It is often amazing to see a person run into a brick wall time and again while hoping that the next contact with the wall will be less painful.

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IF YOU CONTINUE TO DO THE SAME THING YOU WILL GET THE SAME RESULTS EVERY TIME. IF WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS NOT WORKING OR GIVING YOU THE OUTCOME YOU DESIRE, CHANGE YOUR APPROACH, FOCUS OR PARTNER.

 

I find it quite astounding how certain people continue to bake the same old cake using the same old defective recipe in the game of life. They hope, pray and yearn for success, but are confronted with repeated disastrous outcomes every time. They try positive thinking and meditate under waterfalls before they bake, but the results remain substandard until the defective recipe is modified or a new one is found. Nothing is going to change until they make a purposeful decision to replace or repair the recipe that they are currently using.

It is often amazing to see a person in love runs into a brick wall time and again in hope that the next contact with the wall will be less painful and bloody. It is sometimes pathetic to see how a tainted lover hopes that his partners will suddenly grow courage, commitment and loyalty between the let downs and painful contacts with the wall. When you confront such person about his confusing behaviour he often claims that his encounters with the wall are actually a sign of his persistence and bravery. He is often convinced that the love of his life will magically change if he runs into the wall long enough.

What we fail to understand is if the outcome of any of our actions do not bring us our desired outcome then something needs to be changed. A decision needs to be taken to face the reality of the situation. New plans must be made or current plans need to be adjusted. Most of us often hate to face the reality and the cold, hard facts of a situation or person.

If you for example get involved with a partner in business and discover that he or she is a crook or taker you will have to make a choice sooner or later about this relationship. It could be fatal if you avoid making the vital decision to end such relationship. If you hope that the person will suddenly change from a crook to a loyal and fair friend and partner you might need a few intense sessions with a trained psychologist.

The best way to test if your recipe is working is study what you are getting from a specific relationship or action. If you discover that you are always getting a raw deal or walk away the loser you might need to do some serious decision-making.

I WILL CAREFULLY STUDY WHAT I GET FROM MY ACTIONS, FRIENDSHIPS, AND PROJECTS. IF I OFTEN END UP WITH A BAD DEAL I WILL STOP AND RE-EVALUATE MY POSITION OR SITUATION!

You must stop or modify something if you discover that any of your actions makes you feel bad or land you in trouble. It is usually time to make critical decisions if you feel drained, used, abused, fleeced or in pain in any relationship or project that you are busy with. It is peoples’ fear of change or the unknown that cause them to remain on the sinking ship.

I have consulted with an endless number of battered wives that hope and pray that the monster that they are married to will have a change of heart. They hang in and hope that the magic of decades ago will return to their relationship. I can categorically state here today that not one of these abusive monsters ever change permanently. They usual change for days or a few weeks and then carry on where they left off. Just look around you and see if you can count the number of people that really changed from a crook, abuser, opportunist, or loser to an angel of the light on a sustained basis. You might be surprised how few fingers you need of your one hand to count them all.

Individuals with a strong ability to influence understand that if things continually fail to turn out as anticipated some drastic life changing decisions need to be taken.

Rene