When instant gratification becomes our main objective, we rapidly slide into the abyss of failure/discomfort.



Assist people to achieve what they really desire if you want to make friends for life, become awfully rich or become very popular. Our expectation and hope drives us forward and helps us to overcome serious setbacks.


Attempt to make the right and best choice on a moment-to-moment basis. If you are going to wait for the perfect moment or until you have all the data, you might never make up your mind. Remember that your in-basket will still be full even on the day you die.


Attitude plays a vital role in everything you do. A poor attitude can never produce good results. A poor attitude is at the root of most failures. A poor attitude caused more marriages to fail and relationships to break down than all the other reasons put together.


Avoid head on confrontations or disputes if you can. There are usually no winners in such ego driven fights. The urge to win is sometimes so strong that it clouds our mind and judgment. An obsession by both parties to win usually lead to a major loss for at least one of the parties.


Avoid people that have the tendency to make their problem yours. By appearing helpless or lost, they con you into taking ownership of their problems. You are not a garbage truck that are contracted to remove everybody’s garbage (problems).


Avoid people that promise you the world, but do little. When you rely on an “empty promise” person, he will cause you endless problems. Good advice is to do things yourself if you want to make sure that they are taken care of.


Avoid saying things that could make people feel idiotic or inferior. It might give you a short-term ego boost, but in the long run, you will create an army of enemies that would love to even the score.


Avoid the misconception that people want to hear what is right and just. They want to be fed what they feel suits their current purpose. Give people what they want and you will be richly rewarded. When you help people to achieve their own objectives, they are usually more susceptible to yours.


When instant gratification becomes our main objective, we rapidly slide into the abyss of failure and discomfort. The wise man mastered the art of projecting himself into others’ shoes. When you act in a fair and responsible manner you enhance your chances of success many fold.


Be careful and remain grounded when you are faced with obsessive driven individuals. These individuals tend to exaggerate and amplify things in an attempt to buy your support. Certain politicians, clergy and conmen are experts at the art of mass hypnosis. When you are in the presence of passion driven individuals you need to question, probe and take nothing for granted. If you do you will do it at your peril.



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Posted by on October 22, 2014 in WISDOM


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One of the main reasons why partners begin to hide stuff from each other.



Mutual respect developed in relationships ensures sustainability and good quality choices. The key is to create a platform where parties can talk openly, without fear about observations, experiences and feelings. I sometimes find it almost humorous to hear from friends how their partner went crazy, hyperventilated and pulled out clumps of hair from his or her scalp after they shared some bad news with him or her. A few dramatic performances by your partner after you shared less acceptable news with him/her usually convince you that this open and honest thing should be avoided at all cost. That is one of the main reasons why partners begin to hide stuff from each other. It might be a good idea to set down a few ground rules about this open and honest mode of operation before you agree to take it on board. You must build in an escape clause if your partner begins to show symptoms of a heart attack or start looking for a sharp knife in the kitchen. I am exaggerating, but hope that you will accept that some ground rules must be put in place if one or both of the partners feel that honesty is the best policy. The best rule is to agree that you will bring in a “time out” period when any of the partners move away from a rational and objective communication style. You may find that one partner insist while he or she is foaming at the mouth that you conclude whatever you are busy talking about. My friend, take time out, even if you must dodge a few “flying saucers” on your way to your workshop. No problem, relationship or dispute has ever been solved amicably while one or both of the parties work in “crazy” mode. Showing respect and compassion is impossible while you jump up and down like a clown or make noises like a wounded buffalo. I thus suggest that you set some “playing” rules in this regard and avoid any engagement while upset or angry. Remember the “time out” rule if you want to master the art of dispute management.




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Posted by on October 22, 2014 in WISDOM


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If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault.




Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about
eleven (11) things they did not and will not learn in school.

He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings
created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and
how this concept set them up for failure in the real world.

Rule 1 : Life is not fair – get used to it! 

Rule 2 : The world doesn’t care about your self-esteem. 
The world will expect you to accomplish something 
BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3 : You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school.
You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4 : If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss 

Rule 5 : Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity.
Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping:
They called it opportunity.

Rule 6 : If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault,
so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7 : Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring 
as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills,
cleaning your clothes and listening to you
talk about how cool you thought you were
So before you save the rain forest
from the parasites of your parent’s generation,
try delousing the closet in your own room..

Rule 8 : Your school may have done away with winners and losers, 
but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades
and they’ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer.
This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9 : Life is not divided into semesters. 
You don’t get summers off and very few employers
are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF.
*Do that on your own time.

Rule 10 : Television is NOT real life. 
In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11 : Be nice to nerds. 
Chances are you’ll end up working for one..


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It is an absolute FANTASY to think that life is “FAIR” and that our lives can endlessly remain in an UP phase.



