People treat you the way you allow them to treat you.

 

HAPPINESS IS ALL ABOUT BEING WILLING TO BE INNOCENT AGAIN: The fear that something is wrong with you is your greatest obstruction to experience joy. As long as you judge there is something wrong or bad about you, you will see it reflected in the mirror of life. You might feel that others are rejecting you, fate is against you or that God is punishing you, but will soon discover that it is actually you who is condemning and sabotaging yourself.

With this mindset everything in life becomes a struggle. You are constantly putting yourself under severe pressure and feel that you must struggle, strive and fight to prove to others that you are acceptable and worthy. In your mind you feel convinced that others immediately see through you with their x-ray vision and detect all your bad thoughts and serious mistakes that you have made since the day you started playing the game of life.

Because you are always striving to prove that you are acceptable you create ongoing problems for yourself and for the individuals that must share the stage of life with you. The key is to understand that there is nothing wrong with you other than your “perception” that you have of yourself that might be sick. The real “unconditioned self” is still pure and uncontaminated. Your core will always remain pure and worthy.

If you wear a coat or a shirt that is soiled it does not mean that you are penetrated to the bone by this soil. The moment you discard the shirt or jacket you also get rid of the soil. It is your self-perception that is causing the warped self-image that you have of yourself. If you can adjust your perception of yourself you can remove all the soils that you have been trying so hard to hide or justify since your early childhood. It is your perception that you are the soil and unworthy that creates this impression that there is something wrong with you.

Only when you understand that you are not the soils and that all the mistakes that you have made since your birth is not who you really are that you can muster up enough courage to give yourself a break. When you do something wrong and get sentenced by a judge you are given a specific fine. Once you served your time you have paid your dues to society. We for some reason find it difficult to grasp this concept and tend to punish others and ourselves for an eternity for mistakes (sins) made.

A shift in your perception will only come after you have learned to walk away from mistakes and problems once you paid your dues. Do what you can to remedy a mistake you have made and then let go of it. If you open your newspaper and see that a judge sentenced a man that parked illegally to fifty years of imprisonment without the option of a fine it will surely get your attention. You will feel that the punishment is just too harsh for the offence perpetrated. Why then are you doing the same when it comes to your own mistakes and shortcomings? You cannot punish yourself indefinitely for a mistake that you made. A time must come when you say, “This is enough now” and when you are prepared to cease your self-sabotage.

Most of the mistakes that you made in your life were made because you acted to the best of your ability at that given moment in time. It is always easy to use hindsight and to look back at what could or should have been done under perfect conditions. Even if you made a real big deliberate mistake you must still reach a stage where you have “punished” yourself enough. You must forgive yourself unconditionally or your progress and life will grind to a halt at that station in life. Your “train” of life will leave you destitute on a station in the middle of nowhere if you continue to relentlessly punish yourself or others for a mistake that you or they have made.

The show must go on and you must learn to move on and past the soils in your life. You cannot sit and stare at the soils forever and in this way arrest your own happiness and peace of mind. Remember you are not the soil. The soil is on the jacket and not tattooed on your soul forever. Your inner self remain pure and untarnished. If any person attempts to sell you on the idea that your inner self is soiled and that they will clean it for you send such a person on his or her way. This person might seem so pure in his or her desire to help you to become untainted like they claim theyr are, but if you look carefully he or she is keeping his or her one eye on your wallet.

You have a choice how long you want to hold on to your soils (mistakes and sins) in life. You can punish yourself forever or you can take the jacket off before you go to bed at night and make sure that you start with a crispy clean jacket the following day.

Some people enjoy playing the role of a martyr and will continue to live their lives with their soiled jacket. They will later go around with their soil-drenched jacket and feel that life and people in general are against them. The people are not against you my friend, but cannot help to see and sometimes smell your poor attitude you have about yourself. People treat you the way you allow them to treat you. When you arrive with your stinking jacket you might as well wear a sign that reads, “Kick me please”.

Remember it is not God that must forgive you, but you that must forgive yourself. Your inner God core is still in tact and do not need to be sent to the cleaners. Once you have learned this very important principle a lot of other self-defeating perceptions will also become clear to you. You can be your own worse enemy or understand that you are a mistake maker and will remain one for the rest of your life. You also have the authority to forgive yourself and stop seeing yourself as a jacket or the soil. Give yourself and others break and embrace real happiness today!

Rene