Spiritual growth is a process of atonement and the undoing of our mistaken beliefs and delusions. It is a journey towards wholeness, during which we attempt to master our minds, manage our emotions and conquer our fears. We do not live in a vacuum and we cannot get through life without other people. This is for a very good reason: In isolation, self-actualisation would be limited or non-existent and we need to be exposed to other people to grow. Personal healing is the main purpose for being among other people. Relationships offer us the opportunity to re-create ourselves, re-member who we are and to develop our potential. Relationships present us with ample opportunities to change, to grow, to expand our awareness and to increase our vibration.
The modern mystic does not have the privilege of retreating to a monastery, seeking solitude, quieting the mind and spending time in the company of enlightened Masters for spiritual growth purposes. Today we are faced with the challenge of maintaining a job, paying the bills, caring for a family and dealing with the pressures of our modern lifestyle, while attending to our spiritual growth. Times have changed and we should regard our homes and our work places as monasteries or temples where we can learn and grow spiritually. Therefore, every situation, encounter and relationship provides opportunities for self-mastery. Every person, situation and problem you encounter is ateacher. Every single individual you meet can also be perceived as astudent. If you perceive others as students, it encourages you to be the best possible role model for the other person. We are all students, but also teachers – instruments of the Divine. We have a divine purpose or contract that we need to fulfill.
The people, with whom we develop close and intimate relationships and who play a significant role in our lives, are there for a purpose. Some of the people we encounter are supportive, loving, kind and positive towards us. We would not believe in ourselves or develop self-worth if people did not listen to us, value our judgement, trust or love us. We need love and support, but supportive behaviour does not provide us with significant opportunities for growth. The people who annoy, oppose, hurt, reject and betray us are our best teachers. We should cherish and be grateful for the people who elicit negative emotions. While dealing with a difficult interpersonal issue, it may be hard to comprehend or understand why it happened. It is often in retrospect that we realise that the hardship or suffering we endured, enabled us to develop inner strength and build character – qualities essential for future success.
Early in life, we tend to focus on what we possess, on what we have achieved, or what we do for a living. Later in life, we realise that a meaningful life depends on how we are and what we have become. Change is the only constant in life and we are always in the process of becoming. We were given the power of choice and our relationships present us with opportunities to decide who we are and what type of person we want to become. Our relationships have the potential to bring out the best or the worst in us. The rapport and relationships that we establish with others, present us with ample opportunities to develop virtues such as unconditional love, empathy, tolerance, compassion, patience, trust, integrity, honesty, loyalty, sincerity and forgiveness. The company we keep and some teachers give us the opportunity to develop vices such as impatience, dishonesty, indifference, apathy, cruelty and mean, deceitful or violent behaviour. The power of choice rests within each individual.
By our own author Susan Minnaar