PART 7 – The THREE SECONDS formula that will change your life

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The THREE SECONDS formula that will change your life

The THREE SECONDS formula that will change your life

The THREE SECONDS formula that will change your life

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PART 7

 

It would be foolish if the 1, 2, 3, system failed to deal with events and circumstances that befall us daily confident manner. Some might be under the impression that I promote a system of denial. It could be said that using the method of distraction is teaching individuals to stick their heads in the sand like an ostrich. It may be concluded by some that failed to read the whole program that I promote a method that should only be used by those that lack courage. Let us take a careful look if this method and how it could promote confidence, wisdom and courage.

I explained in previous parts of this program that many of us live our lives using an auto pilot method. I would like to show you how the jump to conclusions method often creates more problems than it solves. It is imperative to confront problems and obstacles with a clear mind and a positive attitude. It is impossible to remain focused and calm if your sub-conscious mind is busy pumping fear, doubt and other destructive thoughts into your mind that amplify an already tense challenge, problem or obstacle. You might have already started doubting your ability to cope with what you are confronted with long before your sub-conscious mind started downloading its worst case scenarios into your mind. This is how a “storm in a tea cup” tends to turn into a major dispute or disaster.

Something else that must also be kept in mind when confronted by obstacles is that most of the thoughts and recommendations downloaded by the sub-conscious mind is fear based and promotes frantic panic reactions in us. Your sub-conscious mind predominantly works on a fight or flight mode of operation when you are faced with a difficult choice or a perceived threat. We make poor quality choices when we act while we have waves of panic rushing through our heads. This is how we get sucked into heavy duty disputes that sometimes turn ugly.               

How the 1, 2, 3 method assist you to remain in control

Each and every obstacle, challenge, problem or dispute has its own merits and foundation. It will be silly to drive in a small nail with a sledgehammer. Over reaction often form the basis of many of the disputes and challenges that we are faced with. The 1, 2, 3 method will stop the rapid inflow of data from your subconscious mind. It will provide you with time to compose yourself. It will put your conscious mind in charge so you can for example ask quality questions about the potential problem at hand. Most disputes are based on misunderstandings. Many challenges are not as threatening as we thought they would be initially. Keep in mind that the party that you have the dispute with might also be working in auto pilot mode. When you question this party you force him/her to start using his/her conscious reasoning mind. I am often amazed how a few questions can defuse a situation that initially seemed very serious and threatening. Two individuals that operate in auto pilot mode cannot look at any situation with an open mind. Everything they hear, express or experience is tainted by their sub-conscious belief systems.                         

This is how you manage whatever you are confronted with

You should immediately use the 1, 2, 3, method when you begin to experience negative and destructive feelings when you are confronted by a problem, obstacle or a person that verbally attack you. Immediately direct your attention towards something outside yourself. Notice the fly on the wall or study the amazing structure of a tree or flower outside your window. Your mind cannot do two things simultaneously. This act of diverting your attention will provide you with time to disengage from the thoughts and feelings that swamp your mind. This diversion will also give you time to compose yourself so you can operate from your conscious mind. Your conscious mind will deal with whatever you are confronted with in a more calm and mature manner. Your conscious mind will probably ask some questions to ensure that it is dealing with the merits of whatever you are confronted with. It will not jump to conclusions. Can you see that the diversion method do not turn you into a coward or cause you to join the other party on his current agitated level? Two agitated individuals with their egos out of control cannot deal properly with anything. Think back to many of your disputes and you might recall that most of these disputes that you were involved in were only solved when both parties cooled down and when both parties were prepared to listen to the other party’s point of view.

Stuff will continue to happen while you attend earth school. Deal with them. They provide you with opportunities to learn – grow and mature.

Rene

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The THREE SECONDS formula that will change your life

The THREE SECONDS formula that will change your life

The THREE SECONDS formula that will change your life

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Part 1 – The THREE SECONDS formula that will change your life!

https://eagleman6788.wordpress.com/2015/03/22/the-three-seconds-formula-that-will-change-your-life/

Part 2 – The THREE SECONDS formula that will change your life!

https://eagleman6788.wordpress.com/2015/03/24/part-2-the-three-seconds-formula-that-will-change-your-life/

PART 3 – The THREE SECONDS formula that will change your life

https://eagleman6788.wordpress.com/2015/03/26/the-three-seconds-formula-that-will-change-your-life-part-3/

Part 4 – The THREE SECONDS formula that will change your life

Part 4 – The THREE SECONDS formula that will change your life

PART 5 – The THREE SECONDS formula that will change your life

PART 5 – The THREE SECONDS formula that will change your life

PART 6 – The THREE SECONDS formula that will change your life

PART 6 – The THREE SECONDS formula that will change your life

 

Don’t say “no” to the greatest gift in the entire universe!