It is imperative to grasp that there will always be “GOOD TIMES” and “BAD TIMES” in life. It is an absolute FANTASY to think that life is “FAIR” and that our lives can endlessly remain in an UP phase. Look around you and you will notice that everything in nature have UP and DOWN cycle. We for example have the seasons, low and high tide, the phases of the moon and then we also have birth and death cycles as well. It would drive us crazy if we endlessly went through “GOOD TIMES” and never experienced any CHALLENGES and OBSTACLES. We learn our most valuable lessons during the “LOW” tide periods in our lives. We GROW and GAIN experience during the more testing periods of our lives. I don’t for a moment say that you must fall in love with “BAD TIMES” or the TESTING PERIODS in your relationships or while you try and put bread on the table. You can EXTEND your “GOOD TIMES” and UP PERIODS by appreciating what you already have. You can reduce “BAD TIMES” by avoiding PROCRASTINATION and the desire to see yourself as a VICTIM. You must MANAGE your GOOD times and DO MORE of the stuff that provided you with UP cycles. You must in turn DO LESS of the stuff that causes your DOWN cycles. Repeat the following as often as you can today. I am today taking full responsibility for my UP and my DOWN cycles. I will manage my UP cycles and learn from my DOWN cycles by APPRECIATING the BLESSINGS I already received.


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There has never been anyone ever in the history of man that only experienced UP (high) periods in his or her life.




It is NATURAL to experience UPS AND DOWNS in life. There has never been anyone ever in the history of man that only experienced UP (high) periods in his or her life. Look around you and you will notice that everything presents unique CYCLES. Everyone goes through GROWTH and REDUCTION cycles. It will be crazy to feel like a victim when you experience a DOWN period in any area of your life. You are not in a DOWN period because some kind of punishment is metered out to you. You are not in a DOWNWARD phase because you are a SINNER or because you are INFERIOR in any way. Repeat as often as you can today. It is NATURAL to experience LOW periods in any area of my life. It is NATURAL to experience a general DOWN period as well. See the following image in your head while you repeat these words of wisdom.



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Book Review – Is This Heaven?


If you maintain a negative limiting belief about your reality, such as a belief that this reality is insane, crazy, violent, indifferent, apathetic, etc., then your attitude will absolutely cream you. You can’t expect to get anywhere good with a belief that this reality is anything less than heavenly.

You’re not actually judging reality with such beliefs because you only have access to your limited perceptions of it, and those are 100% within your mind. So by labeling reality negatively, you’re actually labeling a part of your own mind in the same way.

That’s a trap — a huge trap that you must avoid at all costs.

The Trap of Labeling Reality Negatively

Subconsciously your mind will respond to such beliefs by crippling your self-esteem and strangling your ability to leverage your skills and talents. Some people who go this route even kill themselves in the end. It’s a completely foolhardy way to deal with reality. No good can come of it. Well… no good other than the eventual realization that it was a rather lame idea.

Once you realize that your perceptions of reality are all you have to go with, the most sensible approach is to permanently rule out the idea of casting aspersions on your reality, since you’re actually ridiculing your own perceptions, which can only make you go a bit insane. You can’t afford to do anything of the sort. That cannot possibly do any good whatsoever — it can only take you down a path of self-destruction and ruin.

What’s the alternative? Do the absolute best you can to cultivate a harmonious and supportive relationship with your reality. Settle for nothing less. If anything conflicts with your efforts there, ignore it as best you can, and refocus your attention on re-establishing a harmonious and supportive relationship with reality. You cannot get anywhere in this life if you do otherwise.

Some people have the belief that this reality is something of a proving ground between heaven (bliss) and hell (torture). They’re mistaken. When those people experience physical death, if their consciousness continues, they’ll only continue recreating more of the same flavor of experience they had here. They won’t suddenly ascend or descend just because they drop the connection to this particular physical plane. When you disconnect your computer from the Internet, it doesn’t suddenly upgrade or downgrade itself. If you want to upgrade your life experience, you must be the upgrader.

How to Take Control of Reality

This reality is actually as good as it gets. You’re already in heaven now, if you believe such a thing exists. There is nothing better. Whatever you think you can create in heaven, you can create and experience here. This doesn’t require magical powers or magical thinking. It does require taking full responsibility for how you relate to this reality. Since that relationship exists entirely within your mind, it’s under your control… but only to the extent that you believe it is. If you think that’s a Catch 22, you’re also right, since that’s just another belief. The benefit of a Catch 22, however, is that you can choose to be on the side that cheats, so no matter what happens, you win.

I maintain the belief that reality is 100% on my side. This is not based on evidence. It is based on choice. The evidence comes after the choice, not the other way around.

I even believe that reality conspires to go out of its way to help me, and I see evidence of this constantly (again, only after I chose this belief). And so this is what my experience of reality becomes. It’s full of pleasant surprises.

