I am often asked the question, “Why am I making such poor choices and cause myself so many problems notwithstanding all my good intentions?” “I might decide to lose weight, stop procrastinating, manage my anger or be more patient with my children, but slip back into my historical negative and destructive mode of thinking and doing time and again. There are not many that understand who is actually running the show in their lives. You have a conscious and a subconscious mind.
The conscious mind is the mind that you use on a moment to moment basis. It is the mind that we engage when we work in a productive and controlled manner. We usually remain objective and do what needs to be done when confronted with challenges, projects or problems. The conscious mind can be viewed as the operating system in a computer. I am for example using a word processing system to compile this document. Everything I type appear or the screen of the computer. I can contemplate every word and sentence and modify or change my work until I am satisfied with the outcome. To summarize then. I remain focused in the moment and sustain my action until I achieve the outcome that I desire.
The sub-conscious mind is the software data bank where stuff are stored for immediate recall. It contains everything that I learned or experienced since early childhood. Most of us fail to understand that it is actually their sub-conscious minds that are running the show in their lives. We do have short periods of conscious control over what we say, do or how we address certain issues, but fail to grasp that the moment we stop our conscious thinking the sub-conscious mind click into motion. The biggest part of any given day is run by the sub-conscious mind. The weird thing about the subconscious mind is that it has no reasoning power. It can only act according to the historical data stored on any given matter. I want to repeat that the sub-conscious mind do not have the ability to reason about subject matter at hand. It will prompt you to act or react according to the data or belief systems embedded historically. This is the main reason why we repeat the same mistakes and habits daily. We live a “copy” of our previous day or all the days before. Example: You get into your vehicle and “automatically” drive to your destination without consciously thinking about every action needed to navigate your vehicle. The program in your sub-conscious mind kick in and usually get you to your destination without too many hassles. This is an example where your sub-conscious mind work to your advantage, but there are many instances where defective and outdated programs cause you to make the same mistakes. We thus consciously address our lives to the best of our abilities in the moment until we relax or react and let our sub-conscious mind take over.
We would live perfectly happy and productive lives if our sub-conscious programs were of a high standard. We are however aware of the fact that not all our programs are based on quality and updated information. Some of the data that we currently use is totally outdated or might have been flawed from the start. We might have all the good intentions in the world and attempt to override a defective program, but usually find that it is not easy to modify the ingrained habitual reaction patterns. The reason for this is because the old data and reaction patterns have been “hard wired” into our sub-conscious computer. Your brain automatically send out chemical and electrical signals to all the cells of your body according to the historical software that govern a given situation. I hope you can see why it is so difficult for your conscious mind with all its good intentions to modify your habitual reaction patterns. You might be a person with strong willpower, but will find that the moment you lose your conscious focus you also lose your ability to arrest the old programs from taking over.
Can you think how much better the world would have been if we were taught and conditioned by parents and a society to live ONE MOMENT at a time in the NOW? Most of us would have spent much more time coping with life in an objective and realistic manner. There would have been virtually no need to fight our sub-conscious minds with our willpower and determination. The quality of our lives would have been much better, productive and real. Our relationships would have been less contaminated by old toxic programs uploaded by individuals that dumped their fears and anxieties into our operating systems.