Putting a positive spin on coping with disappointment is easy when you use a few simple tricks.
10 easy-to-use techniques to keep in mind when dealing with disappointment
1. CONGRATULATE YOURSELF
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Yes, that’s right, congratulate yourself for having enough hope in the first place to have gotten disappointed. Many times people don’t risk being hopeful because of the fear of disappointment. So, if you’re experiencing disappointment, that can only mean that you had enough courage to be hopeful. Congratulations!
2. LIFE LESSON
Next, ask yourself, “What life lesson have I learned from this particular experience?” This has an interesting effect on your perception and immediately sets your mind in a positive frame to look for answers (instead of sulking in disappointment.) This also allows you to take a proactive approach when life is “pushing you around.” You can either let life push, or step aside and allow life to “fall on its face” because you know you’ve grown on an emotional level from coping with disappointment in this manner.
3. STAY IN YOUR POWER
Stay within your own power by letting go of things outside of your control and by taking action on the things within your sphere of influence. Many times, we experience disappointment because we are looking to others for results. Ask yourself, “How can I make my desire happen?” Or, “Is this something that I really don’t have control over and I’d be better off letting go of others’ results?” By breaking the pattern of disappointment and asking questions, you are tapping into a unique power within your brain. In fact, positive psychology studies show that when our brains are kept positive, they are physically more capable of finding answers. Staying within your power and asking questions keeps your brain positive and active.
4. TRAIN YOUR BRAIN – LAW OF ATTRACTION
Dwelling on disappointments mentally and physically trains your brain to attract more disappointment vibrations. When coping with disappointment, it’s significant to note that your thoughts multiple. So, if you are fixated on a disappointment, instead of harnessing the positive power of your brain to find answers, you’re actually “sentencing” your brain to being imprisoned thinking about disappointment. Of greater significance is the fact that your brain is also putting out “addictive” chemicals that keep your body craving disappointment. Instead, notice when you’re thinking about disappointment and interrupt this thought pattern by thinking of something else… Perhaps congratulating yourself!
5. BIG PICTURE
When coping with disappointment, it is helpful to compare where the disappointment sits in the big “scheme of things.” Is it a significant setback or just a “blip” in the overall big picture of life. Successful people know how to keep perspective and they do this by keeping their long-range goals in mind and chipping away until they attain results. Using this technique in your everyday life works wonders. In this regard, it is very helpful to have a personal development plan for reference and for staying focused on your “overall” goals and desires.
6. BE THANKFUL
When life puts up a road block, it may be prompting you to seek out a new direction. So, ask yourself, “In what new direction does this disappointment push me?” Many times situations that we think are disappointments are actually gifts for new opportunities and ones that we are blind to when focused on the prior circumstance that initiated the disappointment. Changing your thought patterns and becoming grateful for these gifts helps you take advantage of them and move onto a new path.
7. GET COACHING
Using a coach to set out a personal development plan and lay out the big picture helps immensely when dealing with disappointment. Finding a life coach that offers compassionate prodding can help you move quickly out of disappointment and into positive action.
8. USE POSITIVE THINKING TOOLS
Solid positive thinking tools like hypnosis, affirmations and subliminal work can give you a big boost. Even by using a simple tool such as Theta meditation, you can instantly change your state of mind.
9. PHYSICAL RELEASE
Taking a hot bath, getting a massage, going for a walk and overall pampering your physical being breaks the pattern of disappointment and removes the emotional energy of the disappointment on a physical/chemical level. This helps your body actually let go of the disappointed feelings and re-energizes you to face whatever is next.
10. GET A HUG
Whether it is from a close friend, lover or pet, nothing feels better than to get a hug when you’re feeling low. So, get a hug or two! You’ll be surprised at the power this simple trick has to offer.
Use any one or all of these ten techniques to help yourself when coping with disappointment and to get yourself back on track fast. By using these ten techniques regularly, you will also train your brain to “seek out” the positive in any given situation, which gives you a big leg up in avoiding future disappointments.
