Let me explain, imagine that switch operates your levels of self confidence, which, in turn affects your self image… now somebody or something or maybe just a set of circumstances turns that switch down , bang… down you go , down goes your self confidence and with it goes your self esteem…
Then on another occasion again something else occurs , and suddenly you are way up there in the clouds!… again you cannot quite grasp what is triggering these extremes of lows and highs – leaving you feeling helpless in the fight to control your mood swings…
Because you are experiencing feelings of helplessness due to not being in control (something has hold of your switch) this ends up in a spiral…. down into the depths of despair… trying to overcome negative thoughts and fighting to throw that switch the other way seems at the moment a bridge too far … makes sense ?
Things are never quite as bad as we think, there are now lots of solutions out there to help you overcome these problems, many new strategies which once followed will help you fight whatever problems are affecting your life… and put you right back in charge – just where you should be!
Finding ways to pinpoint whatever de-motivates you and affects your self confidence is the first step.
Taking this first step is like saying to yourself “I now recognize that whatever problems I have need sorting out – I have to get a handle on it .. I could do with a little help”
Don’t forget also that when we are fighting our inner demons on a daily basis we often completely forget that it affects not just ourselves, but everyone around us – loved ones included.
So, OK, our new road to self discovery is not going to be easy but rest assured, there is help out there, if you want it , but why wouldn’t you?
There are so many “people” out there. Experts (that’s what they call themselves) who are willing to assist. It can be downright confusing to say the least. It can leave you feeling pretty low just trying to decide what to do!
Let me tell you that now you’ve decided to take some action towards giving yourself what you really deserve your self esteem will rocket and so will your self confidence!
With the right help and guidance (don’t fall into the trap of feeling weak, because you are asking for a “leg up” because this is your first massive step. Don’t fight it, be proud!) You will take control… Get your own hand back on that dimmer switch – the right people will assist you and help you fight to overcome the ups and downs.
By: paul challener