When instant gratification becomes our main objective, we rapidly slide into the abyss of failure/discomfort.

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Assist people to achieve what they really desire if you want to make friends for life, become awfully rich or become very popular. Our expectation and hope drives us forward and helps us to overcome serious setbacks.

 

Attempt to make the right and best choice on a moment-to-moment basis. If you are going to wait for the perfect moment or until you have all the data, you might never make up your mind. Remember that your in-basket will still be full even on the day you die.

 

Attitude plays a vital role in everything you do. A poor attitude can never produce good results. A poor attitude is at the root of most failures. A poor attitude caused more marriages to fail and relationships to break down than all the other reasons put together.

 

Avoid head on confrontations or disputes if you can. There are usually no winners in such ego driven fights. The urge to win is sometimes so strong that it clouds our mind and judgment. An obsession by both parties to win usually lead to a major loss for at least one of the parties.

 

Avoid people that have the tendency to make their problem yours. By appearing helpless or lost, they con you into taking ownership of their problems. You are not a garbage truck that are contracted to remove everybody’s garbage (problems).

 

Avoid people that promise you the world, but do little. When you rely on an “empty promise” person, he will cause you endless problems. Good advice is to do things yourself if you want to make sure that they are taken care of.

 

Avoid saying things that could make people feel idiotic or inferior. It might give you a short-term ego boost, but in the long run, you will create an army of enemies that would love to even the score.

 

Avoid the misconception that people want to hear what is right and just. They want to be fed what they feel suits their current purpose. Give people what they want and you will be richly rewarded. When you help people to achieve their own objectives, they are usually more susceptible to yours.

 

When instant gratification becomes our main objective, we rapidly slide into the abyss of failure and discomfort. The wise man mastered the art of projecting himself into others’ shoes. When you act in a fair and responsible manner you enhance your chances of success many fold.

 

Be careful and remain grounded when you are faced with obsessive driven individuals. These individuals tend to exaggerate and amplify things in an attempt to buy your support. Certain politicians, clergy and conmen are experts at the art of mass hypnosis. When you are in the presence of passion driven individuals you need to question, probe and take nothing for granted. If you do you will do it at your peril.

Rene

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One of the main reasons why partners begin to hide stuff from each other.

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Mutual respect developed in relationships ensures sustainability and good quality choices. The key is to create a platform where parties can talk openly, without fear about observations, experiences and feelings. I sometimes find it almost humorous to hear from friends how their partner went crazy, hyperventilated and pulled out clumps of hair from his or her scalp after they shared some bad news with him or her. A few dramatic performances by your partner after you shared less acceptable news with him/her usually convince you that this open and honest thing should be avoided at all cost. That is one of the main reasons why partners begin to hide stuff from each other. It might be a good idea to set down a few ground rules about this open and honest mode of operation before you agree to take it on board. You must build in an escape clause if your partner begins to show symptoms of a heart attack or start looking for a sharp knife in the kitchen. I am exaggerating, but hope that you will accept that some ground rules must be put in place if one or both of the partners feel that honesty is the best policy. The best rule is to agree that you will bring in a “time out” period when any of the partners move away from a rational and objective communication style. You may find that one partner insist while he or she is foaming at the mouth that you conclude whatever you are busy talking about. My friend, take time out, even if you must dodge a few “flying saucers” on your way to your workshop. No problem, relationship or dispute has ever been solved amicably while one or both of the parties work in “crazy” mode. Showing respect and compassion is impossible while you jump up and down like a clown or make noises like a wounded buffalo. I thus suggest that you set some “playing” rules in this regard and avoid any engagement while upset or angry. Remember the “time out” rule if you want to master the art of dispute management.

 

Rene

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If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault.

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Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about
eleven (11) things they did not and will not learn in school.

He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings
created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and
how this concept set them up for failure in the real world.

Rule 1 : Life is not fair – get used to it! 

Rule 2 : The world doesn’t care about your self-esteem. 
The world will expect you to accomplish something 
BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3 : You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school.
You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4 : If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss 

Rule 5 : Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity.
Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping:
They called it opportunity.

Rule 6 : If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault,
so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7 : Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring 
as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills,
cleaning your clothes and listening to you
talk about how cool you thought you were
So before you save the rain forest
from the parasites of your parent’s generation,
try delousing the closet in your own room..

Rule 8 : Your school may have done away with winners and losers, 
but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades
and they’ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer.
This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9 : Life is not divided into semesters. 
You don’t get summers off and very few employers
are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF.
*Do that on your own time.

Rule 10 : Television is NOT real life. 
In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11 : Be nice to nerds. 
Chances are you’ll end up working for one..

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It is an absolute FANTASY to think that life is “FAIR” and that our lives can endlessly remain in an UP phase.

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It is imperative to grasp that there will always be “GOOD TIMES” and “BAD TIMES” in life. It is an absolute FANTASY to think that life is “FAIR” and that our lives can endlessly remain in an UP phase. Look around you and you will notice that everything in nature have UP and DOWN cycle. We for example have the seasons, low and high tide, the phases of the moon and then we also have birth and death cycles as well. It would drive us crazy if we endlessly went through “GOOD TIMES” and never experienced any CHALLENGES and OBSTACLES. We learn our most valuable lessons during the “LOW” tide periods in our lives. We GROW and GAIN experience during the more testing periods of our lives. I don’t for a moment say that you must fall in love with “BAD TIMES” or the TESTING PERIODS in your relationships or while you try and put bread on the table. You can EXTEND your “GOOD TIMES” and UP PERIODS by appreciating what you already have. You can reduce “BAD TIMES” by avoiding PROCRASTINATION and the desire to see yourself as a VICTIM. You must MANAGE your GOOD times and DO MORE of the stuff that provided you with UP cycles. You must in turn DO LESS of the stuff that causes your DOWN cycles. Repeat the following as often as you can today. I am today taking full responsibility for my UP and my DOWN cycles. I will manage my UP cycles and learn from my DOWN cycles by APPRECIATING the BLESSINGS I already received.

Rene

 

There has never been anyone ever in the history of man that only experienced UP (high) periods in his or her life.

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It is NATURAL to experience UPS AND DOWNS in life. There has never been anyone ever in the history of man that only experienced UP (high) periods in his or her life. Look around you and you will notice that everything presents unique CYCLES. Everyone goes through GROWTH and REDUCTION cycles. It will be crazy to feel like a victim when you experience a DOWN period in any area of your life. You are not in a DOWN period because some kind of punishment is metered out to you. You are not in a DOWNWARD phase because you are a SINNER or because you are INFERIOR in any way. Repeat as often as you can today. It is NATURAL to experience LOW periods in any area of my life. It is NATURAL to experience a general DOWN period as well. See the following image in your head while you repeat these words of wisdom.

Rene

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