One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to expect objective advice from family and friends when you need assistance guidance.

 

    

 

One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to expect objective advice from family and friends when you need assistance guidance. Your well meaning friends and family tend to say the things you want to hear. They almost always take your side in disputes and support or minimize the possible contribution that you made that led to whatever you are confronted with. They will tell you that they noticed a long time ago that your idiot boss is unfair and always takes all the honour while he blames you and your fellow workers for the mistakes and losses. Your family might not be aware that you have been really sloppy lately and arrived late for work almost every second day. If you have a dispute with your girlfriend some family members might mention that they noticed a long time ago that your girlfriend is nothing more than a gold digger and trouble maker. You generally cannot get honest and sincere guidance from individuals that are emotionally attached to you. It is risky to consult a friend or family member on financial or relationship problems. I have seen this disaster in the making many times in my life. Your family member or friend will find it virtually impossible to remain objective. They more often than not have no training or qualifications regarding the matter at hand. It will be silly to talk to your brother about your problem relationship if he is now married to his third wife. It will even be more ludicrous to consult a friend that is bankrupt about investments and money management. All the above time wasting activities will amplify your RESISTANCE and could turn a small problem into a fully fledged disaster. I read somewhere about a woman that consulted someone about a dream that disturbed her very much. She explained to the dream interpreter that she was travelling on a train. The train suddenly came to a halt and stop between somewhere and nowhere. The driver got out and forced her to the locomotive and instructed her to take over. He took his stuff, jumped off the train and soon disappeared into the night. The girl panicked and asked some of her family members, friends and even strangers to take over driving the train. She fortunately at that moment woke up and felt very relieved when she discovered that it was just a dream. The dream consulted looked at the woman for a while and then told her that she is living her life in a RESISTANCE mode. She explained that it would appear as if she fades under pressure and often avoid taking on a leadership role in the various areas of her life. She continued and explained that the time has come for her to stop living her life RESISTING things that seems to have an unpredictable outcome. She must take control and follow the tracks that will soon become visible once she starts moving forward. The rails of her dream train will take her to her desired destination, but will remain stationary until she takes responsibility, become accountable and take action. Our RESISTANCE often prevent us from experiencing the love, joy, success and benefits that is waiting for us once we move beyond our comfort zone. Nobody is going to drag you kicking and screaming into the future or towards a treasure that is within your reach. You will have to take control of your dream train my friend and start putting RESISTANCE behind you. You will soon hear the pleasant sound of the wheels of your train of life singing on the hard surface of the steel tracks that vanish over the horizon if you are courageous enough to release the RESISTANCE break that is currently anchoring your life in a “not going anywhere soon” position. 

 

I suggest that you do two ten minute visualisation exercises today where you see in your mind’s eye how you take control of your train of life. Experience the doubt for a moment and then allow the exhilaration to flood your system when you get into that machine and get that train gliding along towards your goals and dreams. Do not allow any RESTRICTIONS to dampen your happy and victorious spirit when you play out this powerful movie in your mind. Sing if you feel like it or jump with joy when you feel the power and exhilaration of this massive machine that you mastered. I will continue this series tomorrow.

Rene

 

The black dot that can change your life

 

 

 

I want you to visualise a black dot on a blank page. Look at this black dot for a moment then draw a circle around the black dot about three inches away. You now have a black dot sitting in the middle of an enclosed circle. Stop for a moment and visualise this image in your mind. Now write next to the black dot – ME.

Close your eyes again and see this extended image in your mind’s eye. Now think of some of the people that are directly connected to you and draw a black dot within the circle. Put the name of the person next to his/her black dot. Now proceed to enter more dots for other individuals that you deem connected to you and add their names to the dot you allocated to him/her. You can stop once you reached ten individuals. Now close your eyes again and visualise your black dot in the middle of the circle and the other black dots that represent those that you decided are connected to you. It can be family, friends etc.

Please note that being connected does not mean that you are currently in a good standing with those you selected. There might be certain of your dots that you deem connected to you that you currently dislike or that you might not even miss if they could be erased from your picture.

Did you know that the black dot that you think represents you contain all the perceptions you hold about yourself. Every belief system and perception you formed since early childhood collectively make up who you think you are. Close your eyes for a moment and see yourself in your mind’s eye standing in the middle of this massive playing field surrounded by the images of those that you chose that are connected to you. See your physical body looking at the other black dots that now also took on the imageS of the individuals that you entered earlier. Some of them might be positioned fairly close to you while others are standing further away scattered over the playing field.

Try and focus on a black dot (you)

You have been conditioned since early childhood that you are your body and your history. I mentioned earlier that you have an endless range of perceptions that you made up about who you are as the years slipped by. The same holds true about all those that you are connected to. Every single person came to exactly the same conclusion about themselves and formed their own unique perceptions about an endless range of subjects.

I can guarantee you that not a single person on your chart have exactly the same perception about anything. Each individual will see religion, race, politics, sex, history etc. from different perspectives. Close your eyes again and visualise how you are surrounded with a number of individuals that might be connected to you, but that could be on a very different page about a wide range of subjects.

You are now ready to draw an additional circle around those that you are connected to. You now have two circles that surround the dot that represent you. You can place a large number of dots in this part of the circle because it will represent the many millions of people on this planet. Close your eyes and visualise this mass of people that are fellow travellers on space ship earth. Notice that each one of the millions has their own perception about who they think they are and about everything that they encountered since early childhood. You have different nationalities, races, nations, etc. that populate this zone on your playing field.

Now draw another circle around them as well. You are now in the middle surrounded with those that are connected to you and the millions that populate the next zone on your chart. Now write the word God a few places in the outer circle. The fact of the matter is that every person represented on this chart has their own unique perception about God. You have your own perception, but so do every other dot (person) on your chart. You might think that it stands to reason that huge numbers of those might belong to a specific church or movement and will thus have a similar God perception. (Christians, Muslims etc.) You will find that not a single person on your chart notwithstanding his/her religious convictions have a similar perception of God. Close your eyes and view the massive number of people on your chart, you included and how everyone is reaching out to God.

You can replace God with any other subject matter (politics, race, food, money etc.) and will discover that each individual on the chart of life have their own convictions and perceptions about the selected subject matter. It is a fallacy to think that we will reach a point in our history where everyone has the same perceptions on anything. It is thus futile to think that you have ownership about the “truth” about anything. I think it is safe to say that not a single person should at any stage conclude that his/her perception about any subject matter is the only valid argument.

We, the seven billion plus living entities on this rock in the universe are arrogant to the extreme. It is horrific to think how many wars were fought and how many millions died in the name of a specific religious or political conviction. It is crazy to think that your specific deity is the only path to some kind of afterlife where you will experience peace of mind and bliss forever and ever. Your deity is just a perception and cannot weigh more than any other person’s or groups perception as illustrated in this article. Close your eyes and view how certain individuals and groups attempt to convince the other players on your chart about their specific point of view. See how they use fear, guilt and force in their attempt to convince others that they are the only “intelligent” players on your chart. Look at their vindictiveness and the cunning methods they use in their effort to convince others of their point of view.

My dear friend you should by now grasp that nobody owns the “truth” about anything. The sooner all of us on this chart learn to accept each other unconditionally notwithstanding our convictions the quicker peace and prosperity will begin to fill our chart of life. We must treat others with love, patience and compassion. A person’s perceptions and beliefs should not become an issue that cause friction and disharmony. We are for some mystical reason on this rock in the universe and will in time evolve and understand how we are connected to everything in the universe.

Rene