and attracting the kind of abundance that we want in our lives.
Fascinatingly enough I’ve also found that as I conserve, concentrate and thereby maximise the energy, I tend to use less power on craving and acquiring “stuff”, but more energy emphasizing what is truly important to me, thereby helping the environment.
So here are 5 Ways to Maximise Your Personal Energy Supply.
1. Release Resistance
Releasing resistance will affect a profound change in your level of energy and how you view the world. Resistance often feels as though we are going against ourselves in order to satisfy some internal authority or a myriad of “shoulds” “oughts” and “have tos”. It takes a tremendous amount of energy to be resistant.
Related feelings and behaviour include: procrastination, using willpower and discipline to effect change (otherwise known as “I Have To Struggle To Achieve What I Want”!), stubborness, inflexibility, wanting to be right rather than happy (a very popular one:), holding onto self limiting beliefs way past their sell by date.
Releasing resistance is usually as easy as just making the decision to let choose of whatever you’re holding onto. Energy therapy furthermore helps release resistance in a very deep level.
2. Reduce time watching TV
Watching TV unconsciously is very exhausting. Haven’t you noticed that when you watch TV continuously and do little else, you become extremely tired? That’s because you are merely a passive recipient of information that you’re not fully engaged with. On an energetic level, taking in all of those rays from the TV (similar to a computer) is overstimulating on a physiological level. Of course while you are watch TV, it means that you’re not doing something more productive.
Am I saying that you stop watching TV altogether? No, but to be more selective and watch only those programs that you are engaged with. I’d also say that stop watching the TV news – all of that manufactured fear really affects you on a cellular level. I find that my mindset, moods and overall energy improve significantly when I watch less TV.
3. Consciously create vacuums
Ever heard of the saying: “Nature abhors a vacuum”. If you clean out an area of your life, you are giving the Universe a message to bring in something to replace it. This is otherwise known as energetic and/or physical clutter clearing. Start with either. Most people find it easier to start with clearing out the physical which has an effect on their energies. You are consciously creating the space for change to occur and inviting what you want into your life. This is much much easier than efforting to make things happen.
4. Avoid/deal with Energy Vampires
One of the quickest ways to get an energy boost is to disassociate yourself from those with those whose energy drains you. It is very effective. Unfortunately, it also becomes a little more difficult if they are your partner, member of your family, work colleagues or boss. It helps to develop a stronger set of boundaries and energetic protection, so that they are less likely to affect you in this way.
5. Create quiet time for yourself every day.
Never to do anything (unless it relaxes you), but just to clear and refresh your mind. We are human beings, not doings. There are situations when our crowded schedule and minds don’t allow space and time for any creative to be welcomed in. Einstein liked going sailing in the afternoons after working each day. Okay, most individuals don’t have this opportunity, but you get the point.
One of the most corrosive things many of us do is that we often rationalise perceived mistakes we made. I am often astounded with the justifications that some people come up when they fall short of their own or other’s expectations. They will find something or someone to blame. They often blame the weather, racism, historical disadvantages, God or Satan, the government, the recipe, fellow workers, the children, their partner etc.
What we fail to understand is that rationalisation fortifies our habit of living a life of RESISTANCE. Did it ever cross your mind that mistakes you make or events where you fail to conclude a project successfully is a wonderful opportunity to learn and grow? The word “sin” originally simply meant that a person fell short of the expectation (goal) that he was expected to achieve. It is only when devious and clever operators noticed the wonderful opportunity to use failure as a mind control system that the concept of sin took on the horrific dimensions still used in many religions.
People were made to feel like shit when they once again fell short of the so-called requirements that God personally cast in stone. What amplified the fear of sinning and letting God down was the absolute nonsense preached that nobody can escape the all seeing eye of God. People became devious and began to hide, rationalise and justify their failures. Children that have strict and obsessive parents soon discover that telling the truth can turn into a fairly unpleasant experience. They soon develop a wide range of justifications and rationalisation that would make a judge scratch his head. Some children can think up excuses and reasons for poor performance or a lack of progress that would make most defence attorneys blush.
