Daily Archives: September 4, 2013
WE CANNOT ACT IN A MANNER THAT PROVOKES PAIN IN PEOPLE AND EXPECT RESPECT, LOVE AND COMPASSION FROM THEM!
WHAT PAIN OR PLEASURE WE LINK TO SITUATIONS AND PEOPLE DETERMINES HOW WE ACT AND REACT TO THEM. WE CANNOT ACT IN A MANNER THAT PROVOKES PAIN IN PEOPLE AND EXPECT RESPECT, LOVE AND COMPASSION FROM THEM!
People move towards pleasure provoking experiences and away from pain provoking experiences. They move towards people that make them feel good and away from people that make them feel worthless and defective. This law must always be kept in mind if you want to influence people in a positive manner.
It will be idiotic to constantly say and do things that cause somebody pain and expect loyalty and dedication from such person. How can you kick a person in the teeth and expect him or her to love and respect you. We might not always physically kick people, but some of the things we do, fail to do or say often cause more pain than a kick in the teeth.
Everything you do or refrain from doing is governed by your perception you have of such event. If you for example find it difficult to motivate yourself to do something that you know need to be done you will find “potential pain avoidance” at the root of you resistance. We usually select the potential pleasure route in all our actions and decisions. If we have any idea that we might be exposed to potentially pain we try our level best avoid such contacts.
Just think for a moment about this principle. When you see or think of certain people what reaction do they evoke in you? If a person activates any level of discomfort in you, you will always react and respond accordingly. An opinion is formed quickly and usually takes years to modify. Most people lives their live according to this law or principal. Once they formed a perception about something or someone it takes a massive jolt to dislodge perceptions. Because we are pleasure seeking entities we tend to run on tracks for the best part of our lives. We thus get stuck in a pattern and will continue to follow this path until the day we expire.
Leaders and champions are bold enough to break these patterns and confront their fears. They know that mediocre and substandard performances are caused by the avoidance of potential pain. You can never grow, learn and win while you remain in your comfort zone. It is only when you go beyond your comfort threshold that progress can be made.
I WILL BECOME OUTCOME FOCUSED TODAY. I WILL DO THE THINGS I FEAR UNTIL IT LOSES ITS HOLD ON MY MIND!
We often know what we need or want in life, but we hardly ever do something about it. The main reason for this is because we amplify the potential pain so much that it outweighs the potential pleasure that reaching our goal would provide us.
If you want to stop smoking or lose weight you have to make your perceived “outcome” so exciting and pleasure provoking that it will make the effort that will be needed to work through the potential pain part less dominant. You will never reach your desired objective while the fear of the pain outweighs the potential pleasure of the outcome. It is thus imperative that you desire your outcome more than the obstacle that you may encounter along the way. Only when you become excited and motivated about your outcome will you have enough staying power to hang in until the objective (pleasure) is achieved.
If you want to become influential, you will have to learn to use this law to your advantage. You will make it easy for people to be with you and do business with you. You will say and do things that will activate expectations of potential pleasure not pain. All your actions and reactions must show people that you respect their point of view and that you are there to help them to achieve their own objectives. Always remember that most people you deal with are running on preconceived tracks or perceptions.
Rene
The key to a successful and joy filled life is to build laughter and light heartedness into everything you do.
You carry within you the seed of a fresh start and new beginning when you arrive on this plane. You must nourish this seedling with waters of love and wisdom. Most people take the game of life far too serious. The key to a successful and joy filled life is to build laughter and light heartedness into everything you do. We start life with enthusiasm and unbridled playfulness. This spontaneity soon makes way for gloom and fear. We become so absorbed in the game of life that we neglect to visit the place in our heart where the child in us still live and play. Our ego or false self is forever busy comparing our performance, the way we look and the outcomes we achieve with those around us. We perceive the world out there as our mirror. We personalise everything.
Most of us are exposed a world of duality early in our lives. We are brainwashed into believing that God are using some scoring system. There is a perception that He has so little to do that He sits around twenty-four hours a day checking up on our dedication and sin levels. There is an impression that the only way that we dare to be happy and spontaneous is when we do what God and society expect from us. Many of us fail more often than we succeed and “sin” more often than we would like to. We feel that it will be hypocritical to experience and project happiness and joy while we seem to perform far below the high-required standards set for us by God and society.
We smile and laugh less and cry and cringe more as the years slip by. Many of us reach a stage where our child hardly ever emerges from his dungeon. The child in us can see, hear and feel our activities, but do not dare to make an appearance. This whole process is a trap and designed with control in mind. Many of us end up morbid robots. The system is so clever that it uses its current slaves (you and me) to breed the future slaves that they will then milk for taxes and use as cannon fodder in their greed and ego driven wars. We must bring back the child in us if we want to enjoy our day-today activities, relationships and the work we do.
Are you fun to have around, is a question that you need to answer. Another question we need to answer is, “Do I want to win or would I rather make the project or relationship work to everybody’s advantage? Happiness is always a sign of a new beginning. Our perfect self is always happy while our false self seem to enjoy playing the role of a victim.
Rene
From my book – The Hidden Treasure Within
It is silly to praise God when you WIN or BLAME Satan when you FAIL.
It is not God or Satan that produce the negative and destructive outcomes in your life. You act or fail to act and in this manner set in motion a sequence of outcomes or events. It is silly to praise God when you WIN or BLAME Satan when you FAIL. It is even crazier to think that God is punishing you for your shortcomings or sins. This mode of thinking place you in a no win mental jail. We simply live in a world of cause and effect. Less acceptable choices lead to uncomfortable outcomes. We are at earth school and learn lessons from our failures and poor choices. Our comfort and discomfort is a wonderful guide that show us the way to a more happy and successful life. God also do not involve himself in sport. It is mind blowing that players and teams think that God is on their side and will assist them to grind their opponents into the dust or give them victory as a bonus for good behaviour. This is nothing more than superstitions that developed a long time ago.
Rene