The rain of forgiveness washes away the hurt and pain of yesteryear. No healing can take place while you cling to your historical letdowns and painful experiences of the past. Great purity of thinking and the miraculous healing of wounds usually take place after unconditional forgiveness. Remember that forgiveness does not mean that you approve what was done to you.
Rene
I SUGGEST THAT YOU READ THE FOLLOWING AT THE LINK BELOW AS WELL
Everything in life has its own natural cycle. Even the best things in life finally served it purpose. Know when to quit. Even the best wave also finally runs its course and crashes on the rocks. Wise people understand this principle and make full use of the summer or growth periods of their lives. The less informed lives as if there are no seasons and his storerooms are always empty.
Everything in life has it peaks and declines. Wisdom is to know when to ride the wave and when to get out of the game. The fool stubbornly clings to things long after their expiry dates. There is a time to join and a time to walk away in life. Wisdom is to know when to accept and when to reject.
Everything in life works in cycles. You need to detect when a project or relationship is busy moving into a winter or dormant period. The fool invests in stocks that are ready to enter its winter period. The less informed projects a cold, winter personality and expects people to respond to him in a warm friendly manner. If you are prepared to pay the price in full and invest the time, money and effort needed you can move almost anything from a winter period into a summer or growth period.
Express and show your appreciation more often and see what enormous difference it can make in the lives of people. The rumour that has been around that appreciation cannot be experienced when you become older or when your hair turns grey is just an urban legend. You never grow too old, rich or fat to enjoy and appreciation. It is something that you obtain free of charge and that will not bankrupt you if you hand it out in generously proportions. You can freely use this powerful tool on parents, gardeners, strangers and even intimate friends.
Failure and success also have an expiry date. Keep this in mind while you are playing the game of life. Even your worst failures will also finally end. Think back how the most difficult periods in your life is nothing more than a faded memory.
Failure can often be traced to a lack of priorities. If you fail to set priorities in any area of your life you are setting yourself up for failure in such areas.
Failure can only hurt you if you make a conscious choice to view it as a disaster and not a lesson. Once you labelled failure with the “disaster” or “failure” label, it begins to erode your soul. Champions never create or facilitate these failure monsters in their minds. They know that they hold the key to its power in their hands. They never view any failure or mistake as final and irreversible.
Everything in life has its own natural cycle. Even the best things in life finally served it purpose. Know when to quit. Even the best wave also finally runs its course and crashes on the rocks. Wise people understand this principle and make full use of the summer or growth periods of their lives. The less informed lives as if there are no seasons and his storerooms are always empty.
Everything in life has it peaks and declines. Wisdom is to know when to ride the wave and when to get out of the game. The fool stubbornly clings to things long after their expiry dates. There is a time to join and a time to walk away in life. Wisdom is to know when to accept and when to reject.
Everything in life works in cycles. You need to detect when a project or relationship is busy moving into a winter or dormant period. The fool invests in stocks that are ready to enter its winter period. The less informed projects a cold, winter personality and expects people to respond to him in a warm friendly manner. If you are prepared to pay the price in full and invest the time, money and effort needed you can move almost anything from a winter period into a summer or growth period.
Express and show your appreciation more often and see what enormous difference it can make in the lives of people. The rumour that has been around that appreciation cannot be experienced when you become older or when your hair turns grey is just an urban legend. You never grow too old, rich or fat to enjoy and appreciation. It is something that you obtain free of charge and that will not bankrupt you if you hand it out in generously proportions. You can freely use this powerful tool on parents, gardeners, strangers and even intimate friends.
Failure and success also have an expiry date. Keep this in mind while you are playing the game of life. Even your worst failures will also finally end. Think back how the most difficult periods in your life is nothing more than a faded memory.
Failure can often be traced to a lack of priorities. If you fail to set priorities in any area of your life you are setting yourself up for failure in such areas.