Something else that must be kept in mind is that all of us look at life through our own filter systems. We see our own perceptions as real and valid and often cannot see anything from other’s perspectives. We become mentally blind and cannot for a moment contemplate why someone is making such a fuss about a perceived mistake we made. Empathy (putting you in other’s shoes) fell apart over the years. Showing empathy means that you admit to your mistakes and as explained earlier could lead to pain and punishment. Every time we get away with the justifications we make up we entrench ourselves deeper in our castle of RESISTANCE.
The problem with “making up stories and justifications” is that we must suddenly remember what bullshit story we used to cover up our dispositions. The joke is that we begin to believe our own stories and will often be prepared to fight to the death to keep what really happened under wraps. Admitting mistakes we made provide wonderful learning opportunities and at the same time extract the toxic substance that accompanies whatever transpired. We came to this dimension to experience and to grow. The mistakes we make are wonderful opportunities to learn and to expand our self-image and self-esteem. You can save lots of time, tap dancing and frustration if you admit your mistake and offer to remedy whatever damage you caused.
There are parent that strongly insist that their children tell them the truth (and nothing but the truth). The child often views a hair raising performance from their parents when they tell the truth. Their mother begin to hyperventilate while she rips bundles of hair out of her sculpt while the father clutch his chest while he whisper and wheeze how he is going to beat the child up and force him to stay in his room for fifteen years. Let’s be honest. Very few children will continue to admit to mistakes after a few dramatic performances by his or her parents. Children later become adults and even later parents. They in turn duplicate the examples set by their parents and in the process produce a new generation of children that RESIST admitting mistakes that also find it impossible to show empathy to those that they harmed in with a mistake they made. The solution is to “tell it like it is” and let the chips fall where they may.
Spend today and see if you notice how you or others justify and rationalise when mistakes are made. See how service staff blame the computer when the messed up your account. See how incompetent mechanics flounder and lie when you question the quality of work they did on your vehicle. Try a few time do admit your mistakes without trying to justify your error. You might shock a few individuals that are not used to hearing the truth – but do it anyway. I will continue this series tomorrow.
Tom’s upcoming book, Primal Man Primal Woman (sure to be a best seller) is the subject of this interview about men and women at their most fundamental core.
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Using his unique understanding and experience to see behind the curtain of cultural belief, Tom gets to the core (there’s that apple again) of how we interact with the opposite gender, and answers what steps can be taken for an optimal loving relationship that is in accordance with his theory.
Tom Campbell’s My Big TOE must by definition (a big theory of everything) have an answer for how relationships can work optimally by shifting from need-based to love-based.
Women generally like Tom’s advice for the men, but they will also have some serious growing to do as well.
Evita Ochel of Evolving Beings has said the concept Tom proposes is “revolutionary”.
It is, and yet it is simple. He has observed and researched and tested it out, and have others, and “it works”.
And since Tom always goes beyond this reality in his interviews, he answers questions about relationships in other realities and more.
Students often ask me how they will be able to identify if they are in a state of RESISTANCE. The answer is simple and it is easy to detect when you are busy sabotaging yourself. How we feel at any given moment is a solid indicator where we are emotionally at that given moment in time. A feeling of unhappiness, frustration, doubt, fear and anxiety is all symptoms that we are right in the middle of a RESISTANCE storm. A feeling of boredom or dissatisfaction is also a solid indicator that we are in a state of RESISTANCE. Some of us have a feeling of guilt, but find it difficult to figure out why we are feeling so shitty and guilty. A feeling that we would rather stay in bed might be an indication that you have some kind of bug, but usually comes from a source where you are RESISTING something or someone. We often have no idea why we feel the way we do, but still come up with very creative excuses or blame our partner, friends, God or someone at work. Some attempt to drink, party or fuck their way out of the maze of RESISTANCE. Many of our addictions and obsessions come from the state of RESISTANCE. The consulting rooms of doctors and psychologists are full of victims or RESISTANCE. RESISTANCE can make you physically or mentally sick. RESISTANCE often turn into insomnia or anxiety attacks. Another symptom of RESISTANCE is a craving to shop and buy things. We often buy things we don’t need in an attempt to stop the craving deep inside us that eat away on our hearts, soul, dignity and financial capabilities.