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This is the transcript of a video by Stefan Molyneux, in which he gives probably the single greatest answer ever to the most common complaint you will inevitably hear from a modern, educated, working person. Take it away, Stefan…

“This is about the most common question that I get, and I am going to give you the answer of answers. This will be the video that we will be directing all the people to who ask this question:

“Stef, I’ve been working at the same job now lo these four years. No promotions or raises. I’ve noticed recently that I am very apathetic towards my job. I do it to the letter, but nothing extra, no initiative and no fulfillment. I like the job. The people are great and I realize this apathy comes from a lack of incentive for a raise or promotion. The company I work for doesn’t do raises and prefers to just replace older, more experienced people when they inevitably leave. But, here’s the kicker… The new people are always hired at higher salaries than older personnel which makes no sense to me. This, of course, only serves to aggravate the situation as there’s policy against discussing wages, but people talk anyway. I fear I’m falling in a vicious circle — I think he means “cycle” — of not showing any initiative because of lower wages, and that leads to my superiors not considering me for any advancement. I used to be a top performer in my team, but now I just grind away, just achieving, but not overachieving. So the question is: How do I deal with work apathy? Is this job salvageable, or do I have to start fresh?”

Hmm, I guess my answer to this and many other questions about motivation is — you’re going to die.

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Let me tell you something ironic. The very first video I ever did on YouTube was “Live Like You Are Dying” which was , you know, when you’re on your deathbed you can look back and what decisions you will want to have made, and what will you regret and what will you be proud of? And, that’s one way to guide your life.

Last year, a very aggressive form of cancer struck me, and I went through chemo, radiation therapy… and boy, don’t you hate it when you have to go from theory to practice. It’s one thing to waffle burger on about Death’s door closing over you like Bruce, the giant shark from Jaws’s mouth, but it’s quite another thing to wake up and feel like Wile E. Coyote stuck at the bottom of a cartoon canyon with the anvil of death fast approaching.

So, let me remind you and tell you once again. You, my friend, are going to die.

I don’t know.Now, maybe your death will be a quick death. Maybe, you’ll get hit by a bus while listening to Van Halen.

Maybe, you will suffer an aneurysm during the greatest orgasm of your life. Well, I guess it will have to be a pretty good one cause it will be your last. Maybe, you’ll have a life ending moment where you won’t have a chance to process regrets, where you won’t have a chance to look at your life. Where you won’t be like the comic shop owner in the Simpsons. When the nuclear bomb hits and he says, “I’ve wasted my life”, just before he dies. Maybe, that won’t happen. But it probably will.

You will probably get news of an illness that will give you months in which to reflect.

You will probably have a long time in a hospital bed knowing, really, that you’re never going to get out of that bed again — that’s a one-way ticket. The bed opens up, you fall into the ground, they throw some dirt in your face, say a few hymns, and get on with their lives.

What’s that hospital bed gonna be like for you?

See, you’re complaining about life. “I have too many choices!” you say. “I have too many options. I could leave. I could stay, but I just don’t seem to have, oh, too much motivation to do anything.

You’re breathing aren’t ya!? You know, that in-and-out thing, the chest going up and down, oxygenated blood running through your system firing up your muscles to do anything you want with this incredible gift called life. Four million—four billion years in the making… Amoeba had sex in the primordial slime to grant you the opportunity of doing anything you want in this incredible world. Maybe, they didn’t even like each other. But, they’re like, “it’s for that guy down the road, man. I mean, I know we’re only Amoebas—I know we’re only slime. It’s like having sex with a jellyfish and I’m not even in to jellyfish.

But, let’s put our gross bits together, make another piece of slime, who can make another piece of slime, who can make some seaweed, who can make some fish, who can make a frog, who could make a lizard, who could make a dinosaur, who could step on a mammal, who can pray for the ice to crush the dinosaurs, so they can evolve into monkeys, split off into Neanderthals, Paleolithics, hominids, human beings, Homo sapiens…” All for you!

The universe has repulsively fucked itself senseless to give you life! Aah! And, you’re complaining that you’re just not that motivated at work! Really?! Really?!

