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Dear Fellow Bloggers,
The only reason why we suffer is because we resist, argue or fight with “what is”. When we become convinced about the facts of “what is” we stop sabotaging our ability to enjoy, progress and succeed with whatever we are busy with at any given moment.
If you insist in your attempt to change, modify or enjoy a different “what is” then you might as well attempt to train your dog to sing like a canary. You can try all you like, but will end up with a dog that still barks like crazy notwithstanding all your effort. Wanting your reality to be different than what you are faced with at any given moment is just stupid and a waste of time. You can send your dog for singing classes or you can hire a tutor for him, but will end up with a dog that still barks like the day he got this stupid notion in his head. All you willpower, money and effort will not provide you with the outcome you desired.
I want you to sit back for a moment and think how many time in the last day or week did you think thoughts like – My partner should have or could have – My neighbour should have – My son should have – My boss should have etc.
These thoughts clearly illustrate that you wanted reality to be different than it was or still is at this moment in time You experienced frustration, anger, anxiety, rejection and stress because you argued against the hard cold facts of “what is”.
You might think that you can see in what direction my message are moving and would like to tell me that if you simply accepted the reality of “what is” you would become passive and nothing would change or improve in any area of your life. If you posed this question to me I would ask you which of the following questions sound more logical and sane to you. “I wish I never made that stupid investment and lost all my money” or “What can I do, starting today to generate more income so I can make up for the money I lost?”
Accepting the reality of “what is” does not mean that you condone or approve of the way things are or of the behaviour of someone, it just means that you give up all your resistance and inner struggle wishing that things were different. I know that no one wants to lose his money, experience the moaning of a partner or boss or struggle with a sick child. It is however vital that you understand that it is much more helpful not to mentally argue with the reality of the moment. This might sound extremely logical, but the fact of the matter is that we have been doing this since early childhood and achieve nothing beneficial from this habitual responds pattern. We know that our resistance to “what is” is counter productive and futile, but be sustain this mode of operation and hope that one day we will achieve an acceptable outcome.
You will be amazed how your life will change when you learn to accept “what is”. It will not be easy initially to just accept “what is” because you have been playing this game since early childhood and your ego is of the opinion that it is the right thing to do. The problem that you are faced with is that you always lose when you play this silly game. When you argue with “what is” you always lose my friend.
Just awareness of this fact will bring a new perspective into the way you do things. You will stop the futile arguing and fighting against “what is”, what could or should have been. You will accept “what is” without mentally fussing and straining and start working on ways that you can avoid a repeat performance in the future. You will stop wasting energy on what you hoped or whished for. Progress is only possible when you accept “what is” and boldly start working towards the outcome you desire.
Kind regards
Rene
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