You will notice that the consumer culture use our feelings of unhappiness and our desire for instant gratification to raid our wallets and credit cards. Look around you today and see if you can identify the many ways that we are exploited by the commercial world with promises that they will make us feel happy, satisfied, healed, more acceptable, slimmer, stronger, sexier etc. You will discover that the biggest percentage of sellers parasite on our basic habit of RESISTING our current moment. I will continue with this series tomorrow.
I mentioned in the previous post how a collective field of RESISTANCE crystallise where a number of people cluster together that apparently have very similar goals and objectives. We individually go around with our own unique RESISTANCE bubble. What we often fail to understand is that our RESISTANCE bubble might be unique to us, but display a huge percentage of the values, rules and regulations hammered into us, firstly by our family and then by the collective influence of the society that we grew up in. The society that we grew up in have a wide range of perceptions about religion, politics, race, food etc. This data is stored in a collective field of RESISTANCE. I call it a field of RESISTANCE because clans, tribes and nations jealously insist that their perceptions are the best and will defend them vigorously, even with their lives. It is amazing how clusters (religious, race or political) are struck with blindness when it comes to other tribes, nations or races. A good example of this is religion for example. Groups (Muslims, Christians etc.) expect others to forgo of their collective zone of RESISTANCE that contain all their perceptions and join their clan. Some of the worse wars – that wiped out endless millions have been fought in the name of religion or a God with a name that they relate to. Christians for example expect that billions of individuals join their group and accept their saviour Jesus if they want to be saved when they die. Those that convert are promised that this act of forgoing of their own religious zone of RESISTANCE will ensure that they go to the Christian heaven and live happily ever after. Fear motivation is one of the major forces in the zone of RESISTANCE that is used to bring urgency to the process. Christians are convinced that “the end” is near when Jesus will come and do battle with a character called Satan. It is apparently predicted that after Jesus took care of Satan and his gang he will turn on mankind and wipe out everyone that failed to leave his own religious RESISTANCE cluster that he grew up in and join the Christian zone of RESISTANCE. A handy tool when you want to create pressure is time. The moment you bring in time to any formula you begin to build pressure. That is why the billions that are alive today need to discard their own clusters urgently (according to the Christians) to avoid being murdered by Jesus. I hope you can see to what proportions the collective RESISTANCE clusters can be stretched. No growth or evolution can take place where individuals hide in their RESISTANCE fortresses and periodically attack others that in turn hide in a RESISTANCE fortress of their own.
Look around you today and see if you can notice the many different RESISTANCE clusters that you live in. Look at the endless number of churches, sport clubs, schools, businesses etc. You will suddenly understand why making peace and forgiving is so difficult for many. They cannot be modified overnight to become receptive to your brand of RESISTANCE. Letting go of the desire to change or convert people can play a major role in your life. Remember your perceptions might be light years removed from their way of perceiving things. Stop RESISTING and accept people unconditionally if you really want to bring peace and harmony to this world.
One of the most corrosive things many of us do is that we often rationalise perceived mistakes we made. I am often astounded with the justifications that some people come up when they fall short of their own or other’s expectations. They will find something or someone to blame. They often blame the weather, racism, historical disadvantages, God or Satan, the government, the recipe, fellow workers, the children, their partner etc.
What we fail to understand is that rationalisation fortifies our habit of living a life of RESISTANCE. Did it ever cross your mind that mistakes you make or events where you fail to conclude a project successfully is a wonderful opportunity to learn and grow? The word “sin” originally simply meant that a person fell short of the expectation (goal) that he was expected to achieve. It is only when devious and clever operators noticed the wonderful opportunity to use failure as a mind control system that the concept of sin took on the horrific dimensions still used in many religions.
