YOU HAVE A WEIGHING INSTRUMENT IN YOUR BRAIN THAT VALIDATES EVERY PERSON, SITUATION OR MOMENT. IT IS ALSO USED TO GRADE YOUR OWN PERFORMANCE!
We are constantly busy judging and measuring people, events and our own performance. We will for example give a person that causes us a great deal of pain or loss a score of 1 or 2 on reliability or morality. Then again we might give the person that we just fell in love with a perfect 10 even when she picks her nose. Everything that others or we do is validated on this scoring system. A 1-2-3 would indicate PATHETIC 3-4-5 FAIR 6-7 GOOD and 8-9-10 OUTSTANDING.
Everything we do is also validated in the same manner. The problem with this tool is that we are the ones that decide when a person must get a 7 or for example a 3 under any given set of circumstances. I say a problem because we calibrate this instrument by using our own perceptions as the norm.We will give a person a high score if he or she performed close to our perception of what is good and acceptable for us and a low score when his or her performance is somewhat removed from our perceived norm. We will for example give a person that has been loyal to us for many years a 2 when a mistake is made while we give the new love in our life a 9 for a far less valuable achievement.
The destruction of your self-image and self-esteem take place when you fall into the habit of giving yourself low scores on most things you do. When you develop the tendency to see yourself as a failure in most areas of your life you also begin to live your life accordingly.
You will never perform like a 8-9-10 if you see yourself as a 3 in a specific activity or situation. This is why most people find it so difficult to motivate themselves. If you walk like a 3 and talk like a 3 you will also act and think like a 3. It is foolish to expect an 8 or 9 performance of yourself if you see yourself as a 1-2 (failure).
The problem with this validation system that forms part of our steering mechanism in life is that it becomes our norm once we made up our mind about something, somebody or ourselves. Can you see how our scoring or measuring system could possibly be flawed or founded on a lie? You will fail if you are convinced that you have only a 3 rating on something. You cannot achieve or perform beyond the rating that you accepted for yourself. You become blind about many of the things that others do or for that matter fail to do after you allocated a rating to them. Remember people walk, talk, act and perform according to their perceived scores.
THIS MEASURING DEVICE IS NOT TRUTH AND CAN BE ADJUSTED AT ANY GIVEN MOMENT IN TIME. ALL IT TAKES OF ME IS TO BEGIN TO ACT LIKE AN 8-9-10 AND THE SUCCESS WILL FOLLOW!
Most people wait for something to happen that will make them feel better about themselves or about their current status. They need things to change before they will dare to adjust their evaluation of a situation or person. You can reverse the process.
You can begin to walk; talk, act, and react like an 8-9-10 and will discover that you will soon start feeling like an 8-9-10 type of person. Once you feel like an 8-9-10 you will begin to do the things 8-9-10 do. Just for today try and act, talk and walk like an 8-9-10 and see, what difference it will make in the way you feel and the results you achieve.
Stop waiting for your circumstance to be just right before you adopt the characteristics of an 8-9-10. Act and the feeling of success and pleasure will follow. Start acting in advance like an 8-9-10 person and success will follow. If you want to remain in a 3-person zone until things change for the better, be my guest. I know that you can virtually instantaneously adjust your mood if you use this powerful method. You cannot exert influence if your score is less than a 7 my friend. People will not follow or listen to a 1-2-3-4-5 type of person. They need a person with leadership ability (8-9-10) and passion to show them the way!
Everyday you make a thousand choices. You choose what to wear, where to go, who to meet, what to eat and what to do. MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL, YOU decide WHAT TO THINK. One thing is sure and that is that your day will not be better than your thoughts. ...................
Just close your eyes for a moment and see if you can visualise this open toolbox and if you can see the hundreds of tools that are neatly placed in this toolbox. Now look if you can see the maker’s name on these tools. The creator of these tools (thoughts and perceptions) is you. You created thousands of thoughts and perceptions (tools) about everything since your childhood. ..................
When confronted with any situation or problem you reach into this toolbox and take out what you think the most appropriate tool would be and then attempt to fix the problem. It is estimated that your mind thinks at least 2,500 thoughts an hour. Every thought that you think is a tool (perception) that you have that you imagine would work best under specific circumstances. This thought process continues day and night and will do so for the rest of your life. .....................................
I am convinced that we think ourselves to a standstill. We never stop playing with these tools in our toolbox and can hardly ever really relax for a while. If we are not faced with a problem or task that needs completion we still continue to take out these tools and mentally rehears and contemplate how we will use them should something that we fear become a reality. ............................
We are forever thinking and scheming and never become still and tranquil inside. Our bodies might seem relaxed, but deep inside our heads this thought process continues churning around. What I am most worried about is that most of the tools that you have in your toolbox are very old and outdated. .......................