Failure can only hurt you if you make a conscious choice to view it as a disaster and not a lesson. Once you labelled failure with the “disaster” or “failure” label, it begins to erode your soul. Champions never create or facilitate these failure monsters in their minds. They know that they hold the key to its power in their hands. They never view any failure or mistake as final and irreversible.
Rene
SMILE FOR A WHILE
The Patel family in Gujarat was puzzled when the coffin of their dead
mother arrived from the USA. It was sent by one of the daughters.
The dead body was very tightly squeezed inside the coffin, with no space
left in it at all. When they opened the lid , they found a letter on the
top addressed to the entire family.
Dear Chandrakantbhai, Arvindbhai, Mohan and Varsha, I am sending
Ma's body to you, since it was her wish that she be cremated in the
compound of our ancestral home in GUJARAT. Sorry, I could not come
along as all of my paid leave is consumed. You will find inside the
coffin, under Ma's body, 12 cans of cheese, 10 packets of Toblerone
chocolates and 8 packets of Badam. Please divide these among all of
you. On Ma's feet you will find a new pair of Reebok shoes (size 10)
for Mohan. There are also 2 pairs of shoes for Radha's and Lakshmi's
sons. Hope the sizes are correct. Ma is wearing 6 American
T-Shirts. The large size is for Mohan. Just distribute the rest among
yourselves. The 2 new Jeans that Ma is wearing are for the boys. The
Swiss watch that Reema wanted is on Ma's left wrist. Shanta masi, Ma
is wearing the necklace, earrings and ring that you asked for. Please
take them off her. The 6 white cotton socks that Ma is wearing must
be divided among my nephews. Please distribute all these fairly.
Love, Smita Patel.
PS : And if anything more is required let me know soon, as Father is
also not feeling too well.
.
Thank you Anton for this Smile for a While!
Everyday you make a thousand choices. You choose what to wear, where to go, who to meet, what to eat and what to do. MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL, YOU decide WHAT TO THINK. One thing is sure and that is that your day will not be better than your thoughts. ...................
Just close your eyes for a moment and see if you can visualise this open toolbox and if you can see the hundreds of tools that are neatly placed in this toolbox. Now look if you can see the maker’s name on these tools. The creator of these tools (thoughts and perceptions) is you. You created thousands of thoughts and perceptions (tools) about everything since your childhood. ..................
When confronted with any situation or problem you reach into this toolbox and take out what you think the most appropriate tool would be and then attempt to fix the problem. It is estimated that your mind thinks at least 2,500 thoughts an hour. Every thought that you think is a tool (perception) that you have that you imagine would work best under specific circumstances. This thought process continues day and night and will do so for the rest of your life. .....................................
I am convinced that we think ourselves to a standstill. We never stop playing with these tools in our toolbox and can hardly ever really relax for a while. If we are not faced with a problem or task that needs completion we still continue to take out these tools and mentally rehears and contemplate how we will use them should something that we fear become a reality. ............................
We are forever thinking and scheming and never become still and tranquil inside. Our bodies might seem relaxed, but deep inside our heads this thought process continues churning around. What I am most worried about is that most of the tools that you have in your toolbox are very old and outdated. .......................
Many of the opportunities, problems and obstructions that you face daily cannot be repaired while you are using old and outdated tools. If you take a modern mechanic’s toolbox and you place the toolbox of a mechanic of fifty years ago next to it you will find that there are major discrepancies. When you are confronted with something that needs repair and you do not have the right tool for the task at hand it can be very frustrating. We usually improvise and try using some other tools and hope that it will also get the job done. ........................
When you are faced with a problem you need to select the right tool for the task at hand. If you do not have the tool in your toolbox it can complicate your life. What most people seem to ignore is that it is sometimes better not to reach for your toolbox when faced with a problem. Sometimes you need time to pass or need to leave the problem with its rightful owner. How well you use your tools is usually reflected in the world you see around you. What would you do if you were faced with any or all of the following? .........................