Today, for instance, I received an extra $900 out of the blue that I didn’t even know was coming. Reality loves to bring me gifts like this — financially, socially, experientially, etc. And because I maintain this belief, people frequently help and support me on my path. No one is going to do that for someone who thinks this reality is somehow lacking or damaged — that belief will only get you drained, beaten down, and abused.

If you seem to have a love-hate relationship with reality, then who’s the abuser? It can only be you. If you wish to continue suffering, then by all means, do so. I won’t stop you, especially when you do it in an entertaining way.

What if the whole time you’ve been here, reality was conspiring to bring you the most heavenly experiences imaginable, and all this time it’s been waiting for you to get with the program? Reality was functioning perfectly — within established parameters. But perhaps you’ve been slacking off in the imagination department. Have you been dwelling on what you’d love to experience and summoning it, or have you been muddling your mind with thoughts of perpetuating more of what you don’t want?

If you love what you’re experiencing right now, you can just keep observing that, and it will self-perpetuate; if that’s you, you’re already golden. But you can’t afford to let your mind dwell on your observations and their extended predictions if you’ve already established the pattern of creating experiences you don’t desire to continue. If you want to break the pattern of what you’re already experiencing, you need to shift your energy from observation and prediction to unfettered imagination and creation. Essentially that’s a time management challenge — spend less time observing and more time imagining.

Have you thought about what heaven might actually be like? It’s surely not all harps and angels and clouds like you might see depicted in a movie. That might be fun for a few hours, but then you’d be bored for eternity.

This Is Heaven

Here’s how I define heaven for me. Heaven is a state of existence that let’s me experience the following:

Beam – Enjoy my life immensely; feel deep appreciation and gratitude for this experience; laugh and smile

Harmonize – Maintain a deeply positive, loving, and supportive relationship with my reality

Shine – Develop my skills, talents, and habits to genius level; shamelessly express and share my creativity and brilliance

Explore – Search, study, travel, learn, and discover, guided by my curiosity, desires, and intuition

Open – Open my heart; actively invite and experience delicious connections that I desire

Grow – Become more capable and free; release and shed fears and limitations

Prosper – Create and enjoy tremendous prosperity and abundance

No need to wait for an afterlife. This is achievable here and now.

What’s your version of heaven? Do you have to wait till you’re dead to experience it? What makes you think death will be any better than this anyway? Would it really be easier to create heaven in some astral realm vs. right here, right now? What are you waiting for?

If you need permission, you can have mine.


By Steve Pavlina,

Author of
How to Order from the Universe


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Posted by on October 21, 2014 in WISDOM


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Every decision that you make has some kind of side effect. Remember you cannot please all the people all the time.




During the dark ages, the kings often killed the bearer of bad news. People still today do not appreciate hearing bad news. Do not take it upon yourself to show people on the error of their ways. Your intentions might be pure, but will rarely be appreciated.


Earn the goodwill of people and you will make your journey much more pleasant and purposeful. It is an attribute to be self-reliant, but it is sometimes vital to lose your individuality for the sake of the team. Teams that consist out of a bunch of highly skilled individual players often find it difficult to win. Teams that consist of average players that can gel together and play as a single unit will usually outperform any highly talented team where its members perform on an individual basis.


Emotional, off the cuff decisions always bring disaster into your life. Never make important choices or decisions while you are feeling, rushed, depressed, pressurised or defeated. Never quit when you feel down. If it is time you need, then buy some time. Rushed decisions will lead to disappointment and loss.


Emotions play a major role during conflict resolution. Allow the other party to express how they feel. The obstacle is often not what happened, but how it made the person feel that you have the dispute with.


Enjoy your moments of applause because it can fade like snow in the morning sun. The less informed thinks that the lustre will last forever. True champions know that they must persist with their hard work if they want to sustain peak performance. They are champions because they can perform at their peak even if there is no support from the crowd.


Enthusiasm and passion assists you to overcome serious obstacles and help you to make your dreams a reality. Enthusiasm is like a power additive that you add to your mission in life.


Establish what people need if you want to make a fortune. The formula is simple. If you know what a person really desires you can find ways to assist such person to achieve his objectives. If a man urgently wants some water, do not give him bread. If a man wants recognition, do not swear at him. The formula is quite simple. You will be blessed if you help enough people to achieve their objectives.


Even the most stubborn person can be convinced if you can learn to listen to his perceptions in a non-judgemental way. How can you structure your debate and achieve success if you have only one goal in mind and that is to enforce your will onto the other person? The magic key to success in debate and dispute resolution is not to shout and intimidate, but to adapt your arguments so it will make sense to your opponent from his point of view.


Every decision that you make has some kind of side effect. Remember you cannot please all the people all the time. We are sometimes forced to make choices that make certain people very unhappy. The key is to make a decision that is most appropriate at that moment. We need to sometimes remove our emotions from the arena if we want to make objective decisions.



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