Many of the opportunities, problems and obstructions that you face daily cannot be repaired while you are using old and outdated tools. If you take a modern mechanic’s toolbox and you place the toolbox of a mechanic of fifty years ago next to it you will find that there are major discrepancies. When you are confronted with something that needs repair and you do not have the right tool for the task at hand it can be very frustrating. We usually improvise and try using some other tools and hope that it will also get the job done. ........................
When you are faced with a problem you need to select the right tool for the task at hand. If you do not have the tool in your toolbox it can complicate your life. What most people seem to ignore is that it is sometimes better not to reach for your toolbox when faced with a problem. Sometimes you need time to pass or need to leave the problem with its rightful owner. How well you use your tools is usually reflected in the world you see around you. What would you do if you were faced with any or all of the following? .........................
You get a flat tire on your way to an important customer or meeting. You can fall apart, develop a migraine and think that life is against you or you can take out the right tools (patience and reality) and take care of the problem in a relaxed manner. ........................
You have been working on the computer for hours and suddenly lose all your work. You can drop dead with a heart attack; think that God hates you or you can take out the right tool (sanity and reality) and begin over and this time remember to make a backup of your work. ....................
A lover or wife possibly cheated on you. You can go crazy and get an assassin to take out the potential threat to your relationship, think that you are a failure or you can take out the right tool (no fear of loss) and get on with your life. .......................
When you have the right tools in your toolbox it makes life a lot easier. The choices we make are vital in our lives. The more quality choices we make during any given day the higher the probability of success and peace of mind. ................
I suggest that you equip your toolbox with the best tools you can lay your hands on. It is important to upgrade if you discover that one of your tools are outdated or that a more modern version is available. How would you react if your TV packed up and a technician that obviously knows very little about electronics arrived at your house with only a sledgehammer and a few other primitive tools in his toolbox? I am sure that you will send him away and find someone better qualified and equipped for the task. .....................
You might sometimes be like this incompetent and poorly equipped technician indicated above if you do not often update your tools (thoughts) in your toolbox. You can also have all the right tools in your toolbox and never use them because you are afraid that you might make a mistake. ..................
You must remember that happiness and success is always just one thought (tool) away. You should remember when you find it difficult to cope with something that one new tool (thought) could change your life. One fresh thought and one new idea can change your life from pain and suffering to success and peace of mind. ........................
You are today what you were programmed with yesterday. The choices that you make on a moment-to-moment basis decide your fate and future. You can never feel or perform better than the ongoing thoughts and feelings that you allow to occupy your mind! .......................
The mistake we make is that most of us live our lives on a reactive basis. We start and complete our day in a reactive state of being. Something comes to our attention via our five senses or via a thought in our mind. We automatically slip into the “role” that we created for ourselves many moons ago. We act, react and experience the same feelings and emotions that we embedded with our scrip at its inception. We do exactly the same when new stimuli push the previous “drama” off the stage in our minds. We sustain this reactive mode of thinking until we finally go to bed at night. Most of our days are made up of a tapestry of “roles” that we played in our own colorful way. It is important to understand that nothing is going to change until we do something different. We cannot repeat the same old recipes and expect a different outcome. ....................
You can use the “Portable Life Skills Wisdom” book to develop a range of appropriate scripts that you can use when you are faced with a problem or project that need your attention. You will if you apply the scripts in this book find that you no longer run your life on a reactive basis. The new scripts will help you to live your life in the moment. You will become more realistic. You will treat each event on its own merit. How do you do this? ......................
The Process ....................
Read the first message in your book. Write it down if at all possible. It will assist you to absorb the data provided. Now sit back and close your eyes and visualize how you will apply the specific message in the various areas of your life. See yourself on the screen of your mind using the message in all your day-to-day activities. It is important to attempt to feel and experience the benefits that this new mode of thinking will bring into your life. Do this for ten minutes. Then open your eyes and begin to apply the wisdom on all occasions where appropriate in your activities on that given day. ...........................
Proceed to do the same with second message etc. in your book tomorrow. You will upload almost a thousand powerful recipes if you sustain the process indicated above. You can in less than three years upload a powerful “tool” system that will serve you for the rest of your life. This can be a life changing experience if you apply it daily. You will discover that the ten minutes you invest daily will upload countless new strategies into your subconscious computer. Build a successful and happy life. The key however is action. You can have the best tools available to man and still fail if you don’t use them daily. Wishing you the very best with this endeavor. .............................
Daily Support System (This Blog) ................
You not only have the massive key ideas in the book that you can use when appropriate you also receive daily posts on a wide range of subjects that will expand this system to a level never offered before. Visit this blog daily for fresh new ideas with a sprinkle of historical wisdom that stood the test of time. ..........................
Rene
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