People were made to feel like shit when they once again fell short of the so-called requirements that God personally cast in stone. What amplified the fear of sinning and letting God down was the absolute nonsense preached that nobody can escape the all seeing eye of God. People became devious and began to hide, rationalise and justify their failures. Children that have strict and obsessive parents soon discover that telling the truth can turn into a fairly unpleasant experience. They soon develop a wide range of justifications and rationalisation that would make a judge scratch his head. Some children can think up excuses and reasons for poor performance or a lack of progress that would make most defence attorneys blush.
Something else that must be kept in mind is that all of us look at life through our own filter systems. We see our own perceptions as real and valid and often cannot see anything from other’s perspectives. We become mentally blind and cannot for a moment contemplate why someone is making such a fuss about a perceived mistake we made. Empathy (putting you in other’s shoes) fell apart over the years. Showing empathy means that you admit to your mistakes and as explained earlier could lead to pain and punishment. Every time we get away with the justifications we make up we entrench ourselves deeper in our castle of RESISTANCE.
The problem with “making up stories and justifications” is that we must suddenly remember what bullshit story we used to cover up our dispositions. The joke is that we begin to believe our own stories and will often be prepared to fight to the death to keep what really happened under wraps. Admitting mistakes we made provide wonderful learning opportunities and at the same time extract the toxic substance that accompanies whatever transpired. We came to this dimension to experience and to grow. The mistakes we make are wonderful opportunities to learn and to expand our self-image and self-esteem. You can save lots of time, tap dancing and frustration if you admit your mistake and offer to remedy whatever damage you caused.
There are parent that strongly insist that their children tell them the truth (and nothing but the truth). The child often views a hair raising performance from their parents when they tell the truth. Their mother begin to hyperventilate while she rips bundles of hair out of her sculpt while the father clutch his chest while he whisper and wheeze how he is going to beat the child up and force him to stay in his room for fifteen years. Let’s be honest. Very few children will continue to admit to mistakes after a few dramatic performances by his or her parents. Children later become adults and even later parents. They in turn duplicate the examples set by their parents and in the process produce a new generation of children that RESIST admitting mistakes that also find it impossible to show empathy to those that they harmed in with a mistake they made. The solution is to “tell it like it is” and let the chips fall where they may.
Spend today and see if you notice how you or others justify and rationalise when mistakes are made. See how service staff blame the computer when the messed up your account. See how incompetent mechanics flounder and lie when you question the quality of work they did on your vehicle. Try a few time do admit your mistakes without trying to justify your error. You might shock a few individuals that are not used to hearing the truth – but do it anyway. I will continue this series tomorrow.
How many of us fail to read the connection between the horrific negative impact that NON-ACTION and RESISTANCE play in our lives. Look around you and you will find that we abuse drugs; we daily eat the abuse and intimidation from lovers, family, so-called friends and the government. We allow the banks to use and abuse us. We end up in hospital with stress related illnesses. We pay gurus and religious leaders a fortune to say things that we hope will dull our pain and give us hope. Many of us are drinking as if they are going to take alcohol from the market. We today live in a society that is under financial pressure all the time. We work like crazy and even neglect our children in an attempt to survive one more month. Some of us are well qualified and experienced in our selected professions, but fail to get a job because of our skin colour and the toxic state of the economy world-wide. Everyone have a powerful voice inside them that can direct their lives on a moment to moment basis. This guide and wisdom source has been carefully polluted with many layers of conditioning and habits since early childhood. We are so busy running away mentally and physically that we fail to notice the little voice inside us that is well cocooned by an endless range of perceptions. We can explode this wall of RESISTANCE today if we are brave enough to admit that we have become slaves to the system. The little voice and brilliant genius in our hearts and minds tell us to go for gold and do what needs to be done, but we ignore these messages because we are shit scared to go up against the endless perceptions, rules and regulations that enclosed us in our cold little igloo. We more often than not know exactly what we need to do or what we should avoid, but do little or nothing while we helplessly hammer against the wall of RESISTANCE built with bricks of fear. A large percentage stopped attacking the wall of RESISTANCE and fall apart when confronted by challenges. These individuals either live in denial or justify their NON-ACTION with stupid excuses.
Spend some time today gathering information about the stuff that you know need to be completed that you have been postponing for far too long now. The wall of RESISTANCE consists out of thousands of bricks manufactured by ignorant individuals with no vision. Ignorance is the biggest killer of dreams. Knowledge shines a light into the dark places in our minds that we run away from. Information is your key to success and freedom. I will continue this series tomorrow.
Most individuals that saw the series on the Matrix find it an enjoyable action movie, but some, only a few suddenly, realise that the Matrix is real and have been fucking mankind for thousands of years. Man have been programmed and hypnotised since the beginning of time to serve as the slaves of the system. Man have been used and abused by the privileged few that sit with most of the power and the money. You might venture a smile while reading this and think that I am on a role with one of the endless number of conspiracy theories that a few crackpots run around with periodically. Just answer one question and see if you can give a valid explanation why there are literally billions of people on this planet that are struggling to survive on a day-to-day basis while a few fat cat (politicians and corporations) sit with mountains of money sipping their whisky from crystal glass tumblers. Mankind have been lured into an invisible jail where we (you and me) became paralysed slaves that work our fingers to the bone for a system with no compassion and no love. You may ask, “How was this amazing con trick pulled on mankind?” It was achieved by master manipulators that implanted a virus of RESISTANCE in our forefathers. This virus was transferred from generation to generation via our genes as well as through the domestication process instilled in our parents by society by the church and politicians. A method of fear, pain and pleasure assisted those with their double agendas to turn us into their sheep. The carrot and stick method worked extremely well. Those that did what was expected were rewarded and those that failed to toe the line were punished. False promises and lies motivated us to turn on each other until we went into hiding each in our tiny little box. You were a good citizen if you advanced the agendas of the controllers and painfully punished if you disobeyed any of the religious and political tainted dogma. That is why everyone lives in a world of RESISTANCE. Not RESISTANCE focused on the agendas of the slave drivers, but the perceived intentions of our neighbour, brothers etc. You might be shocked when I tell you that we are not only the source (work) of all the wealth they have, but we police each other and even breed future slaves for their system. We are living in a matrix where we live and die in the illusion created for us by heartless operators. We live in an illusion where we are constantly bombarded by advertising, movies, videos, news on TV and the radio. Everything is choreographed to sustain a spirit of RESISTANCE in you. We all strive to achieve the unachievable objectives promoted on TV, in the media and newspapers. We want to be happy, successful and create some kind of future for our children. We run like rats on the treadmill of the matrix and make little or no progress. Our gains today is nullified a day or a few weeks later.
Look around you today and you will see that everything is choreographed. There is a huge greedy money grabbing machine behind the glamour products and services promoted. The glib politicians never tell you from their podiums that they own you and will not hesitate to send you or your children to die for them in their silly wars. The corporations will not tell you that many of their products contain chemicals and ingredients that could destroy your health. (Look at Food Inc video) Listen to the well concealed trigger words used by those in power to motivate you to give them your labour, health, money and votes. Open your mind today and listen. You might discover how the spirit of RESISTANCE shattered society into small manageable clusters. We RESIST each other while our controllers sit in their ivory towers enjoying the fruit of our labour. They know while we RESIST and fight each other we will remain in our sheep like state. I will continue this series tomorrow.
I mentioned in the previous post how a collective field of RESISTANCE crystallise where a number of people cluster together that apparently have very similar goals and objectives. We individually go around with our own unique RESISTANCE bubble. What we often fail to understand is that our RESISTANCE bubble might be unique to us, but display a huge percentage of the values, rules and regulations hammered into us, firstly by our family and then by the collective influence of the society that we grew up in. The society that we grew up in have a wide range of perceptions about religion, politics, race, food etc. This data is stored in a collective field of RESISTANCE. I call it a field of RESISTANCE because clans, tribes and nations jealously insist that their perceptions are the best and will defend them vigorously, even with their lives. It is amazing how clusters (religious, race or political) are struck with blindness when it comes to other tribes, nations or races. A good example of this is religion for example. Groups (Muslims, Christians etc.) expect others to forgo of their collective zone of RESISTANCE that contain all their perceptions and join their clan. Some of the worse wars – that wiped out endless millions have been fought in the name of religion or a God with a name that they relate to. Christians for example expect that billions of individuals join their group and accept their saviour Jesus if they want to be saved when they die. Those that convert are promised that this act of forgoing of their own religious zone of RESISTANCE will ensure that they go to the Christian heaven and live happily ever after. Fear motivation is one of the major forces in the zone of RESISTANCE that is used to bring urgency to the process. Christians are convinced that “the end” is near when Jesus will come and do battle with a character called Satan. It is apparently predicted that after Jesus took care of Satan and his gang he will turn on mankind and wipe out everyone that failed to leave his own religious RESISTANCE cluster that he grew up in and join the Christian zone of RESISTANCE. A handy tool when you want to create pressure is time. The moment you bring in time to any formula you begin to build pressure. That is why the billions that are alive today need to discard their own clusters urgently (according to the Christians) to avoid being murdered by Jesus. I hope you can see to what proportions the collective RESISTANCE clusters can be stretched. No growth or evolution can take place where individuals hide in their RESISTANCE fortresses and periodically attack others that in turn hide in a RESISTANCE fortress of their own.
Look around you today and see if you can notice the many different RESISTANCE clusters that you live in. Look at the endless number of churches, sport clubs, schools, businesses etc. You will suddenly understand why making peace and forgiving is so difficult for many. They cannot be modified overnight to become receptive to your brand of RESISTANCE. Letting go of the desire to change or convert people can play a major role in your life. Remember your perceptions might be light years removed from their way of perceiving things. Stop RESISTING and accept people unconditionally if you really want to bring peace and harmony to this world.
Everyday you make a thousand choices. You choose what to wear, where to go, who to meet, what to eat and what to do. MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL, YOU decide WHAT TO THINK. One thing is sure and that is that your day will not be better than your thoughts. ...................
Just close your eyes for a moment and see if you can visualise this open toolbox and if you can see the hundreds of tools that are neatly placed in this toolbox. Now look if you can see the maker’s name on these tools. The creator of these tools (thoughts and perceptions) is you. You created thousands of thoughts and perceptions (tools) about everything since your childhood. ..................
When confronted with any situation or problem you reach into this toolbox and take out what you think the most appropriate tool would be and then attempt to fix the problem. It is estimated that your mind thinks at least 2,500 thoughts an hour. Every thought that you think is a tool (perception) that you have that you imagine would work best under specific circumstances. This thought process continues day and night and will do so for the rest of your life. .....................................
I am convinced that we think ourselves to a standstill. We never stop playing with these tools in our toolbox and can hardly ever really relax for a while. If we are not faced with a problem or task that needs completion we still continue to take out these tools and mentally rehears and contemplate how we will use them should something that we fear become a reality. ............................
We are forever thinking and scheming and never become still and tranquil inside. Our bodies might seem relaxed, but deep inside our heads this thought process continues churning around. What I am most worried about is that most of the tools that you have in your toolbox are very old and outdated. .......................
Many of the opportunities, problems and obstructions that you face daily cannot be repaired while you are using old and outdated tools. If you take a modern mechanic’s toolbox and you place the toolbox of a mechanic of fifty years ago next to it you will find that there are major discrepancies. When you are confronted with something that needs repair and you do not have the right tool for the task at hand it can be very frustrating. We usually improvise and try using some other tools and hope that it will also get the job done. ........................
When you are faced with a problem you need to select the right tool for the task at hand. If you do not have the tool in your toolbox it can complicate your life. What most people seem to ignore is that it is sometimes better not to reach for your toolbox when faced with a problem. Sometimes you need time to pass or need to leave the problem with its rightful owner. How well you use your tools is usually reflected in the world you see around you. What would you do if you were faced with any or all of the following? .........................