Every day is a gift. It’s a cliché because nobody lives that way. Clichés are stuff that everybody accepts and nobody lives. “I’ll do anything for my children.” Stop hitting them. Stay home with them. “Well, no. Not that. I mean, I love my condo downtown, and I find spending time with my kids can be a little dull, so…” No. “I love my wife. I would do anything for my wife.” Put down the iPad and chat with her. “Well, no. There is a breaking story on Fox News that might be interesting. I can chat about it with her later.

Clichés are what everybody knows to be true and almost nobody lives by. You know you’re dying, right? You know that your days are grains of sand in an hourglass, right?

And frankly, you’re whining about living in the most advanced economy, in the freest political time, with the greatest wealth and abundance, with the most opportunities that any carbon-based life form on this planet has ever had.

The dinosaurs were like, “Uh, I don’t know I’ll eat another dinosaur. I’ll shit bits of scale out in the bottom. Oh shit, an asteroid!” (makes explosion sound) That’s it for them. All they can hope for is to be resurrected in CGI. You know, there are billions of bacteria in your belly. What would they give to trade places with your neo-frontal cortex, and be the robot operator of this giant flesh machine of opportunity? I mean, do you want to switch places with them and watch fucking tacos slide by slowly turning into goo to fuel your muscles so you can flap your mouth hole complaining about your life?! You’re not bacteria in your colon! Yay!. That’s great! Yay, to not being bowel infested bacteria. Urm, good! That’s a great way to start the day, and you don’t have to have sex with other bacteria that are rolling around in your own shit. Yeah! Isn’t that a beautiful way to start the day?

I mean, I get it. Look, I get it. I will slide into this from time to time and can kvetch and complain, and so on… a little bit less then when I got cancer, but it happens. I get it and I—you know, I give this speech to myself too. Like, “Yay, don’t have to have sex with an amoeba. Always a good day, I mean, unless you regularly make out with your beanbag and get an erection. It’s not the best way to spend your Saturday night.

I guarantee you my friend that when you get to that one-way hospital bed from which you
will not arise… You know, you’re driving in traffic, an ambulance goes by. “Damn, that’s annoying. Got to pull over.” You know that ambulance? Well, you know that ambulance, one day, is going to have you in it, and you will be going to the hospital and you will not be coming home. Your half-finished cup of coffee, Sudoku, and crosswords will never be finished. You know that book you were always thinking about writing never will be written! That instrument you wanted to learn how to play, that song you wanted to sing, the poem you wanted to write, that business you wanted to start, that woman you wanted to ask out… It will never happen because that ambulance has no reverse… it goes down the road to that hospital. You get carted out the back. It goes to pick someone else up, and you ain’t never going home. You ain’t never going back. The only home you’re going to is a coffin or an urn, and people will be sad for a little while, and like everybody else in the world, they move on with their lives.

I guarantee you when you’re in that hospital bed, you will look back and you will say, “God damn, I wish I had the problems that I had twenty years ago, or ten years ago, or even yesterday.” At the End Times of your final days, what would you not trade to be back where you are right now, complaining about all of these excesses of choice. You know, I don’t get a lot of letters from people stuck in gulags saying, “you know, it’s kind of like the same day over and over again. You know, they toss me out of bed and I got to go working hacking ice sculptures for Putin. I don’t get—because those people have no choices—I don’t get a lot of letters from people in prison saying, “I just don’t know how to have a great day. I mean, what should I do? I don’t know. Do what the guards tell you cause you got no choice.

You are complaining about having choices, being alive, being healthy… So, fuck, quit your job. Start a company. Ask the woman out of your dreams. Ask the man out of your dreams.

Seize it! Seize it! Do something! Take a risk, or don’t take a risk, but be satisfied with where you are. But complaining is like taking a slow, deuce-y dump on the only meal you’re ever going to get, then complaining about the taste. Your life is your meal. You are the cook. I’m sorry you had a tough childhood. I totally am. I get that. I’m sorry you don’t have people in your life shaking you by the neck and trying to rouse some energy, some rainbows shooting out of your spine, some fireworks with which to dazzle the planet, or your neighbor, or your dog, or your fucking goldfish, or at least yourself. I’m sorry you don’t have that. I guess I’ll bungee in and try and do that for you. There is no law, no compulsion, no law of physics or man that is preventing you from living the life that you want. Quit your job. Go travel. Go pick grapes in Queensland. Go scale the Andes.

Go pick garbage in Paris. It doesn’t matter, but do something to honor those repulsively copulating pieces of DNA that got the whole gig started because we have a hell of a lot more opportunity for fun, satisfaction, virtue, power, and brilliance than they ever had.

Don’t say “no” to the greatest gift in the entire universe.

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By Stefan Molyneux / Thought Pollution

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