You get a flat tire on your way to an important customer or meeting. You can fall apart, develop a migraine and think that life is against you or you can take out the right tools (patience and reality) and take care of the problem in a relaxed manner. ........................
You have been working on the computer for hours and suddenly lose all your work. You can drop dead with a heart attack; think that God hates you or you can take out the right tool (sanity and reality) and begin over and this time remember to make a backup of your work. ....................
A lover or wife possibly cheated on you. You can go crazy and get an assassin to take out the potential threat to your relationship, think that you are a failure or you can take out the right tool (no fear of loss) and get on with your life. .......................
When you have the right tools in your toolbox it makes life a lot easier. The choices we make are vital in our lives. The more quality choices we make during any given day the higher the probability of success and peace of mind. ................
I suggest that you equip your toolbox with the best tools you can lay your hands on. It is important to upgrade if you discover that one of your tools are outdated or that a more modern version is available. How would you react if your TV packed up and a technician that obviously knows very little about electronics arrived at your house with only a sledgehammer and a few other primitive tools in his toolbox? I am sure that you will send him away and find someone better qualified and equipped for the task. .....................
You might sometimes be like this incompetent and poorly equipped technician indicated above if you do not often update your tools (thoughts) in your toolbox. You can also have all the right tools in your toolbox and never use them because you are afraid that you might make a mistake. ..................
You must remember that happiness and success is always just one thought (tool) away. You should remember when you find it difficult to cope with something that one new tool (thought) could change your life. One fresh thought and one new idea can change your life from pain and suffering to success and peace of mind. ........................
You are today what you were programmed with yesterday. The choices that you make on a moment-to-moment basis decide your fate and future. You can never feel or perform better than the ongoing thoughts and feelings that you allow to occupy your mind! .......................
The mistake we make is that most of us live our lives on a reactive basis. We start and complete our day in a reactive state of being. Something comes to our attention via our five senses or via a thought in our mind. We automatically slip into the “role” that we created for ourselves many moons ago. We act, react and experience the same feelings and emotions that we embedded with our scrip at its inception. We do exactly the same when new stimuli push the previous “drama” off the stage in our minds. We sustain this reactive mode of thinking until we finally go to bed at night. Most of our days are made up of a tapestry of “roles” that we played in our own colorful way. It is important to understand that nothing is going to change until we do something different. We cannot repeat the same old recipes and expect a different outcome. ....................
You can use the “Portable Life Skills Wisdom” book to develop a range of appropriate scripts that you can use when you are faced with a problem or project that need your attention. You will if you apply the scripts in this book find that you no longer run your life on a reactive basis. The new scripts will help you to live your life in the moment. You will become more realistic. You will treat each event on its own merit. How do you do this? ......................
The Process ....................
Read the first message in your book. Write it down if at all possible. It will assist you to absorb the data provided. Now sit back and close your eyes and visualize how you will apply the specific message in the various areas of your life. See yourself on the screen of your mind using the message in all your day-to-day activities. It is important to attempt to feel and experience the benefits that this new mode of thinking will bring into your life. Do this for ten minutes. Then open your eyes and begin to apply the wisdom on all occasions where appropriate in your activities on that given day. ...........................
Proceed to do the same with second message etc. in your book tomorrow. You will upload almost a thousand powerful recipes if you sustain the process indicated above. You can in less than three years upload a powerful “tool” system that will serve you for the rest of your life. This can be a life changing experience if you apply it daily. You will discover that the ten minutes you invest daily will upload countless new strategies into your subconscious computer. Build a successful and happy life. The key however is action. You can have the best tools available to man and still fail if you don’t use them daily. Wishing you the very best with this endeavor. .............................
Daily Support System (This Blog) ................
You not only have the massive key ideas in the book that you can use when appropriate you also receive daily posts on a wide range of subjects that will expand this system to a level never offered before. Visit this blog daily for fresh new ideas with a sprinkle of historical wisdom that stood the test of time. ..........................
Rene
PORTABLE LIFE SKILLS DAILY WISDOM GUIDE 