You get a flat tire on your way to an important customer or meeting. You can fall apart, develop a migraine and think that life is against you or you can take out the right tools (patience and reality) and take care of the problem in a relaxed manner. ........................
You have been working on the computer for hours and suddenly lose all your work. You can drop dead with a heart attack; think that God hates you or you can take out the right tool (sanity and reality) and begin over and this time remember to make a backup of your work. ....................
A lover or wife possibly cheated on you. You can go crazy and get an assassin to take out the potential threat to your relationship, think that you are a failure or you can take out the right tool (no fear of loss) and get on with your life. .......................
When you have the right tools in your toolbox it makes life a lot easier. The choices we make are vital in our lives. The more quality choices we make during any given day the higher the probability of success and peace of mind. ................
I suggest that you equip your toolbox with the best tools you can lay your hands on. It is important to upgrade if you discover that one of your tools are outdated or that a more modern version is available. How would you react if your TV packed up and a technician that obviously knows very little about electronics arrived at your house with only a sledgehammer and a few other primitive tools in his toolbox? I am sure that you will send him away and find someone better qualified and equipped for the task. .....................
You might sometimes be like this incompetent and poorly equipped technician indicated above if you do not often update your tools (thoughts) in your toolbox. You can also have all the right tools in your toolbox and never use them because you are afraid that you might make a mistake. ..................
You must remember that happiness and success is always just one thought (tool) away. You should remember when you find it difficult to cope with something that one new tool (thought) could change your life. One fresh thought and one new idea can change your life from pain and suffering to success and peace of mind. ........................
You are today what you were programmed with yesterday. The choices that you make on a moment-to-moment basis decide your fate and future. You can never feel or perform better than the ongoing thoughts and feelings that you allow to occupy your mind! .......................
The mistake we make is that most of us live our lives on a reactive basis. We start and complete our day in a reactive state of being. Something comes to our attention via our five senses or via a thought in our mind. We automatically slip into the “role” that we created for ourselves many moons ago. We act, react and experience the same feelings and emotions that we embedded with our scrip at its inception. We do exactly the same when new stimuli push the previous “drama” off the stage in our minds. We sustain this reactive mode of thinking until we finally go to bed at night. Most of our days are made up of a tapestry of “roles” that we played in our own colorful way. It is important to understand that nothing is going to change until we do something different. We cannot repeat the same old recipes and expect a different outcome. ....................
You can use the “Portable Life Skills Wisdom” book to develop a range of appropriate scripts that you can use when you are faced with a problem or project that need your attention. You will if you apply the scripts in this book find that you no longer run your life on a reactive basis. The new scripts will help you to live your life in the moment. You will become more realistic. You will treat each event on its own merit. How do you do this? ......................
The Process ....................
Read the first message in your book. Write it down if at all possible. It will assist you to absorb the data provided. Now sit back and close your eyes and visualize how you will apply the specific message in the various areas of your life. See yourself on the screen of your mind using the message in all your day-to-day activities. It is important to attempt to feel and experience the benefits that this new mode of thinking will bring into your life. Do this for ten minutes. Then open your eyes and begin to apply the wisdom on all occasions where appropriate in your activities on that given day. ...........................
Proceed to do the same with second message etc. in your book tomorrow. You will upload almost a thousand powerful recipes if you sustain the process indicated above. You can in less than three years upload a powerful “tool” system that will serve you for the rest of your life. This can be a life changing experience if you apply it daily. You will discover that the ten minutes you invest daily will upload countless new strategies into your subconscious computer. Build a successful and happy life. The key however is action. You can have the best tools available to man and still fail if you don’t use them daily. Wishing you the very best with this endeavor. .............................
Daily Support System (This Blog) ................
You not only have the massive key ideas in the book that you can use when appropriate you also receive daily posts on a wide range of subjects that will expand this system to a level never offered before. Visit this blog daily for fresh new ideas with a sprinkle of historical wisdom that stood the test of time. ..........................
Rene
PORTABLE LIFE SKILLS DAILY WISDOM